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Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (8.1.22)

Good morning, friends! I had a lovely weekend that included finally celebrating my mom’s birthday, snuggling Eleni, and taking myself to Starbucks to read my book. It was exactly the weekend I needed. There is a lot happening this week, and I’m feeling ready to tackle it all.

I have three wonderful books to share with you today, and all three got a solid 4 stars from me. Let’s review:

How to Not Die Alone by Logan Ury (★★★★☆)

I talked about this book in Friday’s Currently post, so suffice it to say that I loved it. I wasn’t expecting much from it, mainly because I’ve been very apathetic about dating for a long, long time. Some people look at dating as a way to meet new people, but that’s not how I’ve approached dating. For me, I’m either so excited about the person I’m seeing that I can’t eat or sleep or think about anything else… or I’m going on boring dates and making up excuses for why I can’t extend the date. This book really made me excited about the prospect of dating, though, and how to treat it like a fun way to meet people or, at the very least, learn more about myself and what I want out of my future partner. I’m planning on writing a follow-up post about the lessons I learned and how I want to implement them in my own dating life, so stay tuned for that. I do want to mention, though, that this book was very heteronormative (which, to be fair to the author, she addresses in the beginning of the book, stating that most dating research focuses on straight couples) and doesn’t really discuss what it’s like to date as a person of color or as a fat person. As a fat person, my experiences with dating are so, so different from other people (no, I’m not getting hundreds of matches every day; I’m lucky if I get 1 or 2), and I wish that could have been explored but, as the author is a traditionally beautiful, thin person, I know that’s not something she has experience with. Maybe I’ll just have to write that book about how to date as a fat person, who knows?!

Yours to Keep by Lauren Layne (★★★★☆)

Yours to Keep was a sweet contemporary romance. At just over 200 pages, it was a fast read; sometimes shorter romances feel like they’re missing something (backstory or relationship development, things like that), but this one felt perfectly paced. I’m glad that the author kept it short and sweet because it delivered the perfect impact this way! In this romance, Carter Ramsey has returned to his hometown for his 10-year high school reunion. He’s a pro baseball player who is dealing with an injury that has the potential to ruin his career so he’s going through a lot right now and could consider consulting with a personal injury lawyer. Contact professionals from sites like https://ravidandassociates.com/.  Since he plans to be in town for a couple months, he rents a house next door to Olive, who is none other than his former lab partner from high school science. Olive and Carter strike up a friendship that turns into a whole lot more as they spend most of their time together (Olive’s working on the plans for the high school reunion and recruits Carter to help her). I just adored Olive and want to be friends with her. She was so much fun to read about, mostly because she’s so very different from me (tall, loud, friendly, open-hearted) and I feel like she would be such a wonderful friend to have in my corner. I loved the love story between Carter and Olive, and the grand gestures from both parties at the end of the novel felt true and right, not over the top. A solid romance!

Close Enough to Touch by Colleen Oakley (★★★★☆)

This novel was so lovely! I was a little bit bored in the beginning and contemplated abandoning it, but decided to give it a few more chapters and I’m so glad I did because it was an excellent read. This novel follows Jubilee who has an incredibly rare allergy: she can’t touch or be touched by people. This allergy has caused her to retreat from the world and become a recluse, but when she has to get a job to survive, she finds one at a library. It’s there that she meets Eric, a man who is trying to keep everything together between working a stressful job and parenting his adopted son who is still reeling from the sudden, unexpected loss of his parents (Eric’s best friends). A chance meeting leads Jubilee and Eric, two people whose lives look nothing like they wanted them to, to open their hearts and explore what could happen if they trusted themselves. It was a super sweet novel and I really loved Jubilee’s character arc. She was someone who was so easy to love and root for, and I enjoyed every minute I spent with her. I thought the ending wrapped up a little too neatly, but other than that, it was a fantastic read.

What I’m Reading This Week

  • The Hellion’s Waltz by Olivia Waite (e-book) – This is another short romance (under 200 pages!), so I’m likely going to finish it today or tomorrow. So far, I’m enjoying it!
  • The Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo (print) – I’m looking forward to diving into this novel that gets rave reviews. I’ll start it once I finish The Hellion’s Waltz.
  • Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town by Jon Krakauer (audio) – Second time’s the charm? The last time I planned to read this book, I was going through a mental health crisis and many of you recommended that I set it down for the time being. It was good advice! I’m going to start it this week, and if I’m still not feeling up to reading about such a hard subject matter, to my “abandoned” list it will go.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

My Star Rating System

I am sure I have talked about my star rating system at some point on this blog. Maybe at multiple points, as star rating systems have a tendency to evolve as we evolve as readers. Sometimes I look at the books I rated 5 stars in the early days of my Goodreads account and I wince a little. I don’t know if the reader I am today would have been quite as generous, but it’s also a good encapsulation of who I was then and where I am now.

First, let’s talk about how I rate books and what each star rating typically means. I truly appreciate when people give their honest star ratings. While I admit that sometimes I feel really guilty about leaving a 2-star review about a book other people loved, I think it’s good to be honest about how it worked for you. I try to be cognizant of the fact that just because a book wasn’t for me, that doesn’t mean it won’t be a hit for another reader. And maybe the issues I had with the book are something that doesn’t bother another reader, so they would actually enjoy the book a lot more than I did. So, with that said, here is the general idea of my rating system:

  • 5 stars – A perfect book. There isn’t anything I would change about it. I’ll also give a book 5 stars if it felt life-changing in any way or made me feel really deep emotions. I wholeheartedly recommend the book.
  • 4 stars – I really liked this book! There may have been a few things I didn’t like or wanted a different outcome for, but it wasn’t enough to derail my enjoyment of the book. I am giving my stamp of approval/recommendation.
  • 3 stars – This book was good but not great. I liked it fine, but it’s not one I’m going to recommend to many readers. Typically, these books have quite a few issues that made the book less enjoyable.
  • 2 stars – I did not like this book. I had many issues with it and only kept reading it to give a scathing review (usually). I may judge you a little if you recommended this book to me. I do not recommend it.
  • 1 star – I hated this book. If you gave this book 4 or 5 stars, I am judging you. I wanted to throw it across the room, it was so bad. It shouldn’t have been written. LOATHED COMPLETELY.

Okay, so my 1-star metric is a bit harsh. But it is not very common for me to give a book 1 star; I am very quick to abandon a book that I know I’m going to hate. Of the 1,300+ books I’ve reviewed on Goodreads, only 22 of those have a 1-star rating. Most of those are really cheesy romances and I’ve learned how to choose better romances these days. But some of the books I’ve rated 1-star that might surprise people:

  • Persuasion by Jane Austen (4.15 average Goodreads rating) – I just don’t enjoy Jane Austen! I’m so happy if you love her, but she’s not for me. (And no, I’m not going to judge you harshly if you loved Persuasion. I understand that Austen is beloved.)
  • Emma in the Night by Wendy Walker (3.73 average Goodreads rating) – My Goodreads review: “Hate-read this. I should have abandoned, but I wanted to see how outlandish the plot would be and it was worse than I imagined.”
  • Lucy’s Little Village Book Club by Emma Davies (4.03 average Goodreads rating) – My Goodreads review: “I really should have abandoned this book. The side plot of the mother who held a grudge against her (grown) daughter for five years for a single comment her daughter made was enough to make me want to throw my Kindle across the room.”

What About Half-Stars?

It’s very rare for me to add a half-star to my rating. This is probably because Goodreads still doesn’t have the capability to add half-stars to reviews (WHY?!) so I try to focus on the full-star rating. From time to time, though, I may give a book a half star and this is my system:

  • 4.5 stars – I loved this book so much, but there is just something keeping me from giving it a full 5-star rating. Usually, it’s just a feeling I have, and the feeling is strong enough to crank down my rating by a half-star.
  • 3.5 stars – I liked this book. A 3.5 rating means I’m more apt to recommend this book and that most of the issues I had with the book were small, surface-level things.
  • 2.5 stars – I didn’t fully dislike this book. There were good moments and with just a few changes, it could have easily been a 3-star read.

I don’t give 1.5-star reviews. If I hate a book enough to give it a single star, that’s all it gets.

What Makes Books Lose Stars?

Now, let’s talk a little bit about the metrics I use when rating a book. What are some of the annoying things authors do that make me deduct a half-star or more from my rating? Let’s discuss:

  • An unsatisfying ending – It’s so disappointing when a book that had such promise has an unsatisfying ending. Maybe there’s an unbelievable twist at the end or a disappointing final chapter or a rushed ending that makes me flip through the final few pages to make sure I didn’t miss anything. The Nine Lives of Rose Napolitano was a book that was a 5-star read until the end. The disappointing conclusion docked it an entire star for me.
  • Unlikable characters – I don’t need to have characters that I identify with or root for; characters can be flawed and unlikable because that’s real life. But there must be something redeeming about them. Characters who are just unlikable for the sake of being unlikable, with no nuance to them at all, are just not fun for me to read about.
  • In romance, a really ridiculous “dark moment” – Every romance has a “dark moment,” which is defined as the period of time when all hope is lost for the characters’ love story and they (typically) break up. When I was writing my own romance novel, I struggled so much with developing a dark moment that would make sense and not be seen as fully ridiculous. Romances with a really silly dark moment—the ones that make me roll my eyes because the author put no effort into developing a reasonable dark moment that will propel the story along—are not my favorite.
  • Not feeling any connection to the story – There are some stories that have a lot of heart and a propulsive plot, but I just feel nothing. I don’t feel particularly warm or cold toward the characters, the overarching themes aren’t doing it for me, and when I finish the book, I just think, “Meh. That was an okay way to spend some time.” A book that doesn’t make me feel something is going to lose at least a star.
  • An unnecessary side plot – Sometimes, an author includes a side plot that feels completely unnecessary and out of place. Oftentimes, this is a randomly placed romance that feels more like an afterthought that an actually developed storyline that helps to propel the main plot forward.

What Makes a Book Gain Stars?

Okay, enough about being negative: Let’s talk about some of the things that will push that book into a 5-star territory or just make me tack on an extra half star because it made me so happy:

  • When I’m sad to finish a book because I’ll miss the characters – Is there anything more lovely than finishing a book you loved, but feeling sad because you’re going to miss the characters? When an author can create characters that are so fully developed and precious to me that they feel like friends, it’s easy to give a book an extra half-star or more.
  • An ending that makes me feel something deep in my soul – It’s hard to explain this feeling, but it happens to me often in books that I give a 5-star rating. It’s a feeling that I just experienced something beautiful and wonderful, and I want to push the book into the hands of everyone I know because I want them to experience the same feelings. It’s a feeling that makes me so sad for people who aren’t readers and don’t get to enjoy this beauty as I do.
  • A fast-moving plot that makes the book hard to put down – Even if the writing isn’t great or the characters suck, a plot that is so propulsive that I can’t put the book down and can’t stop thinking about the book when I do set it down is the sign of a great, most likely 5- star, read.
  • Beautiful writing – Beautiful writing that says something meaningful and makes me stop and think is honestly my favorite. Often, this type of writing happens in nonfiction but some novels can have beautiful writing that really takes a book to the next level. I don’t typically need beautiful writing to love a story—sometimes, I feel like it can detract from a story, as if an author spent more time trying to craft the most wonderous sentences than write a compelling narrative—but when it’s done well, it’s worthy of an extra star.
  • If I can finish the book in one day – It is not very often that I can finish a book in one day, but when it happens, it usually means that the book was so unputdownable that I relinquished all responsibilities to lay around and read the book cover to cover in a single day.

What makes a book gain or lose stars for you? 

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (7.25.22)

Hi friends! Happy Monday. I have some fun plans this week so things are looking up over here. 🙂

Last week was a so-so reading week for me. I am very upset to report that I abandoned A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles after 150 pages. You guys, I thought I would love this book and it is so disappointing to have abandoned it. But I was just so damn bored by it. I thought the writing was overwrought and the Count not nearly as charming as I imagined. I am a firm believer that what works for one reader doesn’t work for another, which is why I freely abandon books that aren’t working for me. This one wasn’t doing it for me.

I ended up finishing two books last week and I liked both of them:

The Vanishing Stair by Maureen Johnson (★★★★☆)

The second book in the Truly Devious series was just as wonderful as the first! I am really loving this series, although I feel very weird about the love story accompanying the overarching plot. Am I supposed to be rooting for these two? I hope not. I won’t get into the details of the plot, as they can be a little spoiler-y if you haven’t read the first book in the series. Suffice it to say that I loved being back at the boarding school with these characters and truly enjoyed the mystery and the way it was solved. The ending was a little confusing (I was washing dishes while I finished up the last few minutes of this audiobook and was like, “Wait, what?” when it was over. I had to rewind to listen to the last few lines again to make sure I didn’t miss something.) I’m excited to dive into book 3 soon!

A Beastly Kind of Earl by Mia Vincy (★★★☆☆)

This historical romance had a fascinating premise: Thea has to pretend to be her sister for a few days so that Helen and her beau can elope (his father doesn’t approve of the union and won’t let them get married). As she’s pretending to be Helen, Thea has a chance encounter with Rafe, an earl who knows that Thea is pretending to be her sister. Rafe needs to get married soon so he can come into a tidy sum of money, and he’s thought of the perfect plan: if he marries Thea, their marriage will be invalid. Once his money is in hand, he can unmask her, pretend to be upset, and send her away. Thea, for her part, will come into her own sum of money if she gets married so it truly is a win/win situation. The perfect plan, right? Of course not—this is a romance novel! After Thea and Rafe marry, they begin to realize their true feelings for one another and, like any romance novel, fall for one another. There was a lot to love about this novel but there were times when Thea veered into manic pixie dream girl territory and times when the language in the story didn’t match the time period (the phrase “win some, lose some” kept being uttered but by my very light research, I don’t think this was a very popular phrase in the early 1800s). I also felt like the ending was a little all over the place and quite silly. All in all, a romance novel that I enjoyed but not as much as I enjoyed the other Mia Vincy book I read (A Wicked Kind of Husband, which was a 5-star read).

What I’m Reading This Week

  • How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love by Logan Ury (print) – I am finishing up this book, which has been so much more helpful than I imagined it would! I may have a blog post brewing about the lessons I’m taking away from this book.
  • Yours to Keep by Lauren Layne (e-book) – I’m looking forward to picking up this contemporary romance from one of my faves.
  • Speak No Evil by Uzodinma Iweala (e-book) – I’ve had this book on my Goodreads list for quite a while and decided to pick it up when I realized I’ve been reading a lot of books by white authors lately. There was no wait for the e-book through Libby, so I’m hoping this is a good read.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (7.19.22)

Happy Tuesday, friends. Things feel a lot more hopeful and optimistic this week than they did last week. I am so very grateful for that! Living with an anxiety disorder is no joke, and every time an anxiety spiral strikes, I am reminded of that.

I didn’t have a ton of time for reading last week. Some of it was that I just wasn’t in the right headspace for reading and some of it was just a busier week in my life. But I still managed to finish two books and really liked both of them:

It Happened One Summer by Tessa Bailey (★★★★☆)

I’ve been burned by Tessa Bailey before, but a few trusted readers had good things to say about this book so I decided to give it a shot. I’m so glad I did! I really, really liked this contemporary romance where the main character felt like a play on Alexis Schitt of Schitt’s Creek. In this novel, Piper is an influencer/socialite who has gotten into too many scraps for her stepfather (a famous movie producer) to handle. So he sends Piper and her younger sister to a small fishing town in Washington to try to revive her late father’s dive bar. It’s there she is cut off from her old life, has to learn how to survive on her own, and meets a man who may change her world. Brendan is a sea captain (the same job that got her father killed) who doesn’t think much of Piper when she arrives and thinks she’ll hightail it out of town soon enough. But he’s surprised by her tenacity and strength, as she learns how to exist in a new world and revive her father’s bar. This novel fully tugged at my heartstrings and ugh, I just loved the love story between Piper and Brendan. They were so perfect for one another! I have some issues with this book, though. I felt like Brendan was pretty one-dimensional with zero flaws. He’s the kind of man that makes dating very, very hard because real people are not built like him. I just wanted a bit more personality from him. Secondly, the ending was fully ridiculous and over-the-top and a lot of it didn’t make sense with the way the characters were written leading up to these final scenes. But romance authors these days seem to put a lot of stock in these fully ridiculous endings (I wish they wouldn’t) so it is what it is. All in all, though, a fantastic romance and I’m excited to read the next book in the series soon.

Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male America by Ijeoma Oluo (★★★★★)

This book tries to answer the question of how we got to where we are today: escalations of white male rage, white male conservatism, and violence against Black people, people of color, and immigrants. And wow, does Oluo do an incredible job answering that question. This book takes on all pieces of our society that have been affected by white male mediocrity: politics, sports, higher ed, women in the workplace, social justice movements, etc. I was particularly aggrieved by the chapters on women in the workplace and women in politics because the injustices women have had to put up with because of white male mediocrity are endless and continuing. This book isn’t here to offer answers. It simply serves as a way for us to recognize how we have continued to lift up white male voices and forget the women and the people of color who are also engaged in our society. Only when we recognize that there is a problem can we begin to move forward. This is a wonderfully written book that I think is well worth a read.

It’s the expectation that many white men have that they shouldn’t have to climb, shouldn’t have to struggle, as others do. It’s the idea not only that they think they have less than others, but that they were supposed to have so much more. When you are denied the power, the success, or even the relationships that you think are your right, you either believe that you are broken or you believe that you have been stolen from. White men who think they have been stolen from often take that anger out on others. White men who think they are broken take that anger out on themselves.”

What I’m Reading This Week

  • The Vanishing Stair by Maureen Johnson (audio) – I have a couple hours left in this audiobook (the second in Johnson’s Truly Devious series). I’m enjoying it a lot!
  • A Beastly Kind of Earl by Mia Vincy (e-book) – Man, I love Mia Vincy’s historical romances. Her covers are atrocious but the writing is exceptional. I’m 100 pages into this romance and loving it so far.
  • A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles (print) – So many people have raved about this book! I have very high expectations, but I’m trying to temper myself. I just started it yesterday so I don’t have any opinions just yet.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

June Reading Wrap-Up

Books Read

  • Love & Other Disasters by Anita Kelly (★★★★★ – print, owned, Book of the Month) – A really sweet, heartwarming sapphic romance set on a cooking reality show
  • Things That Make White People Uncomfortable by Michael Bennett (★★★★☆ – e-book, owned, Amazon) – A book of essays about the NFL, racial justice, and Black liberty written by a former NFL player
  • The Odds of Loving Grover Cleveland by Rebekah Crane (★★★★☆ – print, owned, Thriftbooks) – I loved this YA book set at a summer camp for troubled youths. Lots of trigger warnings!
  • Romancing Mister Bridgerton by Julia Quinn (★★★☆☆ – e-book, library) – With every new Bridgerton book I read, I wonder why Shonda Rhimes chose this series for the show. There are just so many better historical romance series to choose from! It was fine, but not outstanding like I wanted it.
  • The Plot by Jean Hanff Korelitz (★★☆☆☆ – e-book, library) – A book I most certainly should have abandoned, involving a MFA professor whose literary career is off track until he finds a great story plot from one of his students.
  • Little Secrets by Jennifer Hillier (★★★☆☆ – print, library) – A thriller that wasn’t as page-turning as I wanted it to be, although the author did a great job crafting a satisfying, realistic ending.
  • Almost Just Friends by Jill Shalvis (★★★★☆ – e-book, library) – A contemporary romance that hit the spot when I needed it.
  • Pony by RJ Palacio (★★★★☆ – audiobook, library) – A beautifully written middle-grade fiction book involving a young boy who goes on an adventure to find his father who was taken in the middle of the night.
  • The Care and Feeding of Waspish Widows by Olivia Waite (★★★☆☆ – e-book, library) – Another sapphic romance! Two in one month. 🙂 This was a slow-burn romance, which typically aren’t my favorite but I loved that one of the female characters was a beekeeper!
  • Outlawed by Anna North (★★★☆☆ – print, owned, Book of the Month) – A Western book that was fairly gripping but in the end, left a bad taste in my mouth.
  • Instructions for Dancing by Nicola Yoon (★★★★★ – audiobook, library) – A heartfelt YA romance about a girl who is going through the turmoil of her parents’ divorce, her father’s new relationship, and her own new relationship.
  • The Lost for Words Bookshop by Stephanie Butland (★★★★☆ – e-book, library) – I loved this contemporary novel set in a bookstore, mostly because I think the way the author slowly revealed the main character’s past and her present motivations was completely genius.

Book Challenges

  • Book Club: Our June book pick was Little Secrets by Jennifer Hillier, and it was surprising to a lot of us that my friend Mikaela (who has three kids, including a baby!) suggested it since it was about a child being kidnapped. But she said that after watching her daughter go through cancer, not much can faze her these days. Touche! Most everyone liked or loved the book. I was the one who was the most “meh” about it, ha.
  • Unread Shelf Project: The June challenge for the Unread Shelf Project was “a book about a journey.” I had a hard time choosing a book for this category because I don’t have too many books that are about journeys. I guess I could have interpreted in many different ways, like an internal personal journey rather than an external one. I chose Outlawed, which was definitely about both an external journey of joining an outlaw gang and the internal journey of the main character coming to terms with her barrenness.
  • Goodreads Challenge: I read one book for my goal of reading all the books added to my Goodreads TBR before 2018 and that was The Odds of Loving Grover Cleveland. I am so glad I finally plucked this one off my shelf!

Book Stats

  • # of books read: 12
  • # of pages read: 3,886 pages
  • Genre breakdown: Romance (33%), Fiction (25%), YA (25%), Nonfiction (8%), and Mystery/Thriller (8%)
  • Format breakdown: e-book (49%), print (33%), and audiobook (18%)
  • Fastest read: The Odds of Loving Grover Cleveland (3 days)
  • Slowest read: The Plot and Romancing Mister Bridgerton (10 days)
  • Star average: 3.6
  • % of books by or about BIPOC or the LGBT community: 33%
  • Abandoned books: 1 (The Reading List by Sara Nisha Adams—I really want to try this book again. I just wasn’t in the mood for something sad.)
  • Goodreads goal check-in: I set a goal of 135 books this year and currently, I am 4 books behind schedule.

Superlatives of June

  • Favorite book of the month: Instructions for Dancing by Nicola Yoon
  • Favorite romance of the month: Love & Other Disasters by Anita Kelly
  • Least favorite book of the month: The Plot by Jean Hanff Korelitz
  • The book that surprised me the most: The Lost for Words Bookshop by Stephanie Butland
  • The most problematic book I read this month: Outlawed by Anna North

What was the best book you read in June?

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