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Categories: Goals

My Goals for 2020

Let’s talk about 2020 goals! Woohoo! I love setting yearly goals, even if I find that I don’t complete a majority of them and/or find my attention waning as the year goes by. They’re still fun to think about and dream up! This year, I’m setting 10 goals, although you’ll see that many of them have additional components to them so I’m cheating a bit.

1. Move to a new apartment. This is my most exciting goal for 2020, as I prepare to move out of my shoebox apartment and into a larger place where I will have room for a kitchen table (!!). I’m so excited to have more space!

2. Pay off my credit card – and keep it paid off. I’m not proud of this and I feel like, by now, I should have learned my lesson of how to properly use a credit card. Hopefully, I can get this paid off in Q1 but it may take a little longer than I’m expecting.

3. Complete 12 monthly health challenges. Kelsey of The Girl Next Door podcast fame did this in 2019, and I love the idea of tackling one small health goal every month. I’ve started making a list of some of the challenges I’d like to attempt in 2020, like not eating any fast food, eating two servings of vegetables every day, not eating anything processed, etc. I’ll reveal my January challenge next week!

4. Do one new thing every month. I attempted this goal a few years ago but didn’t really follow through with it. I’m determined to make it happen in 2020. This can be as small as attending a yoga class to as big as going on a solo vacation. I’ve been keeping a list of ideas and I’ll pick from that list at the beginning of every month!

5. Go on 24 first dates. This feels like a really big goal, even though it only amounts to two dates a month. But I went on three dates total last year (and zero the year before, as it was my year of no dating) so 24 sounds like a lot of dating. I feel like it’s time to give dating the effort it deserves and see what happens when I really invest in it.

6. Make at least three “green” changes to my living environment. I’d like this to be a goal I do every year, slowly eliminating habits I have that contribute to waste. This year, the changes I’d like to make are switching out single-use makeup remover wipes for reusable wipes, switching out the single-use cotton rounds I use for my toner for reusable pads, and moving from tampons to a Diva Cup.

7. Work out 150 times. I was unsuccessful with my 150 workouts goal last year, but I’m blaming it on my ankle. I’m trying it again this year and I hope that having a gym to go to will help me stay on track.

8. Finish my novel and get through one round of revisions. I want to spend the first quarter of the year finishing my novel (it needs at least 30,000 more words) and for the rest of the year, I want to work through the first round of revisions. Then, it might be ready for beta readers in 2021! That’s really exciting to think about.

9. Complete the 2020 Unread Shelf Project. This is a really easy, low-key reading challenge that I wanted to attempt last year but kept forgetting about. Each month has a prompt and you pick out an unread book from your shelves to read. If you don’t read the book in that month, you have to give it away. The pressure!

10. Get my third tattoo. I’ve had an idea for my third tattoo for over a year now and I think that putting this as a 2020 goal will ensure I get it done. The tattoo is to commemorate my grandparents (I still need to figure out some of the artistic details but it will be a small cross with a butterfly) and I want to have it tattooed right behind my right ear.

Did you set goals for 2020?

Categories: Best Of, Goals

Best of 2019 | Looking Back on My Yearly Goals

Happy 2020, friends! I can’t believe it’s here. I love the promise that a new year holds! There’s just so much anticipation in the air. I don’t know what will happen this year, but I dearly hope we will elect a new president, I will find love, and everyone I know will stay healthy and happy.

I’m nearing the end of my “Best of 2019” posts (two to go!) and for today, I’m taking a look back at the yearly goals I set and reporting on how I did. Let’s get into it:

1) Read 100 books. Complete! I read 130.

2) Complete the A-Z Instagram reading challenge. Complete!

3) Reread the Anne of Green Gables series. Complete! I read the first four books in the series, deciding I wasn’t interested in reading the rest of the series (I tried to read the fifth book and I was bored). I’m giving myself a “complete” for this goal.

4) Dye my hair purple. Complete! I did this in July.

5) Save $1,000 in an emergency fund. Complete! I have a fully funded emergency fund. It feels so good to say that! (Of course, I want to have more than $1,000 saved in my emergency fund and will continue adding money to it in 2020, but it won’t be the biggest focus of my finances next year.)

6) Get something on the walls of my living room. Complete! I have a very fun gallery wall. It makes me happy every time I see it!

7) Take control over my dermotophagia. Not complete.

8) Redo my bathroom. Complete! I did this in March.

9) Visit Ireland. Complete! We went in April/May. 🙂

10) Visit Washington DC. Not complete.

11) Build a necklace collection. Complete! I love my little collection of necklaces and want to continue building it.

12) Pay an extra $500 towards my student loans. Not complete.

13) Go to a movie alone. Not complete.

14) Work out 150 times. Not complete. I finished with 121 workouts. I would have gotten this done if I hadn’t broken my ankle on December 1st. Womp.

15) Lose 40 lbs. Not complete.

16) Give Eloise a sibling. Complete! I adopted Lila in February.

17) Start saving for a new apartment. Complete! I have $300 saved so far.

18) Do a spending freeze once a quarter. Not complete.

19) Develop a daily water-drinking habit. Not complete.

20) Buy two bigger bookshelves. Half-complete. I bought one and that’s all I need right now.

21) Complete Project 365. Complete! (Oh heavens, I am so happy to be done with daily photos.)

22) Develop a skincare routine. Complete. I’m in a great routine now and it feels really good!

23) Start a vitamin regimen. Not complete. I did well with this in the first half of 2019 but completely fell off the wagon in the second half.

24) Replace all of my underwear. Complete. Next up: replacing all of my sports bras!

25) Write my novel. Not complete. I made it about 80% of the way there.

26) Try 10 new foods. Not complete.

27) Track my money on Mint. Not complete.

28) Get all of my skin tags removed. Complete! This was done in January/February.

29) Sign up for a paid dating service. Not complete.

30) Visit five new-to-me parks around the area. Not complete.

So, at the end of the year, I completed 16 of the 30 goals I set for myself. A little more than half! That’s not a great result, haha, but it’s all good. 30 goals is a lot of goals to focus on in a year, which is why I’m planning on simplifying them for 2020. (Stay tuned!) But I’m proud of the goals I did get complete, especially saving more money, reading great books, adopting another cat, and visiting Ireland.

How did you do on your 2019 goals?

Categories: Goals

NaNoWriMo 2019 | Week 4 (Days 22-30)

Hello, friends! At this point in time, I am on my birthday cruise and, most likely, having a grand time. 🙂 But I didn’t want to leave you hanging about NaNoWriMo! For those that saw my Instagram update, I hit 50,000 words on November 27 – a nice pre-birthday present to myself. Here’s how the whole week went down:

Day 22

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,051 words

Ooh, I actually had a lot of fun writing today! It was nice to have an easy writing day after so many days when I felt like I was just writing utter garbage. The scenes I wrote were a bit unexpected, too, as I hadn’t included them in my plot outline but it all just came out in the writing. How fun! I needed this easy, fun writing day because I was getting worried about motivating myself to finish this challenge and worried I was losing momentum. Apparently not! I’m excited to get back to my story tomorrow. 🙂 That’s a great feeling!

Day 23

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 1,711 words

Oof, today was just a hard day of writing for me. I had a fun scene to write but it was such a struggle to get the words down. Today was also a pretty bleak mental health day for me, one of the first days in a while where I felt the pull of darkness wanting to drag me down. My mental health has been fairly stable and serene for months so it’s hard not to get worried that this one day will morph into multiple days… then weeks… then months. Tomorrow is a new day, though, right? I think I’ll take myself to the gym first thing to get some endorphins flowing and cross my fingers that help lift this cloud of gray fogging up my head.

Day 24

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 1,675 words

While I didn’t meet my word count goal for today (I’m growing less concerned with hitting that goal since I’m so close to finishing!), I’m happy with the progress I made today. And I wrote these words in the morning, not in the evening like I have been doing on Sundays. This means that when I come home after a day of watching football at my mom’s, I can just R E L A X. Woohoo!

Anyway, the writing itself went well and was much, much easier than yesterday. I think it’s because I went on a beautiful morning walk before sitting down to write so I was feeling a bit more connected to myself, and because I am going to spend today with my mom, my brother, and my older nephew, which ALWAYS puts me in a better mood.

Day 25

  • Goal: ?
  • Actual: 1,296 words

Since I’m so close to the end of the challenge (3,500 words to go!), I’m not setting daily word count goals anymore. I’m trying to write two pages a day until I reach 50,000 words. Then, my plan is to take a break until Dec. 9th and get back to writing daily until I finish my novel. Here’s hoping I’ll be motivated in December to get it done!

Back to today. I had a really fun time writing these two pages, although I may have screwed myself royally because I wrote the scene as if my two characters had an entirely different reason to be together. While I love the change I made and I think it’s going to add an extra emotional layer to the story (that it needs, to be honest), it does mean I’m setting myself up for way more revisions than I intended.

I had a hard time getting started today because I kept thinking about the next few scenes in my novel. It’s time to start wrapping things up (I’m predicting I have 5-8 scenes left) and I have no idea what the dark moment is going to be. It’s completely up in the air! The dark moment is so crucial and I read so many of them in romance novels that make me roll my eyes. I don’t want that!

To sum it up, today was a good writing day but internally, the day from hell. Ha.

Day 26

  • Goal: ?
  • Actual: 1,307 words
  • Things researched: top of a mountain in georgia

Goodness gracious, I had such a fun time writing today! The change I made yesterday seems to make my characters feel so much more real and alive, and their chemistry seems palpable. Even though this change will cause some massive rewrites, I think it’s so perfect for the story and will allow me to work through some things in my own life through my character. (Which I know for a fact is something many authors do.)

I’m so close to the end, I can’t believe it! This challenge has been so much fun to complete and I’m just praying I can keep the momentum up in December to finish the story.

Day 27

  • Goal: ?
  • Actual: 2,185 words

I did it! Today, I hit 50,000 words! I am so very proud of myself and pleased with the way my story is turning out. I’m closing in on 80,000 words in the story, which is mind-blowing to me considering where I was at not even a month ago. But now it’s an actual story! Almost complete!

I am going to discuss NaNoWriMo as a whole in another post so let’s focus on today’s writing session. It was a very good writing session – felt easy and fun. Before writing, I knew I needed around 2,000 words to get to 50,000 so I made that my goal. I will say that the last 500 words felt like a slog, haha, but I think that was just because I knew how close I was to that magic 50k number.

And now I’m done! For now, at least. I’m going to spend some time outlining the rest of my story (since I have a better idea of how it’s all going to turn out, although I’m still unsure of the dark moment) and then come the second week of December, it’s back to writing so I can do the thing I’ve been wanting to do for years: finish a novel. Eeks!

Final word count for NaNoWriMo 2019: 50,159 words

Categories: Goals

NaNoWriMo 2019 | Week 3 (Days 15-21)

Another Friday, another NaNoWriMo recap for you! As expected, I took a day off from writing this week and while I’m glad I did that because I most assuredly needed it, I do feel like my momentum has shifted a bit and it’s making me a little wary about how I’ll handle motivation in December. My goal is to spend December finishing up the novel (I’ll likely have at least 30k more words to write), so here’s hoping I can make that happen!

Anyway, onto week three! Here are my recaps:

Day 15

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,040 words

As an Enneagram 9, one of the things I really struggle with is inertia. Mostly, it’s hard for me to get started on a task. Once I’m immersed in it, I’m fine and it’s hard to drag me away… it’s just the getting there that’s hard. Procrastination is the name of my game. I felt this inertia problem hard tonight as I worked on my writing. I had to really force myself to pick up my laptop and write. But I did it, in two 30-minute time blocks (and I took a break between them to make cookies, which was an A+ decision). I’m happy with what I wrote today, too. It was a good scene and fun to write! Let’s hope the rest of my writing week is just as much fun!

Day 16

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,052 words
  • Things researched: real estate development

Another pretty great writing day! As always, I struggled with the novel at the beginning of my writing session. (Lots of, “Ugh, you’re fooling yourself if you think this novel could ever be published” thoughts.) But I pushed through the self-doubt and mean thoughts and wound up having a lot of fun with one particular scene.

I feel so motivated to get my word count done, even if it does take me some time to actually do it. I went to a fun event this afternoon and afterward, my mom invited me out to dinner but it was nearing 6 p.m. and I hadn’t started writing yet. I knew the more responsible thing was to go home, eat something quick, and get my words done. So that’s what I did – any other month and I would have blown off my writing goal. There’s just something about NaNoWriMo! I’m actually feeling a little nervous about not having it to motivate me when December rolls around.

Day 17

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,080 words
  • Things researched: different facial expressions

Today was a great writing day! I waited until the end of the day to write when I should have done it in the morning as I was just lazing around and then spent the rest of the day procrastinating about getting it done. But, I did it! It went pretty quickly, too. Maybe a little over an hour to write 2,000+ words so I’m happy about that. I’m currently on track to finish by Nov. 24th so I think I’m definitely going to give myself a day off sometime this week. I think I’ve earned it!

Day 18

  • Goal: 1,500 words
  • Actual: 1,617 words

I wrote these words before work and I definitely thought my alarm was messing with me when it went off at 4:45AM this morning. Alas, it was not! I was a sleepy girl as I wrote but I got it all down and most of it wasn’t half bad. Still, it took me about the same amount of time to write 1,600 words as it took me to write 2,000 words last night so that’s pretty telling. But I’m done for the day and I can feel good about that!

Day 19

  • Goal: 1,500 words
  • Actual: 0 words

My first goose-egg of the challenge! I planned to take a day off this week and Tuesday seemed like a good day to do it. It allowed me to sleep in (until 5:30am, haha) and just have a day where I didn’t have to think about my novel. It was a good break, but I definitely felt a little guilty about not writing today and wondering if it would affect my momentum. Time will tell!

Day 20

  • Goal: 1,500 words
  • Actual: 1,553 words

I got this done before work and man, was I sleepy while writing it! I finally had the good sense to make myself iced coffee, which gave me the kick in the pants I needed. It was a pretty easy writing day – took about 45 minutes to get these words done and I’m happy with what I wrote. Although I forgot the name of a semi-minor character and didn’t feel like searching my document for the name I gave him originally so I made up a new name for him. Must remember to go back and change it! Remembering the names of minor characters is harder than you’d think! I also find myself mixing up the names of my main character and her closest female friend a lot, which is problematic since my main character is dating her friend’s brother. That could get dicey. 😉

Day 21

  • Goal: 1,500 words
  • Actual: 1,194 words

Oh boy, I was just not interested in writing today. I really had to force myself to sit down and write and then I made a deal with myself that I only had to write to two full pages. It’s under my goal but it’s still forward progress! To prepare to write today, I read back through some of what I wrote yesterday and, y’all, it’s total garbage. Ha. Like, I’d probably abandon the romance novel if I was reading it myself. EEKS. I’m trying to take deep breaths and remember it’s okay. It’s supposed to be trash during the first draft and I will be able to spend lots of time revising it and making it sound much better. Also, I wrote it at 5am yesterday when I was half asleep. I was pretty positive I wasn’t writing award-winning prose then.

My goal is to finish the challenge by Wednesday, which means I need to write around 2,000 words a day from now until then. My weekend is relatively plan-less and the first part of the week is, too, so fingers crossed I can make it happen! (And am much more inspired to write than I was today!)

Total word count after week 3: 39,934 (80%)

Categories: Goals

NaNoWriMo 2019 | Week 2 (Days 8-14)

Week two is in the books! I was a little worried about this week because I thought I was losing steam, but I think the fact that I’m keeping myself accountable through these weekly posts, and my daily posts to Instagram Stories about my progress, is helping immensely. And because I really want to finish my novel this year! Next week is going to be a bit difficult since I have plans more nights than not, which means lots of early mornings and lunchtime writing! But I’ll get it done. (Hopefully. And if not, I’m way ahead of where I need to be so I can take a day or two off without falling completely behind.)

Here’s my week two report!

Day 8

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,555 words
  • Things researched: most iconic BSC books

Y’all. Today was one of the first days when I was just bored by my story. I’ve had really good days and really hard days and today was neither of those. I was just… bored by writing. I’m not sure why, although the majority of the scenes I wrote today involved my character doing a lot of mundane tasks, so that’s probably why. It wasn’t about moving the romance along or the story arc – just a scene where my character was doing normal, daily life things. Who knows if I’ll even keep these scenes but they seem important to write for now. Hopefully, tomorrow’s writing will be a lot more fun!

Day 9

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,021 words
  • Things researched: developmental delays, breakdown of generations, best high fantasy series

Today went much better than yesterday, although the scene I wrote is going to need a lot of work. I’m worried I made one of the characters a little too much of a caricature of a condescending white man, but maybe not! 😉 I’m also loving the scenes between my main character and her friends. They’re so fun to write! They require a lot of dialogue, but I love watching their personalities come to life!

I’m almost at 20k words written for the month, which is CRAZY! It’s amazing how much writing I can do when I’m focused. I was writing maybe 4-5k a MONTH previously. (And sometimes, not even close to that.)

Day 10

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,021 words (<– howwww did I write the same exact number as the day before?!)
  • Things researched: bar stool bottom (I was drawing a blank on the word “footrest,” sigh), dumb trivia names, british literature trivia questions, british names

Oh boy, Sundays are going to be a tough writing day for me! I finished up my word count a little after 10:30 p.m. and am planning to wake up early tomorrow to do my writing… which is in less than seven hours. Eeks.

I spent part of the morning outlining the next few chapters of my novel and ooh, we’re getting to some good parts! I’m really excited about the next few scenes and everything my characters are going to get to experience. After coming home from spending the day at my mom’s watching football, I worked on my novel. It felt like it took FOREVER to get to my 2k word count goal, but I finally did it and now I am sooo ready for bed. No reading in bed for me tonight – it’s lights out in 3… 2… 1…

Day 11

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,044 words

Another early-morning writing session for me! And another day when writing just felt like a struggle. It felt like it took forever for me to get to 2,000 words. (At one point, I was certain I had to have hit my word count goal… and I was 500 words away. NOOOO.) This week, I stopped using a timer for getting my writing done. Instead, I’ve been trying to write to the end of the page and then give myself a tiny break. I think, though, it’s making the writing take much longer and be way more of a struggle. I’m definitely going back to the timer tomorrow!

Day 12

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,017 words

You guys, I was so tired today while I was writing. I woke up at 4:45AM so I could go to the gym for an early-morning BodyPump class and then had a full day at work. I got home around 6:30PM and it was pitch black outside and all I wanted to do was take a bubble bath and go to bed. Alas, I did not. Instead, I gave my kitties some love and then opened my laptop, set a timer for 30 minutes, and wrote. It was one of those writing sessions where I just kept thinking, “What are you even trying to write a novel? This is such a stupid goal. There are so many better ways to spend your time.” THANKS, BRAIN. Just what I need!

After the 30 minutes were up, I made dinner, ate, and then sat down to write. My plan was to write to the end of the page and then take a break, but when I got to the end of the page, I needed less than 250 words to hit my goal so I decided to keep writing. Finished right before 9 – woop! Done and done.

(Also, the second part of my writing time went MUCH better than the first part. Brain was surprisingly quiet! Maybe it just needed to eat? Heh.)

Day 13

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,040 words

I wrote the first 1k words before work, and it went fairly well. It wasn’t too much of a struggle to write, which was nice! I planned to finish the rest of it at night. I had a hair appointment after work so I got home around 7:30 and was so tired that I contemplated calling it ‘good’ for the day. I just wanted to eat dinner and go to bed. (I’m not sure if it’s all this creative output, the earlier mornings, or the time change, but I have been exhausted this week!) Alas, after eating, I had a burst of energy so I decided to write! I felt good about getting it done, much better than I would have felt if I hadn’t.

Day 14

  • Goal: 2,000 words
  • Actual: 2,080 words

I wrote all of these words before I started my workday (worked from home today). It went okay, but not as great as I hoped. Writing in the mornings has been a real struggle for me lately. There’s too much happening in my brain at that time – I’m concerned about my day and to-do list. At night, my brain is quieter and I’m in my wind-down phase so it’s easier to focus. At least, that’s how it seems to me.

I got distracted a lot this morning as I was trying to write, thinking about the arc of my novel and some of the dark moments that need to happen to get to the final conclusion. It made me feel like ripping my entire novel apart as I recognized some very big plot details I’ll need to include during revisions! Argh. Writing is such a goddamn struggle of the mind.

I reached the end of my plot timeline with this morning’s writing session, so I spent some time today writing a few more scenes for the novel. It’s all taking shape! I still have a long way to go, but I finally feel like I’ve hit the midpoint of my novel, and now’s the time to bring everything together. Exciting!

Total word count for week 2: 29,390 (59%)

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