Happy Friday! I have a busy but fun weekend ahead of me, and hope to take advantage of the gorgeous weather we’ve been having in Florida. A friend invited a bunch of us over to her new house for a pool day and I’ll be doing game night with the fam on Saturday night. I can’t wait!
I have some more questions to answer from the “Community Questions” portion of the Real Talk Radio podcast. It’s been so much fun answering these! Let’s get into it:
1) What’s one change you made in your life that was really tough for you at the time but totally worth it in the end?
It was really hard to leave my previous job, even though I was supremely unhappy there. But it was comfortable and easy and I loved my coworkers, and it was really hard to leave that. I don’t even think I told my boss I was leaving. I just told her I needed to talk to her and then started crying, and she guessed it. Ha. Super professional of me.
The first few
weeks months of my new job were terrifying. My social anxiety was at its peak, since I was in an entirely different environment. I went from a 10-person company to a 50-person company! It was so scary to even go into the break room. And I was doing completely different work, from marketing to copywriting, so I always felt on edge.
Ultimately, though, it was the best decision I could have made because I’m five-and-a-half years into my current job and I still love it just as much as I did when I started. I don’t suffer from Sunday Scaries like I did at my old job, and I get to do work that is more suited to my skills and personality.
2) What helps you to stick with a long-term project or goal you’re working on?
I can’t focus on the long-term aspect of the goal, I have to break it into week-by-week stages. I think about what I need to do this week to get me closer to my overall goal. For my novel, it’s writing and editing one chapter a week. For my goal of working out 150 times this year, I plan out the three days I want to work out during the week (and consider if there are one or two other days I can add in to build a buffer). Breaking down a big goal into the tiniest chunks gives me the forward progress I need.
3) What’s something that a lot of people seem to do that you don’t do on purpose?
I don’t watch a lot of TV. I watch an episode (or two, if it’s a sitcom like Friends) a few times a week, which is why it takes me forever to watch one season of a show. It took me nearly five years to watch the entire Gilmore Girls series, an entire month to watch thirteen episodes of Grace & Frankie.
It’s really funny, though, because a few years ago when I had cable, my DVR was full of shows to watch. I had at least a few shows recording every day. And now that I don’t have cable and only rely on Netflix, I find myself less inclined to turn on the TV.
4) What advice would you give yourself five years ago?
I would have told myself that I need to stand up for myself in my relationship. He was the first guy I ever loved and I thought we were meant to be, but he also wasn’t very kind to me. He moved the relationship much faster than I was comfortable with, but I figured *I* was the problem. I was new at this relationship thing, so maybe it was me that needed to change. I was also terrified of losing him if I spoke up. Oh, darling little Steph. I want to give her the biggest hug and tell her she’s deserving of so much more. And that, “more,” may not look like another relationship but of standing on my own two feet and being my full independent self.
5) How do you typically spend your evenings?
Typically, I come home, play with my cats for a little while, take a bubble bath, make dinner, watch something on Netflix while eating dinner, and then do my nighttime routine while listening to a podcast. (Nighttime routine involves washing the dishes, tidying my apartment, cleaning out the litter boxes, brushing my teeth, washing my face, and preparing my lunch for the next day.) It’s a simple evening routine, and I love it. 🙂
Tell me: what’s something a lot of people do that you don’t do on purpose?