Happy Friday, friends! I don’t have too much going on this weekend, and I’m glad for it. A writing date with a friend and football with the fam is all I have on my agenda, but I think I’ll still find a way to fill my weekend with good things. Even if those good things are naps and episodes of Grace and Frankie. 🙂
1) What’s your favorite way to start your day?
I love starting my day with a good workout, mostly because I want to get it out of the way as soon as possible and it feels so good to sweat first thing in the morning! I love my weekends because I go to the 9:15 AM spin class and that’s so perfect – I can sleep in and eat a filling breakfast before going to class, and I’m not half-asleep when I begin like I am for my 5:45 AM spin classes. Or if I’m not going to spin class, starting my day with a long walk while listening to a podcast is perfection for me.
2) What’s something that’s recently sparked your curiosity that you’d love to learn more about?
Gosh, something that has sparked my curiosity feels a little TMI to talk about, but deep breaths, here goes: sexual journeys and how different they are for everyone. I grew up thinking that sex outside of marriage was wrong on every level, and a lot of the teachings in the church center around women keeping themselves pure and virginal for their future husband. And I think that really messed with my head, and it took me a long, long time to understand that having a sexual journey is healthy and normal and fine. No matter what that journey looks like, whether that’s a lot of partners, one or two partners, or just yourself.
My curiosity was sparked when I listened to a Call Your Girlfriend episode about this, where they answered a listener question for someone who is 22 and hasn’t even begun her “sexual journey,” as she called it, and was wondering if she was weird. And, gosh, the podcasts hosts were so kind and compassionate to this listener and it got me really thinking about what sexuality means and how different it is from person to person.
(I’m really scared to publish my thoughts on this topic, but I’m just going to do it because we have to have these conversations. I want to have these conversations.)
3) Which common piece of advice do you happily ignore?
Probably, “live every day as if it’s your last.” Or, YOLO. I think about this a lot, when I choose a nap over spending time out by the pool. Or a Friday night watching Netflix instead of going out on a date. Life is fleeting, you should be DOING MORE, I sometimes think to myself. But really, I just need to do what feels right to me in the moment. I don’t think I’ll reach the end of my life and regret all the naps I took because, hell, naps make me ridiculously happy. I don’t think I’ll regret not going out on more dates because dating isn’t fun for me and usually just leaves me feeling empty and sad. (Netflix, on the other hand, gives me great joy.) To be clear, there is a balance and I do try to put myself out there and go outside and explore my surroundings, but it’s also okay to not live every day as if it’s your last and think you’re going to regret not getting out there more. I just don’t think that’s true. At least not for me.
4) What is your favorite guilty pleasure?
Trashy romance novels, hot bubble baths, Frappuccinos, long afternoon naps, the Target Dollar Spot, snuggling with Dutch, frozen Hershey Kisses, raw cookie dough. It’s hard to pick a favorite guilty pleasure. I have so many!
5) What do you want to be known for?
I want to be known as someone who was never afraid to be vulnerable and let people inside. I want to be known for being a great listener, the person that my friends know they can come to when they need to vent or talk about what’s going on in their lives. I want to be known as someone who gives good advice, but also knows when to just listen and offer support. I guess it all boils down to my relationships and being the best friend that I can be to my people.
Tell me some of your favorite guilty pleasures!