This is it. Moving weekend!
I feel like I’m entering this new phase of my life in the best way possible because I’m moving away from one best friend and moving in with another best friend. I’m really happy I opted for having a roommate rather than living by myself because I think it’s going to make this transition a lot easier.
Still, I’m very sad to be leaving my mom. It’s just been the two of us since my brother moved out when he finished high school. So, that’s 10 years. Minus one year of living on campus and that’s nine years of us living together. For most people, living with their parents past college is a nightmare, but for me it has been a dream. It helps that my mom is my favorite person in the world and she treats me like an adult, not a child. And we just have a super wonderful relationship. It’s really awesome to have your mom be your best friend.
Today, in honor of leaving her to finally be on my own, here are five reasons why I’m going to really miss living with my mom.
- Watching our TV shows together. My mom and I love some TV time and we watch a lot of shows together. Some of our favorites: Big Brother, Scandal, American Ninja Warrior, Modern Family, and The Blacklist. It’s always fun to relax on the couch together after a long day and turn on our favorite shows, laughing together or discussing them together. I’m going to miss those nights.
- Having my life be so closely connected with my mom. My mom and I spend a lot of time together. This is good and bad. Good because it’s nice to always have someone around to do stuff with, but bad because it meant I spent a lot of time not trying harder to foster connections with other people. It has only been in recent years that I’ve been working towards building my own life, separate from hers. Even though I make plans with my friends often, my mom and I still have a closely interconnected life. (We’re honestly like an old married couple.) Though I’ll only be a short, 20-minute drive away, and I know I’ll be visiting often, it’s going to be different to not know what my mom is up to all the time anymore.
- Having someone to share dog duties with. Taking care of a dog is a lot of work. I think one of the biggest challenges is the fact that you can’t leave dogs alone for very long. (Or, at least, a senior dog who has had bladder issues in the past.) My mom works five minutes from our apartment, so it’s easy for her to come home at lunch to let him out. Now, I’ll have to use my lunch break to let him out. My mom sets up his vet and grooming appointments – that will now be in my hands. And it’s been really nice to have someone around to be there if I decide to go out after work and spend a weekend away from home.
- Saving money. Though I did not live rent-free with my mom, we didn’t have a full 50/50 split with our household bills. This has allowed me to save money and pay down debts. My budget is going to go through a radical shift with this move. It’s necessary and I’ll be living within my means, but I’m still a little nerve-wracked about it.
- Having so much one-on-one time with my mom. I know I am really lucky to have such a close relationship with my mom. Not everyone has this, and it’s a credit to both of us that we’ve worked hard to maintain a wonderful relationship. It’s been so nice to be able to hang out with her whenever I want, to relax on the couch after long days at work and chat about our days. I will miss those chats.
I don’t want to make it seem that I’m not excited about my upcoming move. I really am! I am looking forward to this new change in my life. I know I’m going to struggle with the transition because I always struggle with transitions. (It took me forever to feel comfortable at my current job.) But I also know I am going to thrive in this new environment. I cannot wait for the new adventures that await me.
Today, my roommate and I will fill out the final paperwork, get our keys, and start the move-in process for real. This has been something we’ve been envisioning since we made the decision to move in together earlier this year. I can’t believe the day has finally come. The next time I write, I’ll be writing from my new apartment! Wahoo!
Post idea inspired by Kate