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What I’m Reading (11.25.23)

Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating by Christy Harrison (★★★★★)

Print • Library • Nonfiction (Self-Help) • 2019

Short synopsis: In Anti-Diet, Christy Harrison takes on diet culture and the multi-billion-dollar industries that profit from it, exposing all the ways it robs people of their time, money, health, and happiness.

At some point, I would like to write up a whole post about this book because I was taking pictures of quotes like crazy and had a lot of epiphanies while reading this book. I’ve been on a long journey of unlearning diet culture and figuring out how to eat intuitively. That’s why I started working with a dietician this year, to better understand how to fuel my body appropriately but in a way that would be satisfying, too. This book is a must-read if you are also unlearning diet culture like I am—or if you just want to better understand how diet culture has affected our society and how to be a better ally to your fat friends/family members who need you on their side. (And need you to stop saying fatphobic things that you may think are helpful, but are actually harmful.)

Like a House on Fire by Lauren McBrayer (★★★★☆)

Print • Library • Contemporary Fiction • 2022

Short synopsis: When Merit, mother of two and in a lackluster marriage, starts a new job at an architecture firm, she meets Jane. Jane is enigmatic and they form a tight bond quickly. What happens, though, when this friendship starts to feel like something more?

I picked this book for our November book club, and I’m relieved to learn that most of my friends enjoyed it (based on their Goodreads ratings; our meeting is on Thursday!). I really enjoyed it, too. I need to mention up front that this book centers around infidelity so it’s not going to be the right book for everyone (looking at you, Lisa!), and there were definitely parts of the book that felt icky. That said, I really liked this book! I think it’s one that many women could probably relate to (mostly the discussion of middle marriage, being a working mom, etc.) and I found the chemistry between Merit and Jane just leaped off the page. It’s not a perfect book—I really wanted so much more from the ending—but the more that I sat with this book, the more I realized how prescient it is and how it really flips the script on gender roles and marriage. I highly recommend reading the Vogue article featuring the author once you finish the book because I think it does an excellent job of delving deeper into why the author took the book in the direction she did. All in all, a story I truly loved and will probably stick with me for a long time.

Codename Charming by Lucy Parker (★★★★★)

E-Book • Libby • Contemporary Romance • 2023

Short synopsis: Petunia is the personal assistant to Johnny, who is married to a princess in line for the throne. When she and Johnny are seen in a compromising (but entirely innocent!) position, the tabloids go crazy with speculation. Enter: Matthias. He’s senior security for the royal family and they enact Codename Charming. Pet and Matthias will pretend to be dating until this tabloid fodder dies down. But when they share an electrifying kiss, this fake relationship starts to feel real.

Gahhhh, this book. Lucy Parker has always been a knockout romance writer for me. She just writes the most perfect romances with full-drawn characters and interesting plots. She even skips the dreaded dark moment that happens in so many romance novels; her characters are people who do things like communicate when an issue arises. Imagine that! This book was so very good, not that I expected anything less from her. I loved the way the romance blossomed between Pet and Matthias. The way Matthias cared so deeply for Pet and her for him. Was Matthias a little too perfect? You could say that, but I’m not reading my romances for reality. I get that enough in my dating life. There were a few side plots to this novel, all of which came together in a really nice way at the end, and I just finished the book in the best mood.

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What I’m Reading (11.17.23)

The Ex Hex by Erin Sterling (★★★★☆)

E-Book • Libby • Contemporary Romance • 2021

Short synopsis: Nine years ago, Vivienne placed a curse on the boy who broke her heart, Rhys. She doesn’t actually think it worked, until Rhys returns and calamity follows him everywhere he goes.

I wasn’t expecting much from this romance. While I had heard a lot about it, the plot never appealed to me and it has a very low Goodreads rating (3.51 stars) so I figured it wasn’t for me. But I needed a book to fulfill the X category of my reading challenge, so I downloaded this romance and hoped for the best. And I loved it! It was so much fun and I loved all of the witchy elements that the author incorporated. I loved Rhys’s character so very much and really enjoyed Rhys and Vivienne together. They had great banter and a fun rapport. It’s not the kind of romance that will knock your socks off, but for me, it was quite enjoyable.

The Lesbiana’s Guide to Catholic School by Sonora Reyes (★★★☆☆)

Print • Library • YA Lit • 2022

Short synopsis: Sixteen-year-old Yamilet is starting over at a new school, and a Catholic school at that. After being outed by her best friend at her old school to devastating results, she decides she’ll pretend to be straight while she just tries to make it through high school. Only there’s Bo, an extremely cute girl who is openly queer and may ruin all of Yamilet’s plans.

I really wanted so much more from this book. It read very much like a debut novel with some clunky wording and uneven pacing. It was way too long and needed a tighter edit. However, I appreciated the representation in this book. I think one of the most impactful side plots in this novel was Yamilet realizing she needs to get a job ASAP because she needs to start saving for a down payment on an apartment, just in case her mom finds out about her sexual identity and kicks her out. It broke my heart but it’s also something I desperately understand. Coming out is such a hard thing to do when you don’t know how your family is going to respond—I know this firsthand. This is a book that could be so helpful for queer kids and help them feel less alone.

Our American Friend by Anna Pitoniak (★★☆☆☆)

Audiobook • Libby • Fiction/Political Thriller • 2022

Short synopsis: When political journalist Sophie gets a call from the White House that the First Lady is ready to open up about her life and wants Sophie to write her biography, she accepts. What she doesn’t know is that the First Lady is about to reveal damning secrets about her life and the KGB.  

I finished this book yesterday and when I realized the audiobook was finished, I said out loud, “What the fuck was that?” Honestly, what was the point of this book? It felt like not-so-thinly-veiled Melania Trump fanfiction and is posited as this spy thriller, but it was, frankly, really boring. There were no exciting twists and turns, and one of the driving forces in the novel (which I won’t spoil) turned out to be all about a woman doing something for a guy she loved, which just felt absurd. Maybe I missed the point of the novel (entirely possible!) but it’s not one I’ll be recommending.

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What’s Working in My Reading Life

A few weeks ago, the Currently Reading podcast had an episode where they talked about what their reading life looks like right now and what they feel is working well. I love the idea of taking the temperature of my reading life every now and then—and seeing how things change during different seasons of life. Here’s what’s working well for me right now:

Using the slow-but-steady approach to nonfiction

I read a good amount of nonfiction, but it’s not exactly something I like to read in large chunks. Whether it’s a dense social justice book or a slim essay collection, I have taken the approach of reading just one chapter a day. I find that I can absorb the content much better, as I have time to sit with it and consider its impact. It’s most helpful for books that I’m reading to learn something, as I don’t feel like I’m in this information overload scenario. And sometimes I may even take a break from the book for a day or two if I need to. I usually have a light/fun fiction novel to read alongside the nonfiction book, which helps a lot. I have noticed that my reading tends to slow down when I’m working through a nonfiction book like this, which is why I don’t do it all the time. Maybe every other month or so.

Switching between books I own and library books

I used to have a very complicated system for selecting books. It involved multiple TBR lists, a random number generator, and an intricate spreadsheet. I’ve grown tired of that system, though, and a few months ago, adopted something much simpler: I switch between books I own and library books. I still have a system for selecting these books because I need to have some structure to my book selection process. When I started this process, I used a random number generator to give me a number, and then I went to that page number of my Goodreads TBR list. (For example, if the number it gave me was 8, I went to page 8 of my “want-to-read” list on Goodreads.) Then, I selected five books from whatever page number it gave me. I tried to have a random assortment of books because I like variety in my reading life (aka, one thriller, one nonfiction, one historical fiction, etc.). I also made sure all of the books I selected from that Goodreads list are not books I own. These books are the ones I will be borrowing from the library. I keep that list tucked away in a tab on my reading spreadsheet, so I can request the books from the library when the time comes for that.

When I’m selecting books from my shelves, I choose two books from my Book of the Month shelf and three books from my other bookshelves. I let myself be a little free range with choosing from my BOTM shelf because there’s a limited quantity and it feels less overwhelming. When selecting my three books from my other bookshelves, I go in cube order. I use cube bookshelves to store my books, so the first time I did this, I selected the first three “cubes” (from top to bottom) and had to choose a book from each cube. Again, I try to make sure I’m choosing books with a bit of variety since that’s how I like to read. I’m finishing up my selection of library books, so I’ll start working through the five books I chose from my bookshelves soon. Here’s what I chose!

Not reading every day

This is a big one for me. My identity is not only that I’m a reader, but that I am a voracious reader. For the past 6 years, I’ve read more than 100 books (my highest reading year so far was 2020 with 153 books read). But there are some days when the reading doesn’t happen. And I’m learning to be okay with that. It doesn’t mean I am any less of a reader or that I’m losing my spark; it just means I am finding other ways to spend my time some days. Maybe it’s because I had a busy work day and then plans in the evening. Or maybe it’s because I chose TV and phone games over my book. It’s okay that I don’t read every day, and if it means I’ll have my lowest reading year since 2017, so be it.

What’s working in your reading life?

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What I’m Reading (11.5.23)

The Fiancee Farce by Alexandria Bellefleur (★★★★☆)

E-Book • Libby • Contemporary Romance • 2023

Short synopsis: Gemma needs to find a wife immediately to fulfill the terms of her grandfather’s will that states she must be married to inherit his company. And then she meets Tansy at her cousin’s wedding, and she couldn’t have found a better fake-wife.

The full synopsis of this romance is completely far-fetched: Tansy manages a bookstore and Gemma is the cover model for a ton of contemporary romances, so when her family badgers her about dating, she pretends that she is dating a woman named Gemma. Turns out, Gemma is related tangentially to her family! (Her cousin married Gemma’s stepsister’s… friend? I couldn’t fully follow this plotline, honestly.) And she shows up at the wedding! And Gemma also needs to be fake-dating someone, so they pretend they are engaged! Like I said, very far-fetched.

However, this novel was just pure fun once you get over the hurdle of the meet-cute. I loved Gemma and Tansy together and all the trouble they got into as they began their fake courtship. I thought the way they ended up falling in love with each other was super sweet and felt natural. While I wish there were more nuance to the more villainous characters in the novel, for the most part, I enjoyed this romance. It was a fun, steamy one!

Verity by Colleen Hoover (★★★☆☆)

E-Book • Libby • Thriller • 2018

Short synopsis: Down-on-her-luck writer Lowen Ashleigh (sigh) has earned the coveted contract of finishing the last few books in a series written by a prolific writer, Verity Crawford, who is currently healing from a car accident. While Lowen is in Verity’s office, she uncovers her autobiography that shines a light on Verity’s true personality.

Can I start this review by asking why Colleen Hoover insists on giving her characters the most ridiculous names? Honestly. Anyway, I read this book to fulfill the “V” category for my A-to-Z reading challenge and it was a pretty good read up until the end. The writing was pretty bad, as I expected from a Colleen Hoover novel, but I found myself super invested in the storyline and super creeped out by it, too. I had to know how everything would end! This book could be unsettling at times, especially the autobiography sections as Verity spoke very frankly about the way she felt about her husband and her children. I was committed to giving this book 4 stars until the last chapter. I don’t want to give anything away here, but it just felt cheap. I can see why this book has become such a cult favorite in the bookish community, though, and it’s one I would recommend if you want to be seriously creeped out!

Dopesick: Dealers, Doctors, and the Drug Company That Addicted America by Beth Macy (★★★★★)

Audiobook • Libby • Nonfiction • 2018

Short synopsis: Beth Macy takes us into the epicenter of America’s decades-long struggle with opioid addiction. It’s a heartbreaking trajectory that illustrates how this national crisis has persisted for so long and become so firmly entrenched.

I’ve had this book on my TBR list for a long time. I knew it was a book I wanted to read at some point, but I just needed to be in the right headspace. Because, oof, this book is so very heartbreaking and depressing. Macy begins the book by drawing us into how the opioid epidemic started and how drug companies and doctors failed so many people when it came to distributing opioids. And then she brings us along on the journey of what it is like to have an opioid addiction: the people who are addicted, the families who are in the trenches and just trying to keep their loved ones alive, the people who are trying to pass legislation, and the ones who are working hard to find better solutions for those affected (better treatment, better rehab options, etc). This book is exhaustively researched and while not an easy book to read, it is such an important one because it really puts a face to the opioid epidemic. It reminds you of their humanity and heartbreak.

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What I’m Reading (10.30.23)

The Agathas by Kathleen Glasgow and Liz Lawson (★★★★☆)

Audiobook • Library • YA/Mystery • 2022

Short synopsis: When one of the most popular girls in school, Brooke Donovan, is found dead, all signs point to her boyfriend. But Alice Ogilvie doesn’t believe it, and she’s going to try to find out the real culprit, just like she’s a character in an Agatha Christie novel. 

The premise of this book is a little silly, but I do love a good teenage mystery novel. Teens solving crimes that professional detectives cannot! You really have to suspend your belief with some of the plot points and characters, but overall, this was a fun novel. The crux of the novel is this new friendship forming between Alice and one of her classmates, Iris Adams, and I really loved how their relationship developed and deepened. Some of the novel was a little over-the-top, but it didn’t bug me too much. It’s not a novel I’m going to recommend to everyone but if you’ve read and loved the Truly Devious series, give this one a try!

When We Believed in Mermaids by Barbara O’Neal (★★★★☆)

Print • Library • Contemporary Fiction • 2019

Short synopsis: For the last decade, Kit Bianci has believed her sister died in a terrorist train crash. But then she sees her on the news, very much alive and living in New Zealand. So she books a flight to Auckland, determined to find her sister.

We picked this book for our October book club, and I was unsure if I would enjoy it. I told myself I only had to give it 100 pages and if I wasn’t feeling it, I could abandon it. Boy oh boy was I wrong! I flew through this book and enjoyed it immensely. It was a book that was so easy to read and I was just so invested in all of the characters and their lives. I wanted to know how everything would come together! While I thought the ending was a little rushed and everything tied up a bit too neatly (hence the 4-star rating), I still think the author did a great job with this novel. It also really made me want to book a trip to New Zealand right away!

If We’re Being Honest by Cat Shook (★★★★☆)

Print • Library • Contemporary Fiction • 2023

Short synopsis: “Gerry Williams’s funeral was a shit show.” So begins the story of a family grieving the loss of the patriarch of their family and reeling from a revelation during the eulogy. 

I do not know how this book came onto my radar (Lisa, maybe it was you?), but I’m glad it did because I really enjoyed this novel! It doesn’t have a very high Goodreads rating (3.5 stars), so I didn’t have very high hopes. I love family stories like this, though, and I thought the way the author discussed grief and loss to be utter perfection. We follow this family in the week after the funeral, as they are all grieving the loss of Gerry in a multitude of ways. There’s the way Ellen, his wife, is handling it. The way his kids are handling it. And the way his grandkids are handling it. There are also a range of interpersonal issues happening around their grief. There was a coming out plotline that I thought was so beautifully written. What I really loved, and what I think the author captured perfectly, was this subplot of one of Gerry’s daughters going on a date with someone she met. She kept harping (silently) about all these little things she didn’t like about her date—he wore too much cologne, for instance—and wondering if those are dealbreakers. And I find myself always doing the exact same thing when I’m on a first date with someone. It’s all those little things that turn me off immediately, and I have to remind myself to slow my roll and give them a chance. It wasn’t the point of the book, of course, but it was just so perfectly written that I couldn’t help but feel a kindredness with the author. All in all, this book was a good one. Am I going to remember I read it in a few months? Probably not. But it was a fine read that kept my attention.

What are you reading?