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Categories: Goals

My 2019 Goals

Happy 2019, my friends! I can hardly believe it’s finally here, and we’re at the start of a brand-new year. I rang in the year at a low-key house party with some friends, and it was honestly the perfect way to begin 2019. I am looking forward to what this year has in store for me.

Every year, I like to set some goals for the upcoming year. I made 30 this year, some of which are one-off tasks I need to complete and some of which are more resolution-y intentions, but I’m excited to check these off over the coming year!

1) Read 100 books. I thought about bumping this goal from 100 to 125 but decided to keep it at a manageable (to me) 100.

2) Read four classic novels. This will be my third year tackling this goal! This year, I’m planning on reading The Grapes of Wrath, The Color Purple, Rebecca, and Invisible Man.

3) Reread the Anne of Green Gables series. I read this series in high school and absolutely loved it, and I think it’s definitely time to revisit the series now that I’m in my thirties.

4) Dye my hair purple. Because why not? I think this would be a fun little change!

5) Save $1,000 in an emergency fund. There is no excuse for this not happening this year. It must.

6) Get something up on the walls of my living room. I’ve lived here for 2.5 years and I still barely have anything up on the walls. I’d love to find some great art for the space above my TV and my couch.

7) Take control over my dermotophagia. I’ve struggled with dermotophagia for years, and it’s only been in the last year that I finally saw it for what it is: a disorder. I will pick at the skin around my fingernails until they bleed or the skin feels raw. It’s something I do without thinking about it, just this compulsion, but I really want to work to get it under control.

8) Redo my bathroom. My bathroom could use a bit of a revamp – just a new shower curtain, new rugs, new towels, etc. Nothing major! A fun goal for 2019.

9) Visit the Grand Canyon. I’m planning a trip with my mom to visit the Grand Canyon in either April or May. I’m having such a fun time planning it! I’m just trying to decide if we want to fly into Vegas and drive to the canyon after a few days there, or fly into Phoenix and spend a couple days in Sedona before going to the canyon.

10) Visit Washington DC. Honestly, a flight to DC from Tampa is so cheap that there’s no reason why I can’t make a trip to DC work in 2019.

11) Build a necklace collection. Currently, I have three necklaces and all were acquired in the last two months. I really love the way a necklace can tie a whole look together, and want to build a collection of 10ish necklaces.

12) Pay an extra $500 towards my student loans. Now that I no longer have a car payment, I really should be throwing a little bit more money towards my student loans. I’d feel really good if I could knock out an extra $500 this year!

13) Go to a movie alone. I’ve never done it and I think making it a goal for 2019 is a good way to make it happen!

14) Work out 150 times. My friend Katie turned me on to this idea. Instead of giving myself a goal of working out X times a week, I’m giving myself a goal of working out X times the entire year. 150 times equals to 3 times a week, giving myself a two-week cushion. Once my gym is up and running, I could see myself going 4-5 times a week but I can also see myself falling off the wagon completely here and there. This way, I don’t have to beat myself up if I have a week here or there where I can’t find the motivation to work out – I know I can make it up another week.

15) Lose 40 lbs. I put on a lot of weight this year, which is a problem when I was already overweight to begin with. It’s time to get my weight at a manageable number. 2019 is my year to do that.

16) Give Eloise a sibling. I want to give Eloise a little more time to settle into her new home before adopting another cat, but I definitely plan on expanding our little family in 2019.

17) Start saving for a new apartment. I am outgrowing my current apartment, which is tiny at just 575 square feet. There’s just not enough space for me, even though I’m as minimalist as they come. I’m not sure if I’ll be moving in 2019 (depends on if they hike up my rent, but they’ve never done that here), but I definitely want to consider it for 2020 and that means forking over a lot of money in moving costs. Le sigh. If I could have maybe $250 set aside, that would make me feel really good about making a move happen in 2020.

18) Do a spending freeze once a quarter. As you may have noticed, I have quite a few money goals for 2019 (paying extra toward my student loans, saving $1,000, saving for a move, etc.) along with plans for traveling and buying some new items, which means I must do a spending freeze as often as possible. Once a quarter seems doable!

19) Develop a daily water drinking habit. Y’all. I am in my thirties and still haven’t gotten my shit together about drinking water every day. Yikes. I’m not asking myself to drink 100 ounces a day… even just one full water bottle every day is all I’m asking of myself.

20) Buy two bigger bookshelves. My tiny three-shelf bookshelves suited my needs just fine, but I’m quickly outgrowing them. I’ve always wanted bookshelves filled with books in my home because I love that aesthetic so much, and I’m eyeing these white Hemnes bookshelves from IKEA.

21) Complete Project 365. Yep! I’m doing this photo challenge again. Long-time readers will remember I took on this challenge in 2014, and I think I’m ready to do it once again.

22) Develop a skincare routine. I have all of the supplies I need to have a skincare routine… just not the motivation to do it, ha. A goal for 2019!

23) Start a vitamin regimen. I take zero vitamins, even when I know I need a daily iron supplement and a multivitamin. I think 31 is a good age to start taking daily vitamins.

24) Replace all of my underwear. It needs to happen. I’ve had some of my underwear for so many years, I’m embarrassed to say.

25) Write my novel. While this goal seems to have just slipped into this list half-heartedly, make no mistake. This is my #1 goal for 2019. I want to have a finished manuscript by the end of the year.

26) Try 10 new foods. I’m probably one of the pickiest eaters you’ll ever meet, and there are so many foods I haven’t tried because I’m convinced I won’t like them. Case in point: I finally tried black olives this year and discovered I love them! What other foods am I missing out on? I aim to find out this year!

27) Track my money on Mint. I’m finally going to do it. I’m finally going to sign up for Mint.com so that I can accurately track where my money is going and set budgets. I also want to have a monthly check-in with myself to look at where my money went over the month and set money goals for the upcoming month. 2019 is the year I get serious about my finances.

28) Get all of my skin tags removed. I would estimate I have around 10 skin tags that drive me crazy. I have tried natural methods for removing them, but they haven’t worked for me, so I’m thinking of going to the dermatologist to get them removed.

29) Sign up for a paid dating service, and commit fully to the dating process for six months. I think I’m finally going to take the plunge this year and sign up for a paid dating service. Match.com seems to be my best bet because the six-month subscription is a little cheaper than eHarmony (but please, if anyone feels strongly that eHarmony is the much better option over Match, let me know!) I’m excited about this goal, though!

30) Find a new therapist. I really like my therapist and she’s helped me get a lot more comfortable with therapy as a whole, but she’s not “the one” for me. She’s a great therapist, but I don’t feel like I’ve made any progress in the four months I’ve been seeing her and I think it’s time to move on and try someone else.

What’s one goal you have for 2019?

Categories: Best Of, Goals

Best of 2018 | Recapping My Yearly Goals

Merry Christmas Eve, my friends! I have a fairly full day planned, starting with picking up all of the food we need for our Christmas Day celebration and ending with dinner at a fancy steakhouse with my mom and stepdad. (I’m also definitely finding time for a nap in between it all!) I hope you and yours have a blessed Christmas!

I wanted to kick off my slew of “Best of 2018” posts today by recapping the goals I set a year ago. I love to set yearly goals because it’s fun to have something to strive for throughout the year, even if I never accomplish most of them. There are some goals on here that I really wish I could have completed, but this year was a tough one for me and I’m just happy I emerged from it with my sanity (mostly) intact.

In any event, here’s how I did on my 2018 goals:

1) Lose 30 lbs.

Not complete. I may have even gained 30 lbs from the beginning of the year. It was a hard year and emotional eating is my coping mechanism, so weight loss was not at the forefront of my mind. It is what it is. I don’t feel good about it, but I’ve also decided not to worry about it.

2) Complete the Whole30.

Not complete. I’m not quite sure what I was thinking when I made this goal – maybe I wanted to be the kind of person who can commit to an eating challenge like this – but restrictive eating plans are not for me. Many people rave about the Whole30 and I’m so glad it works for them, but it’s just not for me. And that’s okay!

3) Cut out soda completely.

Not complete. Ahahaha. No. I love Dr. Pepper way too much to give it up completely. I definitely need to drink less of it, but I’m not concerned with completely giving it up anymore.

4) Buy a new couch.

Complete! It arrived in early November and is everything I could have hoped for.

5) Complete a yearly shopping ban where I don’t buy any new clothes.

Not complete. Oy vey. I forgot about this goal. I followed the shopping ban for the first quarter of the year, but then completely fell apart during the second quarter, and quickly realized that strict shopping bans like this aren’t good for me. I’m more of a moderator than an abstainer, you could say. All-or-nothing challenges just do not suit me!

6) Stop using plastic bags at the grocery store, Target, etc.

Complete-ish? I have cut way down on the amount of plastic bags I’m using, but I haven’t completely cut out using plastic bags.

7) Read 100 books, including four classics.

Complete! I may end up with 135 books read this year when all is said and done, which is the most books I’ve read ever. Woop! I also read four classics: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (★★★★★), 1984 (★★★☆☆), Persuasion (★☆☆☆☆), and The Catcher in the Rye (★★☆☆☆).

8) Give up all dating apps for the entire year.

Complete-ish. I will be honest here and say I added the apps back to my phone over the summer and chatted with a few people here and there, but none of those conversations led to any dates. And, really, I only used the apps for 1-2 months out of the whole year, so I’m considering this goal complete.

9) Try something new once a month.

Not complete. I’m sure I did some new things throughout the year, ha, but I didn’t keep track of them. I’m not confident I did twelve new things throughout all of 2018, so I can’t in good faith consider this goal complete.

10) Start therapy.

Complete! I am in therapy now and it’s going well.

11) Finish my novel.

Not complete. This is my number-one goal for 2019.

12) Figure out what my Enneagram type is.

Complete! I am a Nine with a One wing, and even wrote a blog post about what all of that means. I highly recommend reading the book The Road Back to You to type yourself because it has really been eye-opening in discovering myself.

13) Travel to one new state.

Not complete. My only big vacation this year was a seven-day cruise where I visited two new countries (Belize and Honduras).

14) Exercise at least three times a week.

Complete… up until October. The last quarter of the year, I completely fell off any sort of healthy living lifestyle. First, I was spending every evening and many hours on the weekend visiting Pops while he was in the hospital, and then, grieving his unexpected death. Healthy living just hasn’t been at the forefront of my mind these past few months.

15) Create a wedding album for my mom and stepdad.

Complete! I did this over the summer and they were so pleased and happy with the results.

So, out of the fifteen goals I set, I completed (or nearly completed) 6.5 of them. That’s not a great percentage, ha, but it’s better than zero, right? But even so, I don’t consider my yearly goals to be a failure. I have way too much fun setting my yearly goals and trying to achieve them that I can’t be mad at myself for not accomplishing everything on the list. And yes, I am most definitely planning on setting goals for 2019, and I’ll be unveiling them sometime next week!

Do you set yearly goals?

Categories: Goals

Yearly Goals: Quarter 3 Update

So, I really didn’t feel like doing my quarterly review of my yearly goals because I am definitely not accomplishing most of the goals I put on my list. Looking at it now, I realize how differently I looked at my life nine-and-a-half months ago. For example, I put three goals on this list specifically tied to losing weight. And now, it’s October, and I’m nowhere near the weight I thought I wanted to be at this time of the year. But I’m oddly at peace with my weight right now. I feel good, great even. But that’s a post for another time, and believe me, I plan on writing about it soon.

Anyway, even though I’m a little embarrassed to share this list, I stand by the process of setting and regularly evaluating yearly goals, so here we go:

1) Lose 30 lbs. Not complete. See above. 😉

2) Complete the Whole30. Not complete. It’s not going to happen this year, and I don’t feel bad about it. I don’t even know why I made this a goal because I’ve never been particularly interested in Whole30. Alas, it’s not a goal I’ll be marking complete now or in the near future. (But never say never, I guess.)

3) Cut out soda completely. Not complete. What can I say? I love soda and I don’t feel like cutting it out of my life completely. I am trying to cut down on the amount I drink, though.

4) Buy a new couch. Complete. Hooray! It arrives on November 1st and I cannot wait.

5) Complete a yearly shopping ban where I don’t buy any new clothes. Not complete. Well, I did pretty well for the first half of the year and fell apart in quarter three. I should have known – I’m more of a moderator than an abstainer, so a better goal would have been to give myself a certain dollar number to stay under.

6) Stop using plastic bags at the grocery store, Target, etc. Complete-ish. I’m probably doing this 50% of the time, so I could definitely do better.

7) Read 100 books, including four classics. Mostly complete. I’ve read 100 books and three classics. I’ll be reading my last classic during quarter four (most likely – The Catcher in the Rye).

8) Give up all dating apps for the entire year. Not complete. Oops, I added the dating apps back on my phone over the summer, and I definitely should have kept them off. Maybe I’ll commit to spending the last quarter of the year without dating apps?

9) Try something new once a month. Not complete. This was such a vague goal, so it’s no wonder I haven’t really completed it. Although, honestly, I’m sure if I were to look back on my year, I could pick out something new I did every month, even if it was something small like trying a different restaurant.

10) Start therapy. Complete. Yes, yes, yes!

11) Finish my novel. Not complete. Well, I’m going to attempt NaNoWriMo in November, so maybe I can mark this complete by the end of the year! Who knows?!

12) Figure out what my Enneagram type is. Not complete. I finally bought a book to learn all about the different types to figure out what mine is, so this is something I will complete by the end of the year.

13) Travel to one new state. Not complete. Doubtful that I will get to mark this one complete, but hey, maybe I’ll find a cheap flight somewhere and can take a weekend trip by the end of the year.

14) Exercise at least three times a week. In progress. Right now, my exercise of choice is walking and I’m definitely getting in some movement at least three times a week, but usually more than that.

15) Create a wedding album for my mom and stepdad. Complete. Finished this project over the summer and I was so happy to deliver the final product to my mom and stepdad. They loved it!

Did you set yearly goals?

Categories: Goals

6 Small Goals for October

It’s a shiny new month, which means it’s time for shiny new goals. But first, let’s take a look back at my September goals to see how well (or not well) I did:

1) No more shopping. Oh, boy, I had such a hard time with this goal and I ended up failing the last week of September. I bought a few unnecessary items at Target like a t-shirt and shower curtain, and then I caved and bought something that was sitting in my Amazon cart for weeks (a Bluetooth shower speaker so I can listen to podcasts while I shower because my obsession knows zero bounds). So, all in all, I was not successful with this goal.

2) Walk 10,000 steps every day. I did this most days, and I made the conscious decision not to on certain days. Sometimes, it was due to mental health struggles and knowing I needed rest more than I needed steps. Other times, it was just my body letting me know that I needed to take a break and let my body heal. (More about that in a minute.) I love this goal, though, and my plan going forward is to walk 10k five times a week.

3) Eat three home-cooked meals a week. Nope. I made my first recipe in months this week, so I did not accomplish this goal at all in September. It’s just so much easier to get takeout!

4) Schedule a facial. Complete! Unfortunately, I couldn’t get in until the first week of November. (Mostly due to my schedule because there were definitely times available before then.) Oh, well. It will be a nice treat to begin my birthday month with, right?

5) Sell my sectional. Complete! It took over three weeks, but it’s sold and out of my apartment. I just love being able to open my blinds and walk out to my patio without having to climb over my couch to do so.

6) Cultivate a better nighttime routine. I wrote about it, does that count? Ah, well. Why do the hours in the evening go by so fast? As I’m writing this post, it’s nearing 9 pm and I don’t feel like I’ve done anything more than make dinner, watch an episode of The Office, and take a bubble bath. How did that take three whole hours? Sigh.

Three complete(ish) out of six. Not my best, not my worst. I’m holding out hope that October will be a much more successful month, and I’ve got some interesting plans in store:

1) Figure out what’s causing all my back and foot pain. I’ve been having sacrum pain for weeks and weeks now (originally thought a massage would help, but it didn’t), so I finally scheduled an appointment with a chiropractor to get it looked at. I’m also going to talk to the chiropractor about the foot pain I’ve been having for the past few weeks. Walking has started to become really uncomfortable (not so much when I’m wearing my supportive running shoes, but definitely when I’m barefoot or wearing sandals or flats), and my joints crack like crazy whenever I stand up and walk a few steps. I may need to see a podiatrist for this, but I’ll start with a chiropractor and go from there. Oy vey, getting old is so much fun!

2) Prepare my home for kittens. I’m not sure if I’ll be adopting kittens in October (it’s a really busy month for me and I won’t have a ton of time to check out animal shelters), but I do have just about everything I need. I placed a huge order on Chewy.com over the weekend and now I just need to put some of the items together so my house is kitten-ready for whenever the time comes.

3) Get ready for NaNoWriMo. Yep – I’m attempting this challenge again this year! I have been working on my plot outline for a while now and I want to put the finishing touches on it this month, so I’m totally ready to start writing on November 1st.

4) Buy some new bras. So, confession: I’ve been buying my bras at Target for a long time now. I just cannot fathom spending more than $30 on a bra, even though it’s something I wear daily and is a pretty important part of my wardrobe. Unfortunately, the wire in one of my bras snapped recently so I’m down to just one bra and I think I’m ready to invest in a good bra. No more Target bras! I was thinking about trying out Thirdlove since it’s raved about on every podcast I listen to, but if anyone has a recommendation for a different brand to try, I’m all ears.

5) Journal every night. I decided to do this after I had my second therapy appointment where I forgot just about everything I wanted to talk about (a fun side effect of social anxiety). Thankfully, we found plenty to talk about but I’d like to have a place to figure out what sorts of things I’d like to talk about in therapy. I’ve already started this process, and I’m just reflecting on my day using a series of prompts (what made me proud today? what was I grateful for? what was hard about today?). We’ll see how it helps, but I’m enjoying it so far!

6) Do something politically engaging. How’s that for a vague goal? I don’t know what I want to do yet – maybe phone banking – but I do know that I can do something rather than complaining about everything that’s happening and feeling helpless.

What’s something you’d like to accomplish this month?

Categories: Goals

Six Simple Goals for September

Well, well, well. I am supremely happy with the way my August goals shook out. I accomplished all but one of them, but the one I didn’t complete was nixed for another goal, so really, I’m considering this month as a 100% success. BOOYAH. After many months of lackluster goals updates, I am really happy with the way I attacked life in August and I’m hoping that September will be just as successful.

Here’s how I did:

1) Go to the gym every Wednesday morning. Not complete. I did this once, but then decided it was time to cancel my gym membership because I just wasn’t getting the usage out of it that I wanted. (Mostly because they kept canceling spin classes, ugh.) Instead, in mid-August, I made a goal of walking 10,000 steps daily and I’ve been super successful at that.

2) Schedule a therapy appointment. GUESS WHAT I FINALLY DID THIS. I decided to work my way down the list of providers on my health insurance website and call two therapists a day until I found one that would call me back. Thankfully, it only took two calls to find a therapist and I’m going to my first appointment on Friday. I really, really hope she’s “the one.”

3) Buy an area rug. Complete! I bought this one from Target and it’s perfect!

4) Spend at least 30 minutes outside every weekend. Complete! I spent some time by my pool and also got outside for long walks, thanks to my goal of walking 10,000 steps every day.

5) Buy a book about the Enneagram. Complete! I bought The Road Back to You.

6) Cut my credit card balance in half. Complete! Actually, I did better than that and cut my credit card balance by 75%! I am pretty certain that I’ll be able to have it completely paid off sometime this month and that feels fantastic.

Here’s what I want to accomplish in September:

1) No more shopping. Hoo boy, I let myself go a little crazy with shopping in August. There were plenty of Amazon orders placed, an online order at Old Navy, and a few too many Target shopping trips. I want to settle down my shopping habit in September, and by that I mean, completely freeze any unnecessary spending for the rest of the month.

2) Walk 10,000 steps every day. This is a goal I have been consistently working towards since mid-August, and I think it’s a good one to put on my goals list for September. Since I typically have to do an hour-long walk every day to hit this goal, it’s a great way for me to get moving.

3) Eat three home-cooked meals a week. I’ve been spending a little too much money eating out lately (story of my goddamn life) as well as eating too many frozen meals. I’d like to challenge myself to eat three home-cooked meals a week in an effort to ease up on my spending and not-so-healthy meals. (And by three home-cooked meals, I really mean making one meal and eating leftovers for two days because I’m not crazy.)

4) Schedule a facial. I bought a Groupon for a facial last month and I’d like to cash it in this month. I’ve never had a facial before, but my skin is a constant source of annoyance for me. Hopefully, a facial can help!

5) Sell my sectional. It’s time to finally sell my sectional! I already have it listed on Craigslist but haven’t gotten any interested buyers as of yet. I may have to lower my asking price, womp womp.

6) Cultivate a better nighttime routine. Lately, I haven’t been great at my nighttime routine, something I used to be a boss at. I feel like I’m constantly running around and not settling into my night in a peaceful way. For me, a better nighttime routine involves shutting off all screens by 7:30, tidying up my apartment, taking a bubble bath, and doing a full skincare routine before getting into bed to read. Ideally, lights out by 9:00 every night.

What’s something you’d like to accomplish in September?

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