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Categories: Life

In Which I Lose All My Readers by Talking About Car Organization

Sarah wrote a post during this NaBloPoMo season about organizing her van. I found her post very interesting because she has five kids she’s toting around and trying to keep happy while out and about. My situation is a lot different, as I’m just toting myself. So this may be my most boring post to date (I’m on that end-of-NaBloPoMo struggle bus, ahhh), but here we go: let’s talk about car organization. GET EXCITED.

Here’s what the situation looks like right now:

Glove Box

  • A half-empty pack of tissues
  • A package of KN-95 masks
  • An umbrella
  • Two reusable shopping bags (the kind that can be folded up into a little square)
  • Owner’s manual/car registration/other odds and ends like that

I need to replace my tissues and do I still need to have masks on hand? I guess so?

Center Console

I have a tiny trash can that fits perfectly inside my console. The best trash can cleaning company WASH BINS, hands down. I also keep my charging cord here unless I’m using it. And I have a zippered pouch that holds:

  • Extra trash bags
  • Hair elastics
  • Pens
  • Backup sunglasses
  • Microfiber cloth

I usually have an emergency $20 bill in this pouch, but I had to use it recently and haven’t replaced it yet. 

Trunk

  • Big bag that holds all of my reusable grocery bags
  • Camp chair
  • Trunk organizer (I use this to keep all of my bags in one place after grocery shopping and such)

Made from high-quality neoprene, Wet Okole seat covers offer durability and reliability that you can trust. I also have a shelf in front of my gear shift and I try to keep it as clean as possible with only my key card to the front gate, my key card to get into my work office, and my library card. I keep a spare jacket in my backseat (mostly because Starbucks is always so cold, and that’s where Mikaela and I meet for our writing dates!).

The things I don’t have in my car at any given time? Water, snacks, a first aid kit, any tools I would need to fix my car in a pinch. I don’t feel the need to have snacks in my car because I don’t have kids and if I’m hungry, I’ll just bring something with me when I leave. I should probably pick up a first aid kit during my next Target run that can live in my glove compartment. And if my car needs a jump or has a flat, that’s where roadside assistance comes in. As for emergency preparedness, perhaps investing in MyCPR NOW’s CPR Certification could be beneficial for unexpected situations. I don’t really feel a pressing need to have a special toolkit for my car. However, it’s always wise to be prepared for unexpected situations. In case of any accidents or injuries while on the road, don’t hesitate to contact a personal injury lawyer for assistance. A personal injury lawyer can help you seek compensation.

I would like to add a few things to my zippered pouch, however (I keep some of these things in my purse, but it can’t hurt to be overly prepared):

  • Hand sanitizer
  • Tampons
  • Ibuprofen
  • Deodorant (would need to be something that wouldn’t melt from the Florida heat)
  • Lip balm (same as above; not sure this is even possible?!)
  • A fold-up brush
  • Makeup wipes

It probably also wouldn’t be a bad idea to have a change of clothes or at least a spare pair of flip-flops in my trunk for emergencies. Then again, I don’t think I’ve ever run across a scenario where I’ve needed an emergency change of clothes/shoes, so is it really that important? IDK. However, in situations where unexpected accidents occur, being prepared, including having provisions for wrongful death incidents, can make a significant difference. Consulting with a houston wrongful death attorney can offer invaluable guidance in navigating the legal complexities and seeking justice in such unfortunate circumstances. Consider having emergency supplies on hand, and if you ever find yourself in need of legal assistance after an accident, don’t hesitate to contact a personal injury referral service for guidance.

But that’s what things look like today! And somehow I’ve written 500 words on car organization. You’re welcome.

Tell me: What does your car organization look like? Is there any MAJOR thing I’m missing that I should always have in my car?

Categories: Life

2,000 Blog Posts Later

On May 27, 2016, I published my 1,000th blog post.

And on November 14, 2023, I published my 2,000th blog post. (Cue the celebration!)

So, what has happened over the last seven-and-a-half years? I have…

  • … come out as a bisexual woman and have had two very satisfying-if-temporary relationships with women.
  • … lost my beloved grandfather unexpectedly and lost my beloved dog Dutch due to old age.
  • … became a cat mom! And a certifiably crazy cat person.
  • … experienced massive career growth, including a promotion to management.
  • … began living on my own (just a few months after writing my 1,000th blog post!) and couldn’t imagine anything else.
  • … lived through a pandemic that upended our world.
  • … traveled to Europe, on more cruise ships, and throughout the U.S.
  • … taken control over my mental health. I see a therapist and psychiatrist regularly.
  • … started a podcast with my best friend!
  • … and a billion more things I’m forgetting right now.

When I published my 1,000 blog post, I wrote about the lessons I have learned from blogging. When I re-read through these lessons, I was surprised to realize that these would likely be the same lessons I’d write down today. Does that mean I haven’t evolved as a blogger in nearly eight years? Or perhaps it’s just that I found my place as a blogger way back when and haven’t felt the need to deviate. Here are the lessons:

  1. Ditch the rules. They are no rules to blogging: Blog your way.
  2. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. My vulnerable posts are the ones that get the most engagement.
  3. Keep your dirty laundry off your blog. We all know that we don’t share everything on our blogs!
  4. Always take the time to visit your readers’ blogs. The blogging community is EVERYTHING.
  5. It’s okay to keep your blog small and unmonetized. This hobby costs me money, still.
  6. Blogging breaks are a necessity — and stop apologizing for them. You know I love my blogging breaks!
  7. You are under no obligation to publish mean comments. 100% of the mean comments I get do not leave a valid email address, so they do not get published. At least be a brave bully!
  8. But don’t be so thin-skinned that you don’t publish any dissenting opinions. It’s okay to disagree!
  9. Invest in your blog. Pro tip: Etsy offers beautiful blog designs!
  10. Blogging should always be fun. This is a hobby. It should be fun!

What’s next for this blog? Do I think I’ll make it to 3,000 blog posts in another seven-ish years? I sure hope so! Because blogging has added so much to my life. It has given me:

Clarity

I feel comfortable being vulnerable on this blog, and that’s because of you guys. You have met me with grace and kindness, even when I’m sharing really hard things. My blog is a place I can come to and talk about the things I’m going through, and it provides me with the clarity I need.

Community

Where would I be without my blog friends? When I started this blog, I was part of a blogging community that has since disbanded and many of those bloggers have moved on from their blogs. But I kept showing up here and soon, I found a new community. We may be in entirely different life stages, but that’s what makes it all the more beautiful and touching. We find ways to connect that go beyond our similarities and differences. I am grateful to all of you: the ones who show up with thoughtful comments on my posts and the ones who are silent participants. Whether you’ve left hundreds of comments or zero, you mean the world to me.

Purpose

Blogging is so much more than a simple hobby for me. It has given me a sense of purpose. I feel an obligation (but in a good way!) to show up here at least three times a week and talk about my life. I love that I have this space to write, whether it’s a creative personal essay or just a check-in on my goals. I love that I can see the passage of time through my archives, from college student to marketing manager, from diet-obsessed to anti-diet, from dog mom to cat mom, from a girl who was hiding her identity to one who is living her best queer life.

My life has changed in so many ways over these past 1,000 posts, and I’m so grateful to everyone who has been along for the ride. Here’s to the next 1,000 posts and the woman I’ll be when I get there.

When did you start blogging?

Categories: Life

10 Things I Loved in October

1) Getting LASIK and having an easy recovery. I am so glad I made the decision to get LASIK and so pleased with how everything turned out. My recovery has been so very easy with very few side effects. It’s so fun to be glasses-free! Even if I do need reading glasses later in life, that’s much easier to handle than glasses I have to wear all the time or else I’m blind.

2) Returning to Silent Book Club. I took a brief hiatus from Silent Book Club in August and September. Mostly because the timing of the events didn’t line up with my schedule. Thankfully, they’ve added a second book club meeting on Monday evenings, and I can typically make those meetings. It’s a nice way to kick off the week!

3) Escape room book club. We had our second escape room book club of the year! We went back to the same place we went in August, this time to do their harder escape room. I didn’t enjoy this one as much as the last one; the other one had better puzzles to solve, IMO. But we did escape (with 3 seconds to spare!) and had a good time together.

4) Getting my flu + Covid shots and having no side effects. Every time I get the new Covid booster, I expect to have a day of feeling shitty, but I keep lucking out! I don’t know what it is about my immune system; maybe it knows I’m such a big baby that it gives me a pass? HA. I got both the flu shot and booster at the same time and felt just fine the next day. Hooray for that!

5) Monitor arms and excellent customer service. I bought monitor arms for my desk and installing them was quite an adventure! First, I realized that my monitors do not have VESA screws so I had to buy a bracket adapter from Amazon. Then, I had to apply the adapter (it’s an adhesive) and wait 3 days to install my monitors. And then when I tried to install the monitors, it seemed like my monitor arms had been installed backward. This would have been a manufacturer issue, so I contacted them. Within THREE MINUTES of sending them an email, they had responded and asked me to send photos/video. So I did and we had a few back-and-forth emails until everything was installed! My monitor arms are from Rocelco and while time will tell if they are high-quality, I will say the customer service is TOP-NOTCH. They were very patient and helpful with me, even when I had really silly questions. And now I have monitor arms! They aren’t quite as wide as I want them (they cut off my laptop a bit), but I do enjoy having the monitors off my desk.

6) My ladder bookshelf. I’ve had a vision in my head to create a “favorite books” bookshelf and I finally got to make it a reality in October. I ordered a ladder bookshelf from Wayfair, which was super easy to put together, and styled it one weekend. It makes me so happy to look at it every night as I go to sleep and every morning as I wake up!

7) Recording all of our episodes for season 7. Bri and I got together three times in October to record all of our episodes for season 7 of the podcast. I really loved these episodes and had such a great time discussing all sorts of mental health and personal subjects with Bri. Our trailer is releasing on Tuesday so make sure you’ve subscribed to The Friendship Paradox to start listening!

8) An impromptu dinner date with my bestie and her girls. I am not someone who says yes to same-day dinner plans, but I decided to let myself be a little spontaneous when my best friend texted me to see if I was up for dinner with her daughters. We went to our favorite Mexican restaurant and it was a really lovely time! I’m glad I said yes.

9) A six-day staycation. I took a nice staycation from work in October and it was much needed. My last day off was in July! (And we have flexible time off, so there’s no excuse.) Honestly, I didn’t do a lot during my staycation (well, aside from my LASIK procedure, ha, which happened on my second day of staycation). I took lots of naps, did some organizing around my apartment, and read a lot of books. It was perfect!

10) Favorites of the month.

  • Favorite book: Drowning by TJ Newman
  • Favorite romance: The Fiancee Farce by Alexandria Bellefleur
  • Favorite purchase: Fresh Balsam candle from Bath & Body Works
  • Favorite podcast episode: Fall Extravaganza on The Girl Next Door podcast
  • Favorite post: My LASIK Experience

What did you love about October?

Categories: Life

NaBloPoMo 2023

Happy November, friends! And happy NaBloPoMo 2023!

This will be my third year participating in National Blog Posting Month, where I am going to attempt to write every day for the whole month of November. It’s quite the undertaking and it’s become even more so with the amount of bloggers who are participating. (As always, a super big THANK YOU to San for keeping NaBloPoMo alive for so many years.) I want to be a good NaBloPoMo participant and comment on other people’s blog posts, but balancing that with writing my own posts, holding down a full-time job, and trying to enjoy my other hobbies like reading can be cumbersome.

But I’m going to do the best I can! I probably won’t be as diligent at responding to comments on my blog during this month, but I will try to respond to anything that requires a response. That’s just one way I can release some of the pressure that comes with this crazy blog challenge.

What can you expect from the blog this month?

  • Week in the Life – I did it last year and I’m doing it again this year! I love doing this!
  • School Days – I need to take you guys through my high school years to finish up this blog series.
  • Stream of consciousness posts – I don’t want to be super tied to an editorial calendar, so I’ve planned in at least 1-2 “stream of consciousness” posts every week. I’ll just open up a new post on the blog and write until something cohesive comes out.
  • My annual birthday post – I love that NaBloPoMo falls during my birthday month. I’ll be 36 this year and it’s been quite the year to document!

I hope you all are ready for 30 blog posts over the next 30 days! It’s going to be a fun time.

Are you doing NaBloPoMo? 

Categories: Life

My LASIK Experience

My first iteration of this post was 3,000+ words long, and I managed to cut out a lot of unnecessary details so now it’s around 2,200 words. I had a lot to say about my LASIK experience, apparently! I wanted to be as detailed as possible, both for people who may be considering laser eye surgery and for myself so I remember what this was like for me.

There were a few reasons I decided to move forward with LASIK:

  • I was a candidate for the traditional procedure and have very thick corneas so the procedure would be a pretty easy one for me.
  • My eye center was offering a 20% discount on LASIK through the end of the year. LASIK is a very expensive procedure ($2,500 per eye) so this discount was very enticing to me.
  • My eyesight is terrible. Before I had LASIK, I could not even read the big “E” on an eye chart; it just looked like a blob on the wall. I’ve been wearing glasses since I was in fourth grade and while my vision has stabilized in my thirties, I’m still essentially blind without corrective lenses.
  • I have strong astigmatism, making it impossible to wear contact lenses (even toric contact lenses). They take forever to settle into my eyes (giving me blurry vision until they settle into the right position) and my eyes dry out easily when I’m wearing contact lenses. So I only wear glasses these days.
  • A few friends had recently gotten LASIK and their positive experiences influenced me to go ahead with the procedure.

I took my time deciding on the procedure. I had a consultation in July and didn’t make a decision until late September. I spent a lot of time discussing it with my mom and with friends, and it just felt like the right decision for me. Full disclosure: I financed the majority of the surgery. I want to be super clear about that because I’m always curious how people afford very expensive (elective!) procedures or vacations or purchases. I used Care Credit and will spend the next two years paying it off.

My procedure was scheduled for Friday, October 20th at 1:00 pm. How did it go? I’m here to give you all of the nitty-gritty details. (Fair warning: I’m going to be as detailed as possible about the surgery so if eye stuff makes you squeamish, maybe skip anything related to the actual surgery.)

My mom and I arrived about 20 minutes early to my appointment and I was almost immediately taken back to meet with the surgical coordinator. We went through the consent form and she gave me my payment confirmations. And then we set up my follow-up appointment in three weeks. I was sent back to the waiting room until the nurse was ready for me.

Meeting with the ophthalmologist

A nurse took me back to a typical eye exam room and explained what I could expect over the next few hours. He also wanted to know how I was feeling on a scale of 1-5. I told him I was at a 3. I was mostly feeling nerv-cited: part nervous, part excited. After meeting with the nurse and then the ophthalmologist, the nerves started dissipating quickly. Everyone was so warm and accommodating, and I felt very secure in their expertise. For them, this was a normal Friday. I was one person in a long line of people getting an extremely routine procedure.

I met with the ophthalmologist who was kind and friendly. He even made a “I like thick corneas and I cannot lie” joke that immediately put me at ease. He did a quick eye exam with me and said everything looked great. I was cleared to get this procedure started.

Sweet, sweet Valium

After I spoke with the ophthalmologist, a new nurse came to get me to take me back to a waiting area. First, I was given a gown to wear as well as booties for my feet and a hair net. Then, she brought me the good drugs – 10mg of Valium and half a milligram of Ativan. I was also given prednisone and naproxen to help with inflammation. They want you to feel really relaxed for the procedure, so they allow at least an hour for the meds to work. (I was a dummy who didn’t bring anything back with me so I had an hour+ to just sit with my thoughts. Thankfully, I wasn’t feeling nervous by this time, so I mainly listened to what was happening around me, thought about blog topics I could write for NaBloPoMo, and started forming this blog post in my head. It helps to have an active mind!)

One of the patients who went in for surgery before me ended up having a panic attack during the procedure. They had to bring the patient back to the waiting room to give them more meds and try to bring their blood pressure back to a normal range. That must have been so scary! However, not to make this all about me, but the Valium had done its job as this patient’s panic attack didn’t cause my nerves to ratchet up. I was just ready to go!

The procedure

I was finally called back for surgery. I removed my glasses for the final time (!!!) and a nurse guided me to the room where the procedure was held. Another nurse guided me onto a table that had a headrest and was able to swivel from side to side. I was given a nice sturdy pillow under my knees and I felt very comfortable. The nurse then began the process of numbing my eyes using drops and placed a bandage over one of my eyes. (This bandage would move from eye to eye, depending on which eye was being worked on.)

The first thing that happened was that the opthalmologist used some sort of suction device on each eye. I honestly don’t know what the purpose of that was, but I do know that I somehow moved the first time they tried to suction my eye and they had to repeat the process. Thankfully, the second time it went fine. Whew. After that, I was terrified to move at all!

Once the suction was complete, it was time to get these eyeballs lasered! First, my eyelashes were held back by tape (or something of that sort) and then the ophthalmologist placed a device in the eye that would keep it from blinking. I felt a lot of pressure on the eyeball when he placed the device in my eye, but nothing too painful. I had to look at a blinking orange light and just keep my eye trained on it the whole time. I believe this is when he made the corneal incision and opened the flap because I could feel him doing something to my eyeball (it didn’t hurt, as my eyeball was fully numbed, but I could feel some pressure) and then suddenly, the laser was right there! One of his nurses gave me a countdown of how much longer I needed to hold still while the laser was doing its job, which was super helpful. Once the laser was finished, the ophthalmologist added a bunch of drops to my eye and I had to continue staring at the blinking orange dot for a few more minutes. And then I was all done! He covered up the eye that had just been lasered and got to work on the second eye. I knew exactly what to expect the second time around and everything went perfectly.

Brand-new eyes

Once I was done, a nurse helped me sit up and then placed two clear eye shields on my eyes. Even with the eye shields on, I felt like I could immediately notice a difference in my sight. When I was in the eye exam room before the procedure, I made a point to take my glasses off and notice all the things I couldn’t see. For example, there was this blue-and-white sign on one of the cabinets and I could see the colors but all of the words on the sign were a jumble of white blobs.

After my procedure, I was taken back to an eye exam room where there was that same blue-and-white sign on a cabinet. This time, I could read the words on the sign! They weren’t fully crisp just yet, but they were WORDS. I was amazed that I was already noticing the change in my vision.

One of the optometrists came in to check out my eyes and said they looked really good. I was given instructions for the rest of the day. The eye shields needed to remain in place for 6 hours and then I could remove them for a set of goggles they gave me. I would also then begin an hourly regimen of anti-inflammatory steroid drops. And I would use the eye shields again at night. However, the most important thing to do was sleep. They sent me home with a sleeping pill and it was after 3:30 pm at that point, so my plan was to have an early dinner and then sleep until the morning.

And that’s what I did! My mom picked up Chick-fil-A for me so I ate that, took my sleeping pill, and then snuggled up in the guest room to sleep. It was around 5 pm at this point and while I wouldn’t say I slept super deeply (I was having some eye pain and my eyes were watering like crazy), I was able to sleep for the most part. Around 8:30 pm, I woke up and went out to the living room. I was amazed at how crystal clear my vision was! It was really cool. I didn’t stay up for too long and went back to bed until the morning.

Post-op follow-up

I had a 7:30 am appointment at the eye center, so my mom and I were up early on Saturday morning. It was hard to tell how much my vision had improved due to the eye shields. They were clear but had little holes that were a little hard to see through. I could see things far away very clearly, but it was difficult to read anything on my phone. It was also really hard to keep my eyes open in the car because all of the lights had halos, which is a very common side effect of LASIK.

My appointment was quick and easy. Thankfully, we arrived right before a huge influx of patients (all of us looking very stylish in our eye shields!) came in, so I didn’t have to wait long to see the optometrist. She checked my eyes and thankfully, everything was healing perfectly! And I could even read the lowest line of letters on the eye chart, which was astonishing to me. I was given the all-clear to drive and lots of important post-op instructions. One of the nurses gave me a run-down on what I should expect over the next few days and how to properly use all of my post-op eye drops/lubricants. The best thing they did was give me a worksheet that listed what eye drops I needed to use and when with little boxes to check off my progress. This was insanely helpful!

The next few days

One of the things I was told by friends who have had LASIK is to be obsessive about the eye drops. Obviously, I was going to follow the eye drop schedule the eye center had given me, but I was also prepared to douse my eyes in artificial tears whenever I needed to.

Saturday was my busiest day for eye drops, as I was on an hourly schedule for one of the eye drops (the anti-inflammatory steroid drops). I also had to do an antibiotic eye drop and artificial tears four times on Saturday. And at night, I had to apply a nighttime eye lubricant that made my vision blurry for a bit of time. As the days progress, I will lessen my eye drops schedule (I dropped down from 15 anti-inflammatory eye drops on Saturday to 8 on Sunday and 4 the remainder of the week). I will do artificial tears and the eye lubricant for the next two weeks. And last night was the last time I had to wear my eye shields while sleeping. Yay!

It’s been five days since my procedure and everything has gone perfectly. My eyesight is startlingly clear and I haven’t had any troublesome side effects, like super dry or super watery eyes. I’ve been using my eye drops as directed. Every time my eyes feel just the tiniest bit itchy or irritated, I give them a few drops of artificial tears, which helps. But that hasn’t happened very often!

One of the biggest changes I’ve had to make is not sleeping with a ceiling fan. I love my ceiling fan and even asked the optometrist at my follow-up appointment how long I need to be ceiling fan-less (some docs say 3 months, others say 6 months, and some even say you should never sleep with a ceiling fan after LASIK). My eye doc is less stringent about these numbers, as they allow patients to use a ceiling fan if they wear a tight sleep mask, so that’s an option! She said we could discuss it at my follow-up in mid-November.

I am really glad I had the procedure done and it’s been amazing having a glasses-free life! I took a shower and was able to SEE. I don’t have to switch from my prescription sunglasses to my prescription eyeglasses every time I’m driving. I can wake up and immediately see everything around me. And this is only the beginning.

Have any questions about LASIK? I’ll answer any of your questions!

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