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Categories: Books

How to Choose What to Read Next

A few weeks ago, I made one of those Instagram Stories questions where I encouraged people to send me questions related to reading, book clubs, etc. One of the questions I received from my friend Allison was such a great one, but it would have required way more 15-second videos than anyone has time for. Instead, I told her I’d turn her question into a blog post!

Her question was this:

To be completely honest, I started writing about my own selection process but it was getting too complicated. I have a seriously intricate process when it comes to choosing what I’m going to read next. I have at least seven different TBR lists that I refer to when I’m making my monthly reading list, and it’s very hard to explain how I go about choosing what I’m going to read. But it’s a system that works for me! It’s probably not a system that will work for most people, though.

So, instead of discussing my exact process for selecting books, I thought I could give some tips on how you can figure out your own system for choosing what you are going to read. I think it will be much more helpful in the long run. Let’s get started!

Keep a running list of the books you want to read.

And I don’t mean marking every book you see as “want to read” on Goodreads. I mean making a thoughtful list of the books you really want to read. The ones that have come highly recommended from your most trusted sources or the ones that make you feel something in your gut when you read their synopses. This list should be curated with consideration, and only the books that you really want to read should be put on it.

I have a list that I call my “immediate TBR.” Before making this list, I just marked everything that sounded interesting as “want to read” on Goodreads and suddenly, I had a list of 900+ books! I grew concerned that the books I really, really wanted to read would get lost in the shuffle, so I set about making this list. I keep it in the Notes app on my phone. I only add a book to the list if it’s one I could see myself buying because I’m that interested in reading it. (Your reasoning may be different, of course, especially if you’re not much of a book buyer.)

Once you’ve curated your reading list (remember – be strict about what you add to this list! Only the best of the best can make the cut!), you can use this to choose your next book. Go from top to bottom, use a random number generator to select what book you’re going to read next from the list… whatever works and gets you excited about reading!

Here’s what my “immediate TBR” list looks like right now:

Make a monthly reading list.

I live by my monthly reading list, as I am a person who loves structure. I am not a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants reader, not by a long shot. So, towards the end of every month, I sit down and compile a list of 5-6 books that I want to read next month. Typically, it entails:

  • Two books from my “immediate TBR” list (I just choose the next two books in line)
  • Book club books (I belong to a local book club and my work book club)
  • Books from my Goodreads “want to read” list (I alternate between a nonfiction book, a fiction book, and a book from an author’s backlist*)

Once I’ve compiled my monthly reading list, I’ll open up my library’s website to request those books so they’ll be ready and waiting for me to start reading when the new month begins.

I really, really love my monthly reading list and the way it keeps me focused on what I’m reading next. I know exactly what I’ll be reading once I finish my current book, and there’s no scrambling to find a book on Overdrive or feeling lost about what I should read next.

Obviously, there are some cons to being so structured with my reading list, especially when I start a book that I’m just not in the mood for. This rarely happens for me because I’m pretty good at curating my reading list to my moods. For example, when I moved apartments, I knew I needed to keep my reading list full of easy, light-hearted books. No nonfiction, no WWII stories, nothing heavy. I also make sure to keep a good balance between light reads and heavy reads. If one of the books on my reading list is a long, heavy read, everything else is brain candy. This is when it is so helpful to understand your reading style. Some people can handle multiple heavy books in a row and some can’t.

Anyway, I highly recommend making a monthly reading list, especially if you’re someone who struggles with decision fatigue and has a hard time knowing what to pick up next after finishing a book. And I think the reading list is even helpful if you’re not reading at the crazy pace I do – even if you’re a 1-2 books per month type of reader, making a list of what you’re going to read that month can be helpful for your reading life and make sure you don’t feel lost in your Goodreads “want to read” list after finishing a book.

*Author’s backlist = I love reading through an author’s entire book list so a few years ago, I made a goal of reading through some of them. I’ve gone through Jennifer Weiner and Emily Giffin’s lists, and I’m currently working on Colleen Hoover and Louise Penny. 

Make a reading syllabus.

This is a fun idea that I’ve been hearing about, and it could be the perfect way to get more out of your reading life. Have a topic you’re interested in? Maybe dating or parenting or race relations or women-led thrillers. If so, make a syllabus that has a list of books about that topic with dates of when you want to read certain books. I can only imagine how fun it might be to research all the different books you can find on different topics, both fiction and nonfiction alike!

Let’s say you want to read more about race relations. You could add Michael Eric Dyson’s Tears We Cannot Stop, Angie Thomas’s The Hate You Give, Ta-Nehisi Coates Between the World and Me, and Nic Stone’s Dear Martin. And maybe you give yourself a task of reading two of these books per month – wham, bam, thank you, ma’am, you have an easy-to-reference reading list that will not only lessen your book selection fatigue but also get you closer to your goal of understanding the topic on your mind more clearly.

Plus, since you’ll be reading books on a topic that you are interested in, you’ll be more excited about reading because your reading life will have a purpose. You’re not just reading whatever is #1 on the New York Times best-seller list, but books that mean something to you. And that’s what reading is all about, in my opinion.

Become a serial abandoner.

Okay, so this isn’t really a tip on how to choose what you want to read next, but I still want to include it because this may be the #1 hill I’m willing to die on: abandon, abandon, abandon. There is no reason to keep reading a book that isn’t holding your interest. Reading is supposed to be fun, informative, and engaging. If you’re reading a book, but slogging through it slowly because you can only read a few pages before you get bored, abandon it. If you’re reading a book that everyone else seems to love but the main character annoys the ever-living fuck out of you, abandon it. If you’re reading a book and it’s triggering you, abandon it. There is no shame in abandoning a book. I feel like a lot of people who don’t find enjoyment from reading just aren’t reading the right things. Don’t follow the best-seller list – follow your own heart.

Heck, there have been times in my life when the only books I read were romance novels. It’s what made me happy, so it’s what I read. No shame!

The general rule of thumb is to subtract your age from 100, and that’s how many pages you should give a book. For me, since I’m 30, that’s 70 pages. So, I try to give every book 70 full pages to grab my attention, but if I’m at page 70, and I really don’t care what happens to the characters, I know it’s a sign to give it up.

And with that – I think I have written enough words about this topic. I mean, I could probably write another 1,500 words, but at that point, I might as well turn this into a novella. 😉 I really hope this helps anyone who struggles with choosing books to read! I truly believe anyone can have a fulfilling reading life, no matter if you read a few books a year or 100, but sometimes, it takes a little work and experimenting to find what works for you.

How do you choose what books to read?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (9.10.18)

What a crazy weekend! I had my first therapy appointment, a much-needed therapeutic massage, and finally got my Dutch tattoo. And football started, which means my Sundays will now be spent at my mom’s, watching the games with my family and I couldn’t be happier about that.

Last week, I only finished one book but that’s okay! My reading definitely seems to have slowed down in recent weeks, but I’m not concerned about it. I’m still reading every day and finding fulfillment in it, and it’s kinda nice to not read at such a frenetic pace right now. Perhaps it will pick back up, or perhaps this will be my new normal for a while. Who knows!

Book Finished

Title: Sleigh Bells in the Snow
Author: Sarah Morgan
Published: 2013
Format: Library e-book
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: Kayla arrives at Snow Crystal, a ski resort in Vermont, with one mission: to help this struggling business find its footing and start booking guests again. And then she meets Jackson, the owner of the resort, and sparks fly.

My Thoughts: This was the most perfect contemporary romance novel, filled with lovable characters and the plot reminded me of a Hallmark Christmas movie. (Right down to a “stop the car!” scene at the end, haha.) The setting was so charming and it’s absolutely a book I would recommend to anyone looking for a fun, sexy romance that will leave you feeling oh-so-happy.

Book Abandoned

My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante – Eh, I ended up abandoning this book. I was enjoying the story, but I also kept thinking about all the other books I could be reading and I wasn’t engaged enough to care about how the plot unfolded. One of those “good for you, not for me” books.

What I’m Reading This Week

  • A Million Junes by Emily Henry – I am so close to finishing this audiobook! Only a few hours left. I’ve really enjoyed it, though, and I’m so curious to hear how it ends!
  • Persuasion by Jane Austen – Slowly working my way through this classic novel. I have about 100 pages left, so I should be able to finish it sometime this week. The writing is so dense, ah!
  • Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski – What a title, eh? This book has been sitting on my bookshelf for a while, and I finally decided to pick it up this month. It’s been transformative in helping me to feel more normal and setting a foundation for what sexual desire truly means for women. I may even write a blog post about it if I have enough courage to do so!
  • Taking Fire by Cindy Gerard – My romance for the week! Cindy Gerard is always a sure bet for a great, fast-paced read.

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (9.3.18)

Happy Labor Day, my fellow American readers. Is there anything better than a three-day weekend? I think not! It’s been so nice to have a nice, long weekend where I can relax, get outside, and read as much as possible. I’m definitely trying to take advantage of all the sunny weather we’ve been having here in Florida (and since fall doesn’t exist here, wah, it’s something I’ll be taking advantage of for at least the next few months).

Last week, I finished two books, and here are my reviews!

Books Finished

Title: Beartown
Author: Fredrick Backman
Published: 2017
Format: Paperback
Rating: ★★★★★

Plot Summary: Beartown is a hockey town, and the entire town’s hopes and dreams lie in the men’s junior ice hockey team where the national semi-final match is the catalyst for everything. By the end of the night, a violent act will have been committed and a town will be in turmoil.

My Thoughts: Okay, yes, sign me up – I am fully on board with the Beartown love. This book was phenomenal. Backman is such an incredible wordsmith, crafting sentence after sentence that had me setting the book down to recover. He really and truly got to the heart of what it’s like when a small town is broken apart by violence, and how each side wants to be heard. In this instance, there is only one right side, but the way Backman explored how people respond to tragedy when it relates to revered sports stars is so timely and important. This book should be required reading, although I do caution anyone who reads this book that the first half is kiiiiinda a slog. While I didn’t have to force myself to keep reading (Backman’s writing is so exquisite and kept me engaged), I do understand why someone might abandon the book. But, trust me, it is worth it. It is so, so worth it. You most definitely won’t regret spending time with this story.

Title: Love and Other Words
Author: Christina Lauren
Published: 2018
Format: Paperback
Rating: ★★★☆☆

Plot Summary: Elliot was Macy’s first love, and when she runs into him in a busy coffee shop in San Francisco 11 years after they imploded, she can’t help but question everything about her life and what would have happened if their last fateful night had never occurred.

My Thoughts: After reading and loving Roomies earlier this year, I couldn’t wait to get my hands on another Christina Lauren romance, but this one didn’t live up to my high expectations. The novel alternates between two timelines: “now” and “then.” “Now” takes place in present day in which it has been 11 years since Elliot and Macy have spoken to one another. They are both in their late twenties, leading completely separate lives. “Then” takes place from the time Macy was 14 until she turned 18, and gives readers the back story between Elliot and Macy. I loved the “then” storyline and felt like it worked so perfectly. I could totally understand why Macy would fall in love with Elliot and their romance felt real and true. The “now” storyline, however, did not work for me at all. It felt rushed and impractical, and there were times when I really, really could not stand Macy. I wanted the authors to explore their dynamic as adults and what Macy and Elliot have been doing in the time they’ve been apart. I wanted to know why these two are meant to be together now. Sure, they were each other’s first loves, but how does that correlate to the people they are today? First loves are often not last loves, so what makes Macy and Elliot’s love different? I don’t feel like that was explored at the length it should have been to make the romance believable.

What I’m Reading This Week

  • Persuasion by Jane Austen – I started this novel over the weekend to meet my goal of reading four classics in 2018. I’ve never read a Jane Austen book (I tried to read Pride and Prejudice in high school for a class project, but I gave up and just read the Cliff’s Notes version in order to complete the project), so I chose one of her shorter novels. And, oy, is it slow going. I have to read sentences three or four times to understand what she’s trying to say, but I’m getting through it and I don’t hate it, so that’s saying something.
  • My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante – I started this novel over the weekend, too! I’m not quite sure how I feel about it. The writing isn’t totally grabbing me, but it’s not not grabbing me, either. There’s something lovely about the setting and the characters, but I also don’t feel like I would be sad if I just stopped reading the novel. Still debating if I want to abandon it, which is typically a sign I should abandon it. 😉
  • Sleigh Bells in the Snow by Sarah Morgan – In between Persuasion and My Brilliant Friend, I’m picking up this light-hearted romance novel by one of my favorite contemporary romance authors. It’s got that Hallmark Christmas movie appeal that I’m digging.
  • A Million Junes by Emily Henry – It’s the beginning of the new month, which means it’s time to listen to a new fiction audiobook. This one was immediately available to download from Overdrive, and it’s gotten rave reviews from friends. I’m hoping I love it just as much!

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (8.27.18)

Reading was a struggle last week. It was this weird feeling where I felt like I was fighting for every page I read. Reading felt… hard and boring, in a way. I was much less excited to reach for my books, preferring to scroll Instagram or play a game on my phone instead. I can’t remember the last time I felt that way, and I’m not really sure what caused it. I was busier, as I’m trying to finish up a freelance project and I’m attempting to walk 10,000 steps every day. So maybe it was just having a little bit more on my plate and needing my downtime to be less mentally focused. Who knows. But I honored this feeling as best as I could, knowing it would pass and I’d be back to voraciously consuming books.

Even still, I finished two books this week! But one of them was an audiobook that I only had an hour left in when Monday rolled around, ha.

Books Finished

Title: You’ll Grow Out of It
Author: Jessi Klein
Format: Library audiobook
Published: 2016
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: This book of essays by a female comedian explores many different topics of womanhood, from how to find good porn to dealing with fertility issues when you’re not even sure you want to have a child.

My Thoughts: I really enjoyed this essay collection from Klein. I don’t know of her work at all, but have had this book on my TBR list for a while. I listened to it on audio and that was the perfect way to consume this book because Klein reads it herself and had me laughing out loud during some of her stories. She has a great voice and this book felt like I was sitting down with a funny friend to hear stories about her life. Highly recommend for a fun, easy read.

Title: A Princess in Theory
Author: Alyssa Cole
Format: Library e-book
Published: 2018
Rating: ★★★★☆

Plot Summary: Thabiso, an African prince, has been betrothed to Naledi since birth. But then Naledi’s parents fled the country and she spent her life bumping from foster home to foster home after they died in a car accident not long after coming to America. But the time has come for Thabiso and Naledi to marry, so he flies to America to secure his bride.

My Thoughts: This novel was just pure fun, and I really loved both Naledi and Thabiso’s characters from the beginning. They had their own unique hangups that they needed to sort out before falling in love, but it all worked out perfectly. I will say that I think the author could have tightened up the beginning so that the ending could have been better fleshed out because it felt like the ending came so suddenly that it gave me whiplash. All in all, though, a fantastic read and I can’t wait to read the next book in this fun series!

What I’m Reading This Week

  • Beartown by Fredrick Backman – I have a little more than 100 pages left in this novel and it is completely shattering my heart. It’s so beautiful and so tragic and so timely.
  • Love and Other Words by Christina Lauren – I started this romance over the weekend and it’s offering a nice light-hearted companion to Beartown. I flew through the first half of it in just two days.
  • My Brilliant Friend by Elena Ferrante – Once I finish Beartown, I’m going to start this novel. I’m really not sure if it will be my cup of tea, but I’ll give it my usual 70-page try and hopefully, it will surprise me!

What are you reading?

Categories: Books

What I’m Reading (8.20.18)

What a weekend! Whew. I’m writing this post on Sunday evening, as I try to get my bearings with a new week on the horizon. This week will bring a viewing of Crazy Rich Asians with some work friends, my annual review at work, and lots and lots of writing as I work on a big freelance assignment. Last week, I finished three books! But two of those were novellas, so they were super quick reads at under 150 pages. Here are my reviews:

Books Finished

Title: Never, Never: Part Two
Author: Colleen Hoover and Tarryn Fisher
Published: 2015
Format: Paperback
Rating: ★★☆☆☆

Plot Summary: In Part Two of this trilogy, Silas wakes up with no memory but finds out that his girlfriend Charlie is missing and he needs to find her before time runs out.

My Thoughts: As much as I loved Part One of this series, Part Two was majorly disappointing! I’m on the fence if I even want to read Part Three, but since the books are so short (around 145 pages), I guess I’ll just finish it out to see what happens. I am interested to know why they have lost their memory! This book took some turns I wasn’t expecting and didn’t particularly enjoy, so blah.

 

Title: Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America
Author: Michael Eric Dyson
Published: 2017
Format: 
Library hardcover
Rating: ★★★★★

Plot Summary: Dyson doesn’t hold back in this book about race relations today and all the ways white privilege has paved the way for black indignity. Short, impactful, and will leave you forever changed.

My Thoughts: I don’t even know how to accurately describe how incredible this book was, but it’s one I want to put in the hands of everyone I know. It’s a book that will make a lot of white people squirm, but damn do we need to squirm. Dyson really gets to the heart of race relations today and what it’s truly like to be black in America. He talks not only about the different times he’s been stopped by the police but also about the times he’s been asked to leave churches and universities due to his more progressive views, views that not everyone is ready for. He writes honestly and poignantly about his life and about the ways white privilege and white fragility have infected our culture and made black people feel othered. There were so many quotes that just stopped me in my tracks because damn, does Dyson have a way with words. Please read this book. You won’t regret it.

Title: Ninja at First Sight
Author: Penny Reid
Published: 2015
Format: Library e-book
Rating: ★★☆☆☆

Plot Summary: In this novella, readers learn the origin story of Greg and Fiona, a married couple who are present in the first four books of the Knitting in the City series.

My Thoughts: I was told I *must* read this book before reading the fifth book in the Knitting in the City series because it gives greater context to Greg and Fiona’s story, as we learn how they got together. And… I just don’t get it? Maybe I will once I read that fifth book, but this felt like something that could have easily been incorporated into that book in flashback scenes. Also, I kinda hated this book solely on the fact that her mom was written outrageously awful. She tells her daughter, who had brain cancer a few years ago, that she’s “cutting her out of her life” if she goes away to college. Um, what? In what world does this make sense? I understand that the author wanted Fiona to have a troubled relationship with her mom, but that’s a little over the top and unrealistic.

Book Abandoned

The Duchess War by Courtney Milan – I abandoned this book on page 71 because it just wasn’t keeping my interest. I felt like the author was trying too hard to create a plucky heroine, but it just didn’t work for me. It was also just… boring. I didn’t feel any sense of excitement whenever I picked up the novel and I found my mind wandering when I was reading. Probably one of those “good for you, not for me” books.

What I’m Reading This Week

  • You’ll Grow Out of It by Jessi Klein – I have one hour left in this audiobook, and it’s been such a fun listening experience over the past week. It’s a book of essays written by a comedian, and those can generally be hit-or-miss for me, but I’ve actually found myself laughing through some of her stories!
  • Beartown by Fredrick Backman – I am less than 100 pages into this beautiful novel, and while I haven’t gotten to the meat of this story just yet, I can tell it’s going to be one I completely love. The writing is so beautiful and I’m reading this book slowly to soak in every word.
  • A Princess in Theory by Alyssa Cole – I’m reading this alongside Beartown and it’s a fun, light-hearted companion. It’s giving me Coming to America vibes, haha, but I don’t hate that. I love both the main characters and I’m excited to see how everything comes together!
  • Love and Other Words by Christina Lauren – Once I finish A Princess in Theory, I’m going to start this book! I was completely captivated by the first Christina Lauren novel I read (Roomies) and I hear this one is just as great.

What are you reading this week?

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