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Categories: Recurring Series

One Photo Per Day: May 23 – 29

May 23, 2026 – Family game night! My younger nephew (11) loves What Do You Meme?, but we play the family edition, so it’s quite different! Lots of bathroom jokes.

May 24, 2026 – I was only going to read for a few minutes, but then Eloise settled right in between my legs, and she looked so sweet that I couldn’t disturb her. More reading time? Yes, please!

May 25, 2026 – Memorial Day! You get two pictures because I couldn’t resist either of them. In one, Lucy looks like she’s posing for Dachshund Daily, and in the other, Chip and Lucy floating in the pool on a raft makes me smile so much. I love these little monsters!

May 26, 2026 – Just Lila being the meowdel that she is. We took a short nap on the couch this afternoon, and it was delightful!

May 27, 2026 – Trivia night! Our team name is Last Place Legends, and yep, we came in last place like always. Booyah!

May 28, 2026 – It’s time for their cat “medication”! See how cute they are? How can I resist them?!

May 29, 2026 – Book club night! We started with Greek food, then moved on to an escape room, where we succeeded! Well, my friends succeeded. I was good at shining flashlights when people needed them and being the comedic relief.

Have you ever done an escape room?

Categories: Recurring Series

Three Things Thursday (v. 17)

Three confessions

1) I’m currently in the process of reorganizing my organizational system. This means I opened up every bin and box and cube and container in my home, took everything out, and made piles all around my apartment with my various categories. There was an “office” category with Post-It notes, tiny staplers, extra pens, etc. There was a “tech” category with extra smart plugs, multiple tech cleaning kits, random tools, etc. There was a “coloring” category with extra coloring books and way too many markers than I feel comfortable talking about. There was a bundle of different types of tape, a group of assorted batteries, and a handful of Command strips/hooks. There is even a basket that I’m calling “extra organizing supplies” because that’s how Type A I am. My problem is that I’m… too organized? Like I forget which box I’ve put XYZ item if it doesn’t have a very specific place. I have tons of tape because I kept forgetting which bin had the tape! So, what I’m doing is reorganizing everything and then, I’m going to make a spreadsheet of where everything lives, so I can find it easily. (I am such a goddamn nerd it hurts.)

2) I’ve started a new routine of going grocery shopping twice a week. I used to do it once a week, usually on Sundays, and would make a meal plan for the whole week, but I always found it hard to visualize what sorts of foods I would be in the mood for on the weekend. Now, I go on Sundays and only have to think about breakfast/lunch through Wednesday and dinner on Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday. (Wednesday is a standing trivia night at a local sports bar!) Then, I go again on Thursday mornings (which I try to combine with other errands) and only have to think about Thursday – Sunday afternoon. There is just something about only thinking about a few days of meals at a time that calms me.

3) We have valet trash at my apartment, which means that we just have to put a designated trash can outside our door on the specified days (Sunday-Thursday), and someone will pick it up between 7pm – 10 pm. It’s a great system, but what’s not so great is Rocky. Rocky is a raccoon who really loves our valet trash program because he gets a delicious meal five nights a week! He’s gotten into my trash more than once, and I even caught him in the act one night, and we locked eyes before he ran away. Anyway, I invested in some rodent-repellent trash bags, and we’ll see if they work. So far, so good.

Three books I’m never going to read

1) A Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara – At over 800 pages and commonly referred to as “trauma porn,” I can safely move through the rest of my life without picking up this book.

2) When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi – Another book I’m never going to read simply because it will make me too emotional. I could barely handle Two Kisses for Maddie!

3) War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy – Why would I read a book that’s 1,200+ pages long? No. NO. No, no, no.

Three cute habits my cats have developed

1) Cat medication – No, my cats don’t take medication, but they seem to think they do. Every morning when I open up my pillbox and dump the pills on the counter, it never fails: Lila comes into the kitchen, meowing at me. Then she runs over to the table where they typically get their treats. Eloise soon joins her and they stare at me expectantly like, “It’s time for our medication, too!” Their medication being, of course, a handful of Temptations. I need to break them of this habit, but it’s so goddamn cute.

2) Mom reading = cat petting time – Whenever I’m in my reading chair in the office reading or I plop down on the couch with a book, Lila will immediately stop everything she is doing to prance over to me. She’ll meow sweetly at me and poke me gently with her paw to say, “I’m ready for pets!” Except she doesn’t want me to actually pet her. She wants me to put my hand down so she can bump her forehead against my hand and rub her face all over it. I’m not allowed to give her any attention. I’m just a vessel for her petting needs.

3) Sunshine pancake – It’s so nice to be in an apartment with so much natural light, but nobody enjoys that more than my cats. When I open the blinds every morning, a few minutes later, I can usually find them splayed out in a spot of sunshine, snoozing away. And with Eloise, she magically turns into a pancake during her sunshine snoozes! She stretches out so much that she looks two-dimensional. I call this her pancake pose. Sunshine just makes her body stretch and stretch and stretch until she turns into a pancake!

Three apps I recently downloaded

1) Decibel Meter – I downloaded this so I could record Chip and Lucy during some of their louder barking moments. They both hit over 100 decibels at one point (separately!), which is equivalent to chainsaws, loud concerts, and motorcycles.

2) Yarn Fever – Another silly iPhone game that sucked me in. There’s no skill to this game. You’re just unwinding a puzzle filled with yarn, and it is extremely soothing.

3) Shazam – I needed to find out the artist playing in Starbucks this weekend, so I had to redownload Shazam to do so. (For the record, it was Kina Grannis singing a gorgeous rendition of Can’t Help Falling in Love.)

Three things I’m doing this weekend

1) Book club – We’re getting our May book club in just under the wire! We chose an escape room for this month, and I am very grateful for go-getter friends who will do the majority of the work while I pretend like I know what I’m doing. We’ll do dinner beforehand where we’ll talk about the book (How to Read a Book by Monica Wood, which was my suggestion!).

2) Podcasting day – Bri and I are really getting ahead of our podcasting game this year! We’ll record two episodes on Saturday afternoon, and that’ll have us set with epsiodes through July!

3) Tampa Bay Weens meet-up – My mom and I haven’t been back to this dachshund meetup since our first time way back in September, and we’re excited to go back and hang out with some little sausages for an hour on Sunday morning. Lucy gets really shy around other dogs (even though she’s a spitfire at home!), so my mom wants to give her more opportunities for socialization and hope she comes out of her shell a bit. (Chip, on the other hand, will make friends with any dogs he sees!)

Three things I Googled this week

1) “wyeth watts narrator” – I had to look up the narrator for a romance book I just listened to because he just did not have a very sexy voice. The images that pulled up were not what I was expecting!

2)  “do dogs have a swimming reflex” – Something that delights my mom and me to no end is that when we hold Chip or Lucy above water when we’re in the pool with them, they immediately start kicking their legs as if they’re doing the doggy paddle in the air. Apparently, it’s a very common dog reflex!

3) “how could someone young and athletic die from pneumonia and sepsis” – y’all, I’m really freaked out by the death of Kyle Busch. Not because I’m a NASCAR fan or even followed his career, but he was only 41!!! Our bodies are so damn fragile.

Three recent purchases

1) BuggyBands – It’s that time of the year. The no-see-ums are out in full force already, and I’m sure the mosquitoes aren’t far behind. I hate bug spray and have had good luck with these BuggyBands!

2) Battery storage case – My mom has one of these, and it’s so cute! I need one as well.

3) A small organizer tray – I bought this for my end table so I could better organize things like my remote, coasters, and other odds and ends. It fits perfectly!

Three upcoming podcast episodes

1) All About ASMR – I am really looking forward to doing research for this episode and introducing Bri to the wide world of ASMR. She’s familiar with the concept, but not to the level that I am. I’m even planning a “Bri tries ASMR” to see if any ASMR triggers give her the same tingles they give me!

2) An interview with Sean – We’re working our way through our Enneagram interview series, and our next guest will be Sean, Bri’s husband. He’s an Enneagram 7, so we’re going to interview him and make him talk about FEEEEELINGS.

3) Our 100th episode SPECTACULAR – We’ve almost hit our 100th episode, ahhh! Right now, I’m not sure what we have planned, but I thought it could be fun to do some Q&As. Here’s the form if you want to ask any questions about our podcast, our friendship, our book club… anything. And if you have specific questions for Bri or me, we’d love to hear those, too!

Three questions we got wrong at trivia this week

1) Within two years, when did the Phoenix Cardinals change their name to the Arizona Cardinals? (We guessed 1988, although I wanted to guess 1994 in honor of when my brother started watching football. The year? 1994.)

2) In the book Gulliver’s Travels, what are little people called? (My mom and I have never read this book, so we were lost.)

3) In order, name the colors of the flag of Ireland. (Ughhh, we should have gotten this one right! We said green, white, and yellow, and it should have been green, white, and orange. We were debating between yellow and orange.)

Three things I’m looking forward to

1) Book club weekend – We booked a sweet Airbnb in Orlando for two nights, and we will each have our own room. Yesss! (I always hate sleeping with other people because I’m self-conscious about my snoring.) The Airbnb has a pool and lots of great lounging spots. It’s going to be a great weekend!

2) Planning our New England road trip – Trip planning is one of my most favorite things. I’m so excited to plan this road trip with my mom!

3) Celebrating my mom’s birthday – I’ve already given my mom a few options for her birthday in early July, so it’s up to her what we choose to do! It’ll be a fun time, no matter what. <3

What’s a book you’re never going to read? What’s something you’re looking forward to?

Categories: Recurring Series

One Photo Per Day: May 16 – 22

May 16, 2026 – My first self-given injection! (I only had to give myself one; the multiple syringes and vials pictured were for artistic reasons.) It wasn’t as bad as I expected. I was more nervous about the physical act of sticking a needle into my skin, but once I did, it didn’t hurt, and I felt A-OK. Woo! Another milestone in this PsA treatment journey.

May 17, 2026 – This is Eloise’s newest sleeping spot. If she’s not near me, I can usually find it tucked up in this little alcove in my room on top of this covered cat bed. I’m going to put an upholstered bench in this space very soon, and I have a feeling Eloise is going to be all about it!

May 18, 2026 – Back-to-back Ellie photos! The only thing that can make her leave her little alcove is a fresh-from-the-dryer quilt. I always let the girls know when the quilt has been washed because they love nothing more than snuggling in the warm blanket. I can’t blame them!

May 19, 2026 – My Oura ring arrived! Right now, I’m experimenting wearing it on my left index finger. (Also in this photo, I can really see how puffy my sausage finger is, and this is actually a big improvement. It’s my ring finger with that nice lil bump between the knuckle and the middle joint.)

May 20, 2026 – Trivia night! My brother has started coming with us to trivia, and that’s been such a fun time. On Wednesday, we ordered the fried cheesecake, which was out of this world.

May 21, 2026 – This sweet girl. She was acting a little weird with me on Thursday, but gradually came back to her usual affectionate self. I’m in the process of reorganizing my organizational system (lol) so there are piles of things everywhere in the apartment, and I think it’s making her a little nervous.

May 22, 2026 – I gave a presentation on the Ennegram at work! I had so much fun putting together the deck and thinking about how to make this useful in a corporate work context. I wasn’t sure how it would be received because some people have negative opinions about personality frameworks, but everyone seemed to enjoy it!

Categories: Recurring Series

Five for Friday | Insights From a Week of Time Logging

I told you guys I would be back for some insights into my week of time logging (stats here). And I have some things to say! So, today’s Five for Friday post will be all about those insights.

1) I have a very full life

There is a lot going on in my life! I have a ton of hobbies (blogging, podcasting, writing fiction, reading, coloring, etc.) to keep me busy. I’m never bored, I’m creatively inspired on a daily basis, and my biggest problem is trying to fit all of my hobbies into one day. And what a gift that is! This is a life I’ve very intentionally built because when you’re single and childless, you don’t have other things to take up space. There is a lot of white space in my life, and I have filled it up beautifully.

2) I have a lot of free time

Last week, I averaged 9.4 hours of free time, Monday-Thursday. That’s a lot of time to myself! But it’s fragmented, too. There’s a little bit in the morning, but I also have to fit in my morning routine, making breakfast, etc. There’s some time throughout the workday when I take breaks, but I tend to use it for chores or tending to the cats. The bulk of my free time happens in the evening, but that’s also when my energy is the lowest. All I want to do is zone out and watch TV or scroll through my phone. What I should do is end the workday with a nice walk outside, which would probably help boost my energy, but instead, I usually flop on the couch and waste time on my phone.

It feels like I have all this free time to spend time investing in my hobbies, but my mental capacity is so low by that point that it’s hard to summon the energy to do anything that requires creative or social output. I don’t necessarily want to spend more time in front of a computer after spending all day in front of one, so blogging falls off the priority list.

3) Life upkeep takes up more time than I realized

I spent almost 12 hours just on life upkeep—chores, life admin, errands, driving, etc. That’s an average of two hours every day! No wonder I feel too exhausted at the end of the day to do much more than talk to my mom on the phone or watch TV/color. There is so much life upkeep that happens, especially as a single person who has to do it all on her own. I need to remember that when I feel bad about not spending more time commenting on blogs or working on my novel or marketing my podcast.

4) I can’t do every hobby every day

I need to pick and choose which hobbies I engage in on a daily basis. I cannot have a day where I spend an hour reading, an hour reading and commenting on blogs, an hour working on a blog post, and an hour doing things like working on my novel or watching TV while coloring. In my ideal world, I could spend time on each of these hobbies every day, but I honestly don’t have the energy to do so. Reading and commenting on blogs is a leisure activity, yes, but there’s output involved in terms of leaving thoughtful comments and engaging with the blogging community. Writing blog posts is also a leisure activity, but it’s a creative endeavor that sometimes requires a lot of output from me, especially because I care so deeply about writing well and getting my point across clearly.

The one hobby I want to do every day, no matter what, is reading. This is a much easier hobby for me to fit into my day because it’s something that doesn’t require a ton of mental energy. I can flop down on the couch at the end of the workday and read to my heart’s content. From there, it’s all about picking and choosing which hobbies receive my limited energy reserves that day. I try to publish a blog post every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, so I prioritize writing those posts on Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays. That means I’ll probably comment on fewer blogs or watch less TV on those days.

What this exercise has taught me is the difference between input and output hobbies. Input hobbies like reading, watching TV, or coloring don’t require anything from me. They are about consuming or absorbing what’s in front of me. Output hobbies like blogging, commenting on blogs, and working on the podcast require me to be more active, usually in a creative way. It takes a lot more energy to work on output hobbies, as one might expect! What I’m going to do with this information has yet to be figured out, but just understanding the concept of input/output hobbies has been helpful.

5) Less optimizing, more grace

At the end of the day, what this time logging practice taught me is that a lot is going on in my life. No wonder I feel like I don’t have enough time to do everything I want to do! Sometimes I think because I don’t have a busy household to manage, kids to chauffeur around, or a hectic career with lots of work travel commitments, I should have the time. After all, those of you with kids and work travel and busy households seem to be a lot more on top of blogging and chores than I am.

And yet.

I know we all have our different priorities. I know I have limited energy reserves. I know I’m also dealing with a chronic autoimmune condition that isn’t fully under control yet. I know I’m an introvert who needs a ton of alone time and has never been the kind of person who thrives on having a busy schedule. Sometimes, I want to take a nap in the middle of a Saturday afternoon rather than working on podcast marketing. Sometimes, I want to finish that adorable romance on a Thursday evening rather than commenting on blog posts. And sometimes, I want to sit in front of the TV and color for an hour because I need to zone out.

And that is absolutely fine because I’m not interested in optimizing my life so it’s the most productive it can be. Would I like to make some changes? Absolutely. But now I can see that I have a lot of things that are competing for my time, and it’s okay that I can’t get it all done. I’m doing the best I can—and I’d imagine the same can be said for you!

What’s a hobby you wish you could devote more time to?

Categories: Recurring Series

One Photo Per Day: May 9 – 15

May 9, 2026 – Lucy is an all-time pro snuggler. She has no respect for personal space, but who needs that when you can have her sweet little body all tucked up next to you?!

May 10, 2026 – Mother’s Day! We had a lovely day. We did brunch and then painted pottery. It was a joy to spoil my mom!

May 11, 2026 – Lila seems to be having an existential crisis here, but I think she’s just worried she’s not getting any more treats until tomorrow.

May 12, 2026 – Whenever Eloise loafs like this, I exclaim, “Where did your legs go?! Are they gone?! Don’t worry – I will carry you wherever you need to go, even the litter box!” I think it’s hilarious, but I don’t think Eloise does.

May 13, 2026 – Book signing #2 this year! Meeting Caro Claire Burke was a delight!

May 14, 2026 – I bought this gorgeous 16-cube shelf for my dining area. I felt like this area needed a little something extra, and there’s nothing I love more than shelving that I can use as part-organizational strategy and part-decor. I’m allowing myself time to fill in each cube slowly, so there will likely be empty cubes for a while!

May 15, 2026 – What a lovely night out! We went to dinner and then saw the musical Six, which was incredible. (But I think watching Bri sing and dance to every song was more delightful than the musical itself, ha!) Afterward, we got ice cream.

What was the last theatre performance you went to?

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