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Ask Stephany Anything: The Finale (For Now)

Happy Wednesday, friends! I hope this week is treating you well. I’m returning to my Ask Stephany Anything series for my final set of questions. My answers to the questions posed by these two blog friends were very wordy so I decided to give them their own post! Let’s dive in:

Suzanne asks…

As a former copywriter, I am curious about your job. How did you get into it? What are the best and worst parts about it? Was there something else you always thought you’d do for your career? 

I got my job as a content writer for my current company after over a year of job hunting. I was working as a marketing assistant at a direct marketing company and hated it. There was never enough work for me to do and the job wasn’t challenging at all. I wanted to stay in marketing, but something that was focused more on the writing side of things than the analytical side (which is what my job at my old company had evolved into). I knew I had the writing chops to work as a copywriter, so I searched for copywriting/content marketing jobs and went through a rigorous process to get the job I have now, including writing three different writing samples. It was all worth it!

The best part of my job is that every day is different. Some days I’m writing all day, other days I’m in meetings, and other days I’m editing or publishing content to websites. Another thing that I really like about my job is that I’m not micromanaged. As long as I get my work done, my bosses don’t care about the order in which I get things done. They aren’t constantly checking in with me about this or that task. (This was a significant departure from my old job!) And it’s fun to learn new things! I have learned so much about so many different topics: replacement windows, roofing, house siding, gutter systems, foundation repair, cancer types and treatment, Covid testing, heart conditions, etc. I can now debate the merits between shingle and metal roofs as well as discuss all the different types of Covid tests and when to get which one. For someone who loves to learn, this is a great job to do it in.

The worst part of my job is that it can get monotonous at times. Even though every day is different, we work on a monthly schedule so sometimes it feels like Groundhog Day when I have to just repeat everything I did last month. More writing, more editing, more posting. It can also get very stressful, especially towards the end of the month when everything is due.

I don’t think I ever really thought about what I wanted from my career, honestly. It just wasn’t something I thought about much growing up. Well, that’s not strictly true. I definitely thought I wanted to be a veterinarian because I loved animals so much. However, I took one college-level Anatomy & Physiology course and quickly realized that a science major was not in the cards for me.

Originally, I thought I’d go into teaching because it seemed like the most obvious path for someone like me. But teaching isn’t one of my skill sets, which became quickly apparent when I was doing my teaching internships. After that, I switched my major to communications to do something that was more writing-focused and decided to seek out marketing jobs. I didn’t exactly know what in marketing I wanted to do, but that industry seemed the most interesting to me.

Anne asks…

Were you exclusively a “dog person” before getting Eloise and Lila?

We didn’t have cats in my family growing up. My grandma was allergic to them, and we were more of a dog family than anything else. My mom grew up with dogs, and I’ve had a dog in my life since I was 10. I was never someone who didn’t like cats, but I did believe in the very wrong assumption that cats are aloof jerks and dogs have way more personality.

It was during the last few years of Dutch’s life that I decided my next pet would be a cat. Those years were incredibly difficult from a caretaking perspective. He needed frequent bathroom breaks (every 3 hours) and he didn’t settle down at night very easily, which could be frustrating and very tiring. I spent many hours trying to help him get comfortable enough to sleep at night. (Eventually, he went on medication to help with his nighttime anxiety.) At the time, I was working in Tampa five days a week. It was a 40-minute round-trip drive to come home at midday to take him out. (My mom, bless her, helped out with these walks, usually 3-4 times a week.) I also had to come immediately home after work to take him out. I was happy to do it, of course, and I wouldn’t wish those years away for anything. But it was very exhausting, especially doing it all alone. My next pet would need to be much easier to care for and able to be alone for long periods. (Of course, this is way before I knew my work life would be changing drastically and I’d be home all day every day!)

Then, the more I thought about having a cat, the more excited I became! I have always loved cats; I just never had a chance to bond with one. But if I was at a friend’s house and they had a cat, I was always enamored with it. I’m equal opportunity when it comes to animals!

And now I have my girls. Eloise and Lila are not aloof jerks with no personality! They have oodles of personality (like all cats do!) and are the sweetest, snuggliest, most special babies. I love them so much!

Anne also asked…

What sparked your deep love of reading and writing? You are such a literary-minded soul, and I always love to know if it was a teacher, or a parent, or a friend, who helped make books/writing such a passion for those who love them. 

I have always been naturally inclined towards reading. I was the kid who loved the language arts/reading part of school way more than the math/science. My mom was probably the person who made me a reader, though, as she was always reading and took me to the library every single Saturday when I was a kid so that I could pick out books. I would always check out the maximum number of books I was allowed to check out (at the time, it was 12) and voraciously read them throughout the week. I think it helped that my mom encouraged my love for reading and never made me feel like I should be doing something else with my time. (I mean, I was also a nerdy student who would do my homework the moment I got home, so she never had to worry about that with me, haha.) Books are a source of comfort for me, and there’s never been a drop-off reading period in my life. I know many people read less and less in high school and college, but that never happened to me. I’ve always kept reading as my #1 hobby.

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Categories: Recurring Series

A Weekend in Pictures

I woke up from my nap on Friday to this sweet face right next to me. What a doll! She often interrupts my sleeping to beg for pets (often by poking me with a claw right on my face), but I can’t even be mad at her. She’s too cute!

After my nap, I took a trip to Target. I needed to get a gift for Olive for her birthday as well as one for Mikaela who just had a birthday. I couldn’t help stopping by the books section, but I didn’t buy anything. I was good!

Once home from my Target expedition, I took a hot bubble bath that was so relaxing. The rest of my night was fairly low-key—I Facetimed with my mom, watched a few episodes of Brooklyn 99, wrote Saturday’s blog post, and read my books.

My busy Saturday began with a long walk around my apartment complex. It was a brisk 61 degrees when I woke up, and the walk felt really good. I listened to the latest episode of Office Ladies during my walk. I don’t *love* this podcast (the deep dives on random subjects are kinda ridiculous), but all of the behind-the-scenes info about life on the set of a TV show are super interesting. It’s amazing how much work goes into even a one-second scene!

I test-drove a 2021 Mazda CX-5 on Saturday (my mom came with me), and man, was she a beauty. Both to look at and to drive. I have four other cars on my list that I want to test-drive and I’m not in any rush to buy, so I’m taking my time with this research assignment and only went to one dealership this weekend. I had a really good experience with the car salesman (shocking!) and he didn’t pressure me at all to make a decision. All in all, it was a pleasant experience and made me so excited to finally have a new car sometime in the near future.

I was so excited that I finally got the alert that this book was ready for me to pick up at the library! I’ve been on hold for over a month now, which is unusual for my library system. It’s a 2020 release and I usually never have trouble getting those books fairly quickly. It just means a lot of people are requesting it, which is a good thing since this is an important topic!

Saturday was Olive’s birthday party! If you remember, Olive is my dear friend Mikaela’s baby who had a rare and aggressive form of cancer (her chance of survival was 9%). Somehow, she made it through an incredibly risky surgery and countless rounds of chemo and has emerged victorious from her cancer treatment. She’s had a few scans since she finished treatment, and all of them have been clear. Even more astonishing is that her treatment didn’t stunt her development at all! Both physically and cognitively, she’s right where she should be. Isn’t that incredible?! Warrior baby, for sure.

Olive turns two on Wednesday, and we celebrated with a very fun birthday party for her. Myself, I enjoyed chit-chatting with my friends Amber and Lynn (we wore party hats and got tatted up, as shown in the picture above) and watching Olive destroy her cake. 🙂 It was such a joyous day!

Saturday evening was an eventful one! I wanted to do a load of laundry so I started the washer and went on my merry way. The way the water was filling the basin sounded different than usual, but I didn’t think much of it.

… Until my downstairs neighbor knocked on my door to tell me that water was leaking into her kitchen. Sure enough, when I looked at my own kitchen (my stackable washer/dryer is lodged into the space across from my fridge), there was an inch of water on the floor! I immediately shut off the washer (and discovered that no water was even flowing into the basin!) and called emergency maintenance.

What a mess! I live in a third-floor apartment and learned that water had not only leaked into the second-floor apartment below me but also into the first-floor apartment and the concrete outside. OOF. I felt terrible! I know it wasn’t my fault (I’ve never had an issue with my washer before!), but damn. There wasn’t much maintenance could do for me on Saturday night. Because of the way the kitchen is set up, they are going to need to first remove my fridge so that they can move out my washer/dryer to get into the space where it sits to figure out what’s causing the leak. So I’ll have maintenance in my apartment all day today—a day in which I have three meetings, argh!

I’m crossing my fingers and toes that they’ll just set me up with a new washer/dryer since the one I have now is super old and makes so much noise. I usually can’t run my dryer if I have meetings at work or I’m watching something on TV. I’ll even turn it off when if my mom Facetimes me while it’s running. Super annoying.

Once the mess of my leaking washer was solved (at least for that night), I ordered dinner and watched a few episodes of Brooklyn 99. I was in bed a little on the early side and read my books for a bit before calling it a night!

I woke up way before my alarm on Sunday. While I despise Daylight Saving Time (especially in the fall), it was nice to wake up around 7 feeling fully rested! I spent my extra hour curled up on the couch with a blanket, finishing up Ginny Moon.

Mikaela and I had a lovely Sunday morning writing date at Panera! I set my fantasy football lineup before writing my Sunday stream-of-consciousness blog post. We also spent a lot of time talking about the party yesterday and reflecting on what an incredible day it was. Mikaela said that Olive had a blast, and I was so happy to hear that!

The rest of my Sunday was spent at my mom’s, watching football and snuggling the dogs and sneaking in a few chapters of my book in between plays. I love these Sundays so much—it’s just a low-key afternoon with my mom, my brother, and my older nephew. I cherish this time!

Of course, there’s more football to watch when I get home from my mom’s! Ellie will sometimes sit on the edge of the couch and watch the game with me. It’s always so funny when she does that! I ate a late dinner while watching the game, and also put the finishing touches on this blog post.

And now it’s a new week and is shaping up to be a good one. I have plans with two different friends and work shouldn’t be too much of a killer (here’s hoping, at least).

How was your weekend?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (11.16.20)

My bookish moment of the week was giving a friend a long list of book recommendations! She reached out to me, telling me that I always gave her the best recommendations (which, hello, heart eyes!) so it was a delight to look over my recently read list, as well as some of the books on my TBR, to give her about 10 books to request from the library. I consider this friend to be one of my “book twins,” as we tend to have the same taste in books so it’s always easy to recommend books to her! I looooove when friends reach out to me for recommendations!

I didn’t publish a reading update last week since I wanted to post about the election results (and I only finished one book that week!), so this update comprises two weeks of reading. I finished four books, three of which were 5-star reads!

Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda by Becky Albertalli (★★★★★)

Short synopsis: Simon is a closeted gay teen trying to get through high school and corresponding with another closeted gay teen through email. They both go to the same school but remain anonymous to each other. When Simon finds himself falling for his secret email buddy, will he have the courage to come out?

This YA love story was SO cute and I started it the night before the election. It was the perfect “brain candy”-type read I needed to get me through those very uncertain times. I loved Simon as a character—he’s definitely a teen so he can be angsty at times, but he’s ultimately a good kid who is trying to figure out how to come out to his family and friends. There was a great focus on friendship, and I loved how authentically high school friendship was written about in this book. Simon and his friends had their flaws and their jealousies, but they were ultimately good to each other and supportive when it mattered. Of course, I was mostly interested in the blossoming relationship between Simon and his email buddy, and I was so excited for the reveal of who it was! This is a book I will most definitely read again because it gave me such happy feels!

Hidden Away by Maya Banks (★★★☆☆)

One-sentence synopsis: Garrett’s latest assignment is to get close to a woman named Sarah whose brother has been on the wanted list for a whole host of government agencies… but what happens when he starts to fall for his assignment?

I really, really liked this book. I thought it was fast-paced, well-written, and I loved how it all came together in the end. But what I didn’t love is that this is the third book in this series with a weak-willed female character who had to be saved by her male counterpart. Honestly, at this point, I can’t tell any of the women apart because they’ve all been written from the same mold. There was even this really awful scene of five adult men bullying a teenage boy because he had hurt their teenage sister. Was this boy a bully? Yes, he was. But the sister should have been annoyed at her brothers trying to fight her battles for her, rather than crying from happiness. (Yes, that really happened.) I keep reading her books because I do love the writing, but she gets one more chance from me. If the next book in this series follows the same format, I’m done. (Open-door romance.)

Where the Forest Meets the Stars by Glendy Vanderah (★★★★★)

Short synopsis: Joanna is a graduate student studying ornithology and is spending a few months in rural Illinois to conduct her research. Her routine is thrown off by the arrival of Ursa, a child who is barefoot, covered in bruises, and claims to be an alien from a faraway galaxy who is on Earth to find five miracles.

Listen, I know the synopsis sounds crazy. Aliens and galaxies and miracles? It’s all a little far-fetched, but the premise works. This book is pure magic from beginning to end; it’s the kind of book that makes me so happy to be a reader. I was captivated by Ursa, struggling right along with Joanna about what to do about her, and caught up in the imagery of this tiny rural area. And I’ll admit: I didn’t really know what to believe. Was Ursa an alien? Or was she just a lost little girl who wanted to believe in something bigger? There’s a beautiful love story intertwined in this book that made this book just a touch more lovely for me. (You know me: I love a good love story.) A must-read!

Murder on Cold Street by Sherry Thomas (★★★★★)

Short synopsis: A friend of Charlotte Holmes’s, Inspector Treadles, is found locked in a room with two dead men and is charged with their murders. It’s up to Charlotte and her team to clear his name.

The only disappointing thing about this novel is knowing I’m going to have to wait months and months for the next Charlotte Holmes mystery! Argh! I loved everything about this novel: the team Charlotte has amassed to help her solve crimes, the little details Charlotte was able to figure out based on her own intuition, the way the mystery was revealed, and, of course, Charlotte’s penchant for cake. 🙂 It was a solid mystery, one I honestly couldn’t figure out on my own, and every little detail that was unveiled was perfectly done. Now I’ll just try to sit here patiently as I await Book #6.

What I’m Reading Now

  • How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi (print) – I’m halfway through this book, and it’s going to be one I recommend to everyone. I thought I knew what antiracism work looked like, but this book has shown me I have so much more to learn.
  • Daring and the Duke by Sarah MacLean (e-book) – I’m really rather bored with this Regency romance, which is unusual for a Sarah MacLean book. I keep thinking about abandoning it, which is always a good sign that I should.
  • The Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes (e-book) – I’m about halfway through this book and it’s been a good read so far. Shonda Rhimes is hilarious and I can fully relate to so many of her fears and vulnerabilities (who knew we had so much in common?!).
  • Come Away with Me by Karma Brown (audiobook) – I’m planning on starting this audiobook today! It won’t be an easy read (it involves a major tragedy in a young couple’s life) but other friends have raved about it, so I’m going to give it a shot.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (5.28.18)

Well, it was another pretty solid week of reading for me and both books I finished earned a four-star rating from me. How do you rate books? I’ve been thinking about my rating system lately, and I think I’ve come up with a good system:

  • 5 stars: I loved this book and will recommend it to everyone. It changed me.
  • 4 stars: I loved this book and would recommend it.
  • 3 stars: I liked this book, but there were some problems with it.
  • 2 stars: I didn’t like this book, but I can see why others might.
  • 1 star: I hated this book and only read it to finish it.

So, with this rating system in mind, the two books I finished last week are ones that I would recommend – they’re not for everyone and not life-changing enough for me to recommend to everyone I meet, but great reads nonetheless.

Books Finished

Title: How to Walk Away
Author: Katherine Center
Format: Hardcover
Published: 2018
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: On what should be the happiest day of Margaret’s life, the day she not only scored her dream job but also got engaged to her longtime boyfriend, tragedy strikes. In the hospital and trying to cope with the idea that her life will never be the same again, she has to find a way to find beauty in the mess.

My Thoughts: I actually finished this book right around midnight on Sunday evening, but it was too late to add it to my post last week. I flew through this book in just two days and thoroughly enjoyed it! It was well-written and didn’t feel too heavy, even though the subject matter was. I also just really enjoyed Margaret’s character and how she wasn’t a pushover, even though she was in the hospital and so reliant on other people. I found some of the characters in the novel to be a little over-the-top unlikable, like her mom and her fiance’s mom. They said some things that felt a little unrealistic, stuff you just wouldn’t say to someone in the hospital. Then again, I’m coming to this novel knowing if I was in Margaret’s place, my mom would be there every step of the way and always offer encouragement and support, so maybe I just can’t understand a mom being more focused on appearances than her own daughter’s healing. I also really didn’t love the ending scene nor the epilogue and I wish the author had chosen a different way to wrap it up (and, really, let’s stop with unnecessary epilogues! Ah.) But, all in all, it was a really enjoyable reading experience and it’s a book I’d definitely recommend.

Title: Moonlight Over Manhattan
Author: Sarah Morgan
Format: Library e-book
Published: 2017
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: Professional dog walker, Harriet, takes on an unusual assignment: providing around-the-clock dog-sitting services for a busy ER doctor, who is watching his sister’s dog for a short period of time. It’s a romance, so you can imagine what happens here: sparks fly and both of them have to find a way to be brave enough to take a chance on love.

My Thoughts: Oh, how I loved this novel! Harriet was so relatable as a character, a shy woman who struggles with stammering when she is stressed out or upset and is trying to put herself out there more in the form of daily challenges. When the novel begins, she’s challenging herself by online dating, but it’s not going well. As the novel progresses, however, and she takes on more challenges, she discovers an adventurous side of herself that she never knew existed. I also really, really loved the male hero in this novel, Ethan. He’s an ER doc and there’s just something so damn sexy about that, isn’t there? He’s funny and charming and everything I want in a male hero. I loved watching how the two of them together learned to come out of their shells as they explored the chemistry between them. A really fun and lighthearted romance novel!

What I’m Reading This Week

  • The Engagements by J. Courtney Sullivan – I’m a little less than 200 pages into this novel and it’s… okay so far. There are five different storylines, each taking place during a different decade, and some storylines are much more interesting to me than others. It’s also more of a character-driven novel than a plot-driven one, and I usually struggle with these types of books. It’s hard to really get invested in a novel when I’m not sure why I need to be invested, you know? I don’t think I’ll abandon it, though. It’s engaging (ha) enough for me to keep reading.
  • I Wish You Were Mine by Lauren Layne – I just downloaded this fun contemporary romance and I am going to start it soon, in between breaks from The Engagements. Lauren Layne’s novels have become my favorite lately. She never lets me down!
  • I Am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter by Erika Sanchez – Once I finish The Engagements, I’m starting my book club’s June read. I have been wanting to read this book for a long time and it’s gotten rave reviews from friends, so I’m looking forward to diving in.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (5.21.18)

After a short hiatus, I’m back with my weekly reading recap. I’m definitely not going to talk about all the books I finished over the past few weeks (ain’t nobody got time for that!), so I’m starting fresh and just talking about the books I finished over the past week. I thoroughly enjoyed one novel and thoroughly hated the other. Fun! Let’s dive in:

Books Finished

Title: Sleeping Giants
Author: Sylvain Neuvel
Format: Library hardcover
Published: 2016
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: A girl named Rose is riding her bike near her home in South Dakota and falls down a hole. When she’s found by rescuers, they peer down to see her laying in a giant metal hand. Seventeen years later, Rose is an enigmatic physicist who is determined to find out the origins of this giant metal hand and what it means for humanity as we know it.

My thoughts: My work book club chose this book as our May pick, and I wasn’t quite sure about it at first. I like science fiction books, but I’m a little wary of books that have a kooky and bizarre synopsis. But that’s what book clubs are all about, right? Getting you to read books you’d never pick up on your own. And I am so glad I gave this one a chance because it was a pretty amazing thrill ride. I think what I appreciated most about this book was how it tried to explore the idea of there being life on other planets and what that could mean for life on Earth. The book is told in transcripts and journal entries, and in some cases, I think this method worked really well and helped the novel move along at a great pace. In other cases, usually the action scenes, it fell apart. I wavered between 3 and 4 stars, but since I read the last 100 pages in one sitting and stayed up late to finish it, I couldn’t give it less than 4. It’s probably not a book I’d recommend to everyone, but good if you’re looking to read something a little bizarre and not too heavy.

Title: The Final Score
Author: Jaci Burton
Format: Library e-book
Published: 2017
Rating: ★☆☆☆☆

Plot Summary: Longtime friends Nathan and Mia, both newly graduated from college and embarking on new careers, make a friends-with-benefits pact because they just cannot deny the chemistry that sizzles between them.

My Thoughts: Well, it’s not very often that I give a 1-star rating, but this one kinda deserves it. I had a lot of issues with this book, so let’s get right into it, shall we?

  • Issue #1: It’s not realistic to write a novel about a girl who is fresh out of college and starts her own sports management company out of the blue where she has no setbacks whatsoever. First of all, you need to earn the role of CEO by working your way through the ranks, starting at the bottom. She did nothing of the sort and yet, she has a large office in San Francisco with dozens of employees, none of whom resent her for being CEO when she’s 10+ years younger than them? Not relatable, not realistic. It’s also not realistic to have zero setbacks when it comes to starting a business, other than her own insecurity.
  • Issue #2: After being a backup QB during his rookie season, Nathan is now the starting quarterback for an NFL team and yet again, the author has this kid encounter zero setbacks during his first handful of games on the field. His only setback is his own insecurity about taking over for the team his stepfather played for (which in and of itself is a really weird plot twist). I watch football religiously and one thing I know for certain is that anyone’s first time at starting QB doesn’t always go smoothly. There are kinks to figure out and that’s fairly expected. For him to come on the field and immediately be a Tom Brady-level quarterback is so unrealistic that I skimmed my way past the football parts because I just didn’t care.
  • Issue #3: There was no conflict whatsoever in this novel! Romances need to have conflict. They need to have a push/pull dynamic. And there needs to be something happening beyond the romance. There could have been such an interesting side plot involving Mia and her business, but the author just chose to keep the whole novel at surface level.
  • Issue #4: Please. Stop. With. The. Sassy. Black. Best. Friends. That is not okay.

So I mean, yeah. If you hung around for that rant, thanks! I just had to get it off my chest. I’ve read probably 15 or so romances by Jaci Burton, but I think this is the last one I’ll be reading. I just cannot get over how utterly unrealistic and boring this novel was, not to mention the gloriously awful writing. (Usually, I can look past her writing when the romance is sizzlin’, but it just wasn’t there in this one.)

What I’m Reading This Week

  • How to Walk Away by Katherine Center – This was my pick from Book of the Month’s May selections (<– affiliate link; sign up with my code to get a free book!) It tackles a very difficult topic, but in a way that doesn’t make it feel too heavy. I started reading it on Saturday morning and I’m nearly finished, so that can give you an indication of just how much I’m loving it.
  • Moonlight Over Manhattan by Sarah Morgan – Once I finish How to Walk Away, I’ll start this fun contemporary romance from one of my faves.
  • The Engagements by J. Courtney Sullivan – I was originally going to read this book back in April, but the timing didn’t work out. (I didn’t think I’d be able to finish it before my cruise and didn’t want to bring such a hefty book with me.) So I’m going to start it this week and I hope it’s as great as I expect!

What are you reading this week?