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How to Read More This Year

When people ask me how I can read so many books, I usually blow them off.

“Oh, I don’t have much of a life,” I tell them with a laugh.

And, in a sense, that’s true. I don’t keep a very full social calendar due to being an introvert and needing tons of alone time. I’m not in a relationship and I don’t have kids. It leads to having lots of time to read. And it’s my favorite hobby, so I make the time for it. It’s something I can’t imagine not doing, so reading is something I make time for every single day.

I have a lot of friends who want to read more. I don’t really think anyone needs to read as much as I do. If you’re reading at least 1-2 books per month, you’re doing fine. But if you’re looking for tips on how to read more, well then, I’ve got you covered:

1) Listen to audiobooks.

Do you have a long commute? Do you spend a lot of time by yourself cooking or cleaning? Do you like to take long walks? All of these activities lend themselves to prime audiobook time. I listen to a lot of podcasts, which means I don’t really listen to a ton of audiobooks, though I’ve been trying to listen to more this year. I love to listen to audiobooks when I’m driving (I never listen to the radio anymore, instead opting for a podcast or my audiobook in the car), when I’m cooking, when I’m cleaning, when I’m taking Dutch on walks. Sometimes, I can even listen when I’m working, depending on the task I’m doing. You could easily knock out 1-2 books per month simply by listening to audiobooks.

2) Read before bed.

I read before bed every single night. Sometimes, I can only manage a chapter before my eyes are too tired to focus and sometimes, I get in bed so early that I can read for 45 minutes or more. This is when I get the majority of my reading done. It’s such a habit for me that I feel weird if I go to bed without reading, even if it’s just a few pages. If you find that those hours right before you go to sleep are spent scrolling through Instagram or reading terrible news stories on Twitter, instead plug in your phone, set your alarm, and put it on Do Not Disturb. Then snuggle into bed with your book and read until you get sleepy. It’s the perfect end-of-the-day activity!

3) Read on your lunch break.

One of my favorite things to do is read during my lunch break. It really allows me to break up my day when I know I have at least 30 minutes (or more) set aside to dive into my current read. I used to feel embarrassed about reading at work, but I’ve been outed as a major bookworm, so now I have no qualms about it (and a good portion of my office reads on their lunch breaks, too!) If you’re looking for a pocket of time to get some reading in, your lunch break is the perfect time to do that. (And if you work from home, this works for you, too! I know too many of us tend to work through our lunch and, this way, you can physically set your computer aside and take an actual lunch break, complete with your latest book.)

4) Read in spurts.

I do a lot of my reading in spurts – 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there. It’s something that was apparent when I logged my reading for a week, as there were only four instances in the space of an entire week where I read for longer than 30 minutes. The majority of the time, I snuck reading in 5, 10, or 15-minute spurts. And that’s still my M.O. today – lots of reading in spurts. There are a lot of little times during the day when you can probably sneak in some reading. Get to your doctor’s appointment early? Reading time. Have 10 minutes before you have to leave for work? Reading time. Need to use the bathroom? Reading time. (Ha.) You’ll be amazed at how much reading you can knock out in these little spurts of time!

5) Give something up.

The real truth of how to read more is that you have to give something up. You can’t just expect to read more without changing your life in some way, whether that’s less TV or less social media. Think about it: if you told yourself that when you got home from work, you weren’t going to open up social media for the rest of the night, you’d be able to spend oodles of time reading. (This article explains it better.) But the truth of the matter is that I don’t watch much TV (it took me four months to watch one season of Gilmore Girls and that is not a joke) and I don’t have a full, active social calendar. In order to read more, you have to open up space in your life and that usually means giving something up. But in doing so, you will gain so much more than bingeing on a Netflix series or scrolling endlessly through Facebook. Social media and TV have nothing on a good book, in my opinion.

Have any tips to add on how to read more? Let me know in the comments!

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Book Review: Extreme You by Sarah Robb O’Hagan

“I figured that if I kept trying and experimenting to find where I was great and where I sucked, if I kept believing that I could excel somewhere, somehow, eventually I’d find my own path to my own kind of greatness.”

This is in the introduction chapter of Extreme You by Sarah Robb O’Hagan, a book about how Sarah went from being fired from two jobs in her twenties to becoming the global president for two extremely well-known brands. Gatorade and Equinox… ya heard of them, maybe? Through her years reinventing herself and her career, Sarah developed her Extreme You approach, which has five essential qualities:

Check Yourself Out – wherein you experiment with all sorts of hobbies, passions, and careers to find what truly lights you up
Ignite Your Magic Drive – to “build the stamina and the confidence to power through any challenge that comes your way.”
Get Out of Line – take chances with your career, using the skills you honed in Check Yourself Out and Ignite Your Magic Drive to give you the confidence to do so
Get Over Yourself – to recognize your weaknesses and notice patterns in what mentors and other people are telling you about where you need to improve, and then work to improve those areas
Pain Training – which is how you will live through your failures when they come (because they will come and you need to be prepared for handling them)

In the book, Sarah takes readers through every step of her process, using examples from her own life and from the lives of other “Extreme” people (like Olympic skier Bode Miller and ESPN anchor Sage Steele). It’s a truly inspiring account of how to truly kick ass and truly live out your passions.

But… and this was my main contention with the book… it was mainly about your career and how to continue to scale up the ladder. Which is fine. It’s a great book if you want to learn more about how to become a more badass career woman, but it’s just not something that lights me up. I’m never going to be the person whose highest aim is a corner office or to lead a team of people. That’s just not something I’m passionate about.

It’s also not in my personality. The people in nearly all of the examples in this book were very clearly outgoing extroverts who have no problem making their voices heard. That’s not who I am. I’m an introvert and I have social anxiety, which means speaking up in meetings and collaborative projects are difficult for me. (I’m very thankful that my current position caters to my shy, introverted needs!)

So, this book wasn’t exactly geared toward someone like me, but I did find lots of inspiration from Sarah. She was brutally honest about her failures and gave some really exceptional career advice. And her writing style was really easy to read and relatable and humorous at times. She’s definitely a unique person!

All in all, it’s perfect for people looking for career advice and a blueprint for moving through the ranks in a corporate environment, but if you’re thinking it’s going to be about how to be “Extreme” in your personal life, you’ll be disappointed.

Goodreads synopsis:

As a child, Sarah Robb O’Hagan dreamed she could be a champion. Her early efforts failed to reveal a natural superstar, but she refused to settle for average. Through dramatic successes and epic fails, she studied how extraordinary people in sports, entertainment and business set and achieve extremely personal goals. Sarah became an executive at Virgin Atlantic and Nike, and despite being fired twice in her twenties, she went on to become the global president of Gatorade and of Equinox—as well as a wife, mother, and endurance athlete.

In every challenging situation, personal or professional, individuals face the pressure to play it safe and conform to the accepted norms. But doing so comes with heavy costs: passions stifled, talents ignored, and opportunities squelched. The bolder choice is to embrace what Sarah calls Extreme You: to confidently bring all that is distinctive and relevant about yourself to everything you do.

Inspiring, surprising, and practical, Extreme You is her training program for becoming the best version of yourself.

You can connect with Sarah Robb O’Hagan on the Extreme You website and Twitter. Her book is available to buy from Amazon, HarperCollins, and Barnes & Noble.

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I received this book for free from TLC Book Tours in exchange for an honest review. All words and opinions, unless otherwise stated, are my own.

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Monthly Book Review | March 2017

Settle in, folks. This book review post is going to be a long one. Somehow, I read 11 books in March. I didn’t even realize I had read so much until I took a look back at my March reads and added it all up. Holy cow! I am way ahead of my goal of reading 100 books in 2017. Who knows if I will sustain this pace throughout the year, though? Right now, I just have a lot of time to devote to reading and since I no longer have cable and rely on Netflix for TV, I find myself less and less inclined to turn my TV on, preferring to settle in with a book instead.

I read so many great books this month, but it is easy to name my favorite: This is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel. It made my heart explode.

Here’s what I read in March:

Quarterback Draw by Jaci Burton (★★★☆☆) – I’ve seen this mentioned in other reviews, but it really feels like Jaci Burton has run out of ideas when it comes to her Play-By-Play series (this is the ninth book in the series). The characters weren’t anything special, there was no angst or real conflict. It was a pleasant read, but I wanted more. I didn’t feel any connection with the characters and I wish this author would write about more real characters with real families. Everything is a bit too perfect and there’s nothing special about that. (library e-book)

Not That Kind of Girl by Lena Dunham (★★★★☆) – I ended up enjoying this book way more than I thought I would. I’m not really a fan of Lena Dunham, but I’m also not not a fan? I am indifferent to her. I understand the criticism of her work and I understand why people love her. I listened to this on audiobook, which Dunham reads herself, and I found myself vastly enjoying her viewpoint. I think she’s someone I might get along with in real life because there was a lot I could agree with and understand. I don’t think I’ll be watching Girls anytime soon, but this was a good listen and gave me a different amount of respect for her. (library audiobook)

All Summer Long by Dorothea Benton Frank (★★★☆☆) – I reviewed this novel earlier in March, and you can read my review here. Quick review: a sweet novel, but not one I’d be quick to recommend. (paperback)

Ready Player One by Ernest Cline (★★★★★) – I have been waiting for this book to make its way to me in the postal book club, and I was so excited to get it in the mail in the latest round. It lived up to my every expectation and was so much fun to read. The novel takes place in the future – 2044 – and everyone basically lives in virtual reality. The novel begins with the creator of the virtual reality simulation dying, which launches this crazy game that has everyone fighting to solve puzzles so they can win the prize money. I’m not a gamer, nor am I a connoisseur of 80s pop trivia, but I could still thoroughly enjoy and appreciate this novel. It was incredible. (paperback)

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows by JK Rowling (★★★★★) – I have had this book on my nightstand since September, and I figured it was beyond time for me to finish my reread of this series and give the book back to my friend. There is truly nothing like these novels; they are a work of art. Also, I had forgotten so damn much about this series! It was amazing how much of it read like new information to me. I can’t wait to reread this series again. (hardcover)

Dare to Hold by Carly Phillips (★★★☆☆) – I read this book in one sitting on a Saturday, and it provided the perfect escape. I really loved the chemistry between the two main characters, and I think Carly Phillips really excels at making you feel their passion for one another. Fun and thrilling with some really excellent sex scenes. (e-book)

The Girls by Emma Cline (★★★☆☆) – What a creepy, disturbing book! We picked this for my work book club this month, and I was looking forward to reading it as it had been on my list for a while. I really love Cline’s writing style and found myself highlighting all the different passages. But the story itself disturbed and depressed me (it’s basically a fictional retelling of the Manson Family through the eyes of a girl who joined the cult right before all the murders happened). I never felt excited to pick up the book, but whenever I did, I got sucked into the story. (library hardcover)

When Lightning Strikes by Brenda Novak (★★☆☆☆) – This was a free Kindle book I snagged a while ago and read while at the gym. It was really not that good and the premise was rather silly, but it kept my attention enough that I kept reading. Meh. (e-book)

Something in Between by Melissa de la Cruz (★★★★☆) – I listened to this on audiobook and the narrator was phenomenal. It’s so rare for me to love an audiobook narrator (which is why I’ve had such trouble with audiobooks), so listening to this novel was so enjoyable. It’s a sweet YA romance but delves into a very serious topic: immigration and deportation. High school senior Jasmine is awarded a scholarship that will allow her to attend any college she wants for free. In order to accept the scholarship, she has to show proof of citizenship. Her family moved to the USA when she was very young on work visas, but those expired and they never renewed them. Jasmine has to come to terms with being an illegal immigrant… and her new boyfriend’s father is a congressman who is fighting against the rights of immigrants. It’s truly an outstanding portrayal of what it is like for people who come to America searching for a better life, and how the system works against them time and again. I was super impressed with Melissa de la Cruz’s writing and how she tackled an incredibly serious and heartbreaking topic in a way that felt hopeful. (library audiobook)

This is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel (★★★★★) – This might be the best book I’ve ever read, no lie. The writing is incredible and I truly never wanted the book to end. I took my time reading the novel because I just wanted to soak in every single moment with this family. This novel is about Claude and his family. It’s about how Claude wants to be a girl when he grows up. It’s about a family that wants Claude to be whomever he wants to be… but aren’t sure how to share Claude with the world. It’s about a wife and a husband who are trying to raise five kids. It’s about siblings and how powerful that bond can be. It’s a truly sensational piece of writing that everyone needs to read. (library hardcover)

Eleven Scandals to Start to Win a Duke’s Heart by Sarah MacLean (★★★★☆) – Oh, gosh, am I glad I found Sarah MacLean. Her Regency romances are everything. They feature smart, feisty female protagonists and sexy, charming male protagonists, and engaging plots that seem to be completely different than everything else I’ve read in this subgenre. Her books are just so much fun to read, leaving me with only happy sighs. (library e-book)

What was the best book you read in March?

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Books I’m Embarrassed I Didn’t Like

I was listening to an episode of the What Should I Read Next? podcast, and the guest that week said something that made my ears perk up.

During each episode, Anne, the podcast host, brings on one guest to talk about three books they loved and one book they hated, so that Anne can give recommendations for what they should read next.

In the episode I listened to, the guest didn’t tell Anne the book she hated. She told her about the book she was embarrassed for not liking. As in, a book that seems universally loved, but just didn’t do it for her.

It made me think, are there any books I’m embarrassed about not liking?

I already know that, if I were ever on Anne’s podcast, my “hated” book would be Code Name Verity. (Which has been mentioned as a “love,” as well as recommended by Anne on the What Should I Read Next? podcast.) I still don’t understand what I missed in that book that everyone else raved about. I found it boring and a little over my head at times (there’s the embarrassment). What’s even more crazy is that it’s the one book my entire book club was unanimous in our distaste. Most of them didn’t finish the book. So, what are we all missing? I still don’t understand why that book is so widely loved.

I also get embarrassed when I try to read a business or science book, and it goes over my head. I couldn’t make it through Switch by Chip Heath or Salt Sugar Fat by Michael Moss. I managed to finish Why We Get Fat by Gary Taubes, but the majority of the book was difficult for me and tainted my review. Twice, I tried to read The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks and the science parts were just so dense that I abandoned it. Maybe I’ll just watch the movie instead.

I tried Reading Lolita in Tehran, but only made it past the first few chapters before abandoning it. I feel a bit embarrassed about that, as that’s a book I really want to read, but I think I just tried to read it at the wrong time.

And then there are the award winners. These are the books I’m not even going to attempt to read, and that can be a little embarrassing. Like The Goldfinch. Nope, I cannot see myself settling in for a nearly 800-page book that doesn’t seem to pay off (at least from the reviews I’ve read). I’ve also been hesitant to read All the Light We Cannot See, simply because it won the Pulitzer in 2015. I’m weirdly intimidated by books that have won awards.

I also don’t read the classics. I read Pride and Prejudice for a high school project, but had to keep a thesaurus nearby while I was reading and, after spending a month barely getting through the first 100 pages, I just grabbed the CliffNotes version so I could finish the project. I’m going to attempt another Jane Austen novel this year, so maybe I’ll be more adept at reading such a classic novel now that I’m a little more “well read.” Or maybe I’ll still hate it and the entire novel will go over my head.

Of course, the term “embarrassment” should be taken as hyperbole. I’m not literally embarrassed. I don’t feel any guilt about abandoning The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks or Reading Lolita in Tehran or Salt Sugar Fat. I don’t care about reading award-winning books or the classics. I read what I like. I abandon when I want to. I read purely for pleasure, not to make myself appear literary or to impress people with the breadth of novels I read.

It’s just interesting to look back on the books I hated or couldn’t get through, especially when the books are universally loved, and try to piece through why they just didn’t do it for me.

I guess that’s just what reading is. We’re not all going to love the same books. A good example of that for me is The Nest. Most people abhor that book, but I ended up really loving it and it was even one of my top 10 books of 2016. That’s the beauty of reading – we get to decide how we feel about the books we read, and what feels like a satisfying emotional journey to one person can feel like a waste of time to another person.

Are there any books you’re “embarrassed” about not liking or abandoning? Or, put another way, any books that are universally loved that you hated?

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Book Review: All Summer Long by Dorothea Benton Frank

I’ll be the first to admit it: when I received this book in the mail and read the synopsis, I was confused as to why I’d requested to review it. It didn’t seem to be the type of book I would normally read, and I was rather reluctant to read it.

But I had promised an honest review, so I settled in and started reading it.

The book starts off slowly and the main character, Olivia, is super unlikeable at first. I really cannot relate to people who are so concerned with making sure other people perceive them as rich and successful, and this seemed to be Olivia’s number-one worry. She was driving me crazy! The book starts with Olivia and her husband, Nick, beginning their big move from NYC to Charleston. Olivia had always known that when Nick retired from being a college professor, he wanted to move to Charleston, but even so, she wasn’t thrilled about moving south. Currently, her interior decorating business is in a slump and she worries about what moving away from a city like NYC will do for her business. Will it even survive?

Instead of confiding in her husband, she keeps everything a secret and buys the most outlandish house she can find in Charleston. The house is too big and too expensive for them, but Olivia has to make a statement, right? She can’t have her clients thinking she’s poor.

Generally, though, as I continued to read, I realized this novel wasn’t about Olivia and her money woes at all. It was about relationships. Olivia is a woman in her fifties, her husband a bit older than her. They are entering a different stage of their relationship, as her husband retires and she finds her work slowing down (albeit not by choice). They were also a childless couple, and I really love that the author didn’t make too many references to that. It wasn’t this big “thing” to them; it’s just what is. They didn’t feel the need to defend their choices or feel bad about being in this stage without kids and grandkids to spoil. There was something so refreshing about that.

What was also refreshing was Olivia and Nick’s relationship. Usually, when a married couple features prominently in a novel, there’s something wrong with the marriage. Someone is cheating, someone is hiding a huge secret, they are about to get divorced, etc. What I loved about Olivia and Nick is that they were just a normal couple, enjoying normal day-to-day life. There’s a scene in the novel where Nick makes a tomato sandwich for her, and she’s so delighted by it, and it was just the sweetest thing ever. It just goes to show that you can still be surprised by your partner, even decades into a marriage. It’s so rare to read about a couple after the happily ever after, when they are still enjoying their happily ever after. No strife, no secrets (aside from Olivia keeping the fact that they were in financial trouble, which was addressed, but they fought and moved on within a few pages, just like any normal couple!).

This novel didn’t follow any sort of typical structure, and there was very little plot to follow. That can be good or bad, and in this case, I didn’t mind it. In fact, I think I liked that it was more character-driven because it allowed me to completely fall in love with Olivia and Nick without worrying about their fate.

I do feel the need to mention this really weird twist near the end of the book that didn’t add anything to the story or alter the plot at all. It just served as emotional manipulation, and I hated it so much that I dropped my rating from 4 stars to 3 stars. Why do authors have to do that? Sigh.

All Summer Long was a fun, quick read. It would be a great beach read, for those looking for something light-hearted to dig into on an upcoming vacation.

Goodreads synopsis:

Filled with her trademark wit, poignant themes, and rich characters, the perennial New York Times bestselling author returns with a sensational novel that follows the travels of one couple though a tumultuous summer.

Dorothea Benton Frank’s magical stories take us deep into the heart of her beloved Carolina Lowcountry. In her novels, this lush landscape comes alive in all its vibrancy and color. She ignites all of our senses with her vivid descriptions of landscape and atmosphere. In her novels you hear the ocean washing the shore on different islands so profoundly that you can nearly hear the sea gulls squawking, too.

This is a story of people whose lives are changing—a southern gentleman returning home to lead a more peaceful life and his talented New York wife who is not quite sure she is ready to make the transition. They are moving north to south, fast pace versus slow pace, downsizing. And while they are doing this, they are getting glimpses into other people’s lives over the course of a summer, holidays that will amuse, shock and transform them.

This irresistible story is home to captivating characters as funny, complicated, and real as our best friends—husbands and wives, mothers and daughters, friends and family who wrestle with the complexities, pain, and joys familiar to us all.

Finally, we’ll come to recognize the face of love, the kind that deepens and endures but only because one woman makes a tremendous leap of faith. That leap changes them all.

You can connect with Dorothea Benton Frank on her website, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Her book is available to buy from Amazon, HarperCollins, and Barnes & Noble.

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I received this book for free from TLC Book Tours in exchange for an honest review. All words and opinions, unless otherwise stated, are my own.

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