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Februarys of Years Past

Nearly three years ago, I wrote this post: Mays of Years Past, inspired by Lisa who wrote a similar post around that time. I always meant to go through the rest of the months, but it fell off my radar. And then, out of the blue, I remembered I was writing these posts so I decided to work it into my schedule for February. The premise is simple: find photos from different Februarys of your life. Thanks to glorious Facebook, I was able to capture photos all the way back to 2009! It was an interesting experience going through my old photos; at times, I loved it and other times, it just made me sad. But this is my life and it’s been quite a journey. Let’s get to it!

February 2009

Ahh… we were so young. In this photo, my brother is 22 and I’m 21. We took this photo at one of our Super Bowl parties. My oldest nephew was only a few months old at this point, so the stress of fatherhood hadn’t hit him too hard yet. 😉 Also! There’s little Dutch. He was new to our family – we adopted him just a month prior.

February 2010

There aren’t too many pictures of February 2010 on Facebook, so how about a selfie? I’m 22 here and working through a very stressful semester of college. This was also the time when I wrote my father a letter effectively ending our relationship. I look at that girl above and want to give her the biggest hug. She did the hardest thing at such a young age. And it was the best decision she could have made for herself.

February 2011

I got my first passport in February 2011! My mom and I were leaving on our first cruise in May, so we both got passports. My passport photo turned out really good, surprisingly. (The updated passport photo I submitted in 2022… not so much.) You also get a cute photo of Dutch and it’s hard to believe that tiny little toddler is now 15 years old!

February 2012

The first photo is one of my all-time favorites. At my first job out of college, we had an office dog named Tootsie. She belonged to one of the owners of the company and one weekend, I got to dog-sit her. She was an ANGEL and so much fun to have around. I’m also digging the my hair in the second photo. Do I need to bring this to my hairstylist?! And, of course, there’s my Dutchy-boy. Look at that precious little face.

February 2013

I bought my first car in February 2013! For those keeping track, yes, it means I didn’t get my first car until I was 25. My mom and I had shared her car for a very long time, and she was very, very generous to let me take her car to college classes, work, and more, while she either walked to work or waited for me to pick her up. I mean it when I say my mom is the best mom in the world.

February 2014

This photo of my grandma and Dutch always makes me smile. I love the way Dutch is looking at the camera – ugh, that boy was so sweet! I took this photo at our Super Bowl party in 2014—my mom and I were just talking about how we miss our big Super Bowl parties that Grandma and Pops would come to. It’s hard to believe this photo was taken a decade ago and we would lose her just a year and a half later. The other important photo here is the laptop shot—this was the month Mikaela and I started doing writing dates! We’ve been meeting regularly for a full decade now!

February 2015

My youngest nephew Dominic was born in February 2015! I can so clearly remember the day—my mom and I were getting ready to go to the zoo and we got the call from my brother that the baby was coming. It was the best change of plans ever!

February 2016

I love the photo on the left so much. I remember this afternoon I spent with friends. We ate good food, drank delicious sangria, and watched Steel Magnolias (my first time!). It was just such a lovely afternoon, one I still remember with such fondness even 8 years later. There’s also a very cute photo of my Dutchers—at this time, I was living with Bri in Tampa! And Dominic turned one; I took this photo of him at his birthday party.

February 2017

What a lovely mix of photos! Dutch always let me carry him like a baby; he was a pro snuggler. I believe the photo we took with Pops was after he was done with rehab after a back surgery, so we had a lot to celebrate! And for February book club that year, we went mini-golfing! This photo makes me laugh because I remember Mikaela saying, “Why am I the only one posing?!” after we took it. Ha!

February 2018

The hardest month. This photo was taken the day before Dutch died. We knew it was coming, so it wasn’t a surprise and I am forever grateful I had one night to snuggle him as much as possible before I let him go.

February 2019

A much happier February! I adopted Lila a few months after welcoming Eloise into my home. There were some initial squabbles between them, but Lila quickly wore Eloise down with her incessant love and adoration. I was so tickled when they started sleeping near each other!

February 2020

Sometimes, I still can’t believe we made this photoshoot happen a mere two weeks before the world would shut down for Covid-19. What a gift! This was our book club photoshoot, gifted to us by Bri and it was everything we could have wanted. We went downtown by the water to take photos and revel in our friendship. The photos turned out amazing!

February 2021

Some of my favorite photos from 2021 as a whole, as they were taken after sweet little Olive had surgery to remove the tumor in her liver. It was an incredibly risky surgery that many pediatric hospitals were not willing to do, but it was 100% necessary to save Olive’s life. Thankfully, they found the GOAT of all surgeons who was supremely confident in his abilities to do the surgery—and he did. They had to travel to Boston for the surgery (in the middle of a pandemic with a baby with no immune system due to chemo treatment, so they had to drive there from Florida; a plane was not an option), and I was so happy to see them when they returned. Olive was her normal, goofy self and it was such a delight to see!

February 2022

There isn’t too much to say about February 2022, but this is a fun compilation of photos. I got a new coffee table, went for lots of long walks outside because the weather was nice, and freshened up my hair color. What this photo series is really showing is how much I change my hair throughout the years!

February 2023

A very eclectic mix of photographs for last February! There was a permanent jewelry party with my book club gals; my bracelet is still holding strong today! There are my baby girls; such little sweethearts. And then a dinner with my cousin and her family. During this dinner, my cousin let us know that her father was undergoing testing but things didn’t look good as they had found a mass in his lung. This was the beginning of his cancer journey, but we didn’t quite know it yet.

February 2024

There has been a lot of good memories made this February, and I’ll leave you with the day I spent with friends going strawberry picking. We had the best time! Remember Olive, the little baby battling cancer in 2021? Here she is three years later—healthy and happy and whole. She’s been cancer-free since July 2021!

Categories: Life

Monthly Recap | January 2024

The first month of 2024 is behind us, and while January can be a difficult one for so many, it was a pretty good one for me. It was a month of settling into this new year and trying to enjoy myself. I’m pretty happy with the month overall! Let’s take a look back.

BOOKS

In January, I read 9 books. My favorite was Cover Story by Susan Rigetti (review to come) and my least favorite was This Time Next Year by Sophie Cousens. Some other stats:

  • 78% fiction, 22% nonfiction
  • 6 print, 3 audiobooks
  • 3.9 average star rating
  • 44% diverse

Drunk on Love by Jasmine Guillory (print, owned) ★★★★☆ | The Thursday Murder Club by Richard Osman (print, owned) ★★★☆☆ | White Feminism by Koa Beck (audiobook, Spotify) ★★★★☆ | This Time Next Year by Sophie Cousens (print, library) ★★★☆☆ | The Honest Enneagram by Sarajane Case (print, owned) ★★★★☆ | Cassandra in Reverse by Holly Smale (audiobook, library) ★★★★☆ | Iris Kelly Doesn’t Date by Ashley Herring Blake (print, owned) ★★★★★ | Murder on the Orient Express by Agatha Christie (print, owned) ★★★★☆ | Cover Story by Susan Rigetti (audiobook, library) ★★★★★

MEDIA

  • Only Murders in the Building, season 3 (TV) – I love this show. I loved it even more with the addition of Meryl Streep and Paul Rudd.
  • The Traitors, season 2 (TV) – I already talked about my love for this show in my latest Currently post. It’s sensational.
  • The Floor (TV) – I don’t know why I decided to watch this game show hosted by Rob Lowe, but I did and I’m hooked.
  • Sweet Bobby (podcast) – I listened to the majority of this true crime podcast series on my way home from Tennessee. It’s insane.
  • 9/12 (podcast) – I’ve had this podcast series saved for months and months. Dan Taberski has to be one of my all-time favorite journalists.
  • Pantsuit Politics (podcast) – I started listening to this left-leaning political podcast this month and it’s fantastic.
  • The Friendship Paradox – This month, we released two episodes! We talked about how we podcast and our hobbies.
  • Olivia Rodrigo, GUTS (music) – I loved this album so much. It’s so fun to sing along to!

PURCHASES

  • A new iPhone case – I’ve bought three iPhone cases from this particular Etsy shop and I’ve been so pleased with all of them. I like a slim case with a colorful pattern and these are perfect!
  • Valentine’s decorations – I’m not someone who decorates for random holidays but now that I have a cute ledge by my door where I can add seasonal decor, I can’t help myself. I bought two little signs from TJ Maxx and a bouquet of (fake) red roses, and they add a touch of seasonal delight to my home.
  • New bathroom rugs – I talked about these rugs in a TGIF post, but have to admit again how much happiness they have brought me.
  • A new doormat – I usually replace my doormat every year because it’s fun to find something new. This one from Target makes me really happy!

MOMENTS

It’s hard to believe that I was still in Tennessee on my vacation in January, but I was! We kicked off 2024 with a visit to Ober Gatlinburg and snow tubing.

We left Tennessee on January 2nd and the state was most definitely showing off in its wintery glory as we sped through the Smoky Mountains on our way home.

Let’s talk about one of the most delightful moments of January: Meeting Jenny! She came to my fair city with her family and we were able to match our schedules up to meet for coffee on a Friday afternoon. We sat there for over two hours talking about life and books and blogging and football and all sorts of other stuff! I am always nervous before a blogger meet-up (what if we have nothing to say to each other???) but, of course, I needn’t have worried. It was like catching up with a dear friend!

Our book club experience in January was a PowerPoint night! You can see all of the fun topics we came up with! At first, I had no idea what topic I was going to present on, but soon settled on “The 10 Hottest Coaches in the NFL.” As you can see, that’s not the topic I ended up choosing. I had such a fun time thinking of the reality TV futures for my friends!

It was so much fun to sit down with our dear friend Mikaela and record a podcast about what it’s like being an enneagram 1. She was so vulnerable and honest with us, and I think it’s going to be an episode that touches a lot of people. I can’t wait for it to be released tomorrow!

I tried sushi for the first time! Well, the second time—my official first time was on a cruise many years ago, but I barely ate it, so it doesn’t really count. Bri wanted to introduce me to sushi the right way so she took me to a Thai restaurant where she ordered sushi with fried shrimp. And y’all! It was so good! I have been missing out. I don’t know how I feel about raw fish when it comes to sushi, but I’m excited to keep experimenting with cooked options going forward.

I got my nose pierced, which is something I’ve wanted for a long time. I always thought my nose was too big for my face, and I never wanted to draw attention to it with a piercing, but damn if I didn’t want a piercing anyway. And now I’m in a place where I don’t care if my nose is too big… if I want a piercing, I should get a piercing! So I did. I love it and can’t wait to change out the stud for a hoop in a few months!

I finally have a cozy reading chair! I told the story about getting this chair into my bedroom on Friday. I’ve had many different reading sessions in this chair since then and it makes me so happy!

Categories: Life

The Story of the Cozy Reading Chair

As many of you know, I’ve been on the hunt for a cozy chair for the corner of my bedroom for almost 6 months now. I wanted a place where I could curl up with my books and read with the cats snoozing near me.

I’ve been searching Facebook Marketplace and stores that offer chairs for sale in Surfside Beach, SC for a while now to find this chair. I was willing to shell out a few hundred dollars for a chair from Wayfair or Amazon, but I was hoping I could pay a third of those prices for something gently used. Every now and then, I’d find a chair that looked like it was in good condition and the asking price was reasonable. But something was always holding me back (mainly, how I was going to transport the chair and get it up my three flights of stairs—yes, I could rope my brother into helping me and he would do it for me, absolutely, but he’s busy and I hate bugging him for things like this). But sometimes the color was too bright or bold. Or it didn’t have an ottoman. Or it didn’t look as cozy as I wanted.

On Monday afternoon while I was eating lunch, I was reading Kyria’s post about her adventures of selling on FB Marketplace, which prompted me to pull up the app again and see if any new Four Hands Chairs had been listed recently. And then I saw it: A beautiful armchair in a neutral pattern with an ottoman, and the asking price was just $75.

So, I asked if it was available. (It was.) I called my mom to see if she was free to help me go get this chair. (She was.) I messaged the seller and said I could come by that evening. (Good.)

I measured the trunk of my car to see if I could fit the chair. I have a Kia Soul and unfortunately, she was just a bit too small for the chair. Thankfully, my mom has a Kia Sportage, so her trunk space is bigger than mine and we took off for the seller’s home. The chair almost didn’t fit in her car—we had to remove the legs (thankfully, they just twisted right off) and then sit it up in a particular way to get it to fit. Whew, crisis averted.

We stopped by a restaurant on our way home for dinner and then it was off to my apartment to bring the chair home!

I hope you haven’t forgotten about the three flights of stairs. I sure haven’t. I don’t have an elevator, so there was nothing else to do: We had to take the stairs.

It was not fun, friends. My mom and I struggled and I’m surprised we did not have simultaneous heart attacks on the stairs. Our heart rates were UP, is what I’m saying, and we had to take lots of breaks. Once we finally got the chair inside the apartment, we both collapsed on the couch so we could catch our breath and get our heart rates down to a normal level. I guess we’re not ready to take on The Amazing Race, huh? (My mom and I love the show and it would be so fun to race with her, but I always joke that I’d become the most hated person on reality TV. I don’t handle myself well in stressful situations, especially when it’s my mom and I can be snappy with her. People would love my mom for the way she puts up with me, but I’m not ready to be a reviled reality TV show person.)

Anyway, back to the chair. Once it was inside the apartment, we were so relieved! It’s here! But we set it down in the living room so we could collapse on the couch and needed to move it into the bedroom. But no biggie. This would be the easy part of the evening, right?

LOL, no.

First, the chair almost didn’t fit through the opening between my living room and the small hallway between my bedroom and bathroom. Somehow, though, I was able to shove it through with enough force. And then we realized the chair is absolutely, 100% too wide for my narrow doorframe. (This damn apartment and its damn narrow doorways!) We tried everything. We flipped it around every which way to see if there was one side that was less narrow, but nothing was working.

So, I figured it was the bedroom door that was the problem. At first, I thought, “Well, I guess I’ll call maintenance to have them remove the door and help me bring in the chair.” But then I was like, “Wait, it’s just a bunch of screws. I can do that!” So that’s what I did. I removed my entire door from my bedroom so I could bring the chair inside.

But y’all. THE CHAIR STILL WOULDN’T FIT.

I was in panic mode at this point. This is my beloved reading chair that is supposed to be nestled in the corner of my bedroom! I have a whole aesthetic I’m going for here! I don’t know where I could put this chair in my living room because it’s already pretty full with my big sectional and desk. Maybe I could put it in the corner of my living room, in front of the patio door? I never use the patio (because again, these damn narrow doors and not being able to even fit patio furniture through it). I could make it work. It wouldn’t be my original aesthetic, but it would still be a reading nook. EVERYTHING WOULD BE FINE.

I decided to try one more time to get the chair inside my bedroom. I started by picking up the back of the chair and pushing it inside my bedroom. That was the easy part. Then, I angled the bottom of the chair to see if I could fit one side of the chair inside, which would allow me to easily pull the rest of the chair inside. And it worked! Somehow my Tetris-level skills got this chair inside my bedroom and my cozy reading nook plans did not have to be altered.

Because the chair came with an ottoman (which is what I wanted), it’s a little too big to be angled in the corner like I wanted. (If I did that, I’d have to step over the ottoman every time I wanted to get to the furthest corner of my bedroom, and this is where my dresser is and where I usually climb into bed.) I am thinking about rearranging my bedroom so everything fits perfectly, but for now, I have the chair tucked up against a wall.

Of course, the chair is mainly being used by the cats right now. I find them curled up on it about 90% of the time—Ellie likes the chair and Lila prefers the ottoman, although last night I found them curled up together, which was ridiculously cute. Sometimes, they let me use it when I ask nicely. 😉

Categories: Life

10 Things I Loved in November

1) NaBloPoMo 2023

I am so glad I decided to participate in NaBloPoMo for the third straight year (and, of course, thanks to San for being our fearless leader once again). I had a lot of fun this month and I tried to take the pressure off to read and respond to every single blog post. I was really delighted with the response I got to my Week in the Life posts. I have so much fun writing those posts and I’m glad to know that you guys enjoy reading them. They’ll be back in 2024, don’t you worry!

2) Continuing to recover from LASIK

It’s been 6 weeks since I had LASIK and my vision continues to improve. A few weeks after I had the procedure, I was still waking up and immediately reaching for my glasses to put them on… only to realize I didn’t need them anymore! What a fun way to wake up! I’m dealing with a bit of dry eye, but nothing too concerning. I try to do artificial tears a few times a day, which helps. I continue to sleep without my ceiling fan, which is a pain, but hopefully at my appointment in February, I’ll get the all-clear to sleep with the fan again. All in all, things are good on the eyeball front!

3) Pet portraits

I am so glad I finally had these portraits done, and they turned out so well!

Ignore my drywall holes. They need to be patched and I’ve been way too lazy to do so.

Here’s what I did:

  • First, I bought the portrait commission on Etsy and sent the artist a few pictures of my pet. She responded in less than 48 hours with the portrait. She allows for unlimited changes to the portrait, but I loved each one from the start!
  • Second, I bought 11×14 black frames from Amazon to hang the portraits.
  • Third, I sent the files to my local Fed-Ex store for printing. I had the portraits printed on heavy cardstock paper and they all came out really great!
  • Fourth, I framed the portraits (I had to trim them a bit) and hung them up on my wall.

The portrait commission was $9 per portrait, the printing was $9 for all three portraits, and the frames were $8 each. So, all in all, the portraits were $20 each from commission to frame, which is not a bad deal at all!

4) Decorating for Christmas

I used to be someone who waited until after Thanksgiving to start decorating for Christmas, but ever since the pandemic, I’ve been all about decorating early. It’s just nice to have more than a month of holiday cheeriness in my apartment! (I’m also someone who is ready for all my Christmas decorations to go away by December 31st, ha.) I slowly decorate, too, so I would just put stuff up here and there and by the time Thanksgiving week came around, the apartment was fully decked out.

I’ve mentioned before that I’m not putting up my Christmas tree this year since I’m leaving for our cabin vacation the day after Christmas. It’s a little sad not to have a glowing tree in my apartment this year, but I’ll admit that I didn’t hate skipping that blasted fluffing process.

5) A helpful appointment with my psychiatrist

It was serendipity that I had a psychiatrist appointment right as I was starting to feel a depressive episode creep in. We talked through some of the symptoms I was experiencing and developed a plan to help me stem the tide. I’m feeling better now than I did then, and I think that’s mostly because I was able to talk with someone about what I was experiencing and didn’t let it fester in my head for days or weeks.

6) Thanksgiving

I had a lovely Thanksgiving this year with my family. My cousin hosted us and made a delicious meal. I was mostly there to snuggle her cats, but also made sure to talk to the actual humans there, too. My uncle hung in for a while, but eventually exhaustion got the better of him. I’m glad he was able to be with us for a bit of time, though.

7) A birthday eve celebration

My mom and I had a fun day for my birthday eve, as we both were not working. We started with breakfast and then took a trip to two different stores to look for Christmas decor. I was also able to find a few things for my Secret SANta partner, which was exciting! Afterward, we played mini-golf. It was a very competitive game and I was trailing my mom by one point when we were on our last hole… and I ended up beating her by a point! A birthday miracle, indeed. It was a fun day with my mom and I’m glad we got to enjoy the day together!

8) Day of Stephany

I’ve already detailed my Day of Stephany on the blog, so I won’t rehash it all here. It was a good day and I went to bed feeling very satisfied.

9) November book club

We had book club this month at my favorite local pizza place where we enjoyed Greek salad, cheesy bread, and delicious pizza! And we had a really good discussion about our book this month (Like a House on Fire by Lauren McBrayer, which everyone gave 4 or 5 stars). There was a lot to discuss: female friendship, sexuality, marriage, infidelity, etc. I’m glad the book was such a hit since it was one I suggested!

10) Spotify Wrapped for the podcast

My heart was so full when Bri shared our Spotify Wrapped for the podcast with me. It was cool to realize we have listeners in multiple countries (even Australia and Ireland!) and that our podcast has seen some growth over the last year, even though I didn’t really feel like that happened. There is a lot of growth I’m hoping to see in 2024, and this infographic just made me all the more inspired to make that happen.

Tell me a highlight of November for you!

Categories: Life

The Finish Line

NaBloPoMo-rs: We did it! It’s the last day of November. (And everyone who has been trying to keep up with all of our posts: You can breathe a sigh of relief. We won’t be clogging up your feeds every single day… until next November, that is.)

This was a weird year of NaBloPoMo for me, as I kinda flew by the seat of my pants for most of this month. At least for me—I live and die by my editorial calendar and usually have a few months of blog topics planned in advance. For the last two years I’ve done NaBloPoMo, I’ve planned out every single day and followed that plan perfectly. This time around, I planned out probably half of my month and left the rest of the month open for whatever topics came to me during the month.

And, funnily enough, that non-plan worked out perfectly as every day that I came to this blog to write a post, I had something in mind. It might have been something that came to me during a Google search (Picking Out a 2023 Advent Calendar), or perhaps another blogger gave me an idea (In Which I Lose All My Readers by Talking About Car Organization), or maybe I hit a special blogging milestone midway through the month (2,000 Blog Posts Later), or sometimes it was just a post about something I was going through in the moment (Depression Toolkit).

This doesn’t mean I’m giving up my editorial calendar. LOL, no. I need that structure in my life. It helps me publish three blog posts a week because I know exactly what I need to write about. But, perhaps, I could stand to be a little more flexible with how I structure my editorial calendar—and I can definitely continue this flexibility into next year’s NaBloPoMo.

I was very apprehensive to do this challenge again this year. It’s a lot of work writing a blog post every day! And to keep up with other people’s blogs. And to somehow maintain my other hobbies and friendships and family and work life. But I knew I would have FOMO if I didn’t do it, which isn’t always the best reason to do a challenge like this, but I’m glad I decided to do it. It was fun, I got to connect with so many people, and I wrote posts I’m really proud of.

And now? Now, it’s back to my regular three-posts-a-week schedule, which my typing fingers are really glad about. 😉