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Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow

“Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow” is a blog series I do very, very infrequently, ha. The last time I did it was in 2019—the pre-pandemic days! Yowza.

Yesterday

Yesterday, I turned 34! Here’s how I celebrated:

  • I got my birthday drink from Starbucks (a venti peppermint mocha). I really wish Starbucks didn’t make you get your free birthday drink exactly on your birthday (why not the day afterward?), but alas, they do. I brought my drink home and sipped it while finishing up the book You’ll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey.
  • I enjoyed a solid Dolphins win. My boys are on a four-game winning streak, and they made my birthday extra special by having a great win against the Panthers yesterday. I was really proud of the way they played!
  • I ate many slices of Publix birthday cake. Publix makes the best birthday cake, hands down, so when my mom asked me what I wanted for Sunday dessert (we always have a special dessert for our Football Sundays!), I wasted no time telling her exactly what I wanted: Publix chocolate cake with buttercream frosting. Yum, yum!
  • I truly felt the love from family and friends. Receiving so many sweet birthday wishes really did this “words of affirmation” girl’s heart good. I was also really grateful for the comments on the post I published yesterday, as it was a bit of a vulnerable one for me. Thank you for accepting me as I am. <3

Today

Today, I am having my “Day of Stephany”! Here’s what it will entail:

  • McDonald’s breakfast. Do not judge me. I love McDonald’s breakfast more than anything on the planet, and I am planning on getting a delicious sausage McMuffin with a hash brown. Yuuuuuum!
  • A relaxation massage. The massage therapist I normally go to is always incredibly busy (I normally have to book months in advance) and I didn’t schedule this massage in time to get an appointment with her. So I am going to someone different for this massage and I hope I like her!
  • A pedicure with Mikaela. I’m so excited that Mikaela has today off and we’ll be meeting up after my massage for pedicures! It will be nice to catch up, since we weren’t able to have a writing date this weekend. And I am sooooo looking forward to a pedicure. I haven’t had one in months.
  • A long nap. After my busy morning of pampering, I’m planning on coming home and taking a long nap in my cozy bed. “Day of Stephany” must include a nap, duh!
  • Dinner with my family. Tonight, I’m having dinner with my family at Carrabba’s (a chain Italian restaurant). Carrabba’s is just my favorite and I’m looking forward to eating my body weight in carbs.

Tomorrow

Tomorrow, I return to work after 10 days off. Wah! It shall be a busy day, but I’m going to try to set myself up for success by:

  • Getting up early and working out. I will be tempted to sleep in until the last possible second, but I think forcing myself to do a tough Peloton workout will be what my brain needs tomorrow morning.
  • Taking a shower and putting on real clothes. Again, this is just to put myself in the right headspace to tackle a long to-do list after 10 days away from work. I don’t always do this, but I always feel a bit more prepared to take on the day when I do.
  • Implementing the Pomodoro method. I love the Pomodoro productivity method, as I do my best work when I can take frequent breaks. The Pomodoro method, for those that aren’t aware, is a technique in which you work for 25 minutes and then take a 5-minute break. You do that three times and then, after the fourth 25-minute working block, you can take a 15-minute break. (I use this website to track my working blocks.) Whenever I really need to focus on getting stuff done, I use the Pomodoro method, and I think it will come in handy tomorrow.

What is something you did yesterday, will do (or did!) today, and will do tomorrow?

Categories: Recurring Series

TGIF (v. 40)

The highs of my week were too many to count! So let’s make a list:

  • Buying a new car. I love her so much!
  • A sweet email from a blog reader who wanted to tell me how much my blog meant to her and to give me a blog appreciation gift. I don’t know how I got so lucky to have such amazing readers—I love you all dearly!
  • Decorating my apartment for Christmas. How I love reading by a Christmas tree and seeing all of my beloved decorations sitting around my apartment.
  • A wonderful Thanksgiving with my family. My cousin did an amazing job and I left with a full belly and happy heart.
  • A three-game winning streak for my Dolphins! This season has been a struggle, to say the least, and it’s been pretty great to have a bunch of wins under our belt after thinking we’d become the laughingstock of the league.
  • A whole week off work. It has been so nice to sleep in every day and relax!

The low of my week was nothing in particular! I am trying really hard not to think about work and everything that awaits me next week. It’s going to be a busy march to the end of the year.

A Reel that made me laugh was this one from Lisa Gilroy. It really makes you wonder why they named it that!

A podcast episode I enjoyed was The Flannon Isles Mystery from Stuff You Should Know. I love when these guys recap an unsolved mystery—add in a lighthouse and a mysterious disappearance of lighthouse keepers, and you’ve got me riveted!

I’m currently reading Cuff Me by Lauren Layne, which is a contemporary romance (with a really embarrassing name for the title!) and You’ll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey: Crazy Stories about Racism by Amber Ruffin and Lacey Lamar.

The best money I spent was on my car! Of course it was. Have I mentioned how happy I am to have a new car?

My plans this weekend include a writing date with Mikaela and a pre-birthday dinner with Amber on Saturday night. And Sunday is my birthday! Yayyyyy!

What are you currently reading?

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A Weekend in Pictures: A Christmas Tree, a New Car & Dog Snuggles

I kicked off my weekend by dragging all of my Christmas decorations out of storage so I could transform my apartment into a holiday wonderland! It was fun to put up the tree (the above photo was taken right after I got all the pieces connected and plugged it in; it still needed to be fluffed and the crooked top half needed to be fixed, haha). I love how automatically cozy a home looks once the Christmas tree is up. <3

I ordered in Dominos on Friday evening and watched the latest episode of The Bachelorette. A rockin’ Friday evening, can’t you tell?!

Saturday kicked off with a long walk around my apartment complex. I listened to my audiobook for some of this walk and my fantasy football podcast for the second half.

After my walk and a shower, I met up with Mikaela at Starbucks for our writing date. I planned on working on some articles for work, but I just wasn’t feeling it so I switched to reading blogs and working on a post for next week. I was much happier with that decision!

And then, well, you all know what happened after my writing date! I picked my mom up and we drove to the Kia dealership to test-drive a Soul. Four hours later, I drove away in a brand-new car! Eeks!

I definitely wanted to drive around in my snazzy new car, so Mom and I drove over to Robert’s Christmas Wonderland for our annual visit. We usually go sometime in December and I think we were a bit too early as there wasn’t a ton to look at. It was slim pickins! But we had fun strolling around and I ended up leaving with a new decoration and tree topper. Yay!

I went out to dinner with my mom and stepdad on Saturday night (of course, I drove. I want to drive everywhere now, which is a major departure for me, haha). We went to Bonefish Grill and had a lovely meal together! (I forgot to take any pictures of our meals, so you get a surreptitious shot of their wine selection, lol.)

I did a little Christmas shopping (for my home) on Sunday morning. I picked my mom up and we headed to TJ Maxx and Target to check out their decorations. I bought some new Christmassy dish towels, a new Christmas decoration, cat-themed wrapping paper, and a toy for Chip and Lucy at TJ Maxx. At Target, I picked up some lights for my patio, more garland (I’m obsessed with garland), and gel clings! It was a successful outing for sure.

After our Christmas shopping, we made a pit stop at the Kia dealership. I realized late on Saturday night that I had forgotten to clean out this secret compartment in my car where I kept my key card (which opens the gate at my apartment complex) and library card. Thankfully, the sales guy who helped me out yesterday was working and he got it for me easily! Whew. A key card replacement is $50 and I did not want to eat that cost.

After our busy morning, it was time to relax for the rest of Sunday. I lounged on my mom’s couch, snuggled with the dogs, and played on my phone for most of the day. It was just what I needed! What a weekend, eh? Thankfully, I have the whole week off work (+ the Monday of next week) and I can’t wait to sleep in every day, catch up on reading, and get some stuff done around my apartment (like finishing decorating, hanging up my outside lights, and installing a set of floating shelves in my dining room). I also signed up to bring cookies and deviled eggs to my family’s Thanksgiving meal, so I will need to do that on Wednesday night/Thursday morning. It shall be a busy week!

How was your weekend?

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TGIF (v. 39)

The high of my week was learning about my benefits for 2022! Working for a large, global company has some advantages, like the fact that we have a big human resources team that is devoted to finding ways to make their employees happy. Two of the benefits I’m most excited about are student loan assistance ($100 per month, straight to my loans!) and getting 36 FREE therapy sessions using a specific app. FREE THERAPY. OMG. I’ve been wanting to go back to therapy for a long time now, but since I’m on a high-deductible health insurance plan, each visit was going to be a pretty hefty expense. And now I can go weekly for, like, 9 months for FREE. Whaaaat.

The low of my week was making a mistake at work. I was working on a project (a redesign of a client’s website) and we were ready to send the new website to the client for their review and realized pages were missing—pages I was supposed to have written. It just completely fell off my radar to do that so I had to furiously write five website pages this week and add them to the site. Ugh. I hate making mistakes! I spent a good, long time beating myself up about it but my boss reminded me that I’m human and have a lot on my plate. And really, I didn’t set the project back at all and was able to get everything done in record time. But it still put me in a funk for a little bit!

A blog post I loved was The Last Time… by Runners Fly. She wrote a thoughtful post about how everything we do, we will someday do for the last time. But we never think about that and, as such, we can get caught up in the annoyances and get distracted by other things going on in our lives. But what if we took a moment to think about doing something for the last time? How more appreciative we may become! I really loved this post because, for me, I do think about doing things for the last time; it’s an anxiety trigger for me. There are times when I end a phone call with my mom and I go into a panic that that was the last time I will ever speak to her. (I end every call with “I love you” because I always want those words to be the last ones she hears from me.) It’s hard for me to appreciate these little moments I get with my mom because I’m just thinking about how scary this world will become when she’s no longer in it. (I may have dependency issues when it comes to my mom. Maaaaaaybe.) Anyway, I really want to get to a place where I can think of things I’m doing for the last time with fondness and not anxiety, but it’s a work in progress. This is probably a good exercise for me to start doing so I can train my brain to think more positively about stuff like this.

David suggests taking simple, mundane moments and behaving as if you’re doing them for the last time. Not in a depressing way, as in “If I get in a terrible car accident I’ll never be able to mow the lawn again!” but more of an exercise to become aware of how precious these activities really are. I did it the other day when I drove my daughter home from school.

A podcast episode I enjoyed was The Great Helga Hype on Decoder Ring. Such a fascinating episode about art and relationships and mystery. It’s all about an artist named Andrew Wyeth and this series of paintings he did about a woman named Helga. But who is Helga? What is her relationship to Andrew? What does Andrew’s wife think about this? FASCINATING.

I’m currently reading a lot of books, like always. I am still working through Jesus and John Wayne, but I think I should finish it up this weekend. I’m also halfway through Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot by Mikki Kendall on audio. It’s so good. Yesterday, I started two new books: The Book Woman of Troublesome Creek by Kim Michele Richardson and The Lady’s Guide to Celestial Mechanics by Olivia Waite (a queer romance).

The best money I spent was $9 on an incline scratching pad for the girls. I’ve only seen Ellie using it so far, but she’s usually my early adopter. I think the incline helps her get a really good scratch because she uses it ferociously. It probably feels really good!

My plans this weekend include hanging out at home tonight (maybe I’ll set up my Christmas tree?!). Tomorrow, I have a writing date with Mikaela in the morning and then a day date with my mom in the afternoon. We’re going to test drive a Kia Soul and then go to our local Christmas shop to look at their decorations. (I’ve always wanted a big, beautiful wreath for my front door and I think this year is the year I finally make that happen). And Sunday is football with the fam, of course!

What was the highlight of your week?

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Always, Sometimes, Never

I always snooze my alarm.

I sometimes turn off my alarm and then fall back to sleep for another 30 minutes (oops).

I never check social media or email when I wake up.

 

I always do my dishes throughout the day. (Especially with working from home—a nice way to spend a work break!)

I sometimes leave a full sink of dishes for the morning. (But I really try not to!)

I never use my dishwasher. (It doesn’t make sense as a single person.)

 

I always give a pet if I walk by one of my cats while moving around my apartment.

I sometimes give the girls a third serving of treats. (I am their servant.)

I never pick up Lila. (She hates being picked up, a fact that makes me very sad.)

 

I always want to use my phone when I’m sitting at a red light.

I sometimes can resist the urge to use my phone and can sit there quietly with my thoughts while I wait for the light to turn green.

I never drive without music or a podcast on.

 

I always use a bookmark when I’m reading a print book.

I sometimes read scathing reviews of popular books that I’m not loving. (“Why does everyone love this terrible book so much?!” It’s nice to find “my people” in those reviews, haha.)

I never read for long stretches of time.

 

I always eat lunch at my desk. (But I’m usually reading Reddit, not working.)

I sometimes take a power nap in the middle of the workday.

I never check work email during my off-hours.

 

I always make cookies for any holiday gathering.

I sometimes am too full from Thanksgiving dinner to eat dessert. (Sadddd.)

I never eat pumpkin pie. (Yuck.)

 

I always bring a list when I’m grocery shopping.

I sometimes listen to a podcast while I’m grocery shopping.

I never deviate from my grocery route. (I start on the left side, near the dairy aisle and then swiftly move up and down each aisle, usually ending at the ice cream section.) (If I don’t need ice cream, my route ends at the produce section.)

 

I always start my day with a few sips of Gatorade. (I always wake up thirsty, but water is gross to me in the morning.)

I sometimes make myself a hot breakfast. (Mmm, eggs!)

I never drink water in the morning. (See above.)

 

I always set my AC at 72 degrees at night.

I sometimes scroll Instagram or play games on my phone rather than reading right before bed.

I never go to bed without saying goodnight to the girls.

 

What’s something you always, sometimes, and never do?