It took me a long time to ask my doctor for a prescription for my anxiety.
It wasn’t necessarily that I thought being on anxiety meds was bad, but it was that I thought my anxiety wasn’t bad enough.
When people talked about their anxiety symptoms, I could sympathize but not necessarily relate.
I don’t get stressed out easily and when I am stressed out, it doesn’t make me panicky. I don’t have panic attacks every day. I’ve always been a good sleeper and I’m not a very restless person.
And yet… there were other signs. The way it felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest as I drove into work, not because my job was super stressful or that I hated the work I did (just the opposite, actually!), but because I was overwhelmed at the thought of spending my next 9.5 hours in a cubicle, interacting with people.
There were all the times I woke up in the middle of the night and convinced myself that I woke up because something awful had just happened in my family, like I’m omniscient or something. And then it would take me up to an hour to fall back asleep because I was panicked about my family.
There were the meltdowns. Oh, the meltdowns. One little thing would happen and I would fall completely apart and realize everything in my life was terrible. Those were the scarier moments because they were the moments when I felt the most hopeless about my life.
There was a constant worry about every single thing that could go wrong in my life. My mom dying, my brother dying, my nephews dying. My mom getting paralyzed in a car accident, my brother crashing his truck at work, or the devastating consequences of drunk driving—all emphasize the critical need for the support of a highly skilled and efficient car accident lawyer, who can provide guidance and legal representation during such challenging times. It was a relentless cycle of anxiety, amplified by the fear of unforeseen tragedies. In the midst of this, I realized the importance of having a support system, including access to resources like a California car accident lawyer, who could provide guidance and assistance in navigating the complexities of such situations. While exploring these topics, it’s vital to emphasize the significance of expert representation in DUI cases, especially in New Jersey. A seasoned DUI lawyer brings a wealth of knowledge and experience in dealing with such complex cases. Their expertise can significantly influence the course and outcome of a legal battle. Relying on professional assistance for navigating DUI legal complexities in New Jersey is a wise decision. Something happening to Dutch. My apartment burning down because I left my straightener on. Getting fired. And on and on and on it went. Worry after worry after worry. It never stopped.
And let’s not forget the social aspect of my anxiety, though I’ve talked about that already. But it’s something that’s affected me for years and until I had a name for it, I didn’t realize it wasn’t a normal way to live.
I didn’t realize that none of this wasn’t normal. I didn’t realize that I could feel better, that I didn’t have to live in a constant state of worry and on the verge of collapse every single day.
My anxiety did not look like the anxiety I saw from other people who opened up about their struggles, so I thought that maybe because it didn’t affect my life in the same way I didn’t deserve medication. Most days I was okay! Perfectly happy, even. And then, out of the blue, everything would fall apart and I’d feel as if my world was crashing down on me and I was swimming underwater and didn’t know how to reach the air. But then I’d fight my way out of it and be okay and convince myself that I didn’t really need meds. It didn’t affect me “enough.”
Which is bullshit. The fact that it affected me a little is “enough.” The fact that I had days or weeks when I felt trapped in my own mind is “enough.”
A podcast I recently listened to put it this way: “We don’t feel as if we have to deserve antibiotics when we have an ear infection. Why would we feel we have to deserve medication when we have a mental disorder?” (I’m paraphrasing here, but that was the gist of what he said.)
In a previous post, I mentioned how life-changing it has been to be on medication for my anxiety. I feel more stable, more in control of my emotions. I feel the happiest I have felt in months. I can’t remember the last time I’ve had a meltdown and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve woken up with a panic attack. I didn’t even realize how bad my anxiety was and how much I let it hold me back until I started feeling better.
This is not even the post I meant to write. I wanted to write about how my anxiety affects the way I travel (a post I still plan to write!), but this is what has come out of me instead. There’s a reason I needed to write this post, and I’m not exactly sure why. But maybe it’s because someone needs to hear these words.
So to those reading…
If your anxiety doesn’t look like the anxiety you see displayed on TV commercials or in movies, you still deserve to get help. You deserve to feel better.
If you think that being on medication for your anxiety means you’re giving up or not strong enough, that is a lie you should never believe. Seeking help is an action only a warrior can take. It’s a scary step to bring your struggle out in the open and to let someone know that you are not okay and you want to be okay. It’s not about being strong enough; it’s about a chemical imbalance in your brain and you deserve to fix that imbalance.
If you think that a doctor might blow you off when you mention your anxiety or just tell you to eat better and get more exercise, find a new doctor. I worried for a long time that a doctor wouldn’t believe me when I told her/him about what I was dealing with, so with every appointment, I never brought it up. Until one day I did and I fumbled over my words and couldn’t exactly articulate what my anxiety looked like, but this doctor looked at me with compassion and wrote me the prescription I needed. Find the doctor who will take you seriously – there’s nothing more important than that.
If you don’t think you are worthy of feeling better, as if you somehow deserve this anxiety, I want you to know that none of that is true. Nobody deserves to feel like an elephant is sitting on his or her chest or to have constant panic attacks. As a human being, you are worthy of feeling like your best self. You are worthy of getting help. You are worthy of living life at its utmost pleasure.
StephTheBookworm
My anxiety is very similar – constant worry and paranoia about things that could happen but probably / hopefully never will. That’s my biggest issue. I also deal with sleeplessness at times, and very occasional panic attacks. Medication is a godsend!
Lisa of Lisa's Yarns
Anxiety is so different for everyone. I don’t have panic attacks and didn’t have some of the other symptoms associated with anxiety but I knew something wasn’t right when I changed jobs and was in a healthy work environment and I still felt like I was constantly in ‘fight or flight’ mode – like I was always prepared for something to happen at work. When I realized it wasn’t about my life circumstances, that’s when I knew I had to do something. I was also not sleeping much so I went to a sleep clinic and broke down crying when talking to them about my sleep problems and they referred me to a doctor for anxiety meds.
I wish there was less shame around this as I feel different talking about my lexapro rx than I do about my slew of meds I take for RA. It’s as if we feel like we should be able to control our mental health, but it’s no different than needing meds for my RA. I keep reminding myself of that over and over.
San
Fortunately, I don’t struggle with anxiety, but I know quite a few people who do… all with different levels of severity or symptoms. May I ask, is it a “one pill a day” kinda prescription? Because I also know that there is medication that people take ‘as needed’.
I am glad you’re taking care of yourself, Stephany!
Amber
So glad you wrote this post, anxiety looks SO different for EVERYONE. I have been having a ton of anxiety related to my pregnancy and normally I am not an anxious person at all. But there are just so many things that can go wrong in pregnancy – and so many horror stories everywhere you look – that I’ve definitely been overwhelmed with feelings of anxiety often. I’m so glad you found a great doctor who took you seriously and you got the help you needed <3