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On May

Top row, L-R: first drinks of our cruise; ocean in the Bahamas; five cruise ships in the port of Nassau
Middle row, L-R: mama selfie on Mother’s Day; dilated eyes; lunch with old coworkers
Bottom row, L-R: nephew baking cookies; brunch book club; and a selfie I took after getting my hair colored and cut

May was a fun month! I really enjoyed it. I went on a fabulous vacation, bought new eyeglasses, and had my book club girls over for a really fun brunch book club at my apartment pool. The weather was just beautiful this month, too!

The high point of my month was going on my sixth cruise with my mom. We had so much fun!

The low point of my month was when I got sick almost immediately after getting home from my vacation. I even had to take a half-day off work because I felt so bad! (My first actual sick day in years.)

The best thing I spent money on this month was new eyeglasses! They are the cutest. 🙂

In May, I blogged about my vacation and also did a fun q & a!

The progress I made toward my obsessive goal for this year (losing 40 lbs) was ugh, nothing. Let’s move on. I am so disappointed in myself this month. (How vastly different than last month, eh? Sigh.)

The best recipe I made last month was this ground turkey mash recipe I found on Skinnytaste (my favorite recipe site!). It is straight-up comfort food but also feels slightly healthy with the mix of veggies. I’m a fan and will definitely make it again!

I am looking forward to June because I am beginning a spending freeze. It may not sound like fun, but I know it will be a worthwhile challenge to help me get my focus back, on both my weight loss goals and money goals. Weight loss because it means I’ll be eating out less and cooking more wholesome meals, and money because I’ll hopefully have my $1,500 emergency fund completed* and have started paying off one school loan. I just really want to end the month feeling way more successful and accomplished than I did in May.

1. Get to a healthy BMI and lose at least 40 lbs.

I made no progress in May. I need to lose at least 5 lbs in June to keep me on track with this goal.

2. Pay off my credit cards, start an emergency fund (have at least $1,500 saved), and pay off one school loan.

Credit cards are paid off; emergency fund is at $320. May was not a good month for debt goals, so I’m hoping I can change that in June.

3. Read 75 books, including 10 off this list.

I read 8 books in May, putting me at 35 books read this year, and around 4 books ahead of schedule. Doing well, though I need to pick up the pace on reading the books I selected from the Rory Gilmore Reading Challenge. So far this year, I’ve read 1.5 books (in the midst of one of the novels on the list), so I am aiming to finish two more books off the list in June.

4. Get a tattoo.

No progress made yet.

5. Travel to Miami to attend a Miami Dolphins game.

No progress made yet. But my brother and I have been looking at ticket prices and discussing which game we want to attend. (I’m eyeing the season opener against the Patriots.) I am hoping to buy the tickets within the next month or so.

*Completed for this year, at least. I will continue to increase it until I reach a $10,000 emergency fund.

How was the month of May for you? What’s the best thing you spent money on in May?

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On March

March was a bit challenging. There were some really great moments, and then some really low moments. All in all, though, it’s one I can look back on and be happy with. It was just one of those slow, busy, tiring, enjoyable months.

The highlights of my month were participating in Run or Dye, meeting Lisa, and Dutch having a clean bill of health.

The low point of my month was dealing with a lot of panic and anxiety due to a work issue. I struggle with Impostor Syndrome a lot and it reared its head big time when I received feedback on something I wrote. It was a bit of constructive criticism and I probably took the email out of proportion and analyzed it more than it needed to be, but the fact remains that it really brought me down for a while and I had to deal with those feelings. I took time away to process and be with my thoughts, and I’m ending the month feeling much better than I did even a week ago. Growing pains, and all that jazz.

The best thing I spent my money on this month was another year of blog hosting through Whiskey Cloud! This is my second Whiskey-versary and I have been super, super happy with their service. I recommend them to anyone!

In March, I wrote about how I’m curbing my spending this year, my process for soothing myself when life gets overwhelming, and 10 things I like about myself.

The progress I made toward my obsessive goal was very little. In March, I had hoped to lose 10 lbs to put me on track to lose 40 lbs this year, but I only lost 3 lbs. Womp, womp. Just have to keep trying and figuring out how to make this work for me!

A habit I would like to change in April is being lazy about exercising. I know, I know – you can’t outexercise a bad diet and I know there are some eating issues I need to rein in, but I also really want to establish a more regular exercise routine. Right now, I’m getting in about 3-4 workouts a week, around 30 minutes, which isn’t terrible, but I know I can do much better than that.

I am looking forward to April because of the DietBet I’m participating in! I think this will be a great motivator for me to get serious about weight loss and drop more than a few pounds before my cruise in early May. (Still time to sign up – go here!)

1. Get to a healthy BMI and lose at least 40 lbs.

I need to lose 3.3 lbs per month to achieve this goal, which means by the end of March, I needed to be down around 10 lbs. Unfortunately, after losing 5 lbs in January, then gaining those 5 lbs back in February, I ended March only down 3 lbs from my starting weight. So I’m off track and in April, I need to lose 10 lbs to get back on pace to make this goal.

2. Pay off my credit cards, start an emergency fund (have at least $1,500 saved), and pay off one school loan.

My plan has been to spend four months tackling one part of this three-part goal. My credit cards are paid off and now I’m working on that emergency fund. I haven’t been able to put as much toward my emergency fund as I would like due to other expenses that popped up in March (more on that in my budget post on Friday!), but I’ll get there. I’m still on track to meet this goal.

3. Read 75 books, including 10 off this list.

I read 8 books in March, putting me at 20 books read this year, so I’m a wee bit ahead of my goal, which is good.

4. Get a tattoo.

No progress made yet. Thinking about doing this as a reward for hitting a certain weight loss number (30 lbs, maybe?).

5. Travel to Miami to attend a Miami Dolphins game.

No progress made yet, waiting on tickets to go on sale sometime this summer.

What was the highlight of your March? Any fun plans on the horizon for you in April?

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When Life Gets Overwhelming

So I took a break from blogging last week. It feels so narcissistic to announce something like that, but well, I have a blog that I use to talk about my crazy exciting (#sarcasm) life. So, I’m already slightly narcissistic anyway. I digress.

I took a break. I took a break because I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed about life. Sometimes, day-to-day living can be a lot to handle, you know? It seems that there is always something that needs to get done, some way we’re not living our full potential. I was feeling… overstimulated, I suppose is a good word for it. Every day seemed to take so much energy just to get through it.

Over the course of the last few weeks, a few not-great things happened in my life. Nothing traumatic or life-changing, and some of it might not have even been a big deal for some people (oh, how I wish I had the “dirt off my shoulders” mentality!), but I tend to make mountains out of molehills, overanalyze every situation, worry about every possible scenario.

I guess this is where I can sense I have a little bit of a perfectionist attitude about life. I want to be the best! at! everything! Between my work and my blog and my personal life… I want to be an all-star at it all. And when I’m not, when it all seems to fall apart or not go the way I imagined it would… it zaps my energy. It steals my joy and clouds my vision. I forget about all the great things in my life and only focus on the parts that aren’t where I want them to be.

So I was having a hard time. I felt a bit weary and worn down. If there’s one thing I do right, it’s being in tune with my emotions. I was telling a friend the other day that I should have majored in “emotions” in college because they are honestly my favorite thing. I love talking about them and learning more about emotions and how they affect our lives. So I know when I need a break. I know when to pull back the reins and learn to trust that inner voice that’s giving me a tiny nudge that I need to slow down and calm my mind.

So that’s what I did last week. I took a break. And while ideally, I would have loved to have spent a week in a tropical paradise, sipping a mango daiquiri poolside, away from work and responsibilities and reality, that wasn’t possible. (Womp, womp.)

But I still found a few easy ways to soothe the overwhelm, and today, I’d like to share my process (and hopefully help YOU if you’re feeling a bit stressed out and overstimulated by life!):

1. Clear out the distractions. For me, this comes in the form of my online presence, most specifically blogging and Twitter. So I took a week off both. I’ve been consistently churning out 3-5 blog posts a week for months now and I was getting a bit burned out and uninspired by my blog. And since my full-time job involves almost 100% writing and editing, plus I started freelancing, plus my passion project involves writing a novel… it all got to be a bit too much. (That’s a lot of writing, yo!) So I stepped away. I cleared my blogging schedule and didn’t open WordPress once for an entire week. It felt so good to give myself that break to clear my mind and quiet my thoughts.

And taking a social media break is also so good for clearing out the clutter and distractions. I always notice how much more quiet my mind is when I’m not on Twitter, when I don’t have dozens of conversations bouncing around in my brain and feeling a nudge to write profound yet witty tweets multiple times a day.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by life, find simple yet effective ways to clear out the distractions. Maybe it means a TV break for a week, or only checking your email once a day, or not using technology after 6 p.m. Figure out what distractions you can cut out for a short period of time, so you can find your inner peace once again.

2. Rest your mind. At work, I usually spend my lunch breaks at my desk, working on blog posts, responding to personal emails, and reading blogs. Last week, I decided to shake things up so I spent my lunch break reading. While I was still at my desk, I turned away from my computer and simply focused on enjoying my lunch and enjoying my book. It gave my eyes a break from the computer and my mind a rest. It truly felt as if I were escaping for a short hour into a different world. Moreover, exploring natural remedies like the Best Magic Mushrooms for stress relief could offer additional support in managing stress effectively. Make sure to buy shrooms from reliable sources like Shrooms Online Canada.

Find your own way to rest your mind, even if you don’t have an hour to spare every day. Whether that means simply taking five minutes out of your busy day to close your eyes, take deep breaths, smoke weed from www.dank.ca, and meditate, or slipping into a hot bubble bath at the end of the day, with nothing but the sound of silence to keep you company. Find your bliss and what helps you recharge, even on busy days.

3. Honor your feelings. Honoring your feelings comes easy when they are fun emotions, like happiness, joy, elation, or excitement. But when they’re not so great? When those feelings are stress or sadness or grief or worry or anger? It’s hard. It’s so hard for me not to take those emotions and shove them deep down as far as they can go, and pretend life is sunshine and butterflies. But the truth is – our feelings are there for a reason. I had to look at my life and take apart the emotions I was feeling. Why was I feeling worn out every evening when I left work? Why did I feel so much jealousy when I compared my blog and my life to others? Why did the simple act of grocery shopping make me want to fall to the ground in the parking lot of Publix and bang my head against the pavement?

Oh, feelings.

Feel your feelings. They exist for a reason. Your job is to find out what is causing them. And sometimes, just the simple fact of acknowledging their place and letting them have their moment in your heart is enough. There’s no fixing, there’s no solution. They are just there and we have to give them their place. And other times, there is a solution. We have to sit down with that emotion, take it apart and discover the cause, and learn to move past it.

4. Take care of yourself. I’ve never really been a big believer in self-care for myself. For others, absolutely. But for me, and my boring, mundane life? Not really. I mean, I’m not a busy working mom or working two jobs or trying to get a business off the ground. I’m just… me. I have a full-time job, yes, and a vast array of hobbies that require a lot of attention, but self-care? What do I need that for?

Oh, friends. We all need good self-care habits. And that doesn’t include reaching for a bottle of wine and some chocolate at the end of a stressful day. For me, it means not using my laptop when I come home from work, going to bed early, doing morning workouts before I start my day, and reading silly, trashy romance novels. These are my escapes. These are what make me feel good.

For you, maybe it’s journaling or Skyping with good friends who get you or yoga or knitting or whatever makes you feel good, authentic, and present. Find your self-care habits and own them.

Last week was restorative for me. I felt that nudging that I was on the brink of a major breakdown and I put the brakes on for a short while, to slow down, quiet my mind, and recharge. I found my inner peace once again. Be true to you, be true to how you are feeling (even if you feel silly for your hurt feelings or anxious thoughts or sadness!), and take care of yourself. Nobody else is going to do that for you.

I’d love to hear in the comments: what are some of your self-care rituals?

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On February

February was a struggle. I think a lot of us had tough Februarys, and I think that happens every year. February is a tough month. It’s the shortest month of the year but seems to always feel like the longest one. For me, February was a struggle in all areas of my life. It was a tiring month, a difficult one. A lot of resistance, a lot of uphill climbing and falling down.

The highlights of my month were planning a vacation for May (cruise #6!), starting a writing group with a friend, landing my first freelancing client, and paying off my credit cards in full.

The lowest point of my month was struggling with my health-related goals. I actually went backward in terms of progress, and I’m ending the month feeling very disappointed in myself.

The best thing I spent my money on this month was a deposit for my vacation in May! I’ve already spent way too much time canvassing the Cruise Critic message boards and finding fun excursions for our stops. Only 62 days until we sail!

In February, I wrote about a day in my life, on what it’s like to be a socially anxious introvert, my current thoughts and feelings towards losing weight, and five random facts about the boy who has my heart, Dutch.

The progress I made toward my obsessive goal was nothing. I wanted to be down 6.6 lbs from the beginning of this year by the end of February and instead, I wound up gaining weight this month. (It was a month of losing, then gaining, losing, then gaining.) While I did wonderful in January and lost 5.7 lbs, I wound up gaining 5 lbs of that back in February, so I’m basically back to where I started. This means I have to somehow lose around 10 lbs in March to be on track to lose 40 lbs this year. Yikes.

A habit I would like to change in March is eating too many sweets and drinking soda too often. And I have a plan for how I am going to do so! It will all be revealed in its glorious details tomorrow.

I am looking forward to March because I’m another month closer to my cruise, there should be more beach and/or pool days in my life, and I am confident I will have a solid month of weight loss. (If anything, I have something major to work towards: my cruise!)

As I wrote last week, I changed my yearly goals up a tad, skimming them down from 15 goals to just five personal ones. Here’s my progress report for February:

1. Get to a healthy BMI and lose at least 40 lbs. Progress has stalled. Let’s hope March is a super successful month for me, yeah?

2. Pay off my credit cards, start an emergency fund (have at least $1,500 saved), and pay off one school loan. My credit cards are PAID IN FULL! Woohoo! My tax refund was deposited last Monday morning and the minute I found out, I immediately went to get my two credit cards paid off. I am so thrilled about this. Honestly, it’s the best feeling. I’m behind on my savings goal, but that’s okay. I’m just happy to have the biggest monkey off my back when it comes to my debt: my credit cards!

3. Read 75 books, including 10 off this list. I read another six books this month, bringing my total to 12 books read. I also made progress with my secondary challenge by finishing The Kite Runner. (Next book on the list: The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood!)

4. Get a tattoo. No progress made.

5. Travel to Miami to attend a Miami Dolphins game. No progress made.

If you could describe February in one word, what would it be? What was one highlight from the past month for you?

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On January

It’s a new year and I have a new way to do my monthly recaps. Let’s get this party started!

January was restorative. It was peaceful and calming, not filled with any big plans or things to do. It was month of relaxation, of settling in, and centering myself.

The highlight of my month was getting back into a healthier mindset, both in the way I ate and exercised. I’m back to long workouts 4-5 times a week, eating healthy around 70% of the time, and resisting sweets and soda when I can. It can be a struggle, but I’m really happy with the progress I made this month!

The lowest point of my month was watching friends going through the most traumatic and heart-breaking times any person to go through and not understanding why. I know life isn’t fair but man, this is so unfair! My heart was absolutely shattered by the losses they experienced this month.

I was grateful for these things starting Best Body Bootcamp again, weekly check-ins with Allison, witnessing (once again) how utterly amazing the blog world is, falling into the world of Scandal, and lots of one-on-one time with my brother.

The best thing I spent money on this month was… new make-up. I’ve been using BB cream for over a year now, but have noticed that it’s not providing great coverage anymore and leaves me shiny within a few hours. So I asked Twitter for their recommendations and it was Ashley, make-up guru extraordinaire, who suggested Cover Girl’s Outlast 3-in-1. I was nervous to go back to foundation after using a tinted moisturizer for so long, but I am loving it. It’s light and airy, covers so well (way better than BB cream did for me), and keeps the shine away. I’m a fan!

In January, I wrote about my plans for getting out of debt, my obsessive goal for this year, my best job searching tips, and my thoughts on dating.

The progress I made toward my obsessive goal was I lost 5.7 pounds! My goal is to lose a little over 4 pounds a month, so I exceeded my goal and I’m very proud of myself. I just hope I can keep this up! I also started drinking water on a daily basis and following a healthy diet about 70% of the time. I could do a lot better, but I’m off to a great start!

A habit I would like to change for February is to cut down on the number of sweets I eat in a week. I have a raging sweet tooth and honestly, there is very little in this world that makes me happier than freshly baked, slightly undercooked chocolate chip cookies. (I don’t buy sweets when I grocery shop, but they somehow find a way into my mouth on an almost daily basis. Figure that one out.)

I am looking forward to February because I should get my tax refund, which means I’ll (hopefully) be completely out of credit card debt by this time next month! February will be another quiet, calm month (this whole year will be, for the most part), but I’m hoping it will be another month of making major progress on my goals.

I also want to take the time to review the resolutions I set and do a monthly update. Usually, I do an update every three months but I’m finding I can easily forget about my resolutions if I’m not constantly thinking about them. Here is my progress report for January!

Lose 50 lbs. I lost 5.7 lbs this month! I need to average 4.2 lbs per month to meet this goal, so I’m off to a great start!
Train for a 5K. On hold for right now.
Pay off all my credit cards and stop using them. I am 14% of the way there. I wanted to put $500 towards my credit card debt, but it wasn’t possible this month. The good news is that I didn’t use my credit cards at all in January! That is progress, friends. MAJOR. PROGRESS.
Have $1,500 of emergency savings. I was able to put $100 toward my savings. Once my credit cards are paid off, I will be funneling most of my discretionary income toward this goal.
Complete Project 365. Doing very well with this goal! Sometimes, it’s a pain, but mainly it’s really fun to find a moment in my day to photograph. (Follow along on Instagram! The above collage is nine of my favorite photos from this month, something I’ll be doing every month.)
Read 75 books (including 10 off this list). I read 6 books this month, which puts me on target to complete this goal. Doing well!
Visit NYC in the fall. On hold, may not actually get this one completed. (Debt goals come first!)
Travel to Miami to see a Miami Dolphins home game. On hold for now, until tickets go on sale.
Get a tattoo. Possibly will do this when I hit a certain weight. (30 lbs maybe?)
Start therapy. No progress made.
Go on more dates. I went on two in January! My goal is at least one a month.
Try yoga. Not yet. Maybe soon.
Read through the entire Bible. Doing well with this. I’m using the One Year Bible plan and it’s really perfect for me. I usually read while I’m getting ready for the day. A great way to start the day!
Send snail mail to blog friends throughout the year. Yes! I sent out some cards this month. I’m hoping to keep this going throughout the year. Birthday cards, thinking of you cards, celebratory cards. I’m excited about this one!
Help my mom plan a beautiful wedding. No progress made so far. I need to get cracking! The wedding will be super small, private, and intimate, but we need to find a restaurant to do the reception at that offers great service, good food, and isn’t too pricey. My goal for February is to find my mama a restaurant for her wedding reception!

What was the highlight of January for you? What’s the best thing you spent money on this month? What’s one thing you’re looking forward to in February?