Letters to My Future Husband: Hello, My Love

by Stephany on February 24, 2010


Hello, my love,

This is my first letter to you. I never really thought anything of writing a letter to you, my future husband, until my friend Anisah’s wedding. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding and remember her giving a journal to her brother with a note right before the ceremony. In the journal were letters upon letters to him that she had been writing for years.

I can’t imagine what his thoughts were when he read those letters, written by the hand of a teenager caught up in figuring out who she was, where her place in the world belonged, and who she would one day give her heart to.

And so I’m writing you this letter. Right now, at the moment in my life, I have no idea who you are. I have no idea if I’ve met you or if you’re some stranger I will one day come in contact with. I have no idea if you live in Florida or somewhere foreign. I have no idea if you know Jesus or if you’re an atheist.

It’s exciting, thrilling, and scary. We haven’t even begun our love story yet and I think about you on a daily basis. I wonder what we will fight about and what our home will be like. I wonder about the look on your face when I walk down the aisle in a beautiful, white wedding gown. I wonder if we’ll fight to save our marriage if things get rocky…or if we’ll forget the reason we fell in love in the first place.

Do know this, dear husband. I love you. I love you to my very core. I love the man you will one day be, the man I will stand beside and respect.

I’m nowhere near the woman God has called me to be. I have major sins and major faults that I need to take care of. I don’t think I’m ready for you yet. But I am waiting for you and I am holding on to my romantic, albeit naive heart, knowing I will give it to you one day, fully trusting you to keep it safe.

I love you.

Your future wife,

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Chelsea February 24, 2010 at 5:49 pm

I love this, Stephany!! LOVE LOVE LOVE IT.

I disagree with this line "We haven't even begun our love story yet…" You absolutely have! Where you are RIGHT THIS MOMENT is preparing you for meeting this man.

Ironically, my husband posted today about how we met. You'll see that the journey starts long before you actually meet. HOW EXCITING to know that your life is being perfectly planned out by God to lead you into the perfect love story. CAN'T WAIT TO SEE HOW IT UNFOLDS!!


Stacie February 24, 2010 at 6:34 pm

Aww =) What a sweet idea!


Amber (Girl with the red hair) February 24, 2010 at 7:12 pm

I love this Stephany. I think I'm going to get a journal and start writing letters to Eric. This is a beautiful idea.


imerika February 24, 2010 at 7:36 pm

this is the sweetest thing…
this was my favorite line: I wonder if we'll fight to save our marriage if things get rocky…or if we'll forget the reason we fell in love in the first place.

i am not a qwuitter, and my future husband must know that i dont care how miserable we are…we will remember why we fell in love in the first place…


Stacy February 24, 2010 at 11:05 pm

Sweet idea but what if he IS an atheist? How COULD you love him since you said previously that a MUST for your future husband is that he has to be deeply Christlike and all that jazz? CONTRADICTION! Haha. I'm not saying it in a mean way – I'm really just wondering. Would you try to change him? Because it's one thing to share your beliefs with someone, and quite another to push them on someone. Would being an atheist make him a bad guy (in your opinion)? What if he's wonderful and you love him and he loves you and its perfect and blah blah blah – are his non-beliefs a deal breaker?

I think you should clarify!

And FYI – I'm having a giveaway so check it out!




Adrienne Hadaway February 25, 2010 at 12:51 am

I don't mean to be a pest, but did you mean to write "brother" up there or "husband"? She didn't marry her brother, right?

Otherwise, very sweet.


Stephany February 25, 2010 at 12:57 am


I don't really understand your comment. One of my non-negotiables is that my future husband will have an active, passionate relationship with Jesus Christ. I WILL NOT marry an atheist. I don't really think this matter needs any clarifying because I explained in it my Non-Negotiables post. Those were issues I will not compromise on whatsoever. I would never marry someone who doesn't share my same beliefs because what would be the point? It just means I don't believe as deeply as I profess. How would we raise our kids, celebrate holidays, manage our finances (i.e., tithing to a God he wouldn't believe in) if we differ so greatly in our beliefs?

And Adrienne, I didn't explain myself well enough on that note! She did give the journal to her brother to GIVE to her husband. I'm going to change it now! Haha!


Stacy February 25, 2010 at 1:31 am

I'm talking about this:

"I have no idea if you know Jesus or if you're an atheist."

So…your future husband COULD be an atheist. At least that's what you said. Which is why I asked because having read your non-negotiables before, it's quite a contradiction.


Stephany February 25, 2010 at 1:49 am

Ah. I guess I didn't read my own blog post! Ha! OK, here's what I meant by that: yes, he could. Will I marry an atheist? No way. But I don't expect my FH to be this perfect man of God who grew up in a perfect Christian family and his worst sin was talking back to his mom when he was 15. I expect him to come with some baggage!

But your comment has really inspired me to think and I'm composing a blog post about what you talked about. (i.e., forcing beliefs on others)


Stacy February 25, 2010 at 1:52 am

Looking forward to it! Remember. Be open-minded! Sometimes it can be hard when you're beliefs are so strong, as yours seem to be. Just a word of advice!


Miranda February 25, 2010 at 7:26 am

As someone who has written one of these before, I find your letter very sweet and endearing. I look forward to reading more "love letters"!

And you never knowβ€”Future Hubby might be out there doing the same thing!


steph anne February 25, 2010 at 3:40 pm

This is an awesome letter! This definitely will be a perfect gift to give to your future husband someday. I wish I did this for my husband but I would have never thought about doing this when I was 15 years old.


Jen February 25, 2010 at 4:05 pm

I did this, too – except I started my journal when I started dating my ex-husband. Piece of advice: when you pick the person to give the letters to … make sure they care enough to read them – or they don't deserve them.


imlivinginadream February 25, 2010 at 9:56 pm

This is so romantic it actually made me tear up a little. Seriously. Wow. You wrote that first letter fabulously. Congrats.


Abbie February 26, 2010 at 2:43 am

This is so sweet! I've done the same thing. I've written 2 or 3 letters to my future man =D I have one major one, which was written at kind of a crossroads in my life. I think it's the sweetest idea ever, and I loved your letter :)


Lauren February 26, 2010 at 3:37 am

Sometimes it just amazes me how alike we are. I've written letters to my future hubby, too! :D


barbetti February 26, 2010 at 3:37 am

Oh, this is so, so beautiful. I hope you really do give this to the man you'll marry. It would be a beautiful wedding eve gift.


V February 26, 2010 at 5:35 am

What an amazing idea that will serve as a unforgetable memory in you and your (whomever it may turn out to be) husbands marriage. <3


Ms. Manda February 26, 2010 at 8:08 am

What an awesome idea!! :) I might steal it!! And you won an award on my blog. Check it out!! You are a great inspiration to me; in the word of God. I saw one of your 101 goals and I instantly had a moment of me being your person of having a face to face convo about God with. Anyway, check out your award. :)


Auishtha February 26, 2010 at 2:34 pm

This is lovely! :)
Too bad I already met the man I want to marry^_^
Hope you write more letters Steph. They're amazing (–,)


sarah February 26, 2010 at 5:56 pm

Your friend married her brother? WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT?


Amy February 27, 2010 at 4:07 am

I LOVE this! So sweet.
It made me smile! :)


LambAround February 28, 2010 at 10:06 pm

Wow, this is so romantic! I'm going to go harass my Sexy Nerd for never writing me a letter before he met me (technically, I never thought to write one to him either, but still!)


Amanda West March 2, 2010 at 12:53 am

That was awesome and totally sweet! I would so do this… If I wasn't already married. Haha.


The Duggans November 6, 2010 at 4:25 am

I've heard of this before and it is SO incredibly loving and sweet. :) Have you written any more since this one? I wish I had done this but I have known my future husband since I was twelve and pretty much knew he was "the one" since then. I think this is awesome and it has inspired me to start writing him letters now! So, thank you!


Toddy January 20, 2011 at 5:46 pm

This is a really cool idea. I'm glad I found this when you had written more than one so I didn't have to wait to read more. Cheers, T.


Ara July 17, 2012 at 3:53 am

Aww. Nice letter. :)

I love this line: “I am holding on to my romantic, albeit naive heart, knowing I will give it to you one day, fully trusting you to keep it safe.”


Bianca September 20, 2012 at 5:16 pm

Hi! I just found your blog today and yesterday was my 16th birthday! I have been reading the Christy Miller series since middle school and have started re-reading them currently because they are my favorite fiction books!!! I got the idea to write letters to my future husband from this book series, otherwise i never would have gotton the idea. I think it is the best idea and i love your letter btw. (: I don’t know when i should start writing to my future husband…i was going to write my first one on my 16th birthday yesterday but then i figured time and day don’t matter with this type of thing. :) My parents are constantly going through a rough time with everything in their marriage and it’s often hard for me to believe in an everlasting marriage because of what i have gone through. Anyway, now i’ve found your blog and it excites me more that you are also a follower of Christ! I will definitly keep up with your cite! :)


Hadley May 7, 2013 at 3:31 am

Hey stephany :) just to let you girls know I’m a guy and I’m 17. No I’m not looking for a girl friend here or anything like that. I just wanna let you girls know that wanting a husband that is a strong Christian and believes in sexual abstinence is not far fetched at all. I personally know about 7 guys that are married that are just that. Btw all of them have an amazingly strong and happy marriages. Look there isn’t tons of guys out there today that are perfect but that’s ok because the great thing about abstinence is you only need one girl or guy to be happy with. Please ladies don’t settle for some guy that love sex more than you, other wise guys like us lose. We both have to hold in there until the day I become Mr.Sutherland then me my wife and Jesus will have bliss. I love all you strong girls out there. If you wanna talk I’m more than happy to. just add me on Facebook “Hadley Sutherland” I live in Canada and am the only person with that name.


addy lindsay May 25, 2013 at 4:51 pm

i’m twelve almost 13 & i starting writing to my future hussband this year. i know im young & probably shouldnt even be wondering & worrying about him right now but i am. all your posts relate to exactly my same feelings. i feel very mature about this love for my future husband, but at the same time, doubting i can do it. but my love for him is so strong. i read the bailey flanigan series by karen kingsbury which truly changed my point of views & affected my life forever. i highly reccemend it. it not only gives an amazing example of a God centered relationship & a relationship that God wants. but it also gives an outlook of a man young girls want as their future husband. and thats kinda how i have pictured him. i tell my future hubby everything & he truly is the person, besides God, that knows everything about me & loves me anyways. he comforts me my times of need & i feel like i can always go to him. thank you for your help & advice. it has honestly guided me through this season. i cant wait to see what God has in store for both of us. God bless. keep writing! xoxo


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