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My LASIK Experience

My first iteration of this post was 3,000+ words long, and I managed to cut out a lot of unnecessary details so now it’s around 2,200 words. I had a lot to say about my LASIK experience, apparently! I wanted to be as detailed as possible, both for people who may be considering laser eye surgery and for myself so I remember what this was like for me.

There were a few reasons I decided to move forward with LASIK:

  • I was a candidate for the traditional procedure and have very thick corneas so the procedure would be a pretty easy one for me.
  • My eye center was offering a 20% discount on LASIK through the end of the year. LASIK is a very expensive procedure ($2,500 per eye) so this discount was very enticing to me.
  • My eyesight is terrible. Before I had LASIK, I could not even read the big “E” on an eye chart; it just looked like a blob on the wall. I’ve been wearing glasses since I was in fourth grade and while my vision has stabilized in my thirties, I’m still essentially blind without corrective lenses.
  • I have strong astigmatism, making it impossible to wear contact lenses (even toric contact lenses). They take forever to settle into my eyes (giving me blurry vision until they settle into the right position) and my eyes dry out easily when I’m wearing contact lenses. So I only wear glasses these days.
  • A few friends had recently gotten LASIK and their positive experiences influenced me to go ahead with the procedure.

I took my time deciding on the procedure. I had a consultation in July and didn’t make a decision until late September. I spent a lot of time discussing it with my mom and with friends, and it just felt like the right decision for me. Full disclosure: I financed the majority of the surgery. I want to be super clear about that because I’m always curious how people afford very expensive (elective!) procedures or vacations or purchases. I used Care Credit and will spend the next two years paying it off.

My procedure was scheduled for Friday, October 20th at 1:00 pm. How did it go? I’m here to give you all of the nitty-gritty details. (Fair warning: I’m going to be as detailed as possible about the surgery so if eye stuff makes you squeamish, maybe skip anything related to the actual surgery.)

My mom and I arrived about 20 minutes early to my appointment and I was almost immediately taken back to meet with the surgical coordinator. We went through the consent form and she gave me my payment confirmations. And then we set up my follow-up appointment in three weeks. I was sent back to the waiting room until the nurse was ready for me.

Meeting with the ophthalmologist

A nurse took me back to a typical eye exam room and explained what I could expect over the next few hours. He also wanted to know how I was feeling on a scale of 1-5. I told him I was at a 3. I was mostly feeling nerv-cited: part nervous, part excited. After meeting with the nurse and then the ophthalmologist, the nerves started dissipating quickly. Everyone was so warm and accommodating, and I felt very secure in their expertise. For them, this was a normal Friday. I was one person in a long line of people getting an extremely routine procedure.

I met with the ophthalmologist who was kind and friendly. He even made a “I like thick corneas and I cannot lie” joke that immediately put me at ease. He did a quick eye exam with me and said everything looked great. I was cleared to get this procedure started.

Sweet, sweet Valium

After I spoke with the ophthalmologist, a new nurse came to get me to take me back to a waiting area. First, I was given a gown to wear as well as booties for my feet and a hair net. Then, she brought me the good drugs – 10mg of Valium and half a milligram of Ativan. I was also given prednisone and naproxen to help with inflammation. They want you to feel really relaxed for the procedure, so they allow at least an hour for the meds to work. (I was a dummy who didn’t bring anything back with me so I had an hour+ to just sit with my thoughts. Thankfully, I wasn’t feeling nervous by this time, so I mainly listened to what was happening around me, thought about blog topics I could write for NaBloPoMo, and started forming this blog post in my head. It helps to have an active mind!)

One of the patients who went in for surgery before me ended up having a panic attack during the procedure. They had to bring the patient back to the waiting room to give them more meds and try to bring their blood pressure back to a normal range. That must have been so scary! However, not to make this all about me, but the Valium had done its job as this patient’s panic attack didn’t cause my nerves to ratchet up. I was just ready to go!

The procedure

I was finally called back for surgery. I removed my glasses for the final time (!!!) and a nurse guided me to the room where the procedure was held. Another nurse guided me onto a table that had a headrest and was able to swivel from side to side. I was given a nice sturdy pillow under my knees and I felt very comfortable. The nurse then began the process of numbing my eyes using drops and placed a bandage over one of my eyes. (This bandage would move from eye to eye, depending on which eye was being worked on.)

The first thing that happened was that the opthalmologist used some sort of suction device on each eye. I honestly don’t know what the purpose of that was, but I do know that I somehow moved the first time they tried to suction my eye and they had to repeat the process. Thankfully, the second time it went fine. Whew. After that, I was terrified to move at all!

Once the suction was complete, it was time to get these eyeballs lasered! First, my eyelashes were held back by tape (or something of that sort) and then the ophthalmologist placed a device in the eye that would keep it from blinking. I felt a lot of pressure on the eyeball when he placed the device in my eye, but nothing too painful. I had to look at a blinking orange light and just keep my eye trained on it the whole time. I believe this is when he made the corneal incision and opened the flap because I could feel him doing something to my eyeball (it didn’t hurt, as my eyeball was fully numbed, but I could feel some pressure) and then suddenly, the laser was right there! One of his nurses gave me a countdown of how much longer I needed to hold still while the laser was doing its job, which was super helpful. Once the laser was finished, the ophthalmologist added a bunch of drops to my eye and I had to continue staring at the blinking orange dot for a few more minutes. And then I was all done! He covered up the eye that had just been lasered and got to work on the second eye. I knew exactly what to expect the second time around and everything went perfectly.

Brand-new eyes

Once I was done, a nurse helped me sit up and then placed two clear eye shields on my eyes. Even with the eye shields on, I felt like I could immediately notice a difference in my sight. When I was in the eye exam room before the procedure, I made a point to take my glasses off and notice all the things I couldn’t see. For example, there was this blue-and-white sign on one of the cabinets and I could see the colors but all of the words on the sign were a jumble of white blobs.

After my procedure, I was taken back to an eye exam room where there was that same blue-and-white sign on a cabinet. This time, I could read the words on the sign! They weren’t fully crisp just yet, but they were WORDS. I was amazed that I was already noticing the change in my vision.

One of the optometrists came in to check out my eyes and said they looked really good. I was given instructions for the rest of the day. The eye shields needed to remain in place for 6 hours and then I could remove them for a set of goggles they gave me. I would also then begin an hourly regimen of anti-inflammatory steroid drops. And I would use the eye shields again at night. However, the most important thing to do was sleep. They sent me home with a sleeping pill and it was after 3:30 pm at that point, so my plan was to have an early dinner and then sleep until the morning.

And that’s what I did! My mom picked up Chick-fil-A for me so I ate that, took my sleeping pill, and then snuggled up in the guest room to sleep. It was around 5 pm at this point and while I wouldn’t say I slept super deeply (I was having some eye pain and my eyes were watering like crazy), I was able to sleep for the most part. Around 8:30 pm, I woke up and went out to the living room. I was amazed at how crystal clear my vision was! It was really cool. I didn’t stay up for too long and went back to bed until the morning.

Post-op follow-up

I had a 7:30 am appointment at the eye center, so my mom and I were up early on Saturday morning. It was hard to tell how much my vision had improved due to the eye shields. They were clear but had little holes that were a little hard to see through. I could see things far away very clearly, but it was difficult to read anything on my phone. It was also really hard to keep my eyes open in the car because all of the lights had halos, which is a very common side effect of LASIK.

My appointment was quick and easy. Thankfully, we arrived right before a huge influx of patients (all of us looking very stylish in our eye shields!) came in, so I didn’t have to wait long to see the optometrist. She checked my eyes and thankfully, everything was healing perfectly! And I could even read the lowest line of letters on the eye chart, which was astonishing to me. I was given the all-clear to drive and lots of important post-op instructions. One of the nurses gave me a run-down on what I should expect over the next few days and how to properly use all of my post-op eye drops/lubricants. The best thing they did was give me a worksheet that listed what eye drops I needed to use and when with little boxes to check off my progress. This was insanely helpful!

The next few days

One of the things I was told by friends who have had LASIK is to be obsessive about the eye drops. Obviously, I was going to follow the eye drop schedule the eye center had given me, but I was also prepared to douse my eyes in artificial tears whenever I needed to.

Saturday was my busiest day for eye drops, as I was on an hourly schedule for one of the eye drops (the anti-inflammatory steroid drops). I also had to do an antibiotic eye drop and artificial tears four times on Saturday. And at night, I had to apply a nighttime eye lubricant that made my vision blurry for a bit of time. As the days progress, I will lessen my eye drops schedule (I dropped down from 15 anti-inflammatory eye drops on Saturday to 8 on Sunday and 4 the remainder of the week). I will do artificial tears and the eye lubricant for the next two weeks. And last night was the last time I had to wear my eye shields while sleeping. Yay!

It’s been five days since my procedure and everything has gone perfectly. My eyesight is startlingly clear and I haven’t had any troublesome side effects, like super dry or super watery eyes. I’ve been using my eye drops as directed. Every time my eyes feel just the tiniest bit itchy or irritated, I give them a few drops of artificial tears, which helps. But that hasn’t happened very often!

One of the biggest changes I’ve had to make is not sleeping with a ceiling fan. I love my ceiling fan and even asked the optometrist at my follow-up appointment how long I need to be ceiling fan-less (some docs say 3 months, others say 6 months, and some even say you should never sleep with a ceiling fan after LASIK). My eye doc is less stringent about these numbers, as they allow patients to use a ceiling fan if they wear a tight sleep mask, so that’s an option! She said we could discuss it at my follow-up in mid-November.

I am really glad I had the procedure done and it’s been amazing having a glasses-free life! I took a shower and was able to SEE. I don’t have to switch from my prescription sunglasses to my prescription eyeglasses every time I’m driving. I can wake up and immediately see everything around me. And this is only the beginning.

Have any questions about LASIK? I’ll answer any of your questions!

Categories: Life

Monthly Recap | September 2023

The Good

September is a favorite month of mine for many reasons, not the least of which is that it’s the start of football season! I am a diehard fan and spend all day Sunday at my mom’s house, watching the games with her, my brother, and my older nephew. These Sundays are my favorite and mean so much to me. I love all the family time, snuggling with dogs, and reading my book while a football game blares in the background.

September is also a month of so many birthdays! There’s my brother, my older nephew, my stepdad, Bri, and so many other family members. It’s an expensive month! But I love celebrating other people so it’s a fun month for me.

I decorated my apartment for fall, and I couldn’t be more pleased with how festive it looks now. All of the pumpkins and fall-themed signs does my heart good.

This month’s book club experience was making pottery! I have always wanted to try my hand at clay throwing using a pottery wheel, so I was both excited and nervous to give it a try. Thankfully, we had a private lesson with an instructor and she was excellent. She really made sure we left with well-made pieces. We made two pieces and she went through each step very slowly (she showed us how to do it and then had us give it a try and would correct any mistakes she saw us making). I made a bowl and then a vase. Afterward, we painted our pottery! (And this is when we chatted about the book we read in September, for those wondering.) I painted my bowl a teal-ish color and then I did splatter-paint for the vase! I first painted it white and then I took it over to this open box that had a lazy Susan. I placed my vase on the lazy Susan and used a big paintbrush to “splatter” paint droplets all around the vase. It came out great, and I can’t wait to see what it looks like when it’s been glazed.

I finally got my third tattoo! Here’s the story of how it happened: I texted Bri the day after her birthday to find out what she wanted to do for the birthday lady date we had planned the following day. She was all, “This might sound crazy but… tattoos?!” We had previously talked about getting tattoos, and I was READY. So I said yes! But the tattooist we wanted to go to wasn’t available that day, so we made the appointment for the following week. I am so happy with my tattoo. It’s everything I envisioned. It hurt a lot, but it wasn’t unbearable. Plus, it’s not a continuous pain, as the needle stops every 30ish seconds to readjust. And now it’s in the healing/itchy phase, which is the hardest phase to get through.

The Bad

The bad was really, really bad this month, as we learned that my uncle’s cancer has returned and metastasized to his brain. He was eligible for radiation, so he had 10 straight days of that. It’s the only treatment available to him, so now all we can do it make sure he’s comfortable and not in pain. The future is very bleak. It’s so hard to watch someone you love be dealt such a wretched diagnosis. What can I say? There are no words to make this better.

Bookish Stuff

  • # of books/pages read: 8 books (3,115 pages)
  • Favorite book of the month: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith
  • Favorite romance of the month: Same Time Next Summer by Annabel Monaghan
  • Least favorite book of the month: Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant
  • Quickest read: Last Girl Ghosted by Lisa Unger (5 days)
  • Longest read: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (65 days)
  • Books I abandoned: Cool for the Summer by Dahlia Adler and The Sweet Spot by Amy Poeppel
  • Format breakdown: print books (5) and audiobooks (3)
  • Genre breakdown: Thrillers (3), historical fiction (2), romance (1), nonfiction (1), and fiction (1)
  • Average star rating: 3.5 (<– yikes)

Stuff I Recommend

  • Duolingo – I am currently on Day 62 of Duolingo! I’m learning Spanish because, even though I took 4 years of it between middle school, high school, and college, there is very little I retained. I’m enjoying it and hope I can get to those four-digit streaks like some of you.
  • The End of the World with Josh Clark – Josh Clark hosts one of my all-time favorite podcasts, Stuff You Should Know, and I kept hearing about this short-run podcast series he did. I finally downloaded it and listened to all of the episodes recently, and it was excellent. The essential premise of this podcast is discussing the future of humanity, what it means if we really are the only intelligent life in the universe, and what dangers await us. It feels very heavy and anxiety-inducing, I know, but I find myself fascinated by these discussions. And, thankfully, Josh doesn’t use fear-mongering or scare tactics to discuss these theories. It’s very factual and I appreciate that.
  • CBS reality TV shows – My whole TV-watching life has been taken up by watching CBS reality TV shows right now. Big Brother, Survivor, The Amazing Race, The Challenge USA… I love it all. I’ve had to put all of my other shows on the back burner because these CBS shows are all I have time to watch!

Goal Stuff

Since I didn’t recap my monthly goals yet, I’m doing that here!

  • Schedule my LASIK appointment – Yup! I am getting my eyeballs lasered on October 20th.
  • Go through my “deal with it later” basket – Nope. The problem with a “deal with it later” basket is “later” never seems to have a deadline.
  • Visit my PCP for a physical – Nope. I need to schedule this appointment in October!
  • Stop using my phone when I’m in bed at night – I got a little better at this in September, but I could have tried harder.
  • Get back to my workout routine – Nope. My new workout goal is to go for a walk every day, but I struggled with that. I have just felt so unmotivated with working out, even though I know it helps my mental health so much.

What was a good moment of September for you?

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My Apartment To-Do List

I’m not making my big move to a two-bedroom apartment like I’d hoped. Financially, it just makes more sense to stay put for at least another year even though I was so excited about my move and being in a bigger space. I was making so many plans for that second bedroom/office! Alas.

So now I have to think about this space I have and how to make it better suited for my needs. There are many things I love about this apartment: for a one-bedroom, it is very spacious and there’s even a little nook in the living room that I’m able to use as a pseudo-office. I have tons of closet space. And I’m on the top floor so I never have to worry about upstairs neighbors. One idea I’m considering is adding some personality to the walls with Peel and Stick Wall Murals.

But there are a handful of changes I’m looking to make to this apartment over the next few months. Let’s talk about it!

Adding a cozy book nook to my bedroom

In my bedroom, I have a dresser (that also functions as my bedside table) and bed on one wall and then on the wall opposite, I have a small four-cube organizer and my spin bike. I want to redo this corner of my bedroom to turn it into a cozy book nook. I want to buy a ladder bookshelf that I’ll use to house all of my favorite books and add a cozy chair with ottoman so I can curl up and read a book. Maybe add a table and a lamp, too? Some bookish artwork?

This would mean finding a new place for my cube organizer (I’m thinking of moving it in between the two 8-cube organizers that are currently in my dining room and hold the majority of my book collection) and my spin bike. Honestly, I haven’t felt very inspired to use my spin bike lately and I think I’m going to just put it on my patio with a cover. I don’t want to sell it, just in case I realize in a few months that I want to get back to spinning, but I don’t have anywhere else in my apartment where it can live. I’d also move that big map to another wall of my bedroom.

Reorganizing my kitchen

I was really looking forward to having a bigger kitchen with a pantry. My kitchen is pretty darn small as it is, and I’m trying my best to make things work. I do have a pantry in this kitchen, but it is very narrow. The door measures under 12 inches! It’s difficult to store too much in there because I have to reach in sideways to get anything. What I want to do is add two floating shelves on the back wall where I can store laundry supplies on one shelf and cat food on the second shelf. I could also get Lynchburg kitchen remodeling by Kitchen Crafters of VA. I also found this kitchen renovator in Okotoks who will help us renovate it. (As you can see from the below picture, my stackable washer/dryer is tucked into the corner of the kitchen, so having my detergent within easy reach would be beneficial.)

I also want to get a back-of-the-door organizer for the pantry door, but it has to be small enough to fit. I’d really like something like this, but that’s about 5 inches too wide for the door. Argh.

I’m still at a loss of how to actually use this pantry. Maybe just to store items I use infrequently? I keep the majority of my food stuffs in the cabinet above my sink, which works out fine. It’s just sometimes hard to reach those taller shelves because I’m so short. Ugh.

Redoing my gallery wall

I love my gallery wall so much! It brings me great joy to look at. But it needs a refresh. There are a handful of prints I want to take down because they were meant to be placeholders until I found prints I liked better. And there are some framed photos that I’d like to replace. I have a big vision for this wall, but it wouldn’t be an expensive change to make. I already have some prints I can frame and add, and TJ Maxx/HomeGoods are my go-to for cheap, cute prints.

Ordering art photos of Dutch and the girls

Let’s stay on the topic of decor/art. For a really long time, I have wanted to get cute portraits done of Dutch and the girls, all in the same style. I have favorited a handful of Etsy shops that provide this service, and I just need to get it done. I recently added a nordic wall art to my collection and I love it. It always seemed like a very expensive project, but I think if I get a digital download instead of a framed portrait, it can be fairly affordable. Also, you can shop wallpaper for childrens at the Wallpaper Store, which could add a charming touch to their rooms.

Revamping my work-from-home setup

Oh, I was so excited to move my desk into its own office. It was going to be so nice to have a dedicated space to work, a space I could close up when I was finished with work for the day or the weekend. Alas, I have at least another year of my work space being part of my living space. But there are things I can do to make it better!

Right now, I have a standing desk and although I rarely use the standing function these days (I need to get better about that), I do like having the option. The desk is pretty full, though, as I have two big monitors, a laptop on a stand, a wireless keyboard, a wireless mouse/mousepad, journals to jot down meeting notes and to-do lists, a tiny calendar, a lamp, a fake plant, and other odds and ends. Here’s how I’d like to revamp this setup:

  • Get a pair of monitor arms so my monitors are OFF the desk completely, freeing up a ton of space to use
  • Invest in a different lamp; something cuter that emits a soft glow (the lamp I have is folded up in the back of my desk; I mainly got it to help with lighting on my video calls, but it doesn’t do much)
  • Buy a different laptop stand and place my laptop in the middle of my desk (my laptop screen is so small that I rarely use it, but I do need it to be well-placed for video calls; I have to move the laptop every time I have a video call, and that’s just very annoying to deal with). I also bought a new Lenovo laptop using a coupon discount. Den Lenovo Gutschein findet man hier, which should help you save some money on your purchase.
  • Remove everything that’s on the wall next to my desk and place a big whiteboard there instead where I can make lists
  • Improve the cord situation below my desk. It’s a mess, and I have looked into everything to make it tidy – cable boxes, clip organizers, cable ties, you name it.

A new area rug for my living room

I’ve only had my current area rug for… maybe two years? I honestly can’t remember when I bought it, but hasn’t been long. I bought an 8×10 area rug, which I thought would be big enough for my sectional, but unfortunately, it’s not. I want the legs of my sectional to sit on the entire area rug, but its width is about an inch or two short. It fits fine length-wise, but it could be a bit bigger that way, too. I was going to get a new area rug when I moved, but now I’ll get one before I move. I have a handful of options saved and I’m just waiting to find a good price to buy!

So, perhaps, I have some lofty goals for this little apartment of mine. When it comes down to it, many of these changes won’t be very expensive but will add a whole lot of satisfaction and functionality to my space. And that’s the point of our homes, right? To be a safe place for us to land, cozy spaces where we can be ourselves and get away from the world. Since I spend 90% of my time here, it makes sense to make it as perfect as it can possibly be for me.

What’s one easy but super satisfying change you want to make to your home?

Categories: Life

Recapping August

Hi, friends! Oh, it is so good to be back here after more than a month away. When my break from blogging started, there were a good 2-3 weeks where I felt so relieved to be on a break. I was so happy to go about my life without thinking about writing posts or managing my editorial calendar. That relief scared me, even though the whole reason I took the break was because I was having blogging burnout. But it made me wonder, “Am I done? Is it time to pack up the blog?” (<– A scary thought when I just paid nearly $500 to Hostgator for another three years of blog hosting service!)

Thankfully, as August started to wind down, I started to feel excited about coming back to my blog. I missed this space and missed the connection of other people. The break from blogging was so necessary, and I am so happy to be back.

There was quite a lot that happened in August. So let’s discuss.

A breakup

At the end of July, I broke up with my girlfriend. It was something that had been marinating in my head for a bit of time, and I knew it was time to end things. It’s hard to end things when there isn’t anything specific to point to; it was just a feeling in my gut that I had to listen to. She wasn’t my person, and I had to come to terms with that. I am glad I did, but not glad I had to hurt someone in the process. I spent much of August processing the breakup and returning to my life of singledom. The dating apps have been added back to my phone, but I haven’t done much with them just yet.

A change in plans

After spending so much time and energy planning to move at the end of October, I have decided to postpone my move until next year. The main reason for this is finances. First, I received my lease renewal last week and learned that my rent will not be increasing at all. I expected it to increase, as it went up by nearly $300 last year (and $100 the year before), so this was a very pleasant surprise. Second, the rent prices for two-bedroom apartments are out of control. I’ve been keeping a close eye on the prices for the handful of complexes I toured and liked, and the one at the top of my list is now averaging around $2,100 for a two-bedroom apartment. (When I originally toured the complex in late spring, the prices were $200 lower.) There is another complex that’s averaging around $1,800 for a two-bedroom apartment, but those apartments aren’t as nice, so I’m partial to the other option. But I’m not partial to spending $400-$700 more on rent. Another reason I’m postponing the move is because, when I planned this move at the end of last year, I was expecting to receive a fairly substantial raise, which did not materialize and it means that adding a much higher rental price to my budget will make things very, very tight. Financially, it makes more sense to stay put for another year.

I’m both relieved that I’m not moving because moving is exhausting and expensive, and sad because I was looking forward to being in a new, bigger space (that wasn’t on a crazy-busy road). I’m trying to cope with the change by thinking about how I can make my apartment even better suited for my needs and recognizing that now I can fully move forward with LASIK. Without an expensive move + higher rent price to worry about, I can finally make this surgery happen. YAY!

A float in the river

I marked a really fun goal off my 2023 list in August – tubing at Rainbow Springs! My mom, my stepdad, and I took the two-hour trip north to spend some time lazily floating in the river, and we had such a great time. It was a very hot day but the river was delightfully cold. (I believe it is always a brisk 72 degrees, which felt amazing on a day when my weather app alerted me about an “extreme heat advisory.”) We learned a lot during this trip, though, like the fact that we need to bring something that we can use to tie our floats together so we don’t get separated from one another. (We eventually clipped my crossbody bag through the loops of our floats to stay together!) We will definitely be back!

A dietician appointment

I am thrilled to report that I found a dietician, and I love her! She is exactly what I was hoping to find in a dietician. During our initial meeting, she talked extensively about her disdain for diet culture and at one point told me that she had no desire to know what I weighed, as weight is not really what matters when it comes to eating healthily. She also didn’t make me feel like a terrible person for drinking soda or having so many sweets in a day. She was such a breath of fresh air, and really made me feel like I could finally make this healthy living journey a reality. It didn’t have to be scary or hard or insurmountable. I can make small changes and if I have a day where I fall into my old unhealthy patterns, that’s okay. In fact, it will happen and there’s no need to beat myself up about it.

At the end of the appointment, she gave me a very loose nutrition plan of how she would like me to eat throughout the day. What really blew my mind was when she told me she wanted me to try to eat a piece of fruit before my morning workout. I always work out first thing when I wake up, and often feel sluggish and blah. I figured that was due to being tired and, honestly, being fat. But actually, it’s because I haven’t eaten in many, many hours and my body needs a quick jolt to get going. Mind-blowing! (I haven’t really tested this theory because, um, I’ve kind of fallen off the workout wagon, but I imagine it will help once I get back into my routine.)

One of the things I’ve been really working on is eating more fruits and veggies (after I finished walking her through a typical day of eating, she remarked, “So, I’m not seeing any fruits and veggies on here.” Lolz) as well as snacking more often. I have hypoglycemia and it especially rears its head in the morning/afternoon if I don’t eat every few hours. So now I’m eating breakfast around 7:30, having a snack (string cheese + a package of cashews/almonds/dried pineapple) around 10:00-10:30, having lunch around noon, and then having another snack in the afternoon (celery + PB has been my go-to, but I may change this to Greek yogurt and fruit).

Other good things

Recording season 6 of our podcast with Bri (our trailer released today!) • a lady date with Bri to watch the Red, White, and Royal Blue movie (so darn cute!) • seeing a friggin DOLPHIN in the canal across the street to my mom’s house • doing the most fun escape room with book club • The Big Nailed It Baking Challenge • catching up with my favorite Georgia family when they were in town • a fun game night with work friends • an excellent mid-year review with my VP

Categories: Life

Monthly Recap | June 2023

Good Stuff

Top moment of the month: A Pride-themed photoshoot. This was such a perfect evening! We dressed up in a rainbow dress/rainbow skirt, with rainbow flower crowns, and the bisexual flag. Bri sweetly took photos of us at our favorite local indie bookstore and then we posted them on Instagram the following day. I was so scared to publish the post, but the response was overwhelmingly positive.

Other good moments: 

  • Attending the St. Pete Pride Parade – It was hot and humid, but we had such a good time.
  • Axe throwing with book club – This was so much fun! June was my month to suggest an activity and this is what I chose. I’ve been axe throwing one other time and remember finding it really fun. Some of my friends were very apprehensive, and I appreciate them facing their fears for me!
  • Recording season 5 of the podcast – We dug into the nitty-gritty of traveling in this season and we had a blast reminiscing about our memories.
  • Pool days with my mom and the dogs – It’s definitely pool weather, and I am very grateful that my mom has a pool. My mom has a slew of floats, too, and Chip especially loves jumping on a float from the edge of the pool deck.
  • Making art with Mom – This was my mom’s belated Mother’s Day gift from me, and we were so pleased with our creations! It was a really fun night.
  • Celebrating 9 years of friendship with Bri – I can’t believe she’s been part of my life for so long! We had a Friday night date to a museum where we participated in a scavenger hunt. The museum was amazing and the scavenger hunt made our time there even more fun.
  • Coming out to my brother – My brother was the last person I had to come out to (well, the last person whose opinion really matters to me). I was so, so scared because I wasn’t sure how he would react/if this would cause a rift between us. But, thankfully, nothing of the sort happened! He was very happy for me and told me repeatedly that something like this would never cause a rift.

Hard Stuff

  • Dad grief – June is always a tough month for me. My dad turned 60 on June 5th and then two weeks later, it was Father’s Day. I felt very sad on June 5th and the days afterward. I don’t know if it’s because my dad celebrated a milestone birthday or I was just really in my feelings this year, but it was hard. I miss him immensely.
  • Laziness – I was very, very lazy in June (you’ll see in the goal recap section, oof). The weather is making daily walks very difficult. If I do them early in the morning, I’m dealing with lower temps but very high humidity (90% some mornings!). If I do them later in the day, the humidity is a smidge lower but the heat index is 95º+. I just need to get over myself because high heat and humidity are better than the dangerous air quality other people are dealing with, right?!

Bookish Stuff

  • # of books/pages read: 10 books (2,960 pages)
  • Favorite book of the month: Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo
  • Favorite romance of the month: Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld
  • Least favorite book of the month: Have I Told You This Already? by Lauren Graham
  • Quickest read: Have I Told You This Already? by Lauren Graham (4 days)
  • Longest read: Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo (13 days)
  • Books I abandoned: Boyfriend Material by Alexis Hall
  • Format breakdown: print books (5), audiobooks (4), e-books (1)
  • Genre breakdown: Fiction (3), romance (3), nonfiction (3), YA (1)
  • Average star rating: 4.1

Stuff I Recommend

  • The Little Mermaid (movie) – My mom and I saw this movie together and it was phenomenal! Man, I loved it so much. Halle Bailey was a complete delight and so talented, Flounder and Sebastian were so much fun, and the scenery was out of this world. Highly recommend!
  • Clue (movie) – This movie was amazing! I couldn’t get enough of it, especially the ending. Tim Curry is everything in this movie.
  • John Mulaney: Baby J (comedy special) – John Mulaney has been through a lot since his last comedy special: the outing of his drug addiction, a two-month stint in rehab, a divorce, a messy relationship, a new baby… his squeaky-clean image is effectively gone. While I am very displeased at the way he handled some of his issues (namely, the divorce), I wanted to watch this special because it was a Jamie Golden “green light” and I listen to her. I’m really glad I watched this special! It was hilarious in parts but also very poignant and real. He didn’t gloss over his addiction and what came after, but he still made it funny.
  • LGBTQIA+ in the Church on The Bible Binge (podcast episode) – This podcast episode was so very good, and I’m recommending it to everyone I know. It’s probably less necessary for anyone who didn’t grow up in a church setting and doesn’t need to hear from people why it’s okay to be affirming of LGBTQIA+ people. But as someone who didn’t come out for a long time because I thought being queer was a sin against God, it gave me a lot of hope.

Goal Stuff

  • Go for a walk every day (10/31) – Oh, this isn’t pretty at all. I kept being lazy in the morning and not going on a walk, and then it would get blazing hot and I just didn’t want to go outside and get super sweaty. I must do better in July!
  • Drink a bottle of water every day (11/31) – Another pitiful month of water drinking.
  • Complete 100 Peloton workouts (44/100) – I was just so damn lazy in June. So lazy! I’m now 6 workouts behind in my goal. Oof.
  • Watch 6 movies and 6 standup specials – I watched two movies and two standup specials in June, which puts me ahead of my goal. Woohoo!

What was a highlight of June for you?