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Categories: Goals

Yearly Goals: Quarter 1 Update

Happy Friday, friends! It’s been a doozy of a week for me… the kind of week where I realize how much I cannot hang with a busy life. I like my weeknights free and my weekends fairly plan-less, but that’s not the case for me this week. I’m just thankful that this is not the norm for me – doing it every now and then is okay, but I am not cut out for doing it long-term. Kudos to everyone who enjoys a busy life – it’s not for me.

Since we just entered the second quarter of the year on Sunday, I figured it was time to write an update on how I’m progressing with my yearly goals. I’m actually pretty happy with my progress and I think it’s due to the fact that I consistently make smaller goals to attack the larger ones I’ve set.

Let’s take a look:

  •  Lose 30 lbs

In progress. I’ve lost 8 lbs so far this year and I’m really happy with that progress, especially since I only started getting serious about eating better and exercising more near the end of February. I’m feeling good about this goal and that I’ll finally end the year weighing less than when I started it.

  • Complete the Whole30

No progress made. I’m kinda wondering if I even want to do this goal anymore, but I also think it would be a good experiment to figure out what my food sensitivities are. I’m thinking of doing this in August or September, though.

  • Cut out soda completely

In progress. I haven’t cut it out completely, but I have seriously cut down on how much soda I drink. When I made this goal, I was having at least one can of Dr. Pepper a day, but a few days a week, I was having more than that. Now I’m only drinking it 2-3 times a week and when I do drink it, it gives me an upset stomach. Hopefully, with my next update, I’ll be able to say I’ve cut it out completely.

  • Buy a new couch

No progress made. I’m hoping to do this sometime in May or June. I need to sell my sectional (I love it, but it’s just way too big for my small apartment) and then I’m going to use the money made from that sale to put toward a new couch. I went to a furniture store earlier in the year to get a feel for what I could expect to pay for a new couch, and I’m just so excited to make this happen and open up my living room more.

  • Complete a yearly shopping ban where I don’t buy any new clothes

Well, I can say that I won’t be able to mark this complete, as I bought a pair of black skinny jeans to wear to work since my current ones were getting too tight. But that’s actually the only piece of clothing I’ve bought so far this year, and I’ve also donated three other pieces of clothing. So, I may not be perfect with this one, but I’m still going to do my best to not buy too many new clothes (I think it might be better for me to adopt the “one in and one out” rule rather than a complete ban).

  • Stop using plastic bags at the grocery store, Target, etc.

In progress. I’m not doing great with this goal, although I’m trying. I could do better and I really want to track how many times I use reusable bags vs plastic bags when shopping this next quarter to get an idea of how many plastic bags I use.

  • Read 100 books, including four classics

In progress. Ah, the easiest goal I ever set for myself. I’m already at 39 books (remember, I read a lot of romance. This is not 39 dense, heavy reads). I also read my first classic for the year (A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith) and in quarter two, I think I’m going to tackle 1984 by George Orwell.

  • Give up all dating apps and websites for the entire year

In progress. Yep! I’ve successfully spent the first quarter of 2018 without succumbing to the desire to re-download Tinder to my phone. After Dutch died, I was super lonely and suddenly had more free time than I knew what to do with, so I contemplated adding dating apps back to my phone but I knew I wasn’t in the right state of mind. And I’m still not. There are definitely some mental roadblocks that I need to work out in therapy because I feel like I’m not really in a healthy place for dating.

  • Try something new once a month (i.e., kayaking, stand-up paddleboarding, yoga, etc.)

No progress made. I forgot about this goal, but I’m recommitting myself to it in the second quarter of the year.

  • Start therapy

No progress made. In January, I sent some emails to potential therapists, but they either didn’t accept insurance or never responded back. And then Dutch died and my world collapsed and I just couldn’t deal with finding a therapist. But I know I need therapy more than ever, so I’m really hoping that I can say I did this the next time I update you guys on my yearly goals.

  • Finish my novel

In progress. I’m behind on this goal (only about 6,000 words into my novel), but I’m working toward it every week and that’s all that matters.

  • Figure out what my Enneagram type is

No progress made. I need to buy a book and get cracking on this one!

  • Travel to one new state

No progress made. This is a goal I’ll most likely complete in quarter three of 2018.

  • Exercise at least three times a week, every week in 2018

In progress. I haven’t exercised three times a week every week, but I have done it most weeks. Progress, not perfection, right?

  • Create a wedding album for my mom and stepdad

No progress made. This really shouldn’t be such a hard goal to complete, but it feels so massive that even crossing off a small step is overwhelming to me. Ahh!

Out of the 15 goals I set, I’m consciously making progress on 9 of them and I’m really happy about that! I never set yearly goals with the intention of crossing each and everyone off, but just working toward something is what matters most.

Here’s what I want to focus on in quarter two:

  • Continue eating well and exercising so I can continue losing weight
  • Sell my sectional and buy a new couch
  • Keep track of how many plastic bags I use vs how many times I use reusable bags
  • Try three new things, one a month
  • Find a therapist
  • Consistently work on my novel every week, even if I only write 1,000 words – progress is progress
  • Buy a book on the Enneagram and read it cover to cover
  • Work on my mom and stepdad’s wedding album by sorting through the pictures I have and choosing the website I want to use for the photo book

Whew! That feels like a lot, but it encompasses three months and I’ll be using this as a guide as I plan out my monthly goals. I think it should set me up for a successful Q2.

How are you doing on your yearly goals?

Categories: Goals

Monthly Goals | April 2018

I published my February monthly goals just a few days before Dutch passed, so obviously, all of the goals I set fell to the back burner. February (and some of March, if I’m being honest) was about survival for me and just getting through each day. In March, I started feeling as if I could tackle some of the goals I set and I started working toward them, but not pushing myself too hard.

And now it’s April (well, almost!) and I’m feeling good. I still miss Dutch desperately, but the rawness of losing him has dissipated somewhat and I feel ready for what lies ahead of me. So here we go with goal-setting once again, and it feels really good to get back to it.

Let’s start off by recapping how I did with my February/March goals:

Biting Off My Yearly Goals

> Track food on MyFitnessPal. Complete. I’m not using MFP to track my food, but an entirely different system that is working much better for my needs and has led to great results so far. I’m working on a post about it, so stay tuned!

> No soda at work, no soda on Mondays. Complete. Oh, hell yeah. The solution to my soda addiction? LaCroix. It took me a while to get used to the taste because no, it’s not the same as soda (gotta love that HFCS). But once I got used to the taste, there was no turning back. By adding sparkling water to my diet, I’m down to just 1-2 sodas a week.

> Buy a book about the Enneagram. Not complete. Oops. Forgot about this one.

> Make a file on my computer compiling all of my mom’s engagement and wedding photos. Not complete. Geez. Why am I so resistant to this goal? I just need to download the damn photos!

> Write 500 words every day. Not complete. Lolololololol. Even committing to writing 500 words daily is just too much for me right now.

Nagging Tasks

> Schedule a carpet cleaning. Not complete. I wish I could schedule this online because damn, I hate calling companies to request quotes. But it really needs to get done because my carpet needs a serious deep clean.

> Frame the painting I bought in Puerto Rico and hang it up. Complete. Fiiiiiiinally! I did it! It’s hanging up in my bedroom and it’s perfect.

> Organize my kitchen. Complete. I did this after Dutch died because I needed to get rid of his treats, food, medication, etc. and it prompted a complete kitchen reorganization. So, I’m glad I did this, but wish it wasn’t for such a heartbreaking reason.

> Find a place to recycle. Complete. My mom’s apartment complex has this nifty little recycling center, so I’m using it as my recycling center. Ha. It’s the perfect setup for me. Now, if only my apartment complex could figure this out but, alas, they don’t even have an online system for rent payments and maintenance requests, so I think I’m expecting too much here.

> Clean my oven. Not complete. Oops. Forgot about this one.

So, I accomplished 5 of the 10 goals I set and honestly, I’m happy with that. These past two months have been a doozy for me to say the least, so even attempting these goals is a step in the right direction. Plus, two of those goals were massive accomplishments (tracking my food and cutting out soda), so gold stars for me.

Here’s what I’d like to accomplish in April:

Biting Off My Yearly Goals

> Go to a movie alone (goal: try something new once a month)

> Make an appointment with a therapist (goal: start therapy)

> Buy a book about the Enneagram (goal: figure out my Enneagram type)

> Make a file on my computer compiling all of my mom’s engagement and wedding photos (goal: make a wedding album for my mom and stepdad)

> Write 3,000 words a week (goal: finish my novel)

Nagging Tasks

> Schedule a carpet cleaning (back on the list and hoping third time’s a charm)

> Figure out my nighttime routine (because going to bed at 11 p.m. is no bueno for this girl)

> Hang up my mirror (I bought a full-size mirror over a month ago and have yet to hang it up… obviously, I need this accountability)

> Mail my donation to Locks of Love (um, oops, I probably should do this, huh?)

> Clean my oven (back on the list… April’s the month of spring cleaning, right?)

What’s something – big or small – that you’d like to accomplish in April?

Categories: Goals

Monthly Goals | February 2018

Has January felt like it was 74 days long to anyone else? It’s been a weird start to the year. Not in a bad way, just in… a weird way. But I’m excited to mark this month complete because I feel like I checked off some important goals and I’m looking forward to what February will bring.

Here’s how I did on my January goals:

Biting Off My Yearly Goals

> Start tracking my food on MyFitnessPal. Not complete. I attempted to track my food, but I wasn’t consistent with it. I know that tracking what I eat is the key to losing weight (I like to pretend it’s not, but it is), so I just need to get into a routine of tracking no matter what.

> Drink only water and coffee while at work. Complete. This was a great success and it was actually a very easy goal to complete because I gave myself simple, attainable parameters.

> Email two therapists. Complete. The first therapist I emailed doesn’t accept insurance and I’m waiting to hear back from the second one that I emailed earlier this week.

> Write 10,000 words in my novel. Not complete. I only wrote 3,500 words in January, which puts me behind in my goal of finishing my novel this year.

> Make a file on my computer compiling all of my mom’s engagement and wedding photos. Not complete. Oops, just completely forgot about this goal!

Nagging Tasks

> Schedule a carpet cleaning. Not complete. Ugh, I filled out an online form on a carpet cleaning company’s website and they never contacted me back. Argh… I’m going to have to actually call them on the phone and I just keep putting it off.

> Put together my bookshelf. Complete. I’m really happy to have two bookshelves in my room now. It was much needed because I’m using the second one as my “TBR” shelf, of books that I own but haven’t read yet. It’s not too full because I only recently started buying books (after years of only buying e-books if I wasn’t borrowing the book from my library).

> Sell my coffee table. Complete. I listed it on Craigslist on a Saturday and by Sunday morning, I was meeting up with the buyer to hand it off. It was so easy and I’m enjoying the extra space in my living room. I hope that selling my sectional is just as easy!

> Donate my old laptop. Complete. I recently learned that Goodwill now accepts old laptops and I had a drop-off to do there anyway, so it was a quick and painless task.

> Frame the painting I bought in Puerto Rico and hang it up. Not complete. I actually completely forgot I had this as a goal. I need to figure out the frame size I need and just get this done. That painting is too gorgeous to be sitting on a shelf.

So, I accomplished 5 out of the 10 goals I set and I’m ok with that number. It’s only half of the goals, but half is better than nothing, right? Here’s what I want to get done in February:

Biting Off My Yearly Goals

> Track food on MyFitnessPal (goal: lose 30 lbs)

> No soda at work, no soda on Mondays (goal: cut out soda completely)

> Buy a book about the Enneagram (goal: figure out my Enneagram type)

> Make a file on my computer compiling all of my mom’s engagement and wedding photos (goal: make a wedding album for my mom and stepdad)

> Write 500 words every day (goal: finish my novel)

Nagging Tasks

> Schedule a carpet cleaning (back on the list it goes… here’s hoping I will have freshly cleaned carpet by the end of the month)

> Frame the painting I bought in Puerto Rico and hang it up (back on the list… no more procrastinating)

> Organize my kitchen (in December, I went crazy organizing my bathroom and walk-in closet, and February is when my kitchen gets the organization overhaul it desperately needs)

> Find a place to recycle (I don’t recycle and that has got to change)

> Clean my oven (I’ve lived in my apartment for nearly a year and a half… that oven needs to be cleaned)

What’s one goal, big or small, that you’d like to accomplish in February?

Categories: Goals

Monthly Goals | January 2018

So, here we go! It’s January and it’s time to put all of those goals I have into action. My biggest goals for 2018 are to end the year thinner and more financially secure than when I started it, which means I need to put in the work to make that happen. It won’t just magically occur without deliberate action on my part!

Usually for my monthly goals, I name around five goals I’d like to work toward during the month, but I’m changing things up a bit in 2018. Instead, I have two categories for my monthly goals: Biting Off My Yearly Goals and Nagging Tasks. The first category is exactly what it sounds like: I’m taking those big yearly goals and putting specific action steps in place to be able to accomplish them by the end of the year. And the second category is tiny tasks that don’t have anything to do with my yearly goals; they’re just these nagging things I need to get done and I’m much more apt to do them if I have to report back in February. 🙂

Biting Off My Yearly Goals

> Start tracking my food on MyFitnessPal (goal: lose 30 lbs)

> Drink only water and coffee while at work (goal: cut out soda completely)

> Email two therapists (goal: start therapy)

> Write 10,000 words in my novel (goal: finish my novel)

> Make a file on my computer compiling all of my mom’s engagement and wedding photos (goal: make a wedding album for my mom and stepdad)

Nagging Tasks

> Schedule a carpet cleaning (Dutch has destroyed my carpet and it needs a deep cleaning from a professional company)

> Put together my bookshelf (I bought one last weekend!)

> Sell my coffee table (I really want to redo my living room and it starts with getting rid of my coffee table)

> Donate my old laptop (y’all, it’s just been sitting in my apartment collecting dust for a YEAR)

> Frame the photo I bought in Puerto Rico and hang it up (it’s so gorgeous and has just been sitting in its plastic wrap for 8 months)

What’s something you want to accomplish in January?

Categories: Goals

My Goals for 2018

Happy 2018, friends! It’s hard to believe we’re at the beginning of a brand-new year. It felt like 2017 passed in a flash and I’m sure 2018 will feel the same way.

I love the feeling of a new year and the feeling that we have this blank slate where anything is possible. And I love, love, love making a list of what I want to accomplish over the next twelve months. I know yearly goals aren’t everyone’s cup of tea, but they are mine and so I’ve come up with a list of 15 things I’d like to accomplish.

But first, let’s go back and take a look at the goals I set at the beginning of 2017 and see how I did:

  1. Quit fast food and soda. Not complete. I was chugging along with this goal fairly well in the first quarter and then fell apart in the latter half of the year.
  2. Read four “classic” novels. Complete! For this goal, I read The Handmaid’s Tale, A Separate Peace, Jane Eyre, and Their Eyes Were Watching God. My favorite of those was easily The Handmaid’s Tale, which was one of my top 10 reads this year. (And yes, these are not your “typical” classic novels, but my goal, my rules.)
  3. Save $1,000 in an emergency fund. Not complete. Womp.
  4. Start seeing a therapist. Not complete. I let excuse after excuse pile up for why I didn’t start therapy this year, but after some of the things I experienced in 2017 (stuff that remained largely off the blog), I know I need this more than ever.
  5. Write my novel. Not complete. Ugh. I got stuck around 70,000 words into my novel and I just hit a complete wall. Around this time, I also got incredibly busy at work and used my weekly writing dates to work on actual work stuff. Excuses, I know. I’m really great at making excuses if you haven’t guessed.
  6. Get a tattoo. Complete. I went with a friend and finally got the book tattoo I’ve been wanting for years. I’m so pleased with it… and I’m already eyeing my next tattoo.

So, I wasn’t too successful with my yearly goals in 2017 with only two out of the six accomplished. But that’s okay! I love setting yearly goals, but I also understand that they are slightly arbitrary and I don’t need to beat myself up for not accomplishing everything I set out to do. A year is a long time and I don’t set these goals thinking that I need to accomplish all of them. I just enjoy the process of setting goals and working toward them.

So, with that said, here’s what I’d like to accomplish in 2018:

1. Lose 30 lbs

2. Complete the Whole30

3. Cut out soda completely

4. Buy a new couch

5. Complete a yearly shopping ban where I don’t buy any new clothes

6. Stop using plastic bags at the grocery store, Target, etc.

7. Read 100 books, including four classics.

8. Give up all dating apps and websites for the entire year.

9. Try something new once a month (i.e., kayaking, stand-up paddleboarding, yoga, etc.)

10. Start therapy

11. Finish my novel

12. Figure out my Enneagram type

13. Travel to one new state

14. Exercise at least three times a week, every week in 2018

15. Create a wedding album for my mom and stepdad

Cheers to 2018!

Have you set any goals for 2018?

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