Recurring Series

Everyday Moments | October 2022

1 – Helping my mom with her car-buying process. She bought a 2023 Kia Sportage!

2 – Family day. My favorite! And the weather was so beautiful with temps in the 70s. Ahh.

3 – Lila comforting me when I was crying. She was so sweet! She jumped on the couch, put her paw on my back, and meowed at me. Then she snuggled next to me and let me pet her.

4 – Chauffeuring Mom around! (Her car won’t be delivered until late October.) She needed to go back to the Ford dealership to transfer her tag/title and finish the selling process (she sold her car back to the dealership). Then, in the evening, I took her to a hair appointment she had scheduled.

5 – A mid-day nap that felt so refreshing!

6 – Coworking with Bri so I could help her with certain tasks she can’t do right now, as she is largely immobile with her broken ankle (aka, getting her food, keeping her water cup filled, etc.)

7 – A fun birthday party for my cousin’s daughter where I got to see a lot of family members.

8 – A reading date with Amber and a relaxing pedicure by myself.

9 – A relaxing day at my mom’s, watching football with the fam. I love these days so much!

10 – Sleeping in and being able to slowly ease into my workday. The benefits of having a flexible work life! Yes, it meant I was working a little bit into the evening but it was well worth it to have a calm morning.

11 – Turkey chili for dinner! This is my go-to recipe. I omit the chilies and add cheese and sour cream.

12 – Ellie sitting in an empty Chewy box throughout the day. I love how much she loves an empty box!

13 – Leftovers for lunch AND dinner. Saving money and not having to cook – works for me!

14 – Coworking again with Bri. It means a lot that she reached out to me to help her, as I know it’s not in her nature.

15 – Recording episodes of The Friendship Paradox with Bri. Afterward, Bri’s husband ordered pizza and we watched college football together.

16 – Waking up on the early side for a Sunday so I was able to get some blog work done, run the Roomba, and read for a bit before heading over to my mom’s for the day.

17 – A Sausage Egg McMuffin for breakfast. My favorite breakfast of all time, and I’m not ashamed to say it.

18 – A therapy appointment when I needed it most. I am so, so glad I found this therapist.

19 – A day off work! I got to sleep in, get some stuff done, and just enjoy turning off my email and Slack messages for a day.

20 – Rescuing Mom from an event she wasn’t having fun at (#introvertprobz). She invited me into her house to watch last night’s episode of The Amazing Race and found out Robert was making tacos, so I got to have a delicious meal made for me, too! Wins all around.

21 – An easy workday followed by a wonderful afternoon nap.

22 – Sleeping in and then going on a Target mini-shopping spree (bought earrings, pajamas, and some Christmassy pillows).

23 – Tua is back on the field! And the Dolphins broke their losing streak. I was a bit emotional seeing him back on the field, considering the way he left the game three-and-a-half weeks ago (a truly horrifying concussion response). We didn’t know if he had any brain function or feeling in his limbs when he left the field on a stretcher, which was so scary. (This is when my love for football is so complicated. I love the game so much, but hate how violent it can be.) It was good to see him out there and to see him having fun. If he wants to be out on the field and his family is okay with him being on the field, then that’s all that matters.

24 – A lovely dinner out with Mom. We got to chit-chat a bit about our upcoming cruise, which got me so excited!

25 – Going for a walk outside in the evening. It was glorious outside and felt good to be outside and move my body after a busy workday.

26 – Book club! We went to a fave Mexican place, Eleni was handed around the table, and we had a good chat about our pick this month, which was Lessons in Chemistry.

27 – Ordering in pizza and starting the new season of Nailed It. (Why is it only 4 episodes, though?!)

28 – Talking to Bri about an anxiety spiral I was having (on this day, I was loaning my car to my mom for an event she had to go to for work, so of course, I was convinced she was going to get into an accident and die). She gave me a wonderful pep talk and just talking through the spiral with someone helped SO MUCH. I never want to burden other people with my anxiety spirals and moody episodes because I don’t want to bring them down, but friends have told me time and time again that they WANT me to reach out when I’m feeling like this because they want to be able to help me. This was such a good example of why I need to do that: I felt so much more relaxed after talking to Bri and the anxiety spiral was so minimal afterward that it was basically non-existent.

29 – My mom finally getting her new car! It was supposed to arrive a week ago, but there were all these transportation issues. It is so high-tech and beautiful!

30 – Making Halloween treat bags with Mom to pass out to trick-or-treaters tomorrow. We filled up bags with candy, fun erasers, pencils, notepads, bubbles, and stickers.

31 – Halloween! I went over to my mom’s to pass out our treat bags, although we got barely any kiddos (less than 20, I think). But it was still fun to dress up as a cat, spend time with my mom, and see some really cute kids all dressed up.

Tell me a bright moment of October for you!

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TGIF (v. 45)

The high of my week was doing my lil bathroom refresh! After many months of acquiring new items for my bathroom, I finally had everything ready to go. I changed out the shower curtain (and the liner, which was very, very gross) and got a new shower curtain rod. I added new pink towels (and they’re the luxurious bath sheets, which are so much bigger than a regular towel and make me feel like a goddess when I’m all wrapped up). I replaced the rugs. It’s a whole bunch of little things, but it makes the bathroom feel different and new.

The low of my week was driving anxiety. I have never really had anxiety about driving. I am a confident driver and have been that way since I started driving at 15. I live in a place where I have to drive everywhere, no matter where I need to go. Lately, though, I’ve been having a lot of anxiety while driving, especially when driving at night. My specific fear is that I will cause a terrible accident (or worse, harm a pedestrian). In my two decades of driving, I have never caused an accident. (#knockonwood) I’d like to think I’m a safe driver, so I really don’t know where this anxiety is coming from. It’s gotten so bad lately that I may schedule an emergency therapy appointment so we can work through this together, and I can hopefully start feeling less anxious about driving.

An Internet find that I loved was this silly Reel that I have shared with way too many people. 🙂

One nagging task I marked off my to-do list this week was mailing off my ballot! It’s been sitting on my kitchen table for way too long, so I finally filled it out and dropped it off yesterday at a dropbox (which was actually at my home library, how convenient!). So glad to have that done, although I have very little faith that Florida will do the right thing and kick DeSantis and Rubio out of office, ugh.

I’m currently reading Everything’s Trash, But It’s Okay by Phoebe Robinson and To Sir Phillip, With Love by Julia Quinn (the fifth Bridgerton book—Eloise’s story!). I am not too far into either of them (about 100 pages), but I’m enjoying both right now.

A podcast episode I enjoyed was Young Black Voters in Atlanta on The Wilderness. I have really enjoyed this season of The Wilderness, which is a Crooked Media podcast that takes a series of focus groups that happen all across the US and tries to figure out what people are looking for in their politicians and how Democrats can better meet the needs of its people. I like this podcast because they speak to a lot of people who are apathetic about politics and voting in general. I have found it fascinating because I am locked in my liberal white bubble where we all hate Trump and Republicans as a whole, but that’s not the case for everyone (obviously, considering how popular he still is, but these aren’t your typical MAGA Republicans who love Trump; they are just looking for someone to shake up the status quo, and Trump certainly does that). Anyway, this episode was particularly enlightening.

The best money I spent this week was on my cruise excursions! We’ll be on a ship in just 30 days! Eeks. We finally decided to book all of our shore excursions (we’re stopping in the Bahamas, Haiti, and Jamaica) and it all feels so real now. We’re going to do a helium balloon ride in the Bahamas, a paint-and-sip excursion in Haiti, and river tubing in Jamaica. I can’t wait!

My plans this weekend include hopefully not feeling too crummy, as I’m getting both my flu shot and my bivalent Covid booster this afternoon. Last time, I started taking Tylenol right after getting my booster and I didn’t have any side effects. I don’t know if that’s why I felt okay, but I’m going to try it again and see what happens. If all goes well, I’ll spend Saturday afternoon with Mikaela and Eleni and enjoy football with the fam on Sunday. If all does not go well, I will be spending the weekend on the couch, watching lots of TV.

What was the best thing you spent money on this week?

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Currently in October

Feeling… super excited to start NaBloPoMo next week! I have been looking forward to NaBloPoMo for so long, maybe since NaBloPoMo 2021 ended! It was such a fun challenge to complete and most especially, I loved that it introduced me to so many new bloggers. Not sure what NaBloPoMo is? Essentially, it’s a challenge to write one blog post every day in November. San and NGS both have great posts about NaBloPoMo that I encourage you to check out if you’re interested! (And if you are, let San know so she can add you to her list of participating bloggers!)

Watching… a lot of football, ha. I’m also watching the current seasons of The Amazing Race and Survivor, both of which are EXCELLENT this season. I have a lot of favorite shows that just came out with new seasons—Nailed It, Love Is Blind, and Only Murders in the Building, to name a few—and I’m looking forward to watching those shows next month.

Listening to… Taylor Swift’s new album! If I can be honest here, music isn’t really my thing. Maybe it’s because of the way I grew up, where I was only allowed to listen to CCM and anything secular felt like a sin against God. Or maybe it’s just the way I’m wired. But for whatever reason, music is something I could take or leave. However, Taylor Swift is my one exception. I adore her music, and I’ve been loving this new album! It’s just plain fun to listen to. Current favorites off her new album: Anti-Hero, Vigilante Shit, Karma, and Sweet Nothings.

Grateful… that we made it through another hurricane. It was a wild end to September with the threat of Hurricane Ian and a last-minute evacuation to Ft. Lauderdale. I am so grateful that the hurricane turned south just days before it was scheduled to directly hit the Tampa Bay area (at the time, they were predicting a Category 3 hurricane, but it ended up being just a few MPHs shy of a Category 5 when it hit Florida, crazy!) Ultimately, I am glad I evacuated because a) even though the storm’s predicted path turned south, it could have easily turned back north before it hit Florida, and b) I was in a mandatory evacuation zone and doing the responsible thing by evacuating.

Anticipating… my cruise! We’re a little more than a month away (we leave on November 27th!) and I am just so, so excited to spend 6 days on a cruise ship with my mom. This is the longest I’ve gone without being on a cruise ship (3 years!) and I am more than ready to get back to cruise life. I’m planning on getting my flu shot and Covid booster very soon so I can have a little bit of protection. I also plan on wearing a mask around the ship. I’m trying not to worry too much about getting Covid, and focus more on the excitement of another vacation.

Loathing… inflation. Aren’t we all? Costs continue to rise in a way that feels really scary. I’m seeing it with my trips to the grocery store, the biggest bump in rent I’ve ever had… even my therapist is now $20 more per session than she used to be. Oh, and I just got my notice to renew my car registration and car registration has increased by almost $10 in one year! It’s a wild time. I feel really grateful that, while it’s hard to stomach the cost of so many things, I’m still able to afford my lifestyle and do the things I want to do. I know that’s not the reality for so many families and I hope it eases soon.

Learning… more about cycle syncing, based on this post. Anyone who has had a period for any length of time understands that our hormones seem to ebb and flow based on our cycles. But the only hormones I really pay attention to are the ones that outwardly present as glaring PERIOD signs: the mood swings, the back pain, the lethargy. This post goes much deeper than that. For example, did you know that your most creative/energetic period is the 7-10 days after your period ends? Or that you can start to feel sluggish up to 14 days before your period begins (typically, it can occur when ovulation happens in the body)? I’m not sure what phase of my cycle I’m in (I’m terrible at keeping track since I only get my period every few months, due to the birth control I’m on), but I’m actually looking forward to getting my period so I can start tracking these different phases!

Thinking about… my 2023 goals! Is it too early to start thinking about what I want to achieve next year? Perhaps, but this is just who I am as a person. I’m thinking about breaking my goals into five categories with five goals per category: home, healthy living, hobbies, finances, and one-off tasks. This was something I used to do with my yearly goals but I switched to the straight list of goals for the past few years. It’s been very fun to think about these different categories and what I want to accomplish in all of them!

Buying… some new skincare products to try. I have been faithful to my Paula’s Choice products and I do still really love their skincare line, but I’ve wanted to branch out and try some other stuff to see if it helps improve my skin texture and acne scarring (although I know the best thing I can do for that is more intense regimens found at a dermatologist office). I’ve been intrigued by The Ordinary’s products for a long time because so many people swear by them and they are SO CHEAP. I bought their niacinamide serum (I’ve been using Paula’s Choice niacinamide for a year+ now and haven’t seen much of a difference, so I wanted to try something new), as well as a lactic acid/hyaluronic acid serum and an azelaic acid brightening cream. We’ll see how they work! (And if you have any skincare products you swear by, please let me know!)

Loving… cold fronts, playing chauffeur to my mom for a few weeks, baby-sitting Bri during the workday while she’s fairly immobile (or “Briby-sitting,” as her husband Sean calls it), releasing season 2 of the podcast, when Ellie sits in a box, Lila snoring next to me while I work, and finally completing my bathroom refresh (pictures to come!).

What are you currently learning these days?

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TGIF (v. 44)

The high of my week was taking a mental health day on Wednesday. It’s so nice to have unlimited PTO and to be able to take days off during the week for no reason at all! This was a wonderful day to myself where I spent the morning in bed, went to lunch with my mom, and got a facial. It was so nice not to have to worry about emails and Slack messages and work drama on a Wednesday! A secondary high of the week was a nice little cold front blowing in. We’ve had 50-degree days the last two days and it was nice to turn off my air conditioner and wear cozy clothes for the first time in months! This cold weather won’t last too long (we’re back to highs in the 80s by the weekend), but it’s been a nice reprieve from the heat.

The low of my week was late bedtimes. Why can’t I seem to get myself together to go to bed at a decent hour? I used to be so strict about my bedtime and wore my early bedtime badge with honor. And now… I’m regularly turning out the light around 11:30 or later. It’s a problem. What’s the solution? I’m not sure. I just need to implement a better nightly schedule so that I’m not going to bed so late and can feel more rested every day.

An Internet find that really impacted me was this anti-abortion ad from Rep. Eric Swalwell. This is the future that awaits us if we let Republicans control Congress.

One nagging task I crossed off my to-do list this week was mopping my floors! I am so lazy about mopping my floors. Thanks to my robot vacuum, I’m at least getting all the dust and cat hair vacuumed up on a weekly basis but my floors need a good scrubbing way more often than I do it. At this point, my goal is to mop them monthly, though I should be doing it biweekly at the very least. But hey, I got it done!

A podcast episode I enjoyed was Doppelgangers from Stuff You Should Know. I have one of those faces where I am constantly being asked if I am so-and-so or if I went to so-and-so high school. Nope, I just have one of those faces, I’ll usually reply. I need to find all of these women who look like me so we can form some sort of coalition, right? Anyway, this episode was interesting to me as someone who has dozens of Doppelgangers floating around in the world.

The best money I spent this week was $4 on a bag of Tootsie Rolls. This will be the only bag of Tootsie Rolls that I buy for myself for a long, long time because I am OUT OF CONTROL. I don’t even want to tell you how many I have eaten since I bought the bag on Monday, and I haven’t been keeping track so I can’t tell you. I am going to enjoy this bag of Tootsie Rolls and then move on with my life. Tootsie Rolls are going on the list of things I cannot have in my house regularly.

This weekend, I am having dinner with my mom and stepdad tonight, having a writing date with Mikaela and Eleni on Saturday afternoon, recording podcast episodes with Bri on Saturday evening, and enjoying football with the fam on Sunday. I may even make my famous oatmeal chocolate chip cookies on Sunday during football. I think I can be talked into that! (Okay, now I realize this is nearly identical to last weekend. Ah, well. I’m a creature of habit these days!)

What was the high of your week?

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Five for Friday (v. 87)

1) Missing: My Sunglasses

Somehow, I lost my only pair of prescription sunglasses. I do not know where they went. I have searched my car and apartment multiple times and they are nowhere to be found. How is it that I can keep my $20 pair of Target sunglasses for years and years and years, but my expensive prescription sunglasses just go missing in an instant? Argh! I’ve already been perusing Warby Parker for some new prescription sunnies, since I cannot be without them. (I have light eyes, which are more prone to sun sensitivity, so I always wear sunglasses when I’m outside, even on an overcast day!) What do you want to bet that the moment I order new sunglasses, I’ll find the old ones?

2) NaBloPoMo 2022

It’s almost NaBloPoMo time! And yes, I’m joining the craziness once again. It was so much fun to participate last year and I honestly didn’t find it all too challenging to get a blog post up every day. (Of course, I do not have a partner or kids and my job is very flexible, so I have many advantages that make this kind of project easy!) I have already drafted my editorial calendar for November so I know what I will be posting every day, with the understanding that I may have to shift focus if I don’t have much creative energy and just want to get up something quick and easy. I’m someone who struggles with writing those quick and easy blog posts (shouldn’t every blog post take me hours to write?!) but NaBloPoMo forces me to embrace that aspect of blog writing. I like the challenge of trying to think of something to talk about on a daily basis and I’m excited to get started. I’ve also decided I’ll devote one week of November to “Week in the Life” (in which I write a “day in the life” style post every day for a week). I skipped Week in the Life last year, so it will be fun to bring it back in 2022. Plus, that takes care of seven blog posts for November.

The one challenging part of November is that I leave on my cruise on the 27th, so I’ll need to draft up a few posts to carry me through the end of the month, but I’m not too worried about that! Anyway, if you want to participate, please take a second to let San know. She’s the unofficial fearless leader of this NaBloPoMo event and is pulling together a list of participants!

3) Season 2 of The Friendship Paradox

We launched season 2 of our podcast this week! I am so excited for you guys to hear these episodes because they have been so much fun to record. This season, we’re talking about events and how differently we approach them based on our personality types. We’re going to talk about weddings, family events, parties like baby showers, birthdays, and our book club. These are the kinds of episodes I envisioned us recording when I thought about the podcast, and it’s been fun to put this little idea into action! Make sure you’re subscribed to The Friendship Paradox so you don’t miss an episode!

4) Uber Driver, At Your Service

I’ve been playing chauffeur for my mom for the last few weeks. Right before the hurricane hit, my mom’s car stopped running properly so she had it towed to her repair shop. The Saturday we came back, she found out her car would cost $4,000 to fix. The car is 10 years old and American-made, and she really didn’t love the idea of putting so much money into a car that would likely continue to have problems. So, she sold the car back to the dealership and we went car shopping the first weekend of October! She ended up buying a 2023 Kia Sportage, but it wouldn’t be delivered until Oct. 22 at the earliest, which means I’ve been chauffering her around for the past few weeks. Thankfully, these days, being car-less for a few weeks isn’t too difficult, as she can work from home, do grocery delivery, etc. There were a few appointments I had to take her to, and I’ve been the lucky beneficiary of Friday night dinners (her and my stepdad always go out to eat on Friday night, so I get to tag along and get a free meal!) I’m excited for her new car to arrive, though. It has so many bells and whistles that her old car didn’t have, like wireless charging, a back-up camera, a digital dashboard, and Bluetooth. Am I a little jealous, even though my car is basically new, too? Yes, yes I am.

5) Weekend Plans

It’s going to be a busy weekend for me! Tonight, I’ll be meeting up with my mom and stepdad for dinner. Tomorrow, I’ll be chauffering my mom and the dogs to PetSmart for their grooming appointment, meeting with Mikaela and Eleni in the afternoon for a writing date, and then spending the night recording the podcast with Bri! We’re going to bang out the last three episodes of season 2. And Sunday will be a lovely, low-key day of sleeping in and then going to my mom’s to watch football with the fam.

Are you doing NaBloPoMo, too? What are your weekend plans?