The title gives it all away, but… I BOUGHT A CAR YESTERDAY!!!!!! Isn’t she so beautiful? I am so in love with her. She’s a 2022 Kia Soul and she drives like a dream. It’s amazing to drive a car that’s 17 years older than the one I was driving (a 2005 Scion xB). She’s got so many bells and whistles, and I am so, so happy she’s mine. But let me back up and tell you the story of how she became mine! Yesterday, my mom and I went to our nearby Kia dealership so that I could test drive a Soul. I’ve always been enamored with these cars, ever since an old boss bought a new one (this was in, like, 2012 or 2013). They always give me heart-eyes when I see them on the road, and their build is very similar to my xB—an SUV crossover-type vehicle. As the car salesman was getting the key for the Soul so I could test drive it, my mom turns to me and says, “What if you fall in love with it and want to buy it today?” And I admitted that I was entirely sure that was going to happen. I kind of knew it was, honestly. It’s a car that I’ve always had my eye on, and I just needed to test drive it to make sure I liked the way it drove. Driving the car was so much fun. One of the positives of the pandemic is that now you can test drive a car by yourself—the salesperson doesn’t have to be in the car with you. I really enjoy that because it can be very awkward to drive with a salesperson! It was nice to just take the Soul off the lot with my mom and drive around by ourselves. I was really sad to pull back into the car lot when the test drive was over. I wanted to keep driving it! I didn’t exactly know then that I would be leaving with the car that day, but I knew that I had found the perfect car for me. Whether that day or another day, I would be driving a Kia Soul. After the test drive, we went into the dealership to talk pricing. I wanted a darker-colored car (black preferably, but they had a really beautiful blue/gray car on their lot that I had my eye on) with dark interior. Thankfully, both the black and the blue/gray car fit the bill! The blue/gray car came with a few more safety amenities, like lane assist, rear cross-traffic assist, and forward-collision assist. I really wanted that rear cross-traffic assist safety feature because I have a hard time pulling out of parking spaces sometimes. It’s especially difficult in my apartment complex because I usually can’t see above the cars around me to notice if anybody is driving by as I’m pulling out of a parking space. So I wanted those upgrades. Once the salesperson had pulled all the numbers, the blue/gray car would only be about $11 more per month than the other car. It was a no-brainer. But the monthly price was making me a little anxious. It was going to be $390 and I was really trying to keep my car payment around $350. But I also knew that all of the other cars I was looking at cost more than Kia Souls, so that price was probably the best I was going to get. My mom asked me if I would feel better leaving and thinking about it, and then coming back. And I agreed that I would, so I told the sales guy that I just wanted to think about it for an hour or two. I want to stop here and say: I am not a negotiator. I am an enneagram 9, which means I am someone who hates confrontation and just wants to make everyone around me as happy as possible at all times. I wasn’t even using this as a tactic to negotiate a lower rate. I seriously just wanted to think about it for a little bit. After saying that I wanted to think about it, the sales guy nodded and said, “Okay, let me just get my manager to sign off on this.” Or something like that. I didn’t even know what he was talking about, but it didn’t ring in my head as any sort of sales-y tactic. The manager came over and he essentially wanted to know what they had to do to get me to leave with the car today. And it wasn’t until he said, “A lower price?” that it clicked in my head that this was a negotiation! I had power here. (I’m still shocked that they even cared to negotiate; I found out while I was waiting for all the paperwork to be processed that they only had three Souls total on their whole lot!) But I said if they could lower the monthly payment, I would be more inclined to buy today. And they did! Somehow, I negotiated them down to a $350 monthly payment! WHAT. After that was all over, I turned to my mom and said, “Did I just negotiate with a car salesman???” In the end, I put down a $4,000 down payment and my trade-in car value was $2,000. And my excellent credit score also helped me secure the lowest interest rate for my loan! (This is especially gratifying to me, as the last time I bought a car, I had terrible credit and my mom had to cosign the loan.) All in all, I have to say that buying a car was a supremely satisfying experience. Throughout all of this negotiation stuff, I never felt super pressured to buy. It really felt like they cared about me and knew I really wanted this car, and wanted to do whatever they could to help me get it. Maybe that’s my own naivete, but even my mom agreed with my assessment. So now I have a new car! I am so very happy with my decision. This morning when I woke up, I immediately looked out the window to stare at my new car! I’m glad I don’t feel any sort of regret or panic about buying the car, and I think that’s because a) it’s something I’ve been planning for a really long time and b) I know I have the financial means to handle the car payment without it affecting my budget all that much. I truly wasn’t expecting to leave the dealership with a new car yesterday, but I think it was possibly the best early birthday present I could have given to myself.
Life
To All the Phones I Ever Had
I can’t remember where this post idea came from, maybe it was an episode of Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata where they talked about the phones they had in the past? In any event, I’ve had this blog idea languishing on my Notes app for a while, and I’m glad to finally get a chance to write this post! It was fun to think back about all the different phones I’ve had throughout my life. Cell phones became a “thing” in high school for me. I started high school in 2002, graduating in 2006, and by the end of high school, it was something everyone seemed to have. It was really fun to think back on all the different phones I’ve had and the memories they evoked. 🙂
Nokia 3310 (the old-school brick phone)
This was the first phone I ever had, but I shared it with my mom so I don’t know if I can actually consider it my first phone. I think we got this phone in either my sophomore or junior year of high school (2004 or 2005). Probably my junior year because I think my mom wanted me to bring it with me to school, as I was going to be on a college campus. (I attended a collegiate high school for my last two years, where we attended college classes alongside finishing our high school requirements, allowing us to graduate with our high school diploma and Associates of Arts degree simultaneously). I still think fondly of that little brick phone, especially because we had this really fun hard-shell flowery case for it!
Samsung flip phone
In my senior year of high school (2005-2006), I got my own phone! This Samsung flip phone was my pride and joy, but I remember that it didn’t have a camera on it and that was so annoying because all of my other friends with camera phones could upload pictures to their MySpace accounts, haha. I just wanted a photo for social media! I remember my old high school best friend bringing in her mom’s digital camera to take a picture of me so I would have something for MySpace. How old school is that?!
Motorola RAZR
Oh yeahhhh! I was so proud of my Motorola RAZR. I really thought I was hot shit with this phone. Maybe it was because I was never the kid who got the latest and greatest tech products, but damn, I was so happy to have this cool phone that everyone else had. I loved my little RAZR. I can’t exactly remember when I got it—maybe before going off to college in 2006? Probably sometime around then.
Samsung Instinct
Dang, even looking at the photo of this phone brings back so many fond memories. It was my first touchscreen phone and I loved it so, so, so, so much. I loved the camera, the touchscreen elements (a new technology for phones!), and being able to use the Internet so easily! And then, one day while on my college campus, I left the phone in a public bathroom. And someone, of course, stole it. I was so annoyed with myself and a little scared to tell my mom what had happened. (She was very forgiving, as I wasn’t a kid who constantly lost or broke phones.) I was so sad to lose that phone, though.
Blackberry Curve
My next phone was a Blackberry Curve, which I think I got because all of the healthy living bloggers I followed had these phones. (Maybe?) I really liked it! I got it sometime in 2010 or 2011 when I was finishing up my college degree. It served me well, as it was easy to use Twitter and Facebook on it (I don’t think Instagram was around just yet, or if it was, I wasn’t using it). I could check email easily (the only emails I got were blog comments, but I was obsessed with checking them and responding quickly!). And it had a fairly good camera.
iPhone
And here we come to the end of our phone journey, as I went to iPhone in 2012 and never looked back! My first-ever iPhone was the 4S and I’ve steadily upgraded it every 1-2 years. (I’m using the iPhone 11 right now, and will likely upgrade to the 13 soon.) I was so happy to get my first iPhone—it was such a step up from my Blackberry. There were more apps, a better camera, and a more user-friendly interface. The screen was bigger and brighter. It was everything I wanted!
What was your first phone? How old were you when you got it?
Stream of Consciousness Sunday
I’m writing this post while snuggled under a blanket on the couch, a glass of iced coffee nearby. It’s chilly today (by Florida standards), especially as we’ve had a string of warmer days and I had to turn my AC on again. I love when the temperature inside my apartment is cold enough to warrant turning off my AC! This morning, the temperature inside is 68. I just found Eloise under the quilt on my bed, so maybe it’s a little too chilly for her right now, hehe.
I think I’m becoming someone who doesn’t hate the fall time change any more. This is giving me a bit of an identity crisis because I’ve always hated “falling back.” Sure, that extra hour of sleep is amazing, but I hate it when it’s completely dark at 6 p.m. And I never really got to enjoy the lighter mornings because I was always waking up before the sun, no matter if we were in DST or standard time. But I’m starting to come around to being in standard time. I feel so much more well-rested these days because my body’s internal clock still hasn’t quite adjusted to the new time so while I’m waking up at my normal time, it feels an hour later. And I get to enjoy the lighter mornings, too! It’s actually really nice. All this to say, I understand people who enjoy falling back! I get it!
But I still prefer being in Daylight Saving Time—give me back my 8 p.m. sunsets, please!
I’ve been going back and forth on getting a Covid booster shot. Since I’m overweight, I’m considered high risk so I could get the booster if I wanted it. But I don’t really consider myself high risk for Covid, honestly. And I had such a bad reaction to the second Pfizer shot that I am really worried about going through all of that again for the booster. (And apparently, it’s common to have the same side effects, ugh.) Of course, I’d rather be protected against Covid (and protect anyone around me!) and deal with really bad side effects for a day or two than to get Covid, but it makes me nervous.
This stream-of-consciousness stuff is harder than it looks! I just spent the past 15 minutes flipping back and forth between this tab and other tabs, letting myself get distracted by looking at my savings accounts, Christmas presents to buy, and my email rather than finishing this post. So I guess that’s all I have in my head today. Not very exciting, eh?
What are your thoughts on falling back? Have you or are you getting the Covid booster?
Stream of Consciousness Sunday
Hey, friends! It’s Sunday and I’ve decided to devote each Sunday this month (well, all but the last Sunday in November, as that’s my birthday!) to a stream-of-consciousness post. The challenge: to write without a specific purpose. I just want to discuss what’s on my mind right here and now. Let’s dive in!
I’m really excited about getting a new car. My current vehicle is a 2005 Scion xB (the car that looks like a toaster!) and it’s served me incredibly well in the many years I’ve had her. She’s never needed a repair of more than a few hundred dollars and she’s got 130,000 miles on her. But many things drive me crazy about her. Like:
- Filling up my car with gas can be a frustrating experience because there’s something wrong with my gas tank in that the fuel pump will click off before the tank is full. This just happened today when I went to get gas and I had to figure out the right way to tilt the fuel pump to direct the flow of gas in a way that won’t cause the fuel pump to click off. I dream of the day when getting gas isn’t a frustrating experience!
- My power windows are losing their… power, I guess? They will roll down easily, but getting them back up is not so easy. It usually takes a few minutes of continually pushing the button and the window going up inch by inch. What this means is that I can’t ever use a drive-thru car washing station! You have to put your car window down to pay at the station right before the car wash, but then I can’t trust that my windows will go back up before the water starts! (Yes, I could just get out of my car to pay, but that’s annoying.)
- I don’t have Bluetooth. To listen to my podcasts on my phone, the volume has to be at the highest setting and I have to put my phone in a cupholder to amplify the sound. Pretty janky.
- Using my trunk takes two hands these days because a mechanism in the trunk lock is broken, so I have to use one hand underneath the bottom of the trunk to lift it up while my other hand is lodged under the handle of the trunk to push the lock to open it. Sounds complicated? That’s because it is. I never use my trunk anymore because it’s too annoying.
Those are just some of the annoyances I have with my current car. I’m just ready for a new car and I know it’s the right time to make this purchase. A lot of the things I want with a new car are just stuff that comes standard in cars these days, like Bluetooth, a backup camera, a power liftgate, etc. I’m not looking for the flashiest car—truly anything will be an upgrade to what I have right now.
I’ve also never had a new car. I never thought I could have a new car. Growing up poor, we had our fair share of embarrassingly ugly and decrepit cars. There was the car that a friend said she thought was going to fall apart every time I got in it. There was the gray station wagon with two huge dents on its right side. There was the time my mom drove a church van for a while—that was fun. There was the little Ford that had rope holding its hood closed. There was the car that would take forever to back out of a parking space because of how many times it would stall when in reverse.
So I’m excited about the chance to have a new car. And I’m also really grateful that I can. I’m grateful that I have the means to make this happen for me, that I will be able to put down a sizable down payment, that I won’t have to worry about affording a car payment. I don’t take that for granted at all.
10 Things I Loved in October
1) Beautiful weather. To my delight, Florida started cooling down in October! And by “cooling down,” I mean that we had highs in the low 80s. One morning, I walked out of my apartment and was even a bit chilly! I’ve had the windows open while I work and I really love that I can be outside without sweltering from the heat. Fall!
2) Celebrating Mia’s birthday. My sweet little niece (well, she’s technically my first cousin once removed but that language is so formal!) turned 9 years old this month, and I just do not know where the time has gone. I remember when she was born and now she’s just this super-confident, adorable-as-hell kid. I love her dearly and it was so fun to celebrate her birthday with family and friends.
3) An emergency dental appointment. The only reason I’m marking this as a “love” is that it solved my tooth pain! Remember how I talked about I was having this odd pain whenever I ate, and I thought that maybe a popcorn hull had gotten stuck in my gums? Well, the pain was still there after a week and eating was starting to be an exercise in torture. So I was able to schedule an emergency dental appointment. The dentist couldn’t find anything causing the pain, but he figured it might be some sort of air pocket and that doing a deep clean of that region of my mouth could help. I was due for a dental cleaning anyway, so I was able to get that done at the same appointment. It was a painful appointment because my gums were already feeling a bit sore and digging around in that area didn’t help much. (It took about a week for the soreness from the cleaning to dissipate.) But it solved the issue and now I can eat again without crying! Yay!
4) You Can Sit With Us. I just started listening to this podcast, which is hosted by the wives/partners of The Try Guys. I’ve never seen an episode of The Try Guys, but I was pointed to this podcast from a Reddit thread asking for light-hearted podcasts. It’s exactly that! It’s just four women chit-chatting about life and digging into topics like female friendship, sex, self-care, COVID, and more. It’s not going to change your life by any means, but sometimes, you just want someone light-hearted and fun, and this podcast is exactly that.
5) Lexapro. My dearest little white pill of Lexapro. How it has changed my life over these past few years and specifically, in October. Getting back on my meds was exactly what I needed for my mental health, and now I know that it’s just something my brain needs. I’m so grateful I was able to get a prescription quickly, that it was less than $2 for a 30-day supply, and that my pharmacy was able to fill the script within one day of receiving it.
6) Time off. I scheduled a few random days off in October (a Monday and a Friday) since I had some leftover PTO that I needed to “use or lose” by the end of the year. It was so nice to be able to stretch out my weekend like this! I didn’t make any plans; I let myself sleep in, read as much as I wanted, and have a low-key day at home. It was really great!
7) Amber dates. My friend, Amber, and I got together twice this month and it was much-needed to have some quality time with her. We checked out an Italian spot near her new house and also had a reading date in our favorite park (where an off-leash, super-friendly dog decided to hang out next to us for a while, ha!) Those little adventures were really helpful to me as I was going through my depressive episode.
8) Reorganizing my bathroom. My bathroom closet was really becoming a headache for me, and it was time for a refresh. One of those, remove everything from the closet and reorganize it refreshes. I bought a small lazy Susan to house my first aid supplies and a bunch of miscellaneous products (like nail polish remover, small tissue packets, etc.) I also bought a 3-drawer organizer and I’m using each drawer for a specific purpose: the top drawer for eyeglass wipes, the middle drawer for tampons, and the bottom drawer for nail care products. All of those products were taking up so much space in my bathroom closet because they were all in special packaging. Now they’re all contained! Nothing makes me happier than a super-organized closet, for real.
9) A mom who gets it. Going through depression was hard shit, but it was made a little bit easier thanks to a mom who truly understands. She’s been there, too, and knows how to be there for me in exactly the way I need. She did a lot of listening this month and was constantly checking in on me to see how I was doing. I needed that.
10) Halloween. Halloween was a fun day, even though it was really weird that it was on a Sunday. I got dressed up as a cat, which entailed putting on cat ears and drawing on whiskers, and my mom and I sat out at the end of her driveway to pass out candy to the trick-or-treaters. We didn’t get a ton of kiddos (around 30), but that meant by the end of the night, we could tell the kids to take a handful of candy, which I know the older kids were especially happy about, ha. The weather was beautiful, in the 70s with a great breeze, and we had a good time.
Tell me a highlight of October for you!
Monthly Recap | September 2021
READING
I read 9 books in September, which seems to be my sweet spot these days. I’m at 98 books read for the year, so I’ll hit 100 in early October. We’ll see if I can make it to 125 by the end of the year. It’s doable, especially since I have lots of time off coming up in November and December! My favorite book this month was Caste (and was my only 5-star book of the month!) and my least favorite was A Place for Us.
- One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston (print, owned, Book of the Month) ★★★☆☆
- The One-in-a-Million Boy by Monica Wood (print, library) ★★★☆☆
- The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides (print, owned, Book of the Month) ★★★★☆
- Kingdom of the Blind by Louise Penny (audiobook, library) ★★★★☆
- Hang the Moon by Alexandria Bellefleur (e-book, library) ★★★☆☆
- I’m Not Dying With You Tonight by Kimberly Jones and Gilly Segal (audiobook, library) ★★★☆☆
- Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson (print, owned, Book of the Month) ★★★★★
- A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza (e-book, owned, Amazon) ★★★☆☆
- Rising Star by Susannah Nix (e-book, owned, Amazon) ★★★★☆
WATCHING
- Booksmart – I watched my first movie of the year this month! Ha. And it was a phenomenal one. I loved, loved, loved this movie and I have a hankering to rewatch it soon, which is something I never do with movies. It was hilarious and heartfelt and led by two amazing actresses.
- Nailed It – A new season of Nailed It landed on Netflix just when I needed something light-hearted to watch. Nicole Byer has my heart forever.
- Brooklyn 99 (season 1) – I started rewatching Brooklyn 99 this month because I needed something comforting to watch. Also, their final season just finished up and I want to rewatch the entire series before settling in for that.
LISTENING TO
- Strange Bedfellows – My beloved Jack and Tanner of The Baby-Sitter’s Club Club podcast have been, shall we say, floundering a bit since they finished reviewing the BSC books. One of the things they did during that floundering period was review the book The Governess Game by Tessa Dare, a historical romance. I was delighted by this episode and all I wanted them to do was continue to review romance novels in their typical hilarious way. And they read my mind! They started Strange Bedfellows, a podcast about two men reading and reviewing romance novels and it is everything I never knew I wanted. They are hilarious (especially the segments where they rewrite the sex scenes in the novels, hehe) and I’m so glad they’ve found a new niche! (I want to note, too, that they aren’t making fun of this genre or anything like that. They are kind and respectful while also being hilarious. The hilarity doesn’t come at the expense of the romance genre.)
- This Land – This podcast from Crooked Media is hosted by Rebecca Nagle, a citizen of Cherokee Nation. Season 1 was about a Supreme Court decision affecting the treaty rights of Native American tribes. In season 2, she discusses a law called the Indian Children Welfare Act (ICWA), which gives tribes rights over the government for Indian children in foster care, and specifically, how one couple is trying to dismantle ICWA. The podcast is incredible and definitely worth a listen.
BUYING
- A new living room rug – I am so happy that I bought this new rug! While it could be just a smidge bigger, it still works well for my living room. I love the pattern and the fact that the stripes match my couch perfectly (the pink stripes match my couch pillows, even!) The girls love it, too, and isn’t that the MOST important thing?
- A new TV – Another home upgrade that I’ve had my eye on for a long, long time. I’m so glad I got a bigger TV! It makes me really happy, especially with football season in high gear.
HIGHLIGHTS
nfl football • my first psl of the season • my return to peloton workouts • a coffee date with amber • celebrating my brother’s 35th birthday • celebrating my nephew’s 13th birthday • trampoline jumping • spending time with my sweet cousin and her equally sweet daughter • reconnecting with old friends • sundays at mom’s • having people to reach out to when life feels immeasurably hard