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Virtual Coffee Date (V. 5)

The last time I checked in with a virtual coffee date was in May! I think it’s high time we sit down again, don’t you think?

If we were having coffee today… I’d probably want to tell you about the incredibly cool experience I had this past week. My local Painting With a Twist hosted an event for the victims of the Orlando shooting and I was so honored to attend. I went with a group of coworkers (there were 12 of us in total!) and it was a really wonderful night. I’m not much of an artist, so I don’t particularly enjoy things like painting because I put a lot of pressure on myself to be perfect, even though I just don’t have that creative gene. So my painting didn’t turn out that great, but I’m still glad I went and showed my support. In the end, this little event raised more than $2,000 for The OneOrlando Fund, and I got to spend a few hours with my coworkers (whom I love dearly), so it was a special night.

If we were having coffee today… I might express excitement over the fact that I have a $50 credit sitting in my Amazon account, due to their recent lawsuit. I’m guessing I got such a big payout due to the year I spent more than $650 on Kindle e-books. Heh. (I have since gone back to using the library and only buying e-books when absolutely necessary.) I’m not sure what I’m going to spend my money on, but I think I might buy something very boring like pots and pans since I’m going to need them when I move into my own apartment in the fall.

If we were having coffee today… you might ask me to clarify what I meant by that last statement. And I’d tell you that things aren’t 100% confirmed yet, but it looks like Roomie and I will be moving to our own places in the fall. There’s a part of me that’s sad, a part of me that’s excited, and a part of me that’s really nervous. I am sad because I love living with Roomie and will miss having her around (though we’re planning to do weekly date nights because we need them in our life!) I am excited because I don’t love living in Tampa and want to be back on the “right” side of the bridge (as the locals say here). And I am nervous to figure out how to afford living on my own (rent prices for one-bedroom apartments are astronomical, truly). Deep breaths. It will all work out exactly the way it is meant to.

If we were having coffee today… I might talk to you about my intense need for a new mattress and ask if you have any tips for getting an affordable mattress. The mattress I sleep on now is only a full and was a hand-me-down, so it’s really time for an upgrade. A mattress store near me is having a going-out-of-business sale with mattresses up to 70% off! I might go in and check it out – can’t hurt, right?

If we were having coffee today... you might ask me about dating and I’d probably just roll my eyes and groan. I’m back on Tinder after a brief hiatus, mainly because I feel like nothing happens on OK Cupid anymore and I’m not ready to join Match just yet. My last few dates (all from OK Cupid) have been a snoozefest and I am feeling discouraged about romance.

If we were having coffee today… you might see my eyes light up when I talked about the progress I’m making on my novel. I’m still not writing as much as I want to (sometimes I daydream about working part-time, where I could spend my afternoons working on my novel, but then I remember I really love getting a fat paycheck, so nah). When I do get the chance to write, I love the process so, so, so much. There’s truly nothing like bringing characters to life on paper (or document, as the case may be!)

Okay, a coffee date can’t be all one sided! What would you tell me about during our coffee date?

Categories: Life

Let’s Talk about Book Clubs

A few weeks ago, in the comment section of my book review post, Kathleen requested I write a post on my book club. I feel like I talk about my book club a lot on this blog, but I don’t go into many specifics. So, today, if you’ll indulge me, let’s talk about book clubs.

on joining

My start to this book club was a little rocky. And mostly due to my own silly insecurities. Originally, I planned to join in January 2011. After searching on Meetup.com, I found a young women’s book club and it sounded perfect for me. So, I joined and even read the book pick for the month, but the day of the meeting, I panicked and bowed out. I just… got scared. Worried about what people would think of me. Going to a social event on my own is terrifying for me and I couldn’t get past my own insecurities at that time.

Nearly two years later, I summoned the courage to try again. It was the exact same book club, but it had a new leader, Amber, who is the nicest and most welcoming person I’ve ever met. I ended up joining around the time Amber was hosting a new members’ get-together. It would just be a few new people who wanted to join the club and some long-time book club members, getting together at a restaurant downtown for drinks and tapas. It was honestly the best situation for me as I got to “join” in a low-key setting and get to know some of the members before I attended my first meeting.

My first actual book club meeting was in October of 2012 and it went so wonderfully! We met at a restaurant, and it was a small group, which was perfect for me. And from then on, I’ve been a book club regular!

our meetings

Like most book clubs, we meet once a month and we pick a date based on everyone’s schedules. Sometimes it’s a midweek dinner, other times it’s a Friday night or Sunday morning brunch.

If we choose a date during the week, usually we’ll meet at a restaurant for a few hours because schedules are busy and we all need to get home in a timely manner.

If we choose a Friday night, we’ll usually try to pair it with a fun outing. We’ll meet at a restaurant to eat a good meal and talk about the book, and then drive over to another location for some fun. Some of the things we’ve done: laser tag, bowling, shuffleboard, and playing games at a brewery downtown.

During the summer months, we’ll often schedule “brunch book club by the pool” where everyone comes to my pool on Sunday morning for brunch potluck, mimosas, and pool time! It’s so much fun and usually my favorite type of book club we have!

So anyway, we definitely don’t stick to any one type of book club outing. We like to keep things interesting and it honestly just feels like a “girls’ night out” than the type of book club most people expect. And I love that! 🙂

discussing books

Another way we might not be like a typical book club is with our discussions. We don’t have in-depth discussions about the books we choose. I know some people like to discuss themes and literary plot devices, but we prefer to just chat about how we felt while reading the book. Sometimes, if a book we read comes with a discussion guide, we’ll answer a few questions from that. Generally, though, we just like to discuss different plot points and our reactions to them. We don’t tend to pick super literary books, anyway, but more “feel good” books, which are more fun to discuss thoughts and feelings than literary themes.

choosing books

We have a few parameters for choosing our monthly read:

It can’t be one someone has already read. We like to have the reading experience together!
Ideally, it will be a book two or more of us have marked as “to-read” on Goodreads.
Ideally, it will have a rating of 3.5 stars or higher on Goodreads.
It has to have multiple copies available at the library. (Nearly all of us are library users, so we run into problems if the book has a long waiting period or is completely unavailable. This also means we don’t read popular books, so we haven’t read The Girl on the Train or All the Light We Cannot See as a group.)

Typically, Amber comes to our meeting with a few book ideas, and sometimes, some of us will also have some options. We’ll read aloud the book synopsis from Goodreads and then decide collectively if we think the book will be a good fit. It usually doesn’t take us very long to pick a book, and we tend to choose cute YA novels, engaging thrillers, or women’s lit.

new members

We don’t regularly take new members. We no longer have our group listed on Meetup.com (Amber actually took it down the month after I joined – glad I joined when I did!) Our group now exists in a private Facebook group.

Nearly all of us are introverts, so we like keeping our meetings small. Having 10-12 members at a meeting starts to feel overwhelming. But every now and then, we’ll do a “bring a friend to book club” meeting if we feel like we need to add new faces and new personalities to the group. That’s actually how my BFF Bri started attending!

special events

We like to do something special at least once a year to celebrate the book club’s anniversary. In 2013, five of us went on a two-day weekend cruise, and in 2014, we took the Ghost Tour of St. Petersburg. This year, we’re thinking about spending a weekend in Orlando for the Food & Wine Festival!

Other than that, we’ll get together for dinner every now and then. We had a 90s gift exchange for Christmas last year. A few of us got together to carve pumpkins last October. I’ll meet up with Amber for lunch since we work near one another. A book club friend and I started meeting up for writing dates. We all met up for a painting date for a friend’s birthday. Things like that!

We have so much fun together. They are more than just my “book club girls,” but some of my closest friends and favorite people. Growing up, I didn’t have friends who really understood me, or even really accepted me for who I was. These girls are my people. They get me. I never knew that I could find people who accepted me as I was, and let me be my neurotic, weird, crazy self. I love these girls with my whole heart and I’m so glad I took a chance on joining this group. It’s been one of the best decisions of my life.

Do you belong to a book club? How does it differ from mine?

Categories: Travel

I Left My Heart in Savannah

Last weekend, my mom and I took a quick trip to Savannah for my birthday. We drove up there on Friday and came back on Monday, so we had about three nights and two full days there.

I think I could have stayed there forever.

I titled this post “I left my heart in Savannah” because it’s true. Savannah stole a tiny piece of me.

I don’t know about you, but when I go on vacation, I always feel a little off-balance. I love exploring and traveling, but there is really nothing like home. Home is familiarity. Home is your own space and your regular grocery store and your favorite coffee shop and your local library and the Target where you know exactly what lays in every single aisle. So when I leave my city to go somewhere else, I feel like a foreigner. I feel out of place, as if I’m shouting from the rooftops that “I am a visitor to your city! I am new! I do not know the streets. Or the best brunch spots. Or where the library is. I couldn’t give someone directions if you gave me a map to look off of.”

And then I come back home and I breathe a bit easier. Ahh. This is home. This is my spot. This is familiar and comfortable and right.

Savannah was different. Savannah felt familiar. It felt comfortable. It felt right from the moment I drove into the city. Sure, I had to use Google Maps every single time I wanted to explore a new part of town, but it just felt like I was learning my way around my city. I felt connected to Savannah. To the picturesque tree-lined streets and the beautifully historic buildings and the sweet, gracious people and the charming historic squares. Savannah felt like home.

My mom and I are similar in many ways, and one way is that we’re both low-key introverts. We like to be busy and do things, but we also need time to recuperate. So I knew we didn’t want a jam-packed vacation. We wanted to eat good food, go on some tours, and just mosey around the city at our pace. And that’s what we did.

We went on two different tours: a walking tour of the city and a ghost tour. Both Lisa and Jess had recommended Savannah Dan’s walking tour, so I booked a tour with him. I remember the first time I saw him walking up to the meeting square and I got this strange fluttering in my belly, like I was meeting a celebrity! He was dressed in a powder blue suit and white hat, and he was friendly and personable and funny from the get-go. The whole tour was amazing and I’m so happy we did it, even if I did want to chop my feet off at the end (I am not used to walking and standing around for two hours!) I would recommend him to anyone. Hey, even my mom, who gets bored by history, liked it. So, if that’s not a ringing endorsement, I don’t know what is.

(The ghost tour was okay. I booked a cheap one – $13 for both my mom and me! – because I was trying to be conscious of our budget. It was interesting, and our host was quite the character, but nothing to write home about.)

We visited the Cathedral of St. John the Baptist, which was one of the best parts of my trip. Being in that cathedral, walking down the aisle and gazing at the stained glass paintings and stations of the cross… just… awe-inspiring. It was peaceful, serene, holy, and sacred. And so, so, so, so, so gorgeous.

The only house tour we did was Juliette Gordon Low’s house tour, the founder of the Girl Scouts. I wasn’t a Girl Scout, but I wanted to walk through the house because I just adore history and I wanted the chance to view such a historic landmark of Savannah. And it was so beautiful. Goodness. I can’t remember, but I think all the furniture is original to Juliette’s family and it was staged like it was when Juliette lived in this house. I loved walking through the rooms and trying to imagine people living in this place and having conversations and eating meals and sleeping and just… life. It was pretty incredible.

In any event, my trip was fantastic. Honestly, I knew I would most likely love Savannah. After all, I named it one of the top three cities I would move to, if I ever wanted to leave Florida. I didn’t know I would fall in love with this adorable town. I didn’t know I would leave a piece of me when I left. I’m not saying I’m moving to Savannah anytime soon. The thought of the cost of such a move, starting over with a new job and new friends, and being far away from family makes my stomach knot up in anxiety. What I am saying is that Savannah will forever hold a special place in my heart. And that I’ll be back to visit this charming city very soon.

Categories: Recurring Series

Five For Friday

1 – Today begins Day 1 of my official sugar detox, with Nicole’s 30-Day Sugar Detox. The first 20 days have been about self-discovery, education, and giving us the tools to create a low-sugar lifestyle. I have been really enjoying doing the work this course requires because it’s caused me to get down and dirty with my feelings regarding sugar and how I use it as a coping mechanism. I’m nervous and excited about what these next five days will bring. I’m sure there will be withdrawals and cravings, but since I’ve never done a detox to this magnitude (literally, no sugar. Not even fruit!), I’m interested in what other epiphanies come to me and how it makes me feel once the withdrawals pass. It’ll be a hard five days, but I think I’m ready for it.

2 – Last Friday, I went out with a bunch of coworkers to happy hour at Carrabba’s and then to see the movie This Is The End at the Tampa Pitcher Show (this really cool movie theater where you can eat dinner while watching a movie) We might be the only four people in the world who thought this movie was terrible. The first 15 minutes were moderately funny and from then on, it just kept getting weirder and weirder and weirder. Maybe I’m just sensitive to topics like the end of the world and people poking fun at it. Maybe I just don’t get stoner comedy. Maybe I’m just too much of a fuddy-duddy but man, give me Vince Vaughn and Ben Stiller over this group of guys any day. We all spent most of the movie shaking our heads and saying, “WHAT is going on?” Finally, about an hour into the movie, we just got up and left. Very disappointing!

3 – On Tuesday, I had to take my car in for service. Monday morning on the way to work, my “maintenance required” light turned on and didn’t shut off. For the past month and a half, it’s been flashing at me for about 5 seconds when I turn my car on but then goes away, so as any good car owner would, I’ve been ignoring it. So I made an appointment (online! Oh, how I love companies that let you book appointments online.) and took her in. Luckily, the only thing she needed was an oil change, although there was some slight corrosion on my battery and for a mere $50, I could get that cleaned up. (I said no thanks, as it’s something I can do on my own. I am woman, hear me roar!)

4 – I know the weather is the most boring thing to talk about, but on Wednesday, I woke up at 5am and I looked at the weather. EIGHTY FRIGGIN DEGREES. At 5am! Every time I walk outside, it feels like I’m walking into a furnace. A wall of intense heat and humidity just hits you smack in the face. It’s awful. And it’s only June. Wah, wah, wah. I’m totally used to this type of weather (and hot > cold for me), but I still want a chance to complain.

5 – I have a very low-key weekend planned since I’ll be detoxing. I want to get in two workouts on Saturday and Sunday, a trip to the farmer’s market, grocery store, and possibly check out an organic food market (though I hear their prices are outrageous, so I’m not sure if it will be a very successful trip…), and a trip to the library to pick up a requested book. I’ll be sticking close to home for most of the weekend, though, as I know my energy levels will be down. Lots of reading and lots of writing (and lots of napping?) are on the agenda!

Have a wonderful weekend everyone!