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Categories: Recurring Series

TGIF (v. 64)

The high of my week was starting Bridgerton! I held off on watching season 3 until all of the episodes were released, and now I am firmly entrenched in the world of my favorite fictional family. I have been waiting for Penelope’s story because she is by far my favorite character, and it has not disappointed. I’m only a few episodes in and I’m savoring each episode because I know the length of time between seasons is looooong. (I saw a Thread that it takes two years between writing, filming, and editing each season, which means we probably won’t get season four until summer 2026? Ugh!)

The low of my week was difficult workouts. I did a circuit training class on Tuesday that felt so hard and I really struggled to catch my breath during the routine. And then on Wednesday, I had my regular HIIT workout class and felt like I was going to just plain die. My heart rate was high and my muscles felt so fatigued. Have you ever had weeks where your body just feels like it took three steps backward? Oof. I’m trying to remind myself that I’m not a robot and I can’t be expected to work out at the same level of intensity every week, but wah. I want to see progress!

One nagging task I marked off my to-do list was um, nothing? Oops. I have a whole list of things I need to get done, but I guess that’s going to have to happen this weekend!

I’m currently reading two books. On audio, I’m almost halfway through The Rose Code by Kate Quinn. It’s a WWII novel about code-breakers and it’s fascinating! I also just started Just for the Summer by Abby Jimenez.

A Reel I loved was this very excellent joke from a stand-up comedian. It made me laugh a lot!

A podcast episode I enjoyed was Go West Young Man on Good Christian Fun. I don’t remember the last time I laughed so much listening to a podcast episode. I was in tears at one point! I still giggle to myself when I think about the part of the episode that had me cry-laughing. So good!

The best money I spent was $23 on this adorable “Purride” shirt on Etsy. I couldn’t help myself when I came across it!

My plans this weekend include not much! I have a podcast recording date with Bri (our last recording date was over a month ago!) and a video chat with Kim to discuss our plans for next weekend (!!). I may drive around my city and drop some books off in Little Free Libraries. I have a big stack of books in my closet that need to go to new homes, so I think this weekend is the perfect opportunity to do just that.

What was the highlight of your week?

Categories: Recurring Series, Travel

Five for Friday | The New Orleans Edition

1) Delayed flights

I’ve been pretty lucky when it comes to plane travel. I’ve only had one delayed flight, if you can believe that. Well, not on Wednesday! It was hard to find a nonstop flight to New Orleans for some reason, so we were flying to Charlotte first and then catching a connecting flight to New Orleans. Our flight to Charlotte was scheduled for 2 p.m. and we’d have about an hour until our flight to New Orleans around 5:30 p.m. We’d get to New Orleans right around 8 p.m. Unfortunately, our flight to Charlotte was delayed by over two hours, which meant we’d completely miss our connecting flight. There were a lot of frustrated people at the airport that day! Thankfully, we got rebooked on a new flight automatically through the American Airlines app so we didn’t have to worry about anything. Unfortunately, the new flight was at 8 p.m. so we wouldn’t get into New Orleans until after 10 p.m. That connecting flight was then delayed by half an hour so it was closing in on 11:30 p.m. (after midnight to our bodies that were on Eastern time) when we finally got to our hotel. Whew, what a travel day! Thankfully, our flights home did not have any delays.

But the exciting part of our flights were that we didn’t have anyone in the third seat with us for three of the four flights! That meant we could stretch out with one of us at the window seat and one of us at the aisle seat for those flights, which was pretty sweet!

2) The saga of my house keys

I’m always worried about losing my house keys when I travel. I always put them in the same zippered part of my backpack, but still, I worry that somehow they will drop out of my bag. When we got back into town, my stepdad picked my mom and me up from the airport and then we went to dinner. Then, he drove us back to my place. Before I let them leave, I checked my backpack to make sure I had my keys. And I could not find them anywhere! I took everything out of my backpack, everything out of my purse, and even opened up my suitcase to see if I had somehow stuffed them in there. The keys were nowhere to be found. At this point, it was 9 p.m. so I called my apartment’s emergency line to see if they could help me out. When an hour went by without any word from them, I had to start calling locksmiths. The first locksmith I called didn’t have anyone available until the morning, the second locksmith said he could come out in an hour (but then there was an issue where he called my phone and I didn’t answer because my phone, for some reason, sent the calls right to voicemail, so when I realized he had called and called him back, he said he had taken two jobs in the 10 minutes he was waiting on me—felt suspicious, but whatever). Finally, I got ahold of a locksmith that was able to send someone out right away. He arrived within 20 minutes of my original call.

I thought getting into my house would be easier because my cat sitter only uses the knob lock (not the deadbolt) on her last visit, so that she can leave my spare key inside of my apartment (rather than putting it under the doormat). But I think it might have been harder? The locksmith had to really destroy my doorknob to get it to unlock, which meant I had to pay even more money for this service. In the end, it cost me $390, which made me want to throw up, but what could I do? I had to get into my apartment! I hadn’t realized we were getting back so late, so I hadn’t had the cat sitter come the day we were coming home. The girls don’t have automatic feeders, so they hadn’t had food all day! I was terrified they were hungry and sad. (True story: I started crying when the second locksmith told me he couldn’t come because I just wanted to be home and with my girls.)

Anyway, the fun part of this story is that I found my house keys as I was unpacking!!! They were in my backpack all along!!! Three of us completely unpacked this backpack and felt around, and none of us noticed the keys!!! I paid $400 for no reason!!!

The expensive lessons I learned were: a) always ask my cat sitter to put the key under the doormat, b) always make sure my mom has a spare key at her house, and c) make sure the next apartment I rent has a smart door lock.

3) Souvenirs!

Whenever I visit a new city, I try to find a handful of souvenirs to bring back home: a magnet for my fridge, a Christmas ornament for my tree, a t-shirt, a mug, and locally made art. Yes, it’s a lot but I’m not always successful at finding all of them. In New Orleans, I was! I had great luck finding all of my souvenirs—and then some.

We’ll start with the books. At Garden District Book Shop, I purchased three books and was excited when my mom pointed me in the direction of their Agatha Christie collection. I picked out all of the Christie books I hadn’t read and then looked up the Goodreads rating. Five Little Pigs had the highest rating (4.03 stars, if you’re curious), so I bought it. And I also got a beautiful new hardcover edition of Anne of Green Gables.

I also found a magnet, Christmas ornament, mug, and t-shirt. Yay!

I found this piece of art in a local shop, but then we stumbled onto the art fair later on that day and I was bummed I already bought my piece! Ah, well. I love the one I selected!

And lastly, at the art fair, I did purchase this really cute cat painting. I couldn’t pass it up! It’s a cat and my favorite color? It also has pre-drilled holes so I can nail it into a wall easily.

4) The flare of all flares

Leading up to my trip, my psoriasis was the worst it’s ever been. I had these big red patches on both sides of my scalp and they were so, so, so itchy. I tried everything: my steroid gels, apple cider vinegar, OTC psoriasis cream, specialized shampoo, etc. I was ready to call my dermatologist and demand an emergency appointment because things had gotten to such a bad state. On Wednesday, the day we were flying into New Orleans, the flare was still really bad. I was trying to keep things at bay by applying the steroid gels every few hours, which would help my scalp calm down for an hour or so. (I was so desperate for relief on one flight that I started rubbing an ice cube from my complimentary drink over the affected areas.) On the first day of our trip, before we did anything else, I found a CVS where I bought OTC cream (Exederm) as well as a numbing cream. (When I was scrolling the psoriasis Reddit forum late one night, someone mentioned numbing cream that would provide a bit of relief and I was willing to try anything at that moment.)

I felt so sorry for myself in the days leading up to the trip, thinking about dealing with this stupid flare and how it would affect how much I enjoyed my vacation. I applied the Exederm twice (on Thursday night and Friday morning) but starting on Friday, my psoriasis cleared up! It wasn’t itchy and the redness had lessened a bit. Was it the Exederm? Maybe. But I think this flare was 100% stress-related and that’s why I was in such a bad state. I think I was feeling a bit anxious about the vacation—leaving my cats, the logistics of flying, getting to New Orleans safe and sound, etc—and once we were there and enjoying ourselves, my psoriasis flare went away. It was such a relief. It’s been over a week since that really bad flare and I haven’t been putting any steroid gel or cream on my scalp (I wanted to give my scalp a break), and things are still doing good. I have an appointment with my dermatologist in a few weeks, and we will have a lot to chat about!

5) New shoes + new exercise routine = not being sore after walking all day!

One of the things I like least about vacation is all the walking, which always leads to me having sore feet and a sore body at the end of each day. After a few days of this, I am usually ready to chop off my feet and less likely to want to walk around and do things. The whole point of vacation is to walk around and do things! (And relax, but this wasn’t one of those vacations.) One of the things I noticed about this vacation was that I didn’t end each day with sore feet! I felt like I could walk farther without getting tired, and it was a truly eye-opening moment to realize that I am getting fitter from my new exercise routine. And also, it probably helped that I wasn’t walking around in four-year-old shoes that provided zero cushioning and support. There’s that, too.

What’s the last souvenir you bought? Have you ever needed the (expensive!) services of a locksmith?

Categories: Recurring Series

TGIF (v. 63)

Outtake from Monday’s post – Lila was excited for some yum-yums!

The high of my week was having very few social plans. A busy week is nice, but it must be followed by a low-key week so I can recharge my battery. This week, I had lunch plans on Tuesday and my HIIT class on Wednesday night, and that’s it! A few plans I had at night got cancelled, and I wasn’t even upset about it because it meant I could stay home and take it easy.

The low of my week was a very expensive vet appointment for Eloise. I have been growing increasingly worried about her eating habits. She doesn’t eat a lot, she will regurgitate her food (sorry) at least a few times a week, and sometimes turns her nose up at treats. She’s also a skinny girl—last year at her vet appointment, she had lost a pound, which put her at 7.6 lbs. I was worried she lost even more weight this year, but thankfully, she gained a little weight (.3 lbs). Her energy levels are normal and I haven’t noticed any other troubling behavior, but still, I just felt strongly that I needed to figure this out. Our current plan of action is to get blood work done (which we did yesterday) and make sure there isn’t anything systemically wrong with her. If the blood work comes back fine, we’ll start her on a sensitive food diet, as it may be a GI issue like IBD. If the food doesn’t work, she’ll need more testing (blergh).

One nagging task I marked off my to-do list was calling AT&T to start my phone trade-in. This one involved a few extra steps, so I just kept putting off doing it. I had to find my IMEI number on my previous iPhone (which I had already wiped clean and set aside, so I had to charge the phone, then go through all of the steps involved in setting up a new phone, and then navigate to Settings to find the IMEI number) and call AT&T customer service to get the shipping materials sent to me. This task that felt so arduous took less than 15 minutes from beginning to end, though. They always take less time than we think, don’t they?!

I’m currently reading two books. On audio, I’m listening to Zorrie by Laird Hunt. Meredith on Currently Reading recently talked about this book and it sounded interesting, so I added it to my TBR. I was looking for a quick audiobook that I could sneak in before my trip, and this one is only 4.5 hours. Perfect! I also just started A Murder is Announced by Agatha Christie (thanks for the rec, Diane!) in print.

A Reel I loved was this cute cat video of two kittens “fighting” each other in a WWE ring. It was the cutest wrestling match I ever did see!

A podcast episode I enjoyed was Nicole’s a Double Virgo with Isa Nakazawa on Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata. I am not someone who feels connected to astrology in any way because my sun sign (Sagittarius) is the opposite of my personality. In this episode, an astrologer joins the pod to give Nicole and Sasheer their birth charts and I really found it fascinating! I would love to have a professional birth chart done (maybe that’s an idea for a future episode of my own podcast!) just to see if there are aspects of it that I can relate to. (I do feel much more connected to my moon and rising signs, which I looked up after a tarot card reader told me to. He was like, “Yeah, I’m not getting any Sagittarius energy from you,” which made me feel vindicated!)

The best money I spent was on a new carry-on suitcase! I got it at TJ Maxx and it’s Samsonite brand, so hopefully it holds up as well as my previous suitcase did (14 years!). I still want to purchase a larger suitcase at some point in time, but I don’t see myself needing one anytime soon, so I think I’m good for now. We leave for New Orleans on Wednesday, so nothing like a rapidly approaching flight to get my ass into gear.

My plans this weekend include not much! Today is my last working day until Tuesday, June 4th so I am so happy to have over a week off work! Currently, the only plans I have are my writing date with Mikaela on Saturday morning and a workout class with my mom on Sunday morning. The rest of the time, I plan on cleaning my apartment, finalizing our itinerary for New Orleans, and reading!

What was the best money you spent this week?

Categories: Recurring Series

TGIF (v. 62)

The high of my week was having so much social time. I had a fun movie night with friends on Monday night (we watched The Idea of You, and I really liked it!) and Tuesday night, I went to Topgolf with another friend. I also had a roommate for a night—I mentioned that my mom is getting her bathroom remodeled and because the house was still toilet-less as of Monday, she stayed with me for a night, which was lovely! (Her house was no longer toilet-less by Tuesday, so back home she went!) She also came over Wednesday night after our workout class so we could watch our shows (Survivor and The Amazing Race) and she could take a shower. I love having weeks where I don’t have any plans and can just be a lump in the evenings, but balancing that with busy social weeks is good for my soul.

The low of my week was an itchy scalp. My scalp psoriasis has been horrible this week, so damn itchy and uncomfortable. I’ve been slathering on steroid gel along with an OTC cream, and the itchiness seems to be improving. This latest flare seems different than normal flares, and I think I’ve pinpointed the cause: hair dye. I had the same type of flare the last time couple of times I got my hair colored, but never connected the flare with the source. Well, at least now I know! I either need to see if there’s a different type of formula my hair stylist can use when creating my hair dye or just accept that I’m going to have a flare after a hair appointment.

One nagging task I marked off my to-do list was mopping the floors. Why is this task so arduous? I’m not going to tell you guys the last time I mopped because it would be too embarrassing, but I hate doing it and it’s one of those chores that constantly falls off my to-do list. The floors get vacuumed regularly thanks to Ruby the Robot, but they also need a good scrubbing every once in a while, and that finally happened this week. Freshly mopped floors make me so happy!

I’m currently reading two books. On audio, I’m listening to Not a Happy Family by Shari Lapena, which my friend Lynn highly recommended. I’m a few hours in and loving it! I also just started Anita Kelly’s new queer romance, How You Get the Girl. She’s one of my auto-buy authors who hasn’t written a bad romance yet, and this one is no different (so far)!

A blog post I loved was A Day in Maggie’s Life by knit read cats hockey, where she took us through a random day in her cat, Maggie’s, life. How cute, right? I am stealing this idea so please be prepared for a day in the life of Ellie and Lila very soon. It will involve a lot of sleeping, begging for treats, and belly rubs.

The best money I spent was $12 on a new iPhone case. I was hoping the iPhone case I’ve been using would fit on my new phone (I upgraded from the iPhone 13 Pro to the iPhone 15 Pro), but alas, the 15 is just a smidge bigger so I needed a new case and I needed it to get here fast. (I hate using my phone without a case!) So I bought a cheap one from Amazon that arrived the next day. It’s a bit boring (plain purple) and I’m someone who likes a fun iPhone case, but it serves its purpose. The question now is… do I upgrade to a case that expresses my style more? I have my eye on this cat-themed case or this colorful case. Decisions, decisions!

My plans this weekend include a girl’s night in tonight at Bri’s house where we’ll enjoy pizza, pool time, and games. Tomorrow, I have a writing date with Mikaela and then I’m going to the Tampa CATstravaganza with my mom. (!!!) To say I am excited is an understatement! I think we might also have game night with my brother on Saturday evening, so it will be a very busy day. And Sunday, I’ll have a low-key day at home. My mom and I are thinking of trying out a Zumba class Sunday morning, but that’s all my plans for the day.

What was the high of your week? Do you have any fun weekend plans?

Categories: Recurring Series

A Monday Morning Coffee Date

Let’s sit down for a coffee date on this Monday morning. I’ll be sipping on an iced vanilla latte, mmm!

If we were having coffee today, you might be a little surprised by my appearance. I was brave at the hair salon on Friday afternoon and got bangs! I also did a full balayage, so I spent a pretty penny at my appointment. But it isn’t something I’ll have to do regularly, so there’s that. I’m happy with the way everything turned out and it’s so fun to have bangs again!

If we were having coffee today, I might excitedly pull up my blog on my phone because it got an update! During my writing date on Saturday, I finally finished my blog recategorization project by cleaning up all of my tags and then decided to launch my new blog theme right then and there. I had already “favorited” a bunch of WordPress templates on Etsy and played around with some fonts I liked on Canva, so it wasn’t quite a spontaneous decision, but I did think I would wait longer than a few minutes to install the new theme. Alas, I decided it was time and I am so excited about a fresh, new look for this blog of mine.

If we were having coffee today, I’d probably talk about my chiropractor appointments. I have graduated to weekly appointments, but y’all, I gotta say, I’m not seeing much of a difference. I am still waking up every morning with pain and I still cannot walk around for longer than 10 minutes without pain. My Chiropractor in Collinsville, IL tells me that this is all part of the recovery process and things are getting better… but I am unconvinced. My plan is to finish out these chiropractor appointments (my last one will be in early June) and if the pain has still not gone away, then I want to try physical therapy. A friend gave me a referral to an orthopedist who worked wonders on her lower back pain, so I think that may be my next step.

If we were having coffee today, I’d discuss how I added my mom to “Find My Friends” and now can track her whenever I want! I don’t know if my mom is thrilled about this development, but I am! We’ve both shared our locations with each other indefinitely, which means now if I’m feeling anxious about her, I can just look up her location on the app and know she’s safe at home (or work, or wherever). It has done wonders for my mental health, I’ll tell you that! Sometimes I get anxious about something happening to her on the way home from dinner or a hair appointment, and now I can just check the app and see where she is! Technology can be a beautiful mental health resource for sure.

If we were having coffee today, I’d tell you about the most enneagram 9 thing I did at Target this weekend. I went to Target after my hair appointment to pick up a Mother’s Day card for my mom and see if there was anything else I could add to her gift. And I left with a new phone plan. ????? As I was walking down one of the main aisles to get to the book section, I passed by an AT&T rep who first complimented me on my tattoos and then asked how much I was paying for my phone plan. When he told me it was outrageous to spend $135 a month for one person and that he could get me a brand-new iPhone 15 Pro and a new plan for $85 a month, I started listening. And thirty minutes later, I had signed up for the new plan and walked away in a daze because I wasn’t sure what had come over me. I mean, how do I turn down spending $40 less a month on my phone plan?! And I get to upgrade my phone for free?! It was a no brainer, but it was also very enneagram 9 of me to do this because I was drawn in by the salesperson’s demeanor and wanted to help him make a sale. LOLZ.

If we were having coffee today, I might moan and groan about how hard it is to get everything I want to get done in a day. And I feel really silly about complaining about this when I am single, childless, and have a fairly flexible work schedule. And still! I am struggling to find time for chores and errands and exercise and blogging and reading blogs and reading books and podcast work and maintaining my friendships and dating and playing with the cats and goals I set for myself each month and and and. Things would be a lot easier if I wasn’t a napper (and I’m hoping my need for extra sleep will dissipate somewhat once I’m using a CPAP for my sleep apnea), but alas, I lose out on a lot of hours on the weekends because I just want to be unconscious. I’ve tried schedules. I’ve tried cleaning charts. I’ve tried time blocking. None of it works. I guess we’re all just trying to do the best we can? But ugh. Life.

If we were having coffee today, I’d want to know what’s going on in your life! What would you talk about with me?