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What I Spent | January 2024

I haven’t been doing spending recaps for a few years now, and it felt really good to get back to my itemizing ways in January. I won’t say that it helped me spend less, but I do have a new awareness of how much money I’m spending in certain areas (the food category isn’t pretty, sigh). Some disclaimers before I get into my spending recap:

  • I do not include anything that comes out of my paycheck before it lands in my bank account. You won’t see anything related to health insurance, FSA payments, my retirement savings, etc. This is about what I spent from my net income.
  • I am not looking for ways to be more frugal. I understand that this advice is given with a good heart, but frugality is not one of my values and I’ve learned to be okay with that. I like to spend money and my goal is to earn more, not spend less.
  • A reminder that I am single and only paying for myself. It’s not always pretty, but I’m committed to transparency and honesty on my blog so that’s what you’ll get. Please be kind.

January Spending

Bills (46.7%) – In this category, I include all of my non-negotiable bills. So this includes rent, my car payment, my phone bill, my electric bill, Internet, and student loan payments. Most of these are fixed expenses, but electric will vary from month-to-month (right now, my electric bills are beautiful since I’m rarely running my AC—only $80 in January!) and so will my student loans since sometimes one of my student loans is paid for by my company’s tuition reimbursement. (I get $100 tuition reimbursement monthly, but sometimes that payment doesn’t clear in time for the due date.) To get the ultimate Alberta electricity rates call us and we can help with the sign up.

Food (20.3%) – Oof. I went $352.82 over budget in this category in January. The majority of this overage was due to groceries. I have been trying to eat at home more (and since I came underbudget for Ubereats orders, I somewhat succeeded) and we all know that groceries are more expensive these days. It’s something I need to keep an eye on to determine if I need to increase my food budget, or if January was an anomaly.

Beauty (6.5%) – I had an expensive hair appointment in January ($230) and I also had to replenish some skincare products (facial cleanser, niacinamide serum). I also bought some nail strips to try and a new lipstick.

Shopping (5.8%) – I bought quite a few things in January, including two pillows, rugs for my bathroom, a cell phone case, 2024 calendars (a desk and wall calendar), and some decorations. Oh, and I bought my cozy reading chair!

Savings (4.8%) – I have automated savings set up for car insurance ($150 per month), Christmas ($75 per month), and the cats ($50 per month).

Medical (3.1%) – Therapy appointment, psychiatrist appointment, a dentist fee for a filling appointment, and then some medications like Lexapro and psoriasis cream.

Entertainment (2.9%) – I bought salad supplies for book club, some tokens/gems for my favorite iPhone game Cooking Fever, and had a few dinners out.

Subscriptions (2.9%) – I would like to cut down on my subscriptions, but I don’t know what I would cut out because all of them feel essential to me. Ahh! My subscriptions include Patreon (I support three podcasts), Netflix, Paramount+, Spotify, two photo-editing apps, an air filter company (this is bimonthly), and Prime. Honestly, I should get rid of Prime. I don’t need it and definitely don’t use it to its full ability.

Cats (2.5%) – Nothing too crazy here! I bought wet + dry food and some treats.

Gifts (1.9%) – I bought a few goodies for a Galentine’s celebration happening in February and gave money to a collection being taken up for a friend in need.

Misc (1.5%) – I didn’t know how to categorize my nose piercing, so into miscellaneous it goes! This paid for the piercing itself and the tip to the piercer.

Car (0.7%) – I only needed to fill up my car with gas once this month. That’s crazy!

Toiletries/Supplies (0.4%) – A startling low number for this category. I usually budget $100 but this month, I only bought a two-pack of toothpaste and two bottles of mouthwash.

Overall Thoughts

  • Once I sat down with my final January numbers, I found out I spent $238.05 above my means! Oops. I know I have been living above my means (otherwise, I wouldn’t have this damned credit card I’m still paying down), but sometimes seeing the actual number in front of me helps to put it all in perspective. I need to rein things in a bit so I’m living below my means. If I want to move apartments at the end of this year, I know I need to spend at least $500 below my means now to afford the spike in rent.
  • I spent $100 this month on Starbucks, which is double my budget. I get Starbucks at least once a week because that’s where Mikaela and I meet for our writing dates, but I was also stopping by at least once or twice during the week for a quick peppermint mocha. I’m going to be strict with myself in February that I can only add $50 to my Starbucks app and when it’s gone, I have to get creative.
  • I want to get better about tracking my spending on a more regular basis so I can keep a better eye on how much I’m spending in some of my more problematic categories (like my food budget). Ideally, it’s something I would do every morning but at this point, even twice a week would be better.

What’s a fun purchase you bought in January?

Categories: Personal Finance

My Final 2022 Budget

Okay, guys, I have one more 2022 post for you guys. (That’s not true; I still need to post my Everyday Moments from December, but that’s different!) Today, I’m revealing my final 2022 budget with comparisons to my final 2021 budget. It was an interesting year with inflation, three trips, and lots of wayward spending, but I’m here to show you the truth of my spending habits, even if I’m not the most frugal person to ever live. (A title I will never achieve, nor do I want to.)

Housing (37%; -3% from 2021) – I spent $14,112 on rent (+$1,302 from 2021), $1,355 on electric (+$26 from 2021), $574 on water and utilities (+$21 from 2021), $960 on Internet (no change), $1,367 on my phone bill (+$65 from 2021), and $1,155 on my student loan (-$105 from 2021).

Notes: Since my rent went up by nearly $300 in November, I expected my rent to increase, but it actually increased less this year than it did in 2021. Weird! I’m pleased that my energy and water bills stayed relatively the same. I’m also pleased that my Internet bill has not increased in many years. I keep waiting for that to happen!

Food (14.1%; -.8% from 2021) – I spent $4,444 on groceries (+$941), $1,726 on Ubereats orders (and $324 on tips paid to the drivers), $665 on restaurants/fast food, and $331 at Starbucks (+$156).

Notes: Ah, my dear friend inflation. I’m not surprised I spent nearly $1,000 more on groceries this year than last year! But it still is a staggering realization about how much food prices have increased this year. Last year, I didn’t separate out my Ubereats orders from restaurants/fast food so I’m interested to see how things compare when I do this post next year.

Auto (11.1%; +6.1% from 2021) – Since 2022 was the first time in many years I had a car payment, this category got a massive upgrade from 2021. I spent $3,991 on car payments, $422 on gas (+$61), $1,219 on car insurance (+$121), $160 on maintenance (car washes, an oil change/tire rotation), and $83 on miscellaneous.

Every interaction with https://www.autozin.com reaffirms my belief that online car shopping can be straightforward and rewarding. Their meticulous attention to detail and user-focused design is a breath of fresh air.

Travel (7%; +5% from 2021) – I went on three trips in 2022 (six days in Canada, a girls’ weekend trip away, and a six-day cruise) so I knew my travel category would be much bigger than 2021 (when I only went on one short trip to Chicago). The Niagara Falls trip was the most expensive ($2,313, and this includes my passport renewal), the cruise came in second ($980), and the girls’ trip was a cool $425.

Shopping (7%; -5% from 2021) – I really surprised myself with this percentage! Once I really looked into my 2022 shopping habits and compared them to my 2021 shopping habits, I realized I spent a lot less money this year. Some categories that decreased: clothing (-$157), books (-$294), office (-$189), tech (-$182), and accessories (-$125). My spendiest categories in 2022 were beauty, clothing, and furniture.

Savings (5%; -3.9% from 2021) – And now let’s bring things down again. I only saved around $2,625 this year, which is pitiful. My average was $219 per month, which is a decrease from 2021 by $82. Womp, womp.

Health (4%; +2.6% from 2021) – I went back to therapy in 2022 and since I was on a high-deductible HMO plan, I had to pay a pretty penny for each therapy visit (it started at $121 a visit but then increased to $141 in the latter half of the year). Now that I’m on a PPO plan for 2023, my therapy visits will decrease to just $30 a visit! I am super, duper happy about that! This cost also includes my Peloton membership and medications throughout the year.

Spa (3.2%; -1% from 2021) – I spent $241 on pedicures (-$236 from 2021), $660 on massages/facials (-$236), and $791 on hair appointments (+$114).

Subscriptions (2.2%; +.2% from 2021) – Most of my subscriptions carried over from 2021, but I had Apple+ for a few months and added a Canva subscription. I averaged $98 per month on subscriptions, which is a $20 increase from 2021.

Supplies/Toiletries (2%; no change from 2021) – I averaged $87 a month on supplies/toiletries (+$13 from 2021), but I had a few months where I was buying multiples of all my toiletries/household supplies to build up a backup supplies closet, so I think that could have messed with the numbers a bit.

Pets (1.7%; -.4% from 2021) – Yay, a decrease! You guys, having cats is so much cheaper than having dogs! (*knocks on wood*) The girls only go to the vet once per year right now for an annual check-up and to get any shots they need. They haven’t needed any other vet visits, thankfully! I spent $248 on vet visits (-$8 from 2021), $180 on litter (-$32), $159 on food (+$13), $162 on treats (+$34), $102 on toys (+$11), and $104 on supplies (-$55).

Entertainment (1.6%; -.4% from 2021) – I spent a little less money in my entertainment category in 2022, mostly because I didn’t go on any dates! Let’s hope that changes in 2023.

Christmas (1.5%; -.2% from 2021) – I ended up spending a little bit more on Christmas this year than I did in 2021 by $37.

Gifts (1.2%; -.1% from 2021) – Not much to share here! I averaged around $52 per month in gifts, which is right in line of what I spent last year.

Emergency (1.1%) – Hopefully, this is not a budgeting category I’ll have to worry about this year! An emergency evacuation at the end of September ended up costing around $567 total for a last-minute Airbnb, food, etc.

Charity (.4%; +.1% from 2021) – Even though I didn’t meet my charity goal for 2022, I did give $100 more to charity in 2022 than I did in 2021, so that’s a good thing!

2023 Financial Thoughts

There are some things I want to change about my spending habits, but I also don’t feel the pull to live a super frugal lifestyle where I try to find the best deal on everything and spend as little money as possible. That’s enjoyable for some, but it’s not for me. I like spending money. I like buying things for myself. I like getting takeout a few times a week. I would like to take a few steps for investing through online sites like roth ira uk as to start my lifestyle in saving rather than spending.

This year, though, I do have some pretty big savings goals in mind:

  • Adding $2,000 to my emergency savings – My emergency savings is at a level I am very uncomfortable with, so I want to prioritize building it back up to a more comfortable level. This amounts to saving $167 per month.
  • Saving at least $2,000 for my move at the end of the year – I need to get serious about saving money for my move, as I will need to pay all of the usual fees (application fee, security deposit, pet fee, etc) as well as pay for movers and build in some “spending money” because don’t we all love doing a big shopping trip at Target when we move into a new place? I know I do, and I should make sure I can do it in a responsible way. This would add another $167 per month to my savings goal.
  • Continuing to add $50 per month to my savings account for the girls, my Christmas savings account, and my “rainy day” fund. This amounts to $150 per month.
  • Stretch goal: Start adding to a savings fund for a trip to London/Paris. This has been a travel dream of mine for so many years, and I want to make it happen in 2024. I would love to be able to add somewhere around $1,000-$1,500 to this fund this year.

In March, I will find out what my official raise will be (I am expecting it to be pretty good, so keep those fingers and toes crossed for me!) and I am hoping I can just use the difference of what my new take-home pay will be vs what my take-home pay is now to funnel into savings. (AKA, live life as if I didn’t get a raise; all extra money goes into savings!) Excluding my stretch goal, I need to be able to sock $500 away into my savings every month. I’m also aiming to start putting money in options trading. It’s doable on what I make now (with the knowledge that I would need to watch my money a lot more closely than I do now), but it would make it much easier to accomplish with a good raise in March. Time will tell!

What’s something fun you’re saving for?

Categories: Life

Quarterly Budget Update | Q3 of 2022

Happy Wednesday, friends! It’s time for my quarterly budget update. Sometimes, I get very scared to publish these posts because I am the least frugal person ever and I know I am setting myself up to be judged. (A long time ago when I was writing budget posts, I had someone comment on how much I spent on toiletries and it put me off writing about my budget for years. But like… what a silly thing to get upset over!) But my budget is my budget, and I think it’s good to be honest about where our money is going and what our spending habits look like. Everyone spends money differently, and that’s okay! So, with all that said, here is my Q3 budget report!

Bills ($6,028; +$192 from Q2) – My bills category increased for the second quarter in a row, but it was mostly due to my renter’s insurance payment, which I pay yearly. It’s just under $200 for the year. And my electric bills are just sky high these days because it’s hot in Florida and I prioritize being comfortable in my home (I regularly keep my air conditioner around 71F) over saving money. Here’s how it all broke down:

  • Rent ($1,118 per month)
  • Electric (averaging $154 per month, which is an increase of $46 per month from Q2)
  • Phone bill ($109 per month)
  • Water ($48 per month)
  • Internet ($80 per month)
  • Student loan ($126 per month)
  • Car payment ($362 per month)

Food ($2,187; +$214 from Q2) – My food budget continues to frustrate me. I’m spending more than $100 per week on groceries and over $50 per week on Ubereats. I’m trying really hard not to order Ubereats as much (not that it shows!) but then I get into situations where I haven’t grocery shopped appropriately so I don’t have lunch or dinner options, so then I order something quick from Ubereats. It’s so convenient! And I’m paying for that convenience. Here’s how it broke down last quarter:

  • 57% in groceries ($419 per month)
  • 27% in Ubereats orders ($208 per month)
  • 6% in fast food ($47 per month)
  • 6% in Starbucks ($40 per month)
  • 2% in restaurants ($14 per month)

Auto ($831; +$647 from Q2) – This quarter included my biannual car insurance payment (which was also $112 more than I paid in February of this year, sigh). I spent a little less on gas ($114) and a little more on maintenance ($50, which included an oil change and tire rotation).

Savings ($750; -$200 from Q2) – Even though I put $200 less away in savings, I am still really happy that I was able to sock away a good amount of money this quarter. I set up automatic withdrawals to my savings accounts on Capital One so that the money leaves my account without me having to think about it.

Emergency ($602; +$602 from Q2) – I created a new category, “Emergency,” to place any expenses related to my evacuation. Hopefully this isn’t a category I have to use often! This category comprises the Airbnb, gas, an extra cat carrier, and extra food.

Shopping ($544; -$478 from Q2) – I continued my trend of spending less money on shopping than I did in Q1 and Q2. I put myself on a bit of a spending pause (aside from a $30 allowance every pay period) and it’s helping me get caught up on a credit card that I used way too much in Q2.

  • Tech – $210 (a new phone, a new phone case, a mic stand, and a robot vacuum*)
  • Books – $73 (8 books)
  • Clothing – $68 (two bras)
  • Beauty – $63 (a foundation brush, foundation, lipstick, headbands, foot mask, and nail polish)
  • Home – $57 (a tiny globe, a jewelry organizer, Command hooks, and some organizational containers)
  • Hobbies – $32 (two games)
  • Accessories – $20 (one necklace)
  • Office supplies – $18 (a planner and a blank notebook)

*The robot vacuum was $265 and I had saved up $225 to buy it. I only included the difference of what I hadn’t saved, not the whole price of the robot vacuum.

Health ($529; -$513 from Q2) – In Q3, I jumped down to monthly therapy rather than biweekly therapy, which saves me a cool $120 per month. I’m hoping that when I switch insurance plans next year, my therapy visits will be cheaper (I’m switching from an HMO plan to a PPO plan) and I can go more often. I really need to be going more than monthly, but it’s all I can afford right now.

Travel ($425; -$1,377 from Q2) – Q2 was a VERY expensive quarter for my travel category. Q3 was much better. I took a long weekend trip with two friends in Q3 but it was a pretty affordable vacation!

Pets ($378; +$235 from Q2) – I bought food ($44), treats ($24), toys ($88 – included their new fancy cat tower!), litter ($48), and a few supplies like a new water bowl and litter mat ($67). Eloise also had her annual check-up at the vet and got her rabies vaccination ($107).

Subscriptions ($291; -$13 from Q2) – I still feel like I’m spending way too much on my subscriptions, but as always, it’s hard to figure out what to cut out. This amounts to $97 per month.

Spa ($255; -$413 from Q2) – I canceled my massage membership this month so I only had to pay for one more month of that (I still have a handful of credits left that I’ll be using up over the next few months). I also got my hair cut!

Gifts ($217; +$106 from Q2) – Q3 includes my mom’s birthday, two friends’ birthdays, my brother’s birthday, and my older nephew’s birthday. There’s a lot going on!

Supplies/Toiletries ($208; +$47 from Q2) – I averaged around $69 per month on supplies/toiletries in Q3, and I’m happy with that!

Entertainment ($206; +$169 from Q2) – There was a lot more going on this quarter in my entertainment category. More plans with friends, more dinners out. Good job, me!

Holidays ($62; +$62 from Q2) – I bought some fun fall decor for my apartment. (Yes, I promise I will show you the decor soon!)

Charity ($39; -$11 from Q2) – Oof. I am very unhappy with myself for not donating the $50 per month to charity like I wanted to! I just got out of the habit. In 2023, I might make a goal to donate $150 per quarter to a charity of my choice rather than $50 to a different charity every month. It will probably be easier to do it all at once rather than trying to remember it on a monthly basis. Anyway, this quarter I bought some supplies from a friend’s Amazon wishlist for her classroom.

Final Thoughts

In Q2, I had 6 categories where I ended up spending more money than the previous quarter. And in Q3, I had 11 categories. Eesh! However, the overall monetary increase was less than in Q2. ($2,485 in Q3 vs $2,684 in Q2) And two of those increases (my emergency category and my biyearly car insurance payment) were out of my control expenditures, so I can’t be too upset about my spending this quarter.

I still want to really work on my food budget with the overall goal to keep it under $600 a month. Every quarter, I’m spending about $50-70 more money per quarter in my food budget. (Q1: $596 per month; Q2: $657 per month; Q3: $729 per month) I just need to be a better grocery shopper, honestly. Those Ubereats orders add up so quickly. One meal can easily cost $30 after fees and the tip for the driver.

One thing I am proud of is spending less money shopping. I have had to put myself on this self-imposed spending timeout because I got behind on credit card payments and started having to use more money from my savings than I wanted to. I had hoped I would be fully caught up by now but I’m not and that’s okay. I’ll get there!

What’s a purchase you made recently (big or small!) that brought you an inordinate amount of joy? For me, it’s the cat tower I bought for the girls. They love it so much!

Categories: Recurring Series

Currently in August

Feeling… very ready for fall. While Florida will maintain its tropical climate for the rest of the year, most likely, I am still so ready for pumpkins, football, fall drinks at Starbucks, and all of the holidays. (If only I could add cooler weather, changing leaves, and wearing scarves to that list! Sigh.) The last four months of the year are my favorite, and while I honestly can’t wrap my mind around the fact that we are closer to the end of 2022 than the beginning, I am so excited for what the next few months will bring!

Watching… the final season of Superstore! I usually don’t like the final seasons of shows (which is why I’ve put off watching the last season of this show for so long), but this one has been pretty good. I like the way they are dealing with Covid on the show—it’s not fully realistic, of course, but for a TV show, it’s alright.

Listening to… my own podcast! We officially launched our bebe into the world in early August and it’s been so fun releasing episodes every week and seeing them download into my feed! I listen to every episode multiple times because first I have to listen to write down the show notes I need to add to our description and then I just like listening to the episode when it downloads to my podcast player. It’s so fun and I feel like Bri and I have a really great rapport with one another. You can probably tell why I love her so much!

Grateful for… the people in my life (and that includes you, dear readers!) I am so grateful for friends I can talk to about my life and feel that they truly listen. I am grateful that I can come to this blog and be honest about my struggles and feel heard. I am grateful that I have friends who have brought me into their families as one of their own. In my loneliest moments, I remember all of the people in my life who love me and want to be there for me. It means the world.

Anticipating… a Labor Day getaway with Amber and Bri! We’re spending Friday-Monday at a fun resort in Kissimmee. The resort has a big pool, a lazy river, and lots of fun things to do. We’re planning on taking a sunset airboat ride and playing a round or two of mini-golf in Downtown Disney, so it should be a really fun time.

Loathing… all of this anxiety I’ve been having lately. The anxiety has been worse than usual and Lisa brought up a really great point in my coffee date post that it may be time to look at my medication. I’ve been on Lexapro since I start taking anti-anxiety medication and I’m on the highest dosage available. I’ve always taken my meds in the morning but I think I might try taking them at night to see if that helps. My anxiety is always much worse at night than in the morning/daytime, so it might be useful to have higher levels of the drug in my system at night. I’ve also been contemplating taking some sort of CBD gummy at night to see if that helps me, but I’m not sure how it would interfere with Lexapro.

Thinking about… some little updates I want to make to my apartment. I want to change up the entryway wall to add a mirror and a new shelf that I could display cute seasonal decor. I also want to finish up my picture wall in my living room (I need about 8 more pictures). I’ve been wanting to commission pet portraits of Dutch, Eloise, and Lila to hang in my room, right above my bed. And there are some changes I’d like to make to my dining area, mostly wall decor like a clock, some cute prints, and maybe some of those floating bookshelves that I’ve been eyeing for a while. But all of this costs money and I am in a spending freeze for the foreseeable future. So all I can do is continue to think about what I want to do for my home, make wish lists, and hope that I can start plugging away at these updates soon.

Needing… new sandals. I was very close to pushing the purchase button on a pair of Vionic flip-flops but the $75 price tag makes me wince. I know they will be worth it, but I am so used to paying $20 or less for flip-flops, and my last pair from Target have lasted for nearly 5 years! But now they are coming apart at the seams, and I know it’s time for me to invest in a better pair of sandals. Right now, I’m wearing my knock-off Birkenstocks that I got from Target a few years ago. I have rarely worn them since I got them because the breaking-in process was a nightmare, but I’m finding them to be really comfortable lately. I’ll probably wear these for now, and invest in two really nice pairs of sandals after my spending freeze is over.

Buying… not a whole lot this month! However, every pay period, I have a $30 allowance where I can spend money on anything I want. I’m really enjoying the process of thinking hard about what I want! Last pay period, I bought earrings, a foundation brush, nail polish, and a pedicure foot mask. This pay period, I bought a necklace, some headbands, and a new lip color. So fun!

Loving… the way Lila has to make an appearance on every Zoom work call I make (but hides under the bed when company comes to the apartment), when I wake up from a nap to see Eloise curled up next to me, voting in Florida’s primary that will hopefully lead to kicking DeSantis and Rubio out of office, a weekend away with my fur-siblings, fantasy football drafts, and podcast recordings with Bri.

What are you currently anticipating?

Categories: Recurring Series

A Friday Morning Coffee Date

It’s been a while since we’ve had a virtual coffee date, friends! Let’s sit down with a drink—I’m sipping on an iced vanilla latte myself—and chat about what’s going on in our lives.

If we were having coffee today… I’d start the conversation by gushing about my podcast for a little while! I’m having way more fun with it than I thought I would, and it’s been even better to put it out in the world and hear how you guys are enjoying it! We’re starting to plan for season 2 and have a recording date scheduled for next weekend, which I’m very much looking forward to! And we have a creative brainstorming session to figure out some bits and pieces we want to put together for season 2 on Monday. This little passion project really has my whole heart at this point!

If we were having coffee today… I might talk about mental health. My anxiety has been in an up-and-down state these days. Some days, I’m fine. Other days, I’m not. I’m trying to do what I can to keep myself mentally well: taking my meds, going for walks, seeing my therapist, hanging out with friends/family, checking in with my moods, etc. But it’s exhausting to never know how I’m going to feel on a particular day. Or to do something that I think is going to be good for my mental health, but it turns out to cause me more anxiety. And there’s a part of me that doesn’t want to talk about all of this on my blog because oh my god, can I just get it together already? I have this incessant need to “win” my anxiety disorder and when it takes me down, I feel so defeated, as if I wasn’t strong enough to battle it like I should have. I feel as if I am letting other people down when my anxiety isn’t as stable as I want it to be. (Could I be any more of an Enneagram 9? Sigh.) I’m trying to be better about just letting my anxiety disorder be what it is and not be defeated by this up-and-down trajectory of symptoms. Easier said than done.

If we were having coffee today… I’d probably groan about how difficult dating is. Do you know that I was all set up to go on a date with someone and he canceled on me the day of the date? And that the next time I set up a first date with someone different, I logged into my Hinge profile to send a message the morning of the date, only to find out he had unmatched with me? Or that I’ve had four different lengthy and deep conversations through Bumble with women I really liked… only to get ghosted after a few days? Y’all, my self-esteem is not great right now. I feel undateable. I don’t know where to go from here but, oof. This return to dating apps has not been good for me.

If we were having coffee today… I might admit that I got myself in a bit of a pickle financially. I don’t really know how it happened but in the last month alone I’ve had to withdraw money from emergency savings to save myself from overdrafting in my checking account. I’ve mentioned before that I have two separate savings accounts: one is with my bank, and I try to keep $500 in that savings account so that I can quickly transfer money to my checking account if I don’t have enough in there to cover a bill. The other savings account is through CapitalOne, and that’s where I keep my various saving categories: emergency savings, pet savings, Christmas, etc. I built up a nice little nest egg in my emergency savings that I haven’t had to touch, but I got myself into a bit of a jam at the beginning of this month. With only $80 in my bank savings, I didn’t have enough to cover a bill that would be autodrafting from my checking account, so I had to dip into my CapitalOne emergency savings. Ugh! I’ve been doing so good at not living paycheck-to-paycheck, so it’s a bit demoralizing to have this happen. So, until I get my credit card fully paid off, my bank savings back to $500, and my emergency savings back to $3,000, I am on a slight shopping ban. It’s not a full-scale shopping ban because I am going to be here for, ehh, a few months I think. I’m giving myself $30 to spend each pay period. But I’m definitely saying no to any major purchases, unnecessary Ubereats orders, and retail therapy. I know I will feel so much better when everything is back to normal, and September is a three-paycheck month, which should really help!

If we were having coffee today… and I felt really comfortable with you, I might bring up some of the things I’ve been thinking about in regards to weight loss, dieting, and body image. Here’s my truth: I want to lose weight because I am not at a healthy weight and the last time I had bloodwork done, some of the numbers were concerning. For a while, I thought about rejoining WW for the 8th, 9th, 10th, who knows, time. But then I thought about how much I hate counting points, how demoralizing it is to have to restrict when I run out of points (yes, you can eat whatever you want, but you’re still restricting yourself to fit into a certain daily points range) (and also, ugh, I do not love that feeling of needing to exercise to “earn” extra points – NO). I just don’t have it in me to do that to myself again. I do believe that WW can work for many people; I’m just not one of them. I’m considering Noom, but I also don’t really love the idea of grading my food on a scale of good, neutral, and bad, because I don’t believe food is inherently good or inherently bad. I am most definitely not going to redownload My Fitness Pal and track every calorie I eat because that just leads me down a negative path. So what’s a girl with eating issues to do? I don’t have a solution here. I might end up trying Noom, especially because they keep sending me emails about getting 6 months free with a one-year subscription. Or maybe I just need to find small ways to add healthier foods into my diet. For example, I switched my breakfast from eggs and toast to string cheese and Greek yogurt. Instead of having a ton of different chocolates and Little Debbie snacks around, I have one bag of dark chocolates. I don’t love dark chocolate and can only eat a few at a time since it’s so rich, so it gives me the chocolate fix without tempting me too much. Is it enough? I don’t know. But I know I need to get serious about what I’m putting into my body because there’s nothing I want less than heart disease and diabetes.

If we were having coffee today… I would, of course, give you an update on the cats. My little ladies are doing great! Eloise has been loving my new habit of making my bed every morning, as I find her curled up on the bed all morning long. (However, she seems to take issue with the process of me making my bed, as she swipes at me with her claws while I’m doing it. I’m not a fan!) She’s also still demanding that I share the office chair with her while I’m working. She’ll stand on the arm of the chair until I move over to let her curl up next to me. I let her do it because I love the closeness! Lila has always been my shy, skittish kitty who hides under the couch when company is over. But she is so open, snuggly, and lovey with me. She lets me snuggle her close to my side in the morning when I’m in bed and has even started curling up next to me on the couch when I’m watching TV. That’s a new habit for her, as she used to be very particular about where she would sleep and didn’t want to be too close to me. She also loves licking the inside of my elbow, which isn’t always the most pleasant feeling with her rough tongue on such sensitive skin! But I let her do it because I’m a sucker and her cute lil face is hard to resist.

Whew! This turned into a very serious coffee date. Thanks for listening to me! Tell me what you would talk to me about on this coffee date. 🙂