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Best of 2017 | My Favorite Posts + a Survey

In today’s “Best of 2017” post, we’re taking a journey through my blog posts from the past year. In 2017, I wrote 103 posts, which is right around the amount I wrote last year. I try to write an average of two posts per week, publishing on Tuesdays and Fridays. In August, I didn’t publish any blog posts due to my blogging break and in October, I published my highest total of 14 posts (seven of those being my “Week in the Life” series).

Here’s what resonated the most with readers this year. These are my top 10 blog posts by traffic:

  1. What It’s Like to Date a Highly Sensitive Person
  2. Book Review: Kiss Carlo by Adriana Trigiani
  3. Book Review: Cocoa Beach by Beatriz Williams
  4. On Taking Care of a Dog at the End of His Life
  5. What People Don’t Understand about Social Anxiety
  6. My Social Anxiety Is Not a Weakness
  7. What It Means to Grow Up Poor
  8. On My 30th Birthday
  9. Book Review: Extreme You by Sarah Robb O’Hagan
  10. When You’re Not Okay

What this list tells me is that readers love when I open up about my social anxiety, generalized anxiety, and high sensitivity. While three of my book reviews made it into my top 10, it’s hard to count those as favorites with readers because those posts are cross-posted onto another website and I don’t get nearly any engagement with them. They are anomalies, really. So, basically, you love when I get vulnerable. Noted.

Now, let’s dig into the meat of this post, which is a list of some of my more favorite posts from the year. I have completed this list of posts for four years now and it’s always so much fun to go back through my posts and pick out some of the better ones that I want to highlight. While I try to have a good mixture of light-hearted posts with my personal essays, there’s no doubt that the personal essays are where I get to flex most of my creative muscle.

My favorite post was This is What Democracy Looks Like, where I reflected on participating in the Women’s March in St. Petersburg and how my political views have changed over time.

What I am is a liberal Democrat with a passion for human rights, most especially for women and the LGBTQIA community. I’m pro-choice, which is not the same as being pro-abortion. Then again, being pro-life isn’t the same as being pro-all life. What I do believe is that women should have access to the services they need and, in some cases, that includes abortion services. What I believe is that I have zero right to tell a woman what she should do with her body. And neither does anyone else.

My most popular post was What It’s Like to Date as a Highly Sensitive Person, where I give 8 ways dating as an HSP is completely different than dating as a non-HSP.

Being a highly sensitive person means life is more intense for me, which makes sense that dating would be a more intense situation. Love comes very easily for me because I am so in tune with my emotions and my surroundings, so I tend to fall in and out of love quickly. (Some may say that’s not really love, and I won’t argue the point. I just think it’s the easiest way to explain how I feel.) But isn’t there such a radical beauty to that? It means I get to experience love in all it’s glory again and again and again.

My most helpful post was How to Read More This Year, where I give five tips on how you can begin to carve out more time for reading.

I read before bed every single night. Sometimes, I can only manage a chapter before my eyes are too tired to focus and sometimes, I get in bed so early that I can read for 45 minutes or more. This is when I get the majority of my reading done. It’s such a habit for me that I feel weird if I go to bed without reading, even if it’s just a few pages. If you find that those hours right before you go to sleep are spent scrolling through Instagram or reading terrible news stories on Twitter, instead plug in your phone, set your alarm, and put it on Do Not Disturb. Then snuggle into bed with your book and read until you get sleepy. It’s the perfect end-of-the-day activity!

A post whose success surprised me was When You’re Not Okay, where I talk about being sad and some of the things I do to fight my way out of a funk.

“This too shall pass.” “Feel your feelings.” “It’s okay to not be okay all of the time.” “You will get through this now because you’ve gotten through this before.” I have a bunch of mantras I turn to when I’m feeling down. Mostly, I like to remind myself that it is okay to be sad. I am not a robot, I am a complex human being and all of my emotions are valid, even the ones I don’t necessarily enjoy. I also like to remind myself that I will not always be sad. I will not always feel so defeated by life. Find a mantra and repeat it over and over and over again until you start believing it.

A post I didn’t feel got the attention it deserved was When Your Anxiety Looks & Feels Different, where I open up about my anxiety struggles and implore those struggling to get help, even if their anxiety looks different than what is portrayed online and in movies/TV.

My anxiety did not look like the anxiety I saw from other people who opened up about their struggles, so I thought that maybe because it didn’t affect my life in the same way that I didn’t deserve medication. Most days I was okay! Perfectly happy, even. And then, out of the blue, everything would fall apart and I’d feel as if my world was crashing down on me and I was swimming underwater and didn’t know how to reach the air. But then I’d fight my way out of it and be okay and convince myself that I didn’t really need meds. It didn’t affect me “enough.”

My most beautiful post was On Taking Care of a Dog at the End of His Life, where I discuss a recent diagnosis from Dutch’s vet and how I’m processing the news.

He’s been such a big part of my life for so long. It’s hard to imagine living life without him. Every time I think about going home and him not being there, a piece of my heart cracks. For the past eight years, every time I come home, he’s there. But the reality of our dogs is that they live short lives and we have to have the strength to let them go. I’m just hoping Dutch will give me some time to find that strength.

The post I was most scared to push publish on was What People Don’t Understand About Social Anxiety, which was in response to a mean comment someone left on my blog.

When I’m in my logical mind, I know that nobody cares how I park my car. I know that I’m not an idiot if I have to look around a while before spotting my friends in a restaurant. I know that. But social anxiety does not play on logic; it plays on our biggest fears. Our fear of being judged harshly, of people laughing at us, of being embarrassed. So, yes, I will worry about people judging me for how I parked my car because that’s how my social anxiety works. You don’t need to tell me it’s silly because I know it is. I already feel completely ridiculous by how crippled I get by my thoughts when I’m worried about a social event. I already feel as if there’s something wrong with me because I get so damn worried all the time about things most other people don’t even concern themselves about. But social anxiety is not about logic, so please don’t make someone feel bad for the things they are fearful of. That’s not helpful, that’s harmful.

The post I am most proud of was A Year-By-Year Review of My Twenties, where I explored each year of my twenties and saw just how far I’ve come over the last decade.

For the past two years, I’ve documented my year month-by-month, assigning the emotion I was feeling most strongly to each month. I thought it might be fun to document my twenties in the same way, which meant I had to dig through my blog’s archives and my own memories to figure out exactly what happened each year and how I was feeling. It was an interesting experience, helping me to see just how damn far I’ve come in ten years. I can’t believe that ten years ago, I was a scared college student who thought she was meant to be an elementary school teacher. How times have changed, eh?

It’s been a great year of blog posts and I want to make 2018 even better! While I have my own specific ideas of what I want for my blog next year, I wanted to make sure what I want aligns with what my readers are craving. It’s true that I don’t write for an audience, but this blog wouldn’t be what it is without people engaging with my posts and helping me feel less alone in this crazy world. So, if you have a minute, would you mind filling out my survey and letting me know more about who you are and what content resonates with you the best? I’d greatly appreciate it! Simply go here to fill out my survey!

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Best of 2017 | A Month-by-Month Recap

Whee! It’s time for my favorite post of the year, even though this one takes me forever to put together due to the pictures. But I love looking back on these posts and I think they’re such a fun way to wrap up the year and recognize all the emotions I experienced (even the ones that aren’t so fun to think about!) So, here we go, my year separated by months, describing how I was feeling and what I went through.

In January, I was empowered.

I participated in the Women’s March in my city and it was a time of hope and inspiration. There were signs and chants and a feeling that we’re all in this together, even though it’s going to be really scary for a while. I had my writing published on Thought Catalog, replaced my laptop, and had a punch biopsy taken of a particularly troubling mole on my back (thankfully, it came back clean!).

In February, I was nurturing.

My grandpa had back surgery and my mom became his main caretaker, visiting him daily and making sure he had everything he needed. I didn’t want her to shoulder the burden alone, so I tried to help her as much as possible. Along with near-daily visits, I also helped her do a deep clean of his room and rearranged his furniture so that he could walk around safely (he’d be coming home with a walker). February was all about giving back to my Pops after he had given so much of himself to us. February was also mini-golfing with girlfriends, my nephew turning two, and resistance meetings.

In March, I was lonely.

I entered the month feeling very overwhelmed by life, so all I wanted was to be by myself. I needed time away from people, and so that’s what I did… until I had too much alone time and felt a level of loneliness I haven’t experienced in a while. Other happenings in March: Dutch turned 15, I joined a gym, and my mom and I had a girls’ day to see Beauty and the Beast. Dutch had to get an ultrasound to find out why his liver levels were astronomically high, and thankfully, it wasn’t anything serious like liver disease.

In April, I was brave.

I attended an event called SportsFest with my coworkers and it was the last place you’d expect to see me. A crowded beach, the hot sun, playing sports, being surrounded by people for HOURS… it’s basically my nightmare. I was scared out of my mind about the event and spent the weeks leading up to it trying to come up with excuses for why I couldn’t go. And yet I went. I went because I didn’t want my social anxiety to hold me back from putting myself out there. And I even had fun and was super proud of myself for not flaking. In April, my apartment was fumigated so I had a sleepover at my mom’s with Dutch, dealt with diverticulitis, and had an Easter picnic with my family.

In May, I was delighted.

My mom and I took our annual vacation together, spending five days in San Juan, Puerto Rico. We relaxed on a dog-friendly beach (the best kind of beach), went horseback riding, hiked to a waterfall, and explored the forts. It was such a fun time, but we both agreed we prefer cruises. In May, I had my first dentist appointment in 5+ years, celebrated Mother’s Day with brunch, and spent a little too much money on summer-y clothes.

In June, I was elated.

I did something I have been dying to do for years: I got a book tattoo. I actually got “matching” tattoos with one of my best friends, although our tattoos look a little different and we got them on separate parts of our bodies. It was so fun to experience my first tattoo with her – and I’m pretty sure I’d still be pining after a tattoo if she had not encouraged us to finally get it done. In June, I ate my weight in chips and guac at a pool party with my friends, took my nephew to a baseball game, and had the best time at a bookish DIY event.

In July, I was content.

This was one of those months where nothing extremely bad or extremely good happened. It was just a month that was filled with little pockets of happiness, like renewing my apartment lease, starting Dutch on meds to help his nighttime restlessness, celebrating my mom’s birthday, and watching my car hit 100,000 miles.

In August, I was sad.

I took a break from social media and blogging in August and felt very isolated. It didn’t help that my mom was out of touch for a week while she was on a cruise, leaving me feeling even more isolated than normal. I don’t think I’ll take another sabbatical like that – I don’t love that I rely on social media when I’m feeling lonely, but it is what it is. Other things in August: celebrating four years at my job, voting in my first local election, and taking a long “staycation” weekend when I found out I had some “use ’em or lose ’em” PTO hours remaining.

In September, I was scared.

Hurricane Irma was wreaking havoc in the Caribbean and I was glued to the Facebook feeds of our Tampa Bay Area meteorologists. The day before Irma was projected to make landfall in Florida, the projected path shifted in a very scary way: it was projected to hit my area directly as a Category 3 hurricane. My mom, Dutch, and I evacuated to her work (her building was built to withstand a Category 5 hurricane) and spent a very long 30 hours waiting out the storm. Thankfully for us, the storm ended up weakening and we weren’t hit directly. It made landfall east of us as a Category 1 storm. I lost power for four days, but my mom never did, so I just stayed with her until power was restored, so in the grand scheme of things, I was very lucky. After the storm, it was hard to go anywhere without hearing people talk about Irma – it really affected all of us in Florida.

In October, I was social.

I went on a lot of dates in October, but none of them panned out to anything spectacular. I went to birthday parties and movie dates and long walks, and it was the perfect amount of being social without feeling overwhelmed by my schedule. At the end of the month, I took Dutch to the vet for an exam after noticing he’d lost some weight and wasn’t himself. The vet scared me with her diagnosis that Dutch’s quality of life is diminishing and I took a lot of time to process the news by myself and with my mom until I could finally talk about it publicly.

In November, I was awed.

I took a four-day trip to Asheville, NC with my girlfriends and I couldn’t get over the fall colors. I’ve never experienced the four seasons because I’ve lived in Florida my whole life. We stayed at a cabin that had an awe-inspiring view of the Blue Ridge Mountains and fall foliage and I was so delighted by it. In November, my mom and I hosted Thanksgiving with our family and I turned 30, which I celebrated by taking a day off work and pampering myself.

In December, I was loved.

My friends threw me a 30th birthday party that was the most fun I’ve had in a long time. I felt so loved and appreciated by them. I experienced all that the Christmas season had to offer: Christmas lights at the zoo, taking Dutch to “meet Santa,” baking Christmas cookies, and watching Christmas movies. The downside to December was when I injured myself while helping a friend move, ending up with road rash all down my left leg and a fractured ankle, but there was also love in that: love in helping my friend move even though I knew I’d be surrounded by people I didn’t know, love in the way my friend and her family and friends rallied around me to help me after I fell, love in the way my mom dropped everything to sit at urgent care with me, love in the way my friends rushed to my aid. Love, love, all around. It’s there, you guys. I don’t always feel it and I don’t always want to acknowledge it because love is so goddamn vulnerable, but it’s always there when we need it. <3
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Best of 2017 | End-of-Year Survey

Happy Tuesday, friends! I hope everyone had a fantastic Christmas. I know I did. I was spoiled rotten with gifts and enjoyed time with my family in a very low-key way. It’s back to reality for me, as I’m at work today (womp), but at least it’s a short week, right?

Today begins my favorite series on my blog, my “Best of…” series. At the end of every year, I like to take the time to look back on the year with a series of posts and I’m kicking things off with this end-of-year survey that I’ve completed for three years in a row now. This is such a fun way to look back on my year and it really makes me think about everything I have and haven’t accomplished. Feel free to use it on your own blog!

1) What did you do in 2017 that you’ve never done before?

I participated in a political protest. I called my senators. I got a tattoo. I started taking anti-anxiety medication. I replaced the windshield on my car – twice. My writing was published on Thought Catalog.

2) Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

I kept some of my new year’s resolutions, but not all of them. And yes, I already have my list prepared for 2018!

3) Did anyone close to you give birth?

No.

4) Did anyone close to you die?

No.

5) What places did you visit?

San Juan, Puerto Rico and Asheville, North Carolina. Two incredible destinations!

6) What would you like to have in 2018 that you didn’t have in 2017?

A more balanced look to my health. 2017 wasn’t my healthiest year in terms of diet and weight, and I really want to change that in 2018. At the very least, I want to eat healthier and exercise more, even if that doesn’t amount to losing weight. I’d also like to fall in love. I’m hoping 2018 is my year for that.

7) What dates from 2017 will be etched in your memory forever?

January 21, the day I marched in the Women’s March. And November 4, the first day of my vacation to Asheville where I saw fall colors for the first time in my life!

8) What was your biggest achievement this year?

Hm… perhaps getting my writing published on Thought Catalog. I also had some great career moments in 2017. I had a fantastic annual review that came with a significant pay raise and was named the employee of the month runner-up in November.

9) What was your biggest failure?

I made a lot of mistakes with my finances this year. I really want to change that in 2018 and find a better way to manage my finances.

10) Did you suffer from illness or injury?

I suffered from diverticulitis in April, a chest cold in September, and a fractured ankle and road rash in December. This has not been my healthiest year!

11) What was the best thing you bought?

My laptop! My old faithful laptop that I’ve had for five or six years finally died a painful death, which meant I had to buy a new one. I really enjoy my new laptop, especially considering I don’t have to keep it plugged into a power source constantly like my old laptop. 😉

12) Where did most of your money go?

Well, aside from bills and student loans, probably to food. I spend a lot of money on food, whether that’s groceries or eating out. I’m hoping to track my expenses much more thoroughly in 2018, so I can get an accurate read on just where my money is going.

13) What did you get really, really excited about?

Probably traveling. I always get so, so excited right before my trips and I was most especially excited right before we left for Asheville.

14) What authors did you discover in 2017?

Beatriz Williams, who writes really interesting historical fiction that takes place in the 1920s-1930s. I read two books from her this year and have her other titles on my TBR.

Louise Penny, who writes cozy mysteries and is most especially known for her Chief Inspector Armand Gamache series. I read the first two books in the series this year.

For romance authors, I discovered some new favorites: Penny Reid, Katee Robert, and Sarah Morgan.

15) Compared to this time last year, are you a) happier or sadder, b) thinner or fatter, c) richer or poorer?

Maybe sadder because this time last year, I was seeing someone so my life felt a bit more bright. I’m fatter but richer.

16) What do you wish you’d done more of?

I wish I had gone on more dates, saved more money, and written more fiction.

17) What do you wish you’d done less of?

Spending money on unnecessary things. Beating myself up for things beyond my control.

18) How did you spend Christmas?

I woke up naturally at my apartment and slowly got ready for the day. Around 10, I loaded up my car with my presents, and Dutch and I headed to my mom’s (with a pit stop at Starbucks for coffee and hot chocolate!) I just hung out with my mom and stepdad, reading my book and playing games on my phone until my brother and his family came over a little after 2. From there, we opened presents, had a low-key “linner” meal, played trivia, and watched some of the Steelers/Texans game. A perfect Christmas Day, in my opinion. 🙂

19) What was your favorite TV program?

I only watched a handful of TV shows this year – Gilmore Girls, The Office, Parks and Rec, Master of None, Grace & Frankie, Scandal, The Carmichael Show, and Mad Men – because I don’t have cable, so I’m limited to the options on Netflix. My favorite was probably Gilmore Girls. I loved the revival episodes, A Year in the Life, and thought it was the perfect ending to this beloved series.

20) What was the best book you read?

Well, I’m going to reveal my favorite book of 2017 later on in the week when I talk about the top 10 books I read this year. But here are the books (excluding romance novels) that I gave 5 stars to this year:

  • The Mothers by Brit Bennett
  • How to Be a Woman by Caitlin Moran
  • The Sound of Gravel by Ruth Wariner
  • Everything, Everything by Nicola Yoon
  • The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood
  • Ready Player One by Ernest Cline
  • This is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel
  • The Invasion of the Tearling by Erika Johansen
  • The Trump Survival Guide by Gene Stone
  • With Love from the Inside by Angela Pisel
  • You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero
  • The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah
  • Cocoa Beach by Beatriz Williams
  • Love & Gelato by Jenna Evans Welch
  • Evicted by Matthew Desmond
  • I Must Say: My Life as a Humble Comedy Legend by Martin Short
  • The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
  • Escape by Carolyn Jessop
  • Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng
  • Anchored: Finding Hope in the Unexpected by Kayla Aimee
  • Hunger by Roxane Gay

21) What did you want and get?

I finally got a tattoo! I’ve been eyeing this design for years and I’m so glad I finally got it done. My tattoo makes me oh-so-happy.

22) What did you want and not get?

Romantic love. I went on dates, but I didn’t meet someone who made my pulse race and knees weak. I want to find that in 2018.

23) What was your favorite film of 2017?

The live-action Beauty and the Beast. It made me cry and fall in love with Belle all over again.

24) What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I turned 30 on my birthday and celebrated with a day of “me.” I took the day off work, slept in, got a pedicure and a massage, spent some time at Starbucks reading, and went out for dinner and dessert with my family. It was the most perfect way to ring in my thirties!

25) What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

Losing weight. I think I would have been happier and felt better about myself and my year if I had finally managed to lose some of this blasted weight.

26) Who kept you sane?

My mom, as always. I don’t know what I would do without her!

27) Who did you miss?

My grandma. Always my grandma.

There were so many moments this year that stopped me in my tracks when I realized I will never see her on this earth ever again. She’s gone. I had my time with her and now I have to live the rest of my life without her. It really sucks.

28) Who was the best new person you met?

Hm… most of the new people I met were through my job. And some people I met through dating, but we’re not in touch anymore. Oh, I met a friend’s partner and he’s terrific. And he makes my friend oh-so-happy, which is all I ever want.

29) Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2017.

I have a nurturing personality. One of the reasons I’ve been on the fence about having kids is because I didn’t know if I had the right personality for it. I highly value my alone time and sleep, too. But this year was the first year where I started to realize that I do desire motherhood and that I will be a good mother if I get a chance for that. I’m a nurturer in the way I handle Dutch, in the way I treat my friends, in the way I help my mom. And I know I’ll be an excellent mother someday.

30) Show us one of your favorite photos from the year.

This day started out crappy as I broke my ankle while helping a friend move, but it ended beautifully with a 30th birthday celebration that my friends threw me where they showered me with love. In my early twenties, I struggled so much to find my tribe, never believing I was worth one of my own, and I’m glad I somehow managed to find these girls even in the midst of all my inner turmoil. They are everything I need and want in friends.

What did you do in 2017 that you’ve never done before?

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Best of 2016 | My Top 10 Books

It’s time to reveal my top 10 reads of 2016! With 95 books to choose from, it was hard to whittle this down to just 10 that I absolutely loved. There’s nonfiction, there’s romance, there’s fiction, there’s chick-lit, there’s dystopian. In short, there’s something for everyone on this list. I hope at least one or two of these jumps out to you as something to read in 2017. These books will be worth your while, I promise.

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10) Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

I really feel like this book is a must-read for any creative. I love the way Gilbert approaches creativity and art, and it’s a book I can see myself returning to again and again whenever I need to be inspired. I wrote a post detailing the five lessons I learned from this book because it had such a strong impact on me and my art.

9) The Distance from A to Z by Natalie Blitt

This was a really sweet YA romance that I reviewed for a friend. I am so glad I was given the chance to read this delightful novel because it made such an impact on me that it’s one of my favorite books of the year! It follows the romance between Abby and Zeke during their time in a French intensive course during the summer and their love story just made me so darn happy. I devoured this book in 24 hours and now I am waiting on pins and needles for the author’s next release.

8) The Nest by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney

This novel has gotten so many mixed reviews, but count me among one of the people who really loved it. The characters were wholly unlikable and their family dynamic was incredibly dysfunctional, but there was something totally relatable about the novel. The premise is that there are four siblings and they all have been waiting for the day when they’ll get a multimillion-dollar payday from their trust fund (aptly called “The Nest”). Unfortunately, before that can happen, one of the siblings is involved in a car accident with a woman who is not his wife and when the woman is badly injured, the family has to use a portion of “The Nest” to pay her off. Obviously, this reaps a lot of selfish feelings and annoyances from the other siblings who were counting on the payday for various reasons. I know this novel isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but man, it was a book I could not put down or stop thinking about. I hated and loved these four siblings and thought this was a brilliant debut by Sweeney.

7) A Place to Stand by Jimmy Santiago Baca

This book was such a hard read, but I am so glad I read it. It was one of the books I read this year for Postal Book Club, and I remember how I kept putting it off and putting it off because I knew it would be difficult. And it was. Jimmy Santiago Baca lived a hard life. He was abandoned by his parents at the age of 10, thrust into an orphanage, and by 14, he was living on the streets and getting into lots of trouble. At the age of 21, he was convicted on drug charges and served six-and-a-half years in prison. It was during his time in prison that he learned to read and write and began writing poetry. At times, the book made me uncomfortable and broke my heart, so I had to set it down and step away. But, even so, there was something profoundly beautiful about Baca’s story. It showed the power of the human spirit and how we can persevere even when life looks bleak and hopeless.

6) The One & Only by Emily Giffin

This is probably the best Giffin novel I’ve read, and I realize I’m alone in this opinion. For some reason, this novel has gotten terrible reviews, and while I can understand why, it was one of my favorite books of the year. I loved all of the football talk, I loved the blossoming relationship, and I loved the setting. It follows the story of Shea after tragedy strikes her small town and everything she thought she knew about life and love is upended. She questions herself, her path, and what she thought she wanted from her life. I wish the relationship between Shea and her best friend Lucy was stronger (Giffin tends to write contentious female friendships, and it bugs the hell out of me!), but it was still such a fantastic read. I couldn’t put this novel down for anything.

5) November 9 by Colleen Hoover

This is the kind of book that makes me want to totally give up on my dream of writing because there is no possible way I could ever write a book as amazing as this one! No way I could write characters who feel so real! It was the kind of book that I couldn’t stop thinking about and made me want to put my entire life on hold until I finished it. It was just. so. good. I love, love, love Colleen Hoover. This novel took so many twists and turns and I was on the edge of my seat until the very end, wanting to know if everything would fall into place.

4) In the Country We Love: My Family Divided by Diane Guerrero

I have a lot of nonfiction in my top 10 reads for this year, but this one was easily my favorite of the bunch. Diane’s story is heart-wrenching and difficult to read, but it’s so important, especially right now with everything that’s happening in politics. At the age of 14, Diane’s parents were deported, leaving her – a U.S. citizen – alone in America. She depended on the kindness of friends and their families to help her through high school, giving her a place to stay and food to eat. The courage and vulnerability that had to take just blows my mind. In the end, this is Diane’s memoir, but it’s also a call to action about immigration. It really opened my eyes to what immigrants go through and how easily they are taken advantage of. If there’s any book you read from this list, please let it be this one.

3) Jane Steele by Lyndsay Faye

This book was so, so, so fun to read. It was pitched to me as a retelling of Jane Eyre, but people who have actually read Jane Eyre said it’s not so much a retelling as a homage. It basically envisions Jane as a serial killer, righting the wrongs of citizens. Eventually, Jane ends up at her old childhood home, a place she believes is rightfully hers, after the new owner, the suave Charles Thornefield, puts out an advertisement seeking a governess. This book was such a delight and I want everyone I know to read it. (My book club is reading this for January, and if any of them don’t love the novel as much as I do, I’ll be completely heartbroken.)

2) The Queen of the Tearling by Erika Johansen

I recently reviewed this book, so this one is probably fresh in everyone’s mind. I loved this novel so much. I’m actually going to use a gift card I received for my birthday to purchase the next book in the series. It was such an incredible read and I would just love an ounce of Johansen’s creativity. This world she envisioned is so detailed and perfectly written. It’s a dystopian novel that follows 19-year-old Kelsea as she becomes queen of a nation in disarray. She has to learn the ropes of being queen quickly and makes a ton of mistakes along the way. It’s a brilliantly written book and it’s another one I want everyone to read so we can discuss. (Oh! It is also going to be a movie and Emma Watson is starring as Kelsea. DO I NEED TO SAY MORE?!)

1) The Hating Game by Sally Thorne

Honestly, I couldn’t name any book other than this one as my favorite of the year. I can’t remember the last time I had such a fun time reading a novel, and I don’t understand how this is her first novel. (What?!) The characters were outstanding, the plot was fun, and I had happy butterflies in my stomach the entire time I was reading it. It’s a typical romance novel, but ugh, it’s really so much more than that. It’s about two coworkers, Lucy and Josh, who hate each other and are vying for the same promotion. In order to work together somewhat peacefully, they’ve devised a series of passive-aggressive games to get through the workday. And then Lucy starts to realize that maybe she doesn’t hate Josh. Maybe, just maybe, she’s totally in love with him.

What was the best book you read this year?

Categories: Best Of

Best of 2016 | Reading Stats

My last two posts for my “Best of 2016” series are going to be all about reading, which shouldn’t surprise anyone since it’s my number-one hobby. This year was a fantastic reading year for me and I’m currently reading my 95th book. As I am fairly confident I will finish the book by Saturday, I’m going to say that’s my final number. 95 books! That’s insane. That’s a lot of books to read in a year.

Reading is a priority for me, but I also have a lot of free time to devote to it and I use my free time wisely. Also, I’m not in a relationship and I don’t have little children to take care of and I’m a homebody who requires a lot of alone time to remain sane, so it’s pretty easy to see how I’ve read so many books.

So, without further ado, I present this year’s reading stats:

How many books read? 95

How many pages read? 33,535 pages

What percentage of books were in print? E-books? Audiobooks?

  • Print: 38%
  • E-books: 62%
  • Audiobooks: 0%

How many books did you buy? 8 books

How much money did you spend on books? $52.22

Detail the genre breakdown by percentage.

  • Romance: 53%
  • Fiction: 22%
  • Nonfiction: 11%
  • Fantasy: 7%
  • YA: 5%
  • Science fiction: 1%
  • Mystery: 1%

How many diverse books did you read? 26 books, so 27%. Last year, 19% of the books I read were diverse, so I’m happy that my number has increased, even if it is still such a small percentage of my overall total.

Where did you get your books (library, Amazon, Overdrive, bookstore, etc.)?

  • Overdrive: 49%
  • Library: 21%
  • Friend: 12%
  • Amazon: 12%
  • TLC Book Tours: 5%
  • Target: 1%

What month did you read the most? The least? I read the most books in a month in September when I read 12 books. August was my lowest reading month at 6 books.

How many pages was the biggest book you read? The shortest? The biggest book was Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix at 870 pages. The shortest book was Be My Love by Lucy Kevin at 200 pages.

How many books did you finish in less than 24 hours? 12

What book took you the longest to read, and how long did it take you? Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, no surprise there! It took me 13 days to read.

How many books did you abandon over the course of the year? 9

It was actually fairly simple to compile my stats, as I keep a detailed spreadsheet of all the books I read with accompanying categories, like genre, date started and finished, number of pages, rating, where I got the book, price (if I paid for it), etc. I am happy to send along that spreadsheet to anyone interested in analyzing their reading this way. It’s super nerdy, and I love it.

I also wanted to take the time to outline the books my book club read this year, for anyone who is curious (starred books are the ones I suggested):

How many books did you read this year?