This is my 1,000th blog post for Stephany Writes. I started this blog in September of 2009, just as I was beginning journalism school. I was nearly 22 and had started and stopped so many blogs before settling on this one. And this one stuck! I found community here. I came out of my shell and explored writing in a deeper, more vulnerable way. Through this blog, I learned more about myself – who I am as an individual, what I believe in, and where my power lies.
Over these last 1,000 posts, I have…
- …been a journalism student, a theater intern, a preschool teacher, a marketing assistant, and an SEO writer.
- …been in relationships, dated around, and tried to become satisfied with myself as a single girl. At least for now.
- …moved multiple times. Once to downsize when I was in school, another time to upgrade once I was finished with school, and a third time to move in with a friend I met through work.
- …traveled – mostly by cruise ship. This blog is where I have archives of every single cruise I have taken – from my first one in May of 2011 to my latest one in March of this year. And, later in 2016, it will document my 9th cruise.
- …welcomed new family members, like my littlest nephew and my stepdad.
- …lost family members, like my father and my grandma.
- …discovered what it means to be an introvert, an ISFJ, and a highly sensitive person.
- …written and written and written and written. Week after week, blog post after blog post. I’ve been here. Writing. This is my safe space, it is my haven. I feel connected to this blog. I feel delighted by its presence in my life.
I’m not a famous blogger. I don’t have hundreds of readers. I don’t make any money from blogging. But it is enough for me to have this space to be vulnerable about my life, this little ole life that seems so tiny and so minute in comparison to the great big world out there. It is enough to have the readers I do have – many of which I am proud to call my friends. It is enough to know that people are reading. It is enough to know I have touched even one life with my message.
And so, for this 1,000th post, I wanted to bring you 1,000 blogging lessons I’ve learned over these past 6.5 years.
…just kidding!
How about 10 lessons? I think that sounds more concise.
1. Ditch the rules.
Rules don’t exist. Your blog can have a niche, but it doesn’t have to. You can write five days a week, or you can write whenever you feel like it. You can make perfect Pinterest pinnable images for every post, but it’s not necessary. Follow the rules that feel good and authentic to the type of blogger you are and forget the rest.
2. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
Being vulnerable comes in many different forms for different people. Not everyone is comfortable sharing as much about themselves as I am, but don’t be afraid to open yourself up and be honest about your struggles and your pain. This is what makes a blog real and truthful. I don’t want to read a blog where everything is puppies and sunshine – I want the gritty, messy truth of being human.
3. Keep your dirty laundry off your blog.
Believe me, I made this mistake early on in my blogging days and it came back to bite me. Family drama, workplace strife, friendships falling apart… these are better dealt with privately, not publicly. (And trust me: your blog is more public than you may think.)
4. Always take the time to visit your readers’ blogs.
Take the time to get to know your readers. Visit their blogs, comment on their posts, add them to your RSS feed. This is how you find community and make friends. My blogging friends are such a huge part of my life, and that’s because I took the time to get to know them.
5. It’s okay to keep your blog small and unmonetized.
There’s no shame in not wanting to grow your blog to thousands of readers. It’s okay if you don’t feel like putting ads on your sidebars or writing sponsored posts. And? It’s okay if you do. If you want that, awesome. Go for it! But don’t feel like you’re not doing enough if having a little blog with a small following is what you want.
6. Blogging breaks are a necessity – and stop apologizing for them.
You’re going to have to take breaks from your blog because real life always comes first. Life gets busy and blogs have to be put on the back burner. I’ve taken week-long and month-long breaks – and I no longer apologize for them. I love my blog and I love writing, but the real-life stuff comes first. If that means I step away from blogging for a while, so be it. My blog never comes first.
7. You are under no obligation to publish mean comments.
You just aren’t. This is your blog and you get to decide what is okay and what is not okay to be published on it. If it’s a comment that is trashing you or someone you love, that adds nothing to the discussion, that seems to be trolling you, delete.
8. But don’t be so thin-skinned that you don’t publish any dissenting opinions.
Just because a comment offers a different opinion or viewpoint, it doesn’t make it a mean comment. Usually, these types of (respectful!) comments bring about good discussion or allow me to open my mind up to a new way of thinking. Sometimes, they give me the truth I needed to hear but wasn’t ready to admit to myself.
9. Invest in your blog.
You don’t need to pay a fortune to maintain your blog, but consider investing in professional website design in ri and hosting services. My current design cost $35 on Etsy and my yearly hosting fee is minimal, compared to the fact that my blog never goes down or has major issues. I like investing in my blog; it feels good. And a beautiful design just makes me happy! Consider incorporating search engine ranking tools to optimize your blog’s visibility, whether big or small.
10. Blogging should always be fun.
This little blog of mine, this space with 1,000 posts, is not meant to be a chore. It’s not meant to make me famous, get me a book deal, or allow me to quit my job. It’s a hobby, nothing more. It’s something I do for the pure love of community and writing. Once it stops feeling good, then it’s time to shut off the lights and call it a day.
But I can promise you, that day? Isn’t coming anytime soon.
So here’s to six-and-a-half years and 1,000 blog posts! I can’t wait to write 1,000 more.
And thank you, dear readers of mine. Whether you comment on every post and know me personally, whether you never comment but read everything I write, whether you just stop by from time to time, I am so very grateful for you. I don’t know if this little blog would have made it to 1,000 posts without your comments, your guidance, your love, your support. It feels good knowing my words are reaching people and making a difference.
Lisa of Lisa's Yarns
Happy thousandth blog! That’s a whole lot of writing! I am not sure how many posts I have written – I will have to check that out! I was just telling a friend from book club about my blog yesterday and had to stop and pause after I realized I’d been blogging for 8 years!!! The years sure have flown by, though.
I’ve learned a lot about blogging over the years. I think the hardest thing to learn is how to strike the right balance between being real and telling your readers what is going on in your life and not over-disclosing. It’s harder to find that balance now that I am in a relationship with a very private person, though.
Here’s to another 1,000 posts!!
Dayle
Congrats!
I read all of your posts and heed your book recommendations often!
I enjoy your style of writing and I feel like I know you even though we’ve never met.
I found your blog a few years ago via something you commenting on Blonde on a Budget.
Dayle, from Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Nora
What an awesome milestone to celebrate! Congratulations and Happy 1,000 to you 🙂
While my blog posts are far more sporadic than they used to be, I can’t quit blogging, even if my posts are blurbs or bullets and not always fun and exciting. It’s a part of me and the thought of giving up my space makes me a bit… panicky!
StephTheBookworm
Great post and what a milestone! I’m so glad you’ll be around here for a thousand more. My blog friends are real friends to me, and that includes you! So glad blogging has brought us together and I really hope we can meet up in November when I cruise. 🙂
Linda
Woohoo! I agree on your rules too!
Sometimes I go back to really old blog posts of mine, a few years old, and I smile when I read your comments because there it is, a timestamp proving how long our friendship has lasted!
We should meet soon.
Kate
Happy 1,000 blog posts! Funny that you & Erini & I all hit 1,000 around the same time. What a good feeling! Here’s to 1,000 more, eh? 🙂
Erini
I was just thinking this recently too! Congrats on 1000! 😀
Susan
Yay! Congratulations! I have been following along for most (all?) of those years and have enjoyed it immensely.
katelin
Huzzah! Congrats on 1000 posts and 6.5 years of blogging, so awesome. And love the lessons learned, so true.
kilax
Happy 1000! I love this list – but that’s probably because it’s how I blog, too! 🙂 It’s for fun, documentation, and making connections – and not much more. And NOT for airing dirty laundry. Ha! People need to learn to keep that offline, in general!
Kristina
Congratulations! I’ve never commented before, but I just wanted to let you know that I read every post, and your blog is one I always look forward to reading. I can relate to you so much, and I just wanted to say thank you!
Amber
I think I’ve read most of those 1000 posts too! Or at least 50% of them. I haven’t been loving blogging as much lately as I used to, which also explains my lack of posts, but at the same time I just can’t imagine life without my blog so I keep plugging away here and there. My blog is not private at all though so I don’t put any drama on it or even any really personal stuff anymore which is also hard especially right now when I do have a lot of crap going on personally but don’t want to talk about it on the blog.
Anyways, congrats on 1,000 posts and here’s to 1,000 more 🙂